Believe it or not, there is one word I don’t like and its sex. Now don’t get me wrong, I love the act but the word, no. I believe it’s making love. It’s not just about getting your jolly’s off and leaving. You can hit the door. No. I believe it’s intimacy. You get be in union with the one you love. One on one, what is better than that. You get to explore each other in ways that are unheard of. You get to be adored, and you get to adore the one you love. You are in bliss and wish things never ends. It’s not just a performance or act but a union.

If you ever had a conversation with my grandmother, she would tell you I can’t believe the things that come out your mouth. You used to be so quiet, I can’t believe this is my granddaughter. It took a while to come out of my shell. I had interesting path and just wasn’t comfortable being my “true self” around the people I was around. It wasn’t until I got older that my “true self” came out.

Grandma What Is This Garbage Can We Are Talking About

Yes, I am introvert and not a talkative person. I am also not shy or timid, especially if I am comfortable around you. I am now at the point that it doesn’t matter. If you know her, you would be surprised how loose I can be. Dick and not hitting it right, she got hip to. My fresh mouth she adored. Her spoiled grandchild was showing her shell, welcome. “You always got me laughing.” I also on reciprocal end. She would always say, “never use your body as a garbage can.” “Men are only looking for the booty.” My grandmother was a straight shooter, got to love!

I bring this all up to give you a glimpse of who I am. I am definitely not afraid to give my thoughts on sensitive subjects. As you can tell by this title, its sensitive and explicit. Just want to forewarn, this article will contain a lot of sexual subject matter. If you’re uncomfortable, you may want to back out now.

Enough Of This Singing Let’s Make Love

Just want to share my tips with you that will help you to have a fulfilling and healthy sex life. If there is no pleasure, then what is the point. I believe you should go all out every time with your partner. When you’re deeply in love with someone, is much easier. It’s all you think about. You can’t wait to be with. You can’t wait to breathe their air and worship the floor they stand on. The passion between the two is crazy every time. So is the love making. You only have eyes for THEM, and they have eyes only on YOU.

Unbreakable

There is no inseparable bond, and you can never see yourself being apart. That’s what I love. The ride to die love. That is what we all want to seek. We all have a special someone out there where we just no. Once you find them and click, it’s a recipe for bliss. So, I believe, these keys are a prime aspect for an amazing love making sessions every time. It just lingers and you can’t wait until the next time. There is nothing like it. There must be an emotional connection, not just physical. It makes all the difference.

No Ulterior Motives

If you’re in it with ulterior motives, it won’t last. You both are smart and have intuition. I don’t care how “good in bed” you’re. If you have bad motives, it won’t last. You just want to get your thrills off. If there is no love or emotional connection, what is making you want to stick around. Is everything good? Is there a relationship? Are you clicking on all levels? Is there a mutual bond beyond sex. Do you bond on hobbies, on finances, on family, sports, food, movies, music, work, or education? What do you bond on beyond the bedroom. Is this just a one-sided thing? If so, it won’t last. You will probably grow bored and move onto someone else. Love isn’t there, you are only bonding physically. Who wants to be treated as just a piece of meat? This isn’t what life is all about.

Where Is The Love

When engaging in romance, make sure love is involved. That you’re not giving up the goodies to just anyone. You should have a deep connection with that person. It should hit on all cylinders. That is the only way to have a healthy sexual relationship. Everything clicks and will be displayed when in union with that person. It’s love making. Sex is the marketing term to get sales. It’s all business. I want to bring it back to what it should be, love making. Treat your body with respect. Be choosy about who you lay with it. Don’t be loose about, lay with the person you’re in love with.

Now, for those who may be interested in a little help in this area, you are in luck. This article will spell out everything you need to have fulfilling experiences. It’s all about chemistry, confidence, and being you. I am here to draw it out of you.

If you’re not naturally an aggressive sexual person, it may be awkward. If you never spoken sensually to your partner before, you may a little timid to start. Don’t be. We all can start somewhere. If you’re uncomfortable all around, that is ok. Don’t. The key, if it isn’t for you, don’t do it. Find something that works for you and knock it out the park. If you never done so and would like to try, then you in the right place. I talked about some ways to sensual conversations here.

Storytime, Not Afraid

As I previously pointed out, I am a naturally sexual person. I am not afraid to let it all out in the bedroom. I am very open minded and explicit. With my partner, it’s all hands-on deck. You have to be very strong to put up with me, lol. It’s not about being “good in bed” it’s about being the best. I am truly into you; I want to ravish every part of you. I want you to be yearning for the next time. I want to explore you; I want to hear you in my ear and all over… you know the rest. When you are deeply attracted to your partner on an emotional and physical level, it works. No other person matters; there are no temptations. I don’t care how handsome or charming you may be. You will never steer me away from the love of my life. Ever and I mean that.

So, what works for a fulfilling lifestyle. How can I be better in bed? My motto, no one is bad in bed. It’s just you’re not clicking with the person, or you haven’t tapped into your best. We all have room for improvement. If you’re look to improve, follow these tips.

So, what is the road to having these springs rocking off track… let’s start in the beginning. The attraction.

Emotional Connection That Is Deep

You thought I was going start off being a little steamy, we will save that for a little later. I will hit you with something that is important, emotional connection. When you’re intimate with someone, there should be a deep connection. I don’t know what stage you may be. This is coming from a stage where you’re in a committed relationship. You are living with someone (or long distance) and maybe a few steps away from the walk down the aisle.

Butterflies Have Erupted

Whatever maybe, you’re in love. The perpetual butterflies are going off. You just click with this person. Every time you communicate, it’s just bliss. You relate on so much. It can be hobbies, music, movies, family, socializing, world relationships, and sports. You get them. You understand their personality, how they operate.

If they’re a morning bird or night owl, if they love breakfast or dinner, if they’re tidy and neat or messy warrior. You understand they are quiet but strong. They have the cutest laugh and quirkiest personality. You love that they’re a dork, far better than the idea rebel without a cause. You love how they tell you everything and honest.

They have humble beginnings, where do I begin. How they respect others. How others just take to them. How much they’re respected and adored. You pick up on their traits, their habits and all their views. You love them…some, you can leave to the side but it’s alright. We aren’t perfect and can work around them. Guess we are hitting around the personality test here.

When you are with someone, you are basically gaining a life partner you can bond with. You can learn from and experience so much together. You connect through it all. The key is to connect on things you may not like or understand about them.

Perhaps you may feel they’re a little too timid (in certain situations) for your taste. You know they are a sweetheart and feel they don’t deserve the nonsense. You may have a strong stance that takes no mess, where the slight conflict comes in. You don’t press them or mention it; you learn from them. You recognize they’re strong, they let things roll off their back. That’s their personality, it works. You love. It makes you love them even more because they are being them.

Don’t Try To Change, Embrace

You never want to change your partner and vice versa. Yeah, you can provide guidance in certain circumstances. The key, never try to change their personality or who they are. It will backfire. They will rebel. It’s not part of their nature. We are born differently. You are not building a robot or dream partner; you are looking for them.

You have flaws and they have flaws; the key is to compromise and bond. To look past and learn from them. Do we all look like a million bucks when we wake up in the morning, no. I bet you, your partner doesn’t complain and neither do you. Why? Your bond is deep. Your love isn’t superficial. You click.

You have to learn to compromise on the flaws and strengths. There is a connection, there is butterflies, you want to be with each other. Hopefully, forever. This is the one, you can feel. They can feel it. You shared each other’s darkest secrets. No one knows, not even y’all parents. You just know, it’s deep and love every part of it.

As time has gone by, perhaps years, you haven’t grown apart. You have learned and grown together. Experiencing life together and sharing so many memories. A bond has formed that hasn’t been broken. They know you and you know them. Sometimes better than your friends and family. That is how you know, you formed a deep emotional connection.

It’s great to have someone to share your life with it. It’s not about splitting bills. No. It’s about sharing your heart. Having someone in your corner to turn to. When you want to cry on someone shoulder and be held, who do you turn to. When you want to laugh and be goofy, throw your legs in the air, you have your big dork waiting for you!

If you ever looked in big puppy eyes, you know the danger levels. Someone you can talk to when you have a bad day, ask for advice, who can support you on a decision. Someone who will adore you, compliment and cherish you.

We all adore affection. It’s even better when there is an emotional connection. They know how to get to you, especially with words. It’s good to know your partner on deep level and everything about them. It can translate to revving up their ears in the bedroom. You know what they like and can speak their drawers off. Have them ceilings screaming, the goal.

Communication between the sheets is importance. You have to be talking if you’re not gasping for breath. They go hand in hand. That emotional connection will get you there. I already shared some tips on how to get it going in the bed, please review. If you haven’t, please try. I promise, you will be screaming in so many ways. Words are life! Now onto the other part, the physical.

Physical Attraction The Law of Attraction

I get it, vanity. For most of us, we try to be careful. For some, you don’t care about “looks” you don’t have a taste. As long as their nice and get you, your fine. For some, physical is important. You have a taste, and no one is breaking that. That is fine. It isn’t superficial, that is your taste. What is good looking to you may not be to someone else. It does play a part in the bedroom.

For some, it’s more emotional for others it’s an equal balance. Then there are those that its predominately physical. For you, it may be boiling on just lust. You don’t want it to be so out of balance. It may be an old saying but it’s true, looks fade. What does that person have beyond that. Are you looking at your partner as a piece of meat. Make sure all the pieces are there, or it won’t work.

Now that we got the rules in there, let’s explore physical in balance. You can be attracted to someone without it being lust. Let’s look at the parts that stick out in attraction. We will begin with the face. Ah, the face. For women, when we see a man, we often gravitate towards the jawline. Oh, the classic square jaw. There is something about it. It’s a sign of strength, power, and definition. It’s even better when you can’t wait to trace your finger around it. I can go on but it’s a definite clincher for attraction. It can set you to start scanning the rest which includes… let’s start at the top.

Hair

Crown Of Glory On Men

The hair! Yes, I am a stickler for hair. There is something about it, I like to run my hands to it. Especially when it comes to being between the legs, it’s on. I don’t know about you ladies; there is something about a man with a great head of hair. It sets off the rest of his face. It tells his personality, his style. It also tells if takes care of himself.

For a while, men with brown hair with the classic square jaw was the standard. They were the face of adoration. Perhaps the poster child is Superman. Yes, Clark Kent. The Daily Planet most adorable heartbreaker (the glasses, y’all) and you’re most powerful anti-hero. To Christopher Reeves to Henry Cavill, Superman has had our attention. The ideal man. It’s fun to reminiscence all the different ones, what a line up. Let’s not get into Night wing. The classic boyish face/grin, smile and head of hair, oh my. Bruce Wayne, why, lol. Sorry, my inner comic nerd comes out. Anyway, back to the hair.

Sometimes you can’t take your eyes off it, can’t help admire. When it wisps around the face or freshly cut (especially if it frames his face and accentuates the jaw). A little unkempt is beyond desirable, you don’t have to be perfectly groom. Letting your hair down from time to time, is such a turn on.

A real desire is when it’s soft, shiny and bouncy. It’s not just reserved for women, it’s just as good on men. It’s even better when he likes to change it up. It shows that he isn’t afraid to change it up, he isn’t boring. It’s a testament to a fun, exciting and daring personality. A winner! It’s the little things that tells a lot about a person. You have to pay attention.

The Man Bun Hun

For a while, the man bun was setting the world on fire. Before, the 80 and early 90 men were throwing it long. Fabio, Axl Rose and early Brad Pitt were lighting up the screen. The 80 rockers were tearing out our parents hair. Our WWE heads, Shawn Michaels (sexy boy). Late 90’s, Antionio Sabato Jr. (the dimples), Zack Morris and Eric Nies brought the crop cut and jaw back. On the opposite, Joey Lawrence brought the wholesome feather bounce. You guys weren’t afraid of throwing it high or low. It goes show how the traditional has slowly changed.

If you ever watched WWE, you see a number of them rolling around. My favorite was praised for his looks and especially his hair. It was down for the show and up for the training. He brought cool, mystique and bad ass to our screen. A gentle giant with hair of glory (please let me know what conditioner you use).

To meet him in person was beyond an experience. Getting to touch his hands (couldn’t get over how soft, geeze) they were. For the nature of the game, I know he keeps on top of personal care. It matches up to his talk. Share those products sir!

Era Of Men

It’s not a surprise as appearance is important in WWE. If you fellas need an example to look up to, Roman Reigns. Insert an article. He embodies it all. Locker room reader, the face of WWE, former leader of Georgia Tech football (has those stats), 49ers top fan, charisma for days and the Rock’s cousin. He is also a slick with the mouth, nice but also strong. He is amazing. If you need any grooming or fitness tips, follow him on social. He is a perfect example and has the game on lock.

African American Men Have It on Lock

For our African American fellas, you have many different options. Afro, dreads, cornrows, texturizers and the fresh cut. You have it all. You are filling the barber shops and coming out with unique crafts. Women have been noticing and been teasing you trying to beat me to the chair. Extra shelves have been extended in the hair care aisles for you. You’re no longer just grabbing the wave cap. You have shampoos, conditioners, beard oils, and comparable products flying off those shelves. You keep evolving and never no what you will come up with.

So Fresh and So Clean

Now, for the fellas that choose to keep clean shaving, this can be sign of attraction as well. Some women love shiny warriors. The key is to embrace your crown. In the bedroom, encourage your woman to rub on your head. It’s a sign that she is turned and loves your crown.

If you are experiencing male-pattern baldness, don’t let that get you down. It’s a condition beyond your control. It’s nature. I don’t want you to lose confidence. It’s just hair, it doesn’t deter from your attractiveness. Trust, women men in all forms, as long as you have a big heart! If it’s an issue, we have a number of natural remedies to help you get on right track. I talk about the power of massage here. You can also consult your doctor. We want to make sure there isn’t a deep medical condition going on. They may be able give you a prescription to get your follicles back on track. We also have hair transplants and extensions that you can research. The resources are out there; it will all remain confidential. The key, don’t lose confidence. Someone is attracted to you, you probably don’t even know. Embrace your condition, don’t let it deter you, find that special someone. You will.

You Guess It Ladies, Men Are Admiring Your Hair

Now onto flip side, women and hair. Yes, men love the hair. It’s one of the first things they notice. Whether it’s short, medium and long, they’re noticing. How it frames your face, how it tells your personality, they love it. I can go on about women and hair. I go a little more indepth here. If you notice on a date, that thick finger gravitating towards it. Let me pull this away from your beautiful face. I love your hair, even better the smell. How can you not fall in love. Soft and bouncy, with an air of Nexxus is the game.

Hair color is another factor. For some, color is attractive. You ever heard of prefer; it’s matter of taste. Darker, sign of rebel, boldness and lighter, sign of innocence, fairness and delicacy. Red is a sign of fire, daring and energy. If this is you, compliment your partner. Let them know. This helps to install confidence and build bridge of conversation. Let them know what you find attractive on them. This will translate to them bedroom.

Eyebrows

Big full bush eyebrows on a man, a sign of masculinity, strength and vitality. On women, they’re perfect groomed, full and arched. They frame our face, provide style for our eyes. They’re more than protecting our eyes, from nature. They frame our face, they draw attention. If your brows are a little sparse and want to grow thicker brows, check out these tips.

They’re our hairy communication friends; they tell so much. If we are surprised, happy, angry, confused, and attracted. They can be used as vehicles for flirtation.

You’re Happy To See Me

You ever see the double (up and down) in the air from someone. You guessed it, they’re attracted. If you see them both up in the air for a prolong time, they’re attracted. Pay attention them on your partner.

Admire them, compliment them. Rub your fingers across them. Plant a big forehead kiss while rubbing lightly on their face, then work your way down. Kiss the tip of their nose, cheeks and move to the lips.

Lips

They communicate, the path to happiness in more ways than one. They make up the bottom of our face. Thick, pouty and lush. They are coveted. Lips come in all shapes, they are all desired. They draw attention to the face. They yearn for desire. They form our happy place, a smile.

All In The Smile

I know you seen heart melt all over this site. A great smile does. It conveys warmth, trust, love, friendship, fun, and charm. The bigger the smile, the more attracted. If you ever see a prolong smile, it’s a sign. The bug has struck, your senses/nerves are on alert, a smile is automatically formed. You can’t wipe it off because your senses are stimulated. The eyes are the window, and your smile is an answer.

You ever seen flushed cheeks. Another tells all sign. When you blush, your blood is being rushed to your cheeks. Hence the color change. You are warming up because your senses are being heightened. You’re excited, your nerves are tingling, it shows on your face. Its nature, no matter how hard you try to hide, you can’t help but smile. Pay attention to the signs. Embrace them. It all helps with you reciprocating the attraction. It feels good when someone finds you attractive. The key is to find that person where it is mutual, nothing but sparks.

I Have A Crush On You

We all had crushes. I am sure a smile has formed every time you see them. Why? You like them. If you like something, it brings happiness. When you like someone, you yearn to know them, touch be with them, show affection. One of the roads to affection is the kiss. A good indicator is your partner scanning your lips. If they linger a little too long on them, they desire to plant the big smooch. Pucker up.

Traces of My Lipstick, Oh My

For women, we often put on lipstick, gloss or lip balm to dress them up. Yes, to look good for ourselves but also to attract the opposite sex. Men are drawn and if you have a little color, they’re really hip. The infamous red lipstick comes to mind. Color stands out and, on the lips, it stands out on your face. It tells your personality and your style. If you have on lipstick or makeup, you can use the press powder trick to prevent rubbing off. Use a little Ben Nye. Don’t worry, it won’t look ashy on the tip of your brush, pat lightly. Your lipstick will stay on.

You also want to make sure; nothing is on the teeth. You know the index finger test. Insert and pull out slowly, it will take off the excess lip product on the inside of your mouth.

Makeup Wipes Are Your Friend

Have some makeup wipes around. Keep them handy. You want to completely remove all traces of makeup. You know makeup stains badly. You don’t want them on your furniture, clothes or partner. You can make your own. Grab some cotton balls or rounds. To reuse, a white cotton washcloth. Steer away from one with dyes when applying on your face. For extra cleanliness, African soap or Dove (moisture) with water gets to the grit.

The Oils

If you’re into natural remedies, extra virgin jojoba, olive, almond, avocado, hemp, and rosehip oils are great staples (great as conditioner treatments). These oils have moisturizing properties that will provide nutrients and moisture to your face. Also, witch-hazel, aloe-vera, baby shampoo and micellar water. I was using Garnier micellar water for years until I switched to natural remedies. I still use from time to time but natural has been working for me. Little more housekeeping on the makeup.

Makeup Tips For Women

I don’t know how much you spend doing your makeup, but I am pretty sure it’s extra when your partner is involved. I know, we are very cautious because we don’t want it rubbing off on them. We aren’t trying to doll them. When you with the one you love, you want them rubbing on your face. Kissing all of your face, neck and your lips. Also, we don’t the mascara or eye liner running. If you thicken up your brows with powder or pencil, you don’t want this rubbed off. You spent the time; you don’t want it on your partner. You don’t want them to have prints on their fit. It’s unpleasant. Not to worry, we have coverage.

Foundation Tips & Tricks Keep Off Your Pillows

Mac Studio Fix Plus and Urban Decay All-Night are wonderful makeup setters. One with a little more power is Ben NYE setting spray. This bad boy is used for those in theatre. You know the cast of Cats and Lion King are prancing around under hot lights. The makeup can’t come running off. I’ve been using this setting spray and it’s been a lifesaver. No makeup anywhere, this stuff works. You can use a light translucent press powder (Ben Nye) with a big powder brush (get those quality extra big poofy ones). Place it on top (after your spray dries) for extra staying power. You should have a successful event with your partner.

When it comes to intimacy and you want to have makeup on, use these techniques. You don’t want makeup all over your sheets, pillowcases. In the event, hot water and vinegar are good makeup removers. I will have separate article on further tips. You can even take off your makeup before you become intimate. Conduct your usual routine and make sure you apply some good lotion that will keep your face soft and supple. Also, with a hint of smell that will drive your partner wild.

Tonight, Victoria Will Be Our Little Secret

I will reiterate that Victoria Secret has an amazing line of lotions. Bath & Body works, Marshalls, TJ Maxx, Macy’s and Home Goods comes in next. You can also peruse Wal-Mart, Dollar Tree and Target toiletry aisles.

Many are very sensual and sure you will find one that will tickle your senses. I am in love with the Vanilla Lace (sadly it’s been discontinued). It’s sweet, long lasting and flirty. I love vanilla smells; it just gives off a sweet and also enticing vibe. I have a nice honey one from Marshall’s. It meshes with my vibe. Pick a lotion that won’t break you out, moisturize your skin and goes with your body chemistry.

Tip: Victoria Secret is having their semi-annual sale as we speak! Here is the link. Please peruse and score some amazing deals.

Some Hygiene Tips Before You Become Intimate

Oral Care Tips

Also, examine yourself in the mirror. Make sure your brows are in place. Use a brow comb. Your lips are moisturized. For the ladies, you can put on a little mascara on your eyelashes to have your eyes pop. Also, make sure your hair is in place. You know your face, place it in a flirty stance. Have some wisp across your face. If you have a side that works more than the other, place your hair on the side that doesn’t. Draw attention to your working side. There is something about soft bouncy loose waves that is sensual. Try it, see how it works. Just have a style that turns up the heat. It compliments your face and will drive your partner all types of way. Rock it!

Breath In Check

Also, most importantly, your breath is in check. You’re about to be intimate, you want to make sure you’re fresh. Having a good oral hygiene regime helps. Talk more about this here. Try to avoid odor causing foods (onion, garlic and dairy) that can seep into skin and your breath. I am talking days before. I know we can’t predict when we will be intimate, but it helps.

Keep Your Teeth Brushed

We all know to brush our teeth but as a refresher. Make sure we are brushing at the minimum of 2 minutes and atleast twice a day. When you brush, use short and circular strokes. Be a little firm around our teeth, making sure we get underneath and the back. Essentially, all parts of our teeth are brushed not just the front!

Also, be soft and gentle around the gum line. This is where gingivitis and plaque like to harbor. Make sure we are getting our gums and our entire mouth. Especially our tongue. Use a tongue scraper or back of spoon and scrape your tongue. Follow up with a rinse. Want to promote saliva production, no dry mouth. Invest in a good toothpaste with fluoride (strengthen enamel and reduces bacteria).

Also, your toothbrush. Keep them clean after each use. Rinse with hot water (for about 1 minute). Run your fingers gently (be careful) to separate the bristles. You want the water to reach every part. Then stand in upright position. Don’t put in a closed container, let air dry. Storing airtight can create bacteria growth. We don’t want this in our mouths.

Disinfect in a solution which includes one part water and vinegar. Let soak for around 10 minutes. Then rinse with hot water followed by cold water. Stand upright to dry.

You should have a great smelling mouth!

Avoid The Sugar For Your Breath

We want to avoid products with sugar. Why? Bacteria thrive on it and can increase the population. Also, can lead to plaque buildup and decay. A recipe for bacteria and odor. We want to combat. Some great natural remedies. Apple-Cider Vinegar and salt water (pink Himalayan salt nutrients) rinses are great mouth washes. Swish around in your mouth for about 5-8 minutes. Really get all the gunk out. Will leave your mouth nice and fresh. Baking soda is another, it’s an odor remover. Try not to brush too long or often. It’s abrasive to your teeth. Use sparingly.

Drink Up, Yes Water

Also, drink plenty of water. The fluids keep you hydrated, toxics out, bacteria at bay and saliva production going. If you can’t stomach water, try to zest it up. Add your favorite fruit in it. Lemon water is amazing. Taste like lemonade without the added sugar. Can add some zero calorie flavor enhancers.

Don’t Throw Parsley Away

Chewing on some fresh herbs such as parsley (don’t throw away on your dinner plate), mint or cloves, great on breath. The greens keep the bacteria away. Cinnamon (also keeps your heart healthy, sprinkle in food) and tea tree-oil (be careful, the smell is overwhelming).

How To Keep Your Breath Fresh All Day

Yes, it’s a concern. We work, we have partners, we interact. We don’t want to walk up to someone with offense. It’s not a pleasant feeling. We don’t want to have it as a concern. We can take preventive measures and keep it fresh all day. Yes, it takes work but it’s worth in the end. You don’t want health issues to occur for bad habits.

Your mouth harbors many germs and bacteria. Many of which can lead to tooth decay, sores or gum issues. You don’t ever want to encounter inflamed gums, bumps that are extremely painful or teeth sensitivity. It would be hard to talk, eat and swallow.

You ever had a cold. It’s the worst when you feel all stuffed and it’s hard to swallow. You sort of panic; it’s the body natural reaction. Your survival mechanisms are kicking in. We want to protect our mouths. It’s a mean of survival. We have to communicate and eat.

Now onto the goodies, how to keep it fresh miss. Well.. it starts internally. We have to get to the root and that is good stomach health. What we put in must come out. We don’t want odor. We have natural resources to keep our health in check and especially or oral care.

1. Water

We drink it every day, we can’t survive without it. You guess it, water. We need it to keep toxins flushed out. It keeps us hydrated, our organs going and nutrients flowing through our systems. Yes, the toxins out. With less bacteria in, your body won’t harbor harmful buildup. A plus!

2. Brush Twice A Day

Brush twice a day with fluoride (prevent tooth decay and incorporates minerals) toothpaste. Keep it longer than 2 minutes. Hit ever orifice in your mouth. Thoroughly rinse. Then floss. Make sure you get all the gunk out. Also floss at night.

Would keep a personal travel kit. Can get a toothbrush, a container (run you a buck) and travel size toothpaste. You can get the full size one, get a bargain pack at Walmart. Keep in your car and bag. You can freshen up after your lunch.

Choose Your Mouth Wash Wisely

Mouthwash, a friend we have to be careful with. It’s not a requirement but if you do choose one, choose right. Steer away from ones with alcohol (dries your mouth) and chlorhexidine (staining). Look for ones that contain cetylpyridinium fluoride, fluoride, natural oils, hydrogen peroxide, xylitol, and zinc salts. These ingredients eliminate bacteria, reduces plaque and freshen your breath. Read the labels before you choose. Wal-Mart generally has the best bargains but, you can peruse the Target section. Pick up some snacks!

3. Eat plenty of fresh fruits and vegetables

They keep the nutrients in and help you stay regular. Also, keep the weight off, preventing strain on your bones. Getting in our nutritious friends keep your breath in check. You ever heard of apple a day keeps the doctor a way. I challenge you to eat an apple every day for a month or a year! Let’s go over some of them below.

Fruit Of Loom

Continuing with the apple. Apples are the top fruit. It’s good for weight loss, nutrients and saliva production. Your breath always smells the freshest after consumption. Lemon is right behind. Some other, celery, carrots, grapefruits, watermelon, mangos and oranges. You want to keep your mouth moist and saliva producing. We want to prevent dry mouth.

4. Probiotics and Yogurt

Ingest Probiotics to keep the bacteria out your body. More will be talked out below.

5. Ditch The Smoking And Alcohol

5. Eliminate smoking and alcohol. If you want odor, here are the offenders. Not only orally but they can seep on your clothes. Cut them out and improve your health.

6. Get Your Regular Dentist Checkups

No one the mouth better than your dentist. Unless you run into Steve Martin in Little Shop of Horrors (a movie)! Keep your checkups, ask questions, get suggestions. Leave the dentist healthier than before. Keep on top of everything they say.

7. Avoid the Offendors That Cause Odor

Onion, garlic, dairy and spicy. Now, these are the goods that we can’t live without. They flavor the food and cheese, how can we not live. Adding to to the mix, fish (both from the sea and canned). Peanut Butter, horseradishes, and if you have acidic problems, (citrus). To help combat, mix with water to create a balance. You don’t want too much acid coming in at once.

Excessive protein can also cause offense (keto dieters, you know). Watch your intake. The key, balance.

If you want great oral care, you have to put them aside. Avoid them, especially when you know intimacy is arising.

Another tip, examine your breath after consuming these foods. What do you notice? If you notice these foods causing an odor, you may be sensitive. Reduce and consume water. We want to get rid of issues that can cause odor.

8. Sugar Free Is Your Friend

Grab sugar-free mints and gum. Keep your saliva production and healthy bacteria coming. Sugar strips the bacteria and encourages decay. Also, if isn’t fresh, mint can mask. Combine with sugar, it’s a recipe for disaster. Masking makes things worse. Keep plenty of sugar free options in stock. That way, if you need some freshening, you can grab some.

Conduct all these steps and you should have a healthier mouth and no breath issues. Keep it up my friends!

Probiotics and Yogurt, Is It Frozen

Yogurt is also another that keeps the bacteria down because they contain probiotics.

Check To See If Bad Breath Is Coming From The Stomach

If your stomach is causing bad breath, consult your doctor or seek natural remedies. It can be result of food not properly being digested, excessive bacteria build up or ulcers. Stomach ailments such as celiac disease, Chron’s and irritable bowel syndrome may at play. This can be messing up your digestive tract, causing foul odors. Wait, there is a remedy.

We are thankful for nature. Before we had the kazillion of products we now have on the shelves, our foreparents turned to the nature for healing. Nothing has changed, they have been part of our survival for years. They go hand in hand with our bodies. They heal and provide the necessary nutrients to keep us going.

Nature I Can Chew On

Fresh mint, parsley, cloves and fennel are great remedies to chew on. You can mix them in your food as well. They break down sulfur and eliminate bacteria. They also help with digestion. Apples, lemon, watermelon, the citrus family, and pineapple. These are all tasty alternatives to keep your saliva and keep the buildup at bay in your mouth. I would consume with water. This helps to keep your mouth moist, and your body hydrated. Also, it tastes like you’re drinking juice (without the necessary extra calories). Probiotics and yogurt also help to break down bacteria in the gut, keeping it clean out. They all help to fresh up your breath internally.

Don’t Mask An Issue Eliminate It

Never mask an issue, eliminate it. Masking can prolong and make the issue worse. Get to the root and eliminate. Can you imagine brushing your teeth and using mouthwash, with your stomach humming foul odors. These odors will override. You will become frustrated, wondering what’s wrong with my toothpaste. Let me stock on gum or mints (other maskers). My breath smells strange. You get the gist of this.

I want you to have good hygeine practices. It’s not only to keep your breath fresh but for your health. We need our teeth to eat, our gums to house them and our tongue to help taste/digest. We need to keep these all in check. Look out for future articles on more tips for hygiene. Sometimes we need a little kick and a refresher. Here is to good hygiene!

Sugar-Free Gum Please

I know you probably won’t be smacking on gum during intimacy (prevent safety here, no choking) but if you’re on date, opt for sugar free. I already went over sugar, and you know why. This will keep your breath fresh.

There we have it. I know went a little in-depth, but hygiene is very important in intimacy. You are one on one with your partner; you don’t want to lose the mood. Yes, things won’t always be perfect, as long as you’re on mutual ground. This is when you know you love a person. The key is to embrace and never let negativity set in. We are human, we aren’t going to be flawless 24/7. We can combat a number of issues with good practices. Not only for intimacy but for our health. We want to prolong years. So here is to fresh mouths and enticing smiles! Let’s get into something that makes us all smile, lingerie.

Lingerie

The Race To The Lace

We got through some hygiene so what goes with it, the fit. We are about to be one with our partner, we have to show out right! The hair is right; the skin is glowing now what to wear. Well, we aren’t going to opt for the Sweater and sweatpants, no. We want to turn up the heat. This is the time to show off the goods. Hit your partner with your inner Tiger. You ever been ready to pounce, you are going to see a show. Lingerie. Let’s do a quick story time.

When I saw my first piece, I was perplexed. All I saw was a bunch of strings and a zipper. How on earth do you put this on. Where do you start. How can I get this untangled. The fabric was beautiful, the color struck me, but the conception threw me off.

As time has gone by, I noticed I have grown. I have come to appreciate the game. My motto, find garments that match your skin tone, your figure and your personality. Also, what do you believe will turn your partner on. This was key, my partner. It’s not just to boost my confidence but also for his eyes.

Draw The Eyes To Entice Between The Thighs

I want his eyes to be glued to every part. Lingerie is just an enhancer. It’s a mood. It’s all about comfort. I don’t want something riding high up my butt, ouch. I want something that teases the romp. A lift support, you bet. Things can never be so high. My curves, oh the curves. I want to draw attention to them. I need something to hug the curves and minimizing some parts.

Enhance Your Strengths and Minimize The Weaknesses

To give you an idea. All our bodies are different. We all have different shapes and sizes. The beauty is to enhance upon it. If you have hips, you want to draw attention to them. You want your partner to have those hands on them. Getting undergarments that sit around this area, drawing attention. Perhaps a strap that is lace or sitting up high on that area (giving you the v). Also, you may opt for garments that hug around this area. Thankful, our needle friends have been killing the game in constructing to fit around our hips. Hugging the curves indeed.

More Than I Can Stomach

The stomach, where do we begin. When the planks or mountain climbers pay off. If you want to show off, you may opt for two-piece options. If this is an area that is work in progress, you may go for the one-piece options. You can opt for two-piece options, choosing garments that sit a little high on your waist. You may want to choose a waist skirt or form fitting one that is a little flowy. You are minimizing the problem area while still creating allure.

Pep Talk Your Partner Loves Your Body

Now a little pep talk. I am pretty sure your partner has seen you naked before. They have no problem. It’s more on you. I know, we can get a little self-conscious, it’s human nature. We want to look good for ourselves and our partner. The goal is to ensure that you’re confident and comfortable. You don’t want self-consciousness creeping in when you’re about to get intimate. You don’t want any negativity on the mind.

The goal is to have you fully confident. It’s your time to shine and go to town. Let’s leave the worries behind. Once again, your partner isn’t complaining one bit. They love you for who you are. No one is perfect and believe me, your area isn’t bad at all. Let’s get on the positivity train when we are intimate. It’s time to please and be with the one with you love. Stepping off the soap box. Now back to the tips. Shall we go to the arms.

Arm and Dangerous

Right to bear arms. You bet. As your partner scan your body, notice how they look at your arms. Why? They can’t wait until you wrap your arms around them. Also, rub their hands up and down on them. The cuddle. Also, begin to rub your hands all over them.

If arms a problem area, you’re in luck. I don’t know if you’re dealing with a little loose skin. No worries, loose skin isn’t bad. Still, if you’re a little bothered, look no further. They’re a number of quarter sleeve, short sleeve and long sleeve pieces to choose from. You can opt for shoulder wraps. Nothing wrong having a little showy tease. They will your partners attention to your other areas. You will look amazing in them. Well, how about our lower half partners.

Got A Leg Up

These suckers can get you in a lot of trouble. They can be your crowning glory. Ever notice your partner burning a hole through them. Yes, our legs are a wonderment. Even if you opt for long piece lingerie, you can accentuate your legs.

The classic slit, preferably that one that goes all the way up to your hip. Easy access. You want your partners hands moving their way between this slit, moving in for the kill. The allure. Also, choose pieces that are a little transparent. Where your muscle definition, tone and curves are teased. This drives your partner wild. What is the mystery behind the curtain.

Your Undergarment Shape Matters

Also, pieces that hug your figure. Your undergarments can shape your legs like no other. The V cut just draws shape and definition. I love them. They are little magicians. You have hipster, boy shorts thigh-high, bikini, G-string and thong. As you see, I list them in order of coverage. As you know, with the thong, you aren’t leaving nothing to the imagination. You are drawing attention to your butt as well as your legs. Essentially to your whole body.

Personal Preference and What You Want To Enhance

They are a matter of your personal preference. What do you want to enhance. How do they shape your legs? How do they look on you? How do they draw attention to your vagina? Do you want to elongate your legs? If so, V cut will be a perfect option. What vibe are you going for? A subtle or bold and daring? These are the questions you need to answer.

Can’t leave out our shapewear. The classic body stockings. Fishnet, mesh, lace, they are your friends. Yes, there are options. You have options that go up to the calves and thighs. I prefer the thigh options. Why? It gives more of a tease. Your partner is drawn to the material. It gives them a great tease of what is store. They are more suspectable to scan your legs. Yearning, to take them off.

I want to draw their attention close to my treasure areas. Work your way from the thighs then down. With lingerie, the goal is to have my partner taking them off. I want their hands on me as much as possible. I want them as close to my privates as possible. As you see the key, it is to draw the eye and get them to explore. Explore as long as possible. That is why I prefer a little bare thigh showing rather than a lot.

It is all a matter of preference. Get what works for you. It’s all about what you want to enhance and flatters your figure. You will have a winner! Shall we go to the feet.

Feet

Wait Until I Get A Foot of You

Our babies. We spend time getting those pedicures. Lighting the way with cute and chic polish. We take care of them. Know bunions, callouses or bunions. They are silent friends. They do a lot of communication in the bedroom. You ever whirl them at your partner, a travel guide! For some of us, we have trusted tall friends, the heel. Yes, they are made for more than the office and night out in town. Yes, they are a staple for your partner’s excitement.

A Heel Of A Time

They provide height, elongate the leg and add chic sensual style. Got a pair of red bottoms or Jimmy Choos, throw them on.

Just be careful when you’re tangling up. Your heel are made for the ground. If you can, sanitize them. You don’t want your partner sliding their hands down them and onto you. Germs beware. Also, the point. We have to preserve the eyes and injuries.

Have them take them off follow by a sensual foot rub. Cock them in air in a seductive pattern, enticing your partner to come. Put one leg up on the bed, take a commanding stance. Walk into the room like you own it, draw your partner eyes to you. Exercise your creativity with them. Now back to the feet.

This Little Piggy Went To The Market

Your feet can be great foreplay heroes. A foot rub and some sucking can lead into a ruffle in the sheets. They are also can make good props. Especially when you are maneuvering all the different positions. Now, I don’t want you to think of performing a full circus show in the bedroom. You don’t want to tax yourself.

What Good In Bed Truly Is

Yes, you are here to show out but don’t do too much. Can do more harm than good. Sometimes, we get so caught in being “good in bed” thinking, I have to do every position imaginable. No. You don’t have to do them all in one shot. Spread it out. You don’t want to tire yourself out. The goal is to experience pleasure and have fun.

Even if you perform one position, that can be enough. It’s all about the experience. You’re not boring at all! How you are working your partner and how they’re reacting. The chemistry, the motion, the partnership, it’s all there. There is a lot of moaning, rubbing, sucking, gripping, screaming, motion going on, reaching that big climax. Don’t want the session to stop. Everything is rocking on all cylinders. This is “good in bed.” You never want to come off as doing too much. It borders on lust and trying to impress. You will end up losing.

The goal is to explore and experience pleasure with your partner. The sexual acts that you’re perform all mean something. It’s all out of love. You are not bouncing on them just because you were horny. No, you want to please them and be one with them. You love them and want to express your love physically. It’s all meaningful. There is a deep emotional and physical connection going on. Love and deep connection must be there, not lust. Everything means something. You experiencing pleasure every step of the way. Let’s make love yall. Let’s experience our partners and leave the stereotypes ignorant at the door. It’s all about the results. What you’re experiencing. It all starts mentally and emotionally. If you’re truly into your partner or not. This is the start of a fulfilling sexual relationship that will last!

Time to shift gears into the driver’s seat, the butt.

Butt

Pull Up To My Bumper Baby

If you’re a woman, there is a 100% chance you have seen a man checking out your butt. It is also on the opposite side of the spectrum. For women, you may have checked out the classic firm muscular butt. For us, it represents a sign of strength, endurance and fertility. You ever heard of the football butt? Yes, our favorites trotting down the field have to have strength. Those deadlifts and squats pay off.

It’s Human Nature

It’s part of nature and has held the test of time since humanity has started. It’s round, soft and sticks out. It draws attention. Psychologically, it stands as means of sexual attraction and fertility. It will never go away.

In Those Jeans

No matter your size, embrace your shape. Looking good in jeans or shorts, it’s sometimes the focal point. When it comes to intimacy, you may want to get a handle of it. It’s a draw. As I previously mentioned, with choosing our undergarments, it matters. Our garments can bring out our shape in so many ways. When choosing, think of your size and shape. Do you need more of a lift, do you need a little more shape. Opt for garments with lift and padding. Also, comfort and breathable. You want your region smelling fresh and not constricted. Wear comfortable fitting undergarments that are cotton. This will prevent any bacterial infection and curb any sweating. Keeping odor away.

How Can I Get A Shape To My Butt

Now, for those who are looking for a rounder shapelier butt, lift the weights. Also up your protein intake. I am talking healthy protein here. You need protein for muscles. It also helps your metabolism. Fire up the steak and grilled chicken, you will never get tired!

Lift Heavy Ladies, Men Too

Lift heavy. I repeat lift heavy. Ladies, you won’t get a hard muscular butt. Our body composition is built differently, it will become bigger, rounder and plump.

Hip thrust Are King Of The Butt, Perform Them

I know squats are heavily promoted but I will let you know a little secret; it’s the hip thrust. Yes, squats are great but hip thrust is the king for the butt. Not to toot my own horn, but I have worked my way up the thrusting 315 pounds! I love this exercise and works your legs and butt muscles the best. The goal, with each thrust clench your butt muscles together with each lift. Hold for about five-8 seconds before lifting back down.

Take It Nice And Slow

Use slow and controlled movements, never go too fast when performing movements. You want to tax your muscles. You want to get to the point where you are a little fatigue, you can lift another rep. If you feel you can lift another rep with ease, keep going, you haven’t challenged your muscles. This is how you gain muscle.

These Exercises Will Have Your Butt On Fire

There are many other exercises. leg circles with ankle weights are amazing. They shape the full exterior of your butt. Giving you the round curve and lift of your life. Also, frog pumps, donkey kicks, leg press, good mornings, lateral raises, fire hydrants, glute bridges, side leg raises. All should be staples in your leg game. For those who have knee issues. You can do high leg raises with weights. They are good for those who can’t squat. I will have an article on exercises for the butt. This was just a tease. Good luck on the gains.

Moisturize Your Butt Everday To Keep It Soft

As far as hygiene, a good moisturizer will leave your butt soft and supple. Try to moisturize your body every day. Also exfoliate your butt. It gets rid of the dead skin cells.

Get Ahold of A Long Loofah Cloth

I have an amazing long loofah cloth that I use for my back. I have 5 of them. I use one for the back and the other to exfoliate the butt. It has made a whirl of difference. I picked up mine in an amazing dollar store (I forgot the name but it’s local) in the mall. Here are some options you can pick up on Amazon. You will have an amazing glow and have a great glide for your partner to work on.

How To Wipe Your Butt After You Defecate

Also, as I will talk about later. bathroom etiquette. As with the rest of our body, we want our butt smelling fresh. We all defecate and it’s essential to make sure our butt remains squeaky clean afterwards. After we wipe (from front to back to prevent bacteria entering our private regions). We want to make sure it’s completely clean. Never double wipe. You don’t want to reintroduce bacteria back into the area. Get a fresh wad of tissue and repeat.

Flush The Toilet Immediately Once The Defecation Drops

A tip, flush the toilet immediately once the defecation hits the water. This will cut down on the odor. You don’t want bacteria lingering in the air. protect your health. Plus wash your hands. Preferably with good and moisturizing soap. Immediately dry on a clean towel. Follow up with antibacterial agent. Have that bottle of 70% Isopropyl alcohol or hand sanitizer on your bathroom sinks. Tip: If you need to put up a cute sign as reminder to wash your hands, get one. Dollar Tree has an amazing assortment of stylish options!

I have the essentials everywhere. In my glove compartment, bags, every room in my house. Grab some reusable spray bottles (Dollar Tree). Keep some towels or paper towels in your car. So, when you’re traveling, you’re prepared! This way, I never forget to wash my hands and sanitize. You want to keep the germs away! Protect your health.

Wash Your Butt After You Defecate

You also want to wash your butt after you defecate. This includes the top and between your butt. Even after you urinate. Now some rules you should follow. Wash the top of your butt first then between. Why? You don’t want to introduce bacteria on your butt. Your anus houses bacteria (defecation). You want to clean the safer area first then this area last. This should be a practice when you are showering or taking a bath.

Clean Your Butt Last To Prevent Germs Spreading

Your butt should be last to clean. This comes into play (only if you are using one wash cloth). You don’t want to clean this area first and have germs on your rag, spreading it on the rest. Also, use one side to clean your body and the other your private areas. I would make it a rule to wash your butt last.

You don’t want these germs spreading and lingering on your feet. Yes, the shower is rinsing but the shorter they linger, the better. I always make it habit to wash my feet last. Get rid of lingering germs on them. I follow up with a light spray of vinegar. It holds over to when I wash my shower/tub. Plus keeps it curbs mildew and keeps the bathroom smelling fresh. Hope this tip helps.

Use Gentle/Non-Scented On Your Butt

This way, you stay extra fresh. Can jump in the shower or wash in the sink. Use a gentle and unscented mild soap to clean. Just like your other private parts, your butt is sensitive. You don’t want to scrub, want to curb irritation. You also don’t want to introduce bacteria, especially in your anus.

Now can we talk about the back!

Back

The Allure Is Back

We are now back to a special announcement; this area shouldn’t be neglected. On a woman, it can represent appeal, elegance, and desire. You ever seen a bad dress with a deep back line, can I not scoop. It’s alluring, immediately think vixen. Pair with your hair tied up in a nice up do, you will have a very happy partner.

Get You A Long Loofah Back Cloth For Your Back

As we just talked about the long loofah cloth for the back, I want to bring this back. We are human, it’s hard to reach this area. Unless you are a contortionist. These cloths are miracle workers. They get rid of the dead skin cells, give you a massage and leave your back soft. They work your areas, getting your back a little stimulation. Keep the blood cells flowing for energy. Also, don’t forget the back of the neck.

Get Your Partner Aroused, Get Them On Your Back

It’s great to have a partner because they can lotion you up after you dry off. Have them grab your favorite moisturizer and massage your back. Now, if you have to guide them a little that is fine. Just ask them if they can gently massage your whole back. Use long and circular motion. That they would appreciate it. Sometimes you have to give a little instruction, it’s benefit of both of you. Especially if they aren’t used to this.

Entice your partner a little. Giving them a wink, hug followed by a kiss. Make them feel special. That way they will do a good job. Hopefully, this will lead into light pecks across the back of your neck and a little sucking on it. Also, rubbing their hands across your neck. Nothing wrong with a playful tease. To give them a hint, playful cock your head to one side, opening up the door to them noticing your neck.

If Your Back Is A Problem

I will be the first to tell you, I have a little back fat. It’s an area I am working on and hopefully by the end of the year, it will be gone. Through it all, I embrace it. I can’t help or fight mother nature. What do I do, I hide it. I choose shapewear that keeps it in check. It helps me to look amazing under the lingerie. It brings out my curves and draws attention to my guns. I recommend you do the same. If you have problem areas, shape wear. We have tummy shapers, butt lifters, push up bras, leg shapers, essential wear for all your parts. Invest in some! Now can we talk about our good old friends. The breasts.

Breasts

It Takes Two

They get you out of trouble and get you in. They are something to behold. Just like the butt, I don’t know who is top, but they are competition, they are prime for sexual attraction. They are round, soft, and stick out. They are sign of fertility and for some mothers, source of life for your young ones. They are part of the female anatomy and often draw attention. They sometimes get in the way and that is ok. They also need attention and can be source of sexual stimulation for both you and your partner.

As with everything, we are beautiful at every size. The key is to embrace. No matter your size, it’s all about accentuate. It’s touted to have your girls standing high and on alert. Through my experience, this isn’t practical. Especially when they are big. There will be sagging, there is a lot of weight going on in these things.

I have come to embrace this with my physique, not trying to meet the standards. This has made me become more comfortable in the bed. Yes, I would like them to be standing a little higher, but I can’t control anything.

The Bra Myth

I know the myth was busted about wearing a bra. You will keep them high the longer you wear a bra, wrong. I used to be in fear as I hate having one on. I can’t wait to hit the door and take them off. I wish this was true but sadly it isn’t. We can’t fight our body composition and genetics.

Great Support Bras Work

What I can do is use what we have on this earth. That is garments with great support and lift. I research and invest in pieces that are comfortable, lift and maximize my cleavage. I want something that feels I don’t have anything on. I do the test, I walk around with the garment on all day. Yes, I test the lingerie.

Test Your Lingerie

Then I examine in the mirror how I look. I recommend doing this in the store (while your shopping). Take advantage of the dressing room. Plan for some time when you shop for lingerie. I would also do this with your preexisting lingerie. Your taste can change and if it’s not hitting, it may be time to go lingerie shopping. You want to make it a habit to look amazing all the time.

I check out how my chest looks when I unbutton a shirt or lift it off my head. Am I impress? Are my girls looking enticing? Are they giving a little flirty bounce?

Walk Around To See How Your Chest Looks

Then I walk around with it on. I try to look at it from this vantage point. How pronounce does my chest look down (when your partner is taller, you want to know their vantage point). Is it easy to take off? Do I feel more confident? Do I look just as good with accessories? These are the questions I ask. I test and evaluate. I test how I look laying down, sitting, squatting, laying sideways, and standing. I try to get every vantage point. If I am satisfied then, we are good to go. The key is to know your shape, enhance and evaluate beforehand.

For Those Looking For A Little Enhancement

We all have different sizes, which is great. Beauty at all of them. Rock it. For those who are looking to feel more confident with extra, you can. You can look for padded bras or lingerie. You can also get pad inserts that can have you going up a cup. They can also give you a little more shape.

For Our Bare Warriors

Lucky for us, many garments are constructed to hug our curves. Opt for tighter fit garments that will hug your girls. They will keep them lifted and draw attention to them. Also, if you are opting the naked route. You can spice up with accessories. Long necklaces, pearls, and chains. Can draw the eyes to your cleavage and add sparkle.

You can also balance everything off by wearing enticing bottoms. You want to incorporate the element of tease. Just like a fruit, you want your partner to be peeling something off. Not to show all your goods at once. Make them work for it, the element of surprise. This gives them a chance to explore and take their time with you. It works and part of the arousal process.

Leave something to the imagination. If you are baring it on top, accentuate the bottom. Don’t worry, it won’t draw their attention away. It would actually enhance. They will be so excited about what is going on the bottom that they can’t wait to explore the top. It can be the reversal as well. The moral of story, there should be some element of mystery and surprise going on.

Don’t just jump to having clothes on to being naked. No. It’s a bore. Show your personality and tell your story through it. Make your partner work to your body. Let them explore and admire you. You doing the same. It works, it’s fun and you will be having a good time! Who doesn’t want to have an excuse in touching their partner. Explore, conquer and finish!

Men, How You Bare Your Chest Matters

Stick out your chest, hold it high. For the men, you’re taught to keep your chest strong and proud. It gives off a commanding stance, full of authority, grace and mass appeal.

Man Of Steel

Back to Superman. As soon as changes from Clark Kent to our favorite speeding bullet, what does he do? He opens up his button up shirt for the reveal. He’s about to save the day. Where we will we be without him. What stands out (besides that sizzling jaw), his chest. It’s a mark of strength and peak physical perfection.

It’s a strong signal of sexual attraction. For us ladies, we love the quintessential 6 or 8 pack. We love the broad shoulders and chest. It represents so much. We can’t wait to embrace.

Embrace Your Chest In Bed

You may also want to play this up in the bedroom. Button down shirts work. If anything, have your partner unbutton to the reveal. You can also saunter in with an unbutton shirt. I harp on tease; this is your moment. Draw you partners attention to your chest. Entice to rub, massage and caress. Trace their fingers over it. Get your heart beating a little faster, make you relaxed and aroused. Get them to fixate on your collarbone and neck. It’s all there it’s up to you draw it out.

It also plays a major part in intimacy. It provides warmth, protection, and stimulation. Yes, your chest is driving us wild psychologically in more ways than one. It houses your endurance and stamina, a lot of heavy breathing. To get ahead of the game, you want to incorporate some upper body workouts. pushups, chest fly and bench press. This will help build your chest muscles and pecs. Also increase oxygen into your diaphragm, increasing your overall health. Your stamina will thank you.

Chest Hair Rules

For our fellas who have the chest hair, play into this. It’s glorious and attractive, play it up. It can act as a great cushion for your partner’s head. Also, for the act as well. As with everything, make sure your hair isn’t attracting sweat. We want to prevent odor, so antiperspirants is your friend. Show it off, get your partner excited and bask in the glory!

Now that we went through the anatomy, let’s get back to other lingerie tips.

Wait To Those Sales Ladies

Then, I think, I need pieces that won’t break the bank. Spendthrift. Now… don’t get me wrong. You can get high quality at a pretty penny.

I never try to pay full price. I will wait for items to go on sale. I am always on the hunt for Black Friday and holiday deals. Especially when retailers have to get rid of old stock to prepare for new. Clearance heaven. Always scout, you can get some amazing deals. For instance. A coat I was scouting. Original price $180 got that bad boy for $20. I waited for the clearance. It was worth the wait

Don’t sleep on bargain retailers. Example. Wal-Mart vs H&M. You would think Wal-Mart full price jeans would be cheaper, wrong. Many of their jeans were just as high and sometimes higher than H&M.

Aim To Please

Then lastly, my partner. What do I know about my partner and what he likes. What has he complemented me most on? What makes him tick in the bedroom? What is his style?

I think you caught on. I made a checklist of my desires. Then I evaluate each one of them. This has played a part in my selection of lingerie. This has made it easier and fun.

I will give an example. To answer the last set of questions. I notice my partner loves white and rose/pink colors on me. He also has a thing for boy shorts and bra combination. So, what do you think I choose? The whole combination. I get one that has a little lace (flirty) intertwined. A combination that flatters my figure and is easy to maneuver off. The top of list, comfortable, breathable and once again, extra flirty. It works. I also vary it up as well, going for different but comparable options. I have received 0 complaints. They all fit my personality, style and taste. They flatter me and I love the appeal.

I want the same for you. When you choose, go over this checklist, conduct the same evaluation. You will see a whirl of difference.

Where Should I Shop?

I can’t leave you hanging on where to get some amazing pieces. Some places to check. Of course Victoria Secret, Fenty Lingerie (rock it Rhi!), Macy’s, Bosco’s, Target, H&M, Rainbow, Express, BY & Company and Forever 21. Some online outlets, ASOS, Amazon, AliExpress, and Boohoo. For our plus-size fashionistas, Lane Bryant, Ashley Stewart and Eloquii. Also, the outlets above have great plus size options. Happy shopping!

To recap, here is the check list

1. Find garments that bring out and matches your skin tone
2. Flatter your figure, accentuate your strengths and minimizes problem areas
3. Matches your personality/ stye
4. What vibe do you want give off in the bed? Naughty flirt, reserved and seductive, or playful/bashful
5. What is your fabric? Is it lace, cotton, silk, chiffon, or mesh?
6. Breathable, comfortable and Easy To Take Off
7. Goes According To The Season
8. Fits your budget
9. Will turn on your partner the most? What do they compliment you on? Is it color, style? What is their personality, their taste? Are they more sporty, fun, reserved or rebellious?

For The Men

You also have options with the fits. As you see from the checklist above, you can do the same for your partner.

Boxers or Briefs, Time To Roll Down

You can’t go wrong with boxers and briefs. They are classic, they fit your frame. They give a tease we all yearn for, elicit desire. We are checking you out when you’re putting them on in the morning. We have you swirling in our heads during the day, ready to take them off. We can’t wait to put our hands around the elastic and slide them off. What surprise will spring forth.

Joggers, Show A Little Sport

These trendy pants are making there way on you today. They are form fitting and really show the structure of your physique. They are sleeking, daring and alluring. I love the style. It shows how chic a man can be. It really shows your definition. The way they hug around your torso and down is to die for. They’re different, comfortable and can be the necessary change up you were looking for. Long gone are the days of tradition, it’s about showing your figure. The allure of the tease. Guys, please give these joggers a look. You will definitely get brownie points from the one you love.

Pajama Pants Accentuate The Waist

Then you have the classic pajama pants. Great for those cozy winter days. Got to ptotect the legs. Nothing can drive your partner wild than you standing shirtless in them. They draw attention to your legs and accentuate your waist. They are flowly, hug your physique, showing off strong stance and prowess. They accentuate your lower half and draw our attention.

Choosing pants that fit your style and personality, you bet. Also, go along with your skin tone, make you stand out. We live for the compliment. Choose pants that will have your partner’s attention. A little slack to tease. Breathable and comfortable. You don’t want any that is too oversize. The goal is to accentuate and tease your physique.

Want An Erection Choose Clothes Don’t Constrict

Also, we can’t forget our best friend between your thighs. A tease indeed. Show your partner how excited you’re before the grand finale. A cock tease, the bulge, and yes, boner. Whether the boxers, briefs, or pj’s, you want eyes on them. Many of them comes with convenient slits. You never want to choose options that are tight around your privates. You want your region to breathe. Constricted, it’s a recipe for disaster. It’s a sensitive area; you don’t want to restrict blood flow. The road to the erection is blood flow. We want you to be able to stand in attention in comfort.

Choose Button Down Sleeves, Have Your Partner Unbutton For The Tease

If the temp is a little below, opt for a nice long sleeve. Buttoned down is essential. This will allow your partner to tease to the grand opening. Allowing them to unbutton them one by one. All the while you are roaming your hands all over their body. Embracing in the kiss of life. A little sucking on the neck, collarbone and chest, sign me up. So much you can do with the garments. You can also have a chic pajama t-shirt. Your choice!

Cotton Balls Before The Fall

Cotton is the fabric of choice. It’s versatile for all seasons. It’s also a breathable, comfortable and won’t cause any infections. The fabric of your life. Make it apart of your wardrobe.

Invest In A Great Pair of Bamboo Fits

Another great fabric is bamboo. The greatest thing about this fabric, its odor resistant. It’s made with antibacterial properties, UV protectant, non-allergenic, and climate friendly. The material has special fibers which make it versatile for any weather. When it’s hot, it provides cool relief. When it cold, it provides warmth and comfort through your body heat. The fibers have tiny gaps that allow air to flow in and out. Also, easy care, never having to worry about dry cleaning and ironing.

This is perfect fabric to throw on. So many keys but, since we are talking about the heat of the moment, I want draw attention to the resistance to odor. This would one less headache to worry about. Also, it’s breathable, adjusting to any temp. When you’re working up a sweat, odor won’t come a running. You see where I am going. We want to promote great stimulation and one way is with great hygiene. The other, comfort. Check out some amazing styles with this fabric today!

The Other Hygiene, Our Privates

Let’s Wash

You guess it. I don’t have to tell us that we should be showered fresh. We all know how. I will recommend using diluted vinegar and African Soap to keep your body smelling fresh all day. I hate odor with a passion. I sure don’t want it arising with my partner, especially during intimacy. I don’t want anything interfering. I want to remain confident; I have a partner I need to devour right now. Keep the issues out. I want the same for you.

Soap and Body Wash Should Mesh With Your Body Chemistry

Have soap/ body washes that mesh with your body chemistry. I know, sometimes it gets hot and heavy and you may jump into the act. If you feel a little unsure, guide your partner to the shower. “Under the shower dripping wet, we can do it anywhere” yes 112, we hear you. It gives you a chance to spice it up and kill 2 birds with one stone.

Foreplay 101: Guide Your Partner To The Shower

Guide your partner to wash you. Wash them. Do it small and seductive strokes. Admire their physique, tease them. It all works. All the while, there should be a lot of making out and exploration with the hands. Lift your partner up, throw them (gently against) the shower wall, kiss all over the neck, collar bone, face. Turn them around, ravish their body.

Tongue Tied In The Shower

Massage their private regions, their body. Press up against, let them feel the excitement. Talk seductively in their ear. Kiss the back of their neck, grab their hair (gently). Pull it away from their body and kiss away. Throw in some tongue action, whirl that sucker around. If you’re not about to get into the act now, I don’t know what.

Be Safe In The Shower

I can go on but just want to give you an idea of what you can do. There are a million directions I can tell you. I am not here to dictate, but guide. I am here to draw it out of you. Enjoy the shower. Also be safe. You don’t water going down your nostrils. Also, make sure you have a liner, you want to prevent slipping. If the act happens, make sure there is plenty of support around. A bar, something you can grip. It can be awkward. It’s a place where you can start and end up somewhere where it’s comfortable. Hope this all helps.

Draw the Bath

A nice bath also helps. You can repeat the steps outlined above. If you have them available, you can bring fruit to the table. It’s not an old tradition but feeding your partner strawberries, cherries, peaches, orange slices and grapes. Yes, bring the whip cream, chocolate syrup and chocolates.

Forget the Whip Cream Grab The Banana

Now ladies, when it comes to the banana, let’s put on a show. Open it slowly and seductively. Pretend it’s the penis. Lick up and down. Swirl your mouth around. Swirl your tongue in a slow and circular direction. Then up and down in zig zag pattern. Lick up one side then massage with your hand. Swirl your hand around that bad boy, worship it. Then lick the tip.

At the same time, you should be looking your partner in the eye seductively. Then slowly start eating it. Then break off a piece and feed your partner. Then kiss them. Should lead into making out. Tell them how they taste. Then go to another piece of fruit. Eat seductively. If you have a peach, feed it to your partner. That is not only peach they will be eating. Share it.

There should be licking and lots of swirling going around. Also, maneuvering around your partner body. Even eat of them. Get to the collarbone and work to the neck. The chest is another spot and the coveted thighs. Yes, you can get down to the toes, suck away!

Now, I better get back to our self-care!

Women Underarm Care

What we want to pay particularly to is our regions. Make sure our underarms are smelling good. Women, we want to make sure our hair is removed. The hair draws odor. A recipe for disaster.

I know, it’s a mother to remove and we sometimes may skip. Don’t. You don’t want to be removing a forest. Taking longer to remove. Keep on track of your removal. Don’t wait until you’re with someone and bare arm seasons. Maintenance is key.

Ingrown Hairs Or Razor Bumps Lets Combat

Tips for Men and Women With Hair Removal

These suckers form as a result of curly hair. When you remove your hair and it starts to grow back, sometimes, the hair gets trap underneath (due to the curl pattern). Why? The curl pattern. When it grows back, it grows in this pattern. If it doesn’t go straight through the hair follicle, it will stay growing underneath. Irritation soon forms; a bump appears. Sometimes hyperpigmentation. Your body is fighting this pattern forming underneath the skin. If bacteria set in, it gets worst. For those with curl pattern, this is annoying. Don’t fret, it isn’t your fault.

Irritation or bumps can occur from dry shaving or shaving too close. Never try to rake up underneath the skin. Your razor should be extra sharp and gliding across your skin.

The key, before you remove your hair, prep. Make sure your skin is moisturized and clean. Have a good skin care regimen. Can try washing your skin with African Soap. Here is an article with more details. If you shave, use a good shave cream or balm that isn’t irritable to skin. Never shave over the same area twice. Never use a dull razor. Never pull the skin.

After you shave, use an antiseptic. Witch Hazel, apple cider vinegar (diluted with water), aspirin mix with alcohol and water, are some good all natural ones. Wipe underneath with a cotton round and let dry. Then follow up moisturizer.

If you have preexisting irritation, use an antibacterial moisturizer or salicylic acid. Rub it gently into the skin. Can top with a little extra virgin coconut, almond or olive oil. Rubbing them into your skin until absorbed.

The key to keep the bumps away is moisture. This will keep the skin pliable which, making it easier for the hairs to come through the follicles. That is the goal, to have your hairs grow back through the follicles. we don’t ever want them to become trap/ When you have this type of pattern, it’s hard to have a full 100%. What you can do is minimize and prevent this issue (as previously outlined). if you notice a few trap, can pull out with a sterile tweezer. Don’t pull completely out. Just to surface, leave it alone for a while. Then remove with your regular removal method.

Women and Under Arm/Pubic Hair Removal

As you may be trying to keep odor away under your arms, invest in an antiperspirant that doesn’t irritate. You don’t want to irritate the skin. We want to keep the bumps away. More on antiperspirants below.

Why You Should Think Before Removing Your Pubic Hairs

The same rule applies if you remove your pubic hairs. If it is through shaving, wax or Lazer. You want to wear cotton underwear that breathes. Essentially nothing that irritates.

I am not here to police you on your vaginas and hair removals. We all have our preference. Some of prefer a full bush, landing strip or bare and nothing there. Your body, your preference, your choice. Do what you like and are comfortable with. What I will is extend some advice to protect them.

Reminder Pubic Hairs Protect Our Vaginas From Infections and Bacteria

I know, pubic hairs can be something, but they are here to protect our vagina. I know the rules is to never to use hair removal creams (burn baby burn). You don’t want to introduce chemicals to that region. Also, we want to avoid cuts and nicks. Yes, not a good look for you or your partner. Plus, we don’t want to introduce bacteria. Yeah, something we don’t want to hear. Here, we trying to keep odor away and here is another avenue for bacteria. It is advised to trim but not completely remove.

Your pubic hair acts as a barrier against dirt and bacteria entering the vagina. It also keeps your vagina warm and moist, while also preventing sweat from entering the vagina. Essentially, keeping bacteria and infections from occurring. It also acts as your friend during intercourse. Providing a cushion, preventing irritation (friction) from occurring. In addition, produces a natural sensual scent to drive the sexual attraction.

We see the ads for Lazer removal, promoting being bare down there. As a society, we have grown to despise our pubic. For a while, there was a movement to not care about the hair down there. It’s ok to have the bush. I am not sure if that’s still in vogue but I just want throw in a reminder about our lady parts. You have your choice. Just want to make sure you’re protected and healthy.

If you like to keep your hair down there, it’s ok to do a little grooming. Do it to your liking. Just be careful. Don’t want to cause irritation and get any infection. Follow the tips outlined and you should be ok. As my grandmother would say, “our bodies our beautifully and wonderfully made.” Embrace what you were born with. Cheers to your vagina health.

Invest in Anti-perspirants, Eliminate Odor

Also, invest in some good anti-perspirants (remove odor, not mask). Antiperspirants eliminate sweat and bacteria, keeping you smelling fresh. Just a tip, put on a light layer of baking soda. Trust me, in a matter minutes, you will be sweating with your partner. You want to keep the odor away. You want to be confident and not worrying about odor. You can put them in all the areas prone to sweat and odor. Thank me later!

Handwash Your Undergarments

If you are like me, you hate odor. Any forms, I can’t stand. I am very particular when it comes to the undergarments. To the regular and lingerie. I always handwash. It prolongs their use and I give them each tender loving care. I whip out my guns, vinegar mix with baking soda.

Pay Attention To The Crotch When Handwashing

I lightly scrub the crotch areas and let set for a few minutes. About 20 minutes. Then I put them to soak. A little All mix with vinegar. Sometimes, I use my favorite mix, (generic) blue Dawn, vinegar, baking soda and water. From time to time, I will use Dove (unscented) and sometimes African Soap. lightly scrub my garments. Then soak (1 hour). Then thoroughly rinse and air dry.

After the soak, I thoroughly rinse with cold water. Then wring out to almost completely dry and hang to air dry. I usually hang them on towel rack or hangers (adjustable pants hangers). Then fold them neatly and store in my organizer. The key, make sure they are completely dry. No sign of dampness, not even a tiny drop. Want to prevent bacteria and yeast infections.

To Keep The Bra Quality Up

For my bras, to keep dinge away, I usually scrub the straps with this mixture. This helps keep them free from odor and discoloration. My undergarments always look like they’re new. Why? I take care. I follow the general guidelines and make sure they stay clean. Also, organized and breathing. Sometimes I leave them hanging on hangers, so they can breathe. Sometimes when things are folded and stored together, they can develop a light musty odor.

Hang Your Clothes Up So They Can Breathe And Less Wrinkles

Although it doesn’t happen to my clothes, I try to avoid it. I let my clothes breath on hangers. Also, less hangers. When I do my massive cleanings around the house, I give my closet a thorough cleaning. Let is air out for a few days before putting everything back in. This helps keep odor out and my clothes smelling fresh. I have a phobia about house odors. With vinegar and Citra Solv, I never have to worry.

Keep Your Crotch Area and Whites White With Hydrogen Peroxide

For my whites, especially if the crotch area is white, I apply hydrogen peroxide, (generic) blue Dawn, baking soda and water. I apply the mixture to the crotch area, lightly pat in and let set for 30 minutes.

Use Gloves With Hydrogen Peroxide

Tip: With peroxide, please use gloves. You can use latex or disposable ones. Just make sure you’re not touching the peroxide directly, want to prevent burning and irritation.

Then put to soak (1 hour) in hot water. Then thoroughly rinse (cold water) and air dry.

Use Hydrogen Peroxide On All Your Whites

Your whites will come out whiter than white. It’s the best whitener combination. I use this on all my whites. Sheets, pillowcases, blankets, shirts and socks! Your garments also come out so fresh and smelling clean.

Prevent Period Stains With Hydrogen Peroxide Mixture , Whites

Yes, when your menstruation hits, we all fear cramps, odor and our underwear. We whip out the big drawers and await until or “friend” leaves. It’s nature, our body is getting rid of toxins and keeping our cycle of life.

When the cycle hits, I prep. This includes having 2 extra pair on handy (Ziplock bag) everywhere I go. I keep in my car or bag, so I won’t forget.

Also, during the cycle, I always check my underwear. Any sign of blood seeping on them I am running to the sink. I use my mixture, (generic) blue Dawn, hydrogen peroxide and baking soda.

Make a paste and spread onto the area. Then I lightly pat in. Let set for about 30 minutes. Then put to soak (1 hour) in cold water. Then thoroughly rinse (cold water) and air dry.

You will have period stained free undergarments. You will never have to throw out your undergarments again.

Prevent Period Stains With Vinegar Mixture, Colored Undergarments

If it’s colored drawers, then I use vinegar, baking soda and (generic) blue Dawn. Why? With hydrogen peroxide, it acts as a whitener. With vinegar, it doesn’t. I want to preserve the color, no whitening here. It is effective in getting the blood stain completely out just like hydrogen peroxide.

Natural Ingredients For Undergarments

I like to use natural ingredients. They are inexpensive and versatile. Everything I use remove odor (not mask). This is important to me. Masking doesn’t work, it just makes things worse. I believe removing. Also, they sanitize. They also are safe, no infections will occur. You want to stay away from the chemicals, dyes and fragrances. Especially when it comes to your private areas. You don’t want any bacteria setting in. Also, irritation, you don’t want to experience pain or burning sensation. You have to protect yourself down there. Also, thoroughly rinsing is important.

Why I prefer Hand Washing Undergarments Over Washing Machine

Another reason why I hand wash, I want to preserve the quality of my garments. Throwing in the wash machine, things can get tangled up on the drum. Also, wear and tear can happen.

Why I prefer Air Drying Undergarments Over Dryer

I have an amazing washer, but I feel more confident with individual care. I leave you for my clothes, sneakers and bathroom and bedwear. I also steer away from dryer. I don’t want any shrinking to occur. Yes, the heat from the dryer is great sanitizer. I don’t need because the ingredients I use are sanitizer. I also try to put my garments near the sun, excellent sterilizer. I don’t leave in the sun for too long, I don’t want to fade to occur. So, there you go, my undergarment secrets. Hope these tips help!

Women Vagina Care

Wash With Non-Scented Soap For Vulva Plain Water For Vagina

When it comes to our vagina, it’s a natural cleanser. We know not to put soap down there. Just masks and makes things worse. The vulva (the external area of reproduction area, our V) is safe. You can use a fragrance free/non scented and gentle soap along with water. Dove and African soap are my go-to soaps. I love Dove unscented and original scent. It’s the best store brand soap and will never stop using. African soap is the goat at eliminating any odor. You never have to worry trust. You smell fresh all day, may savior! Find some soaps that work for your skin type.

When you wash, please don’t scrub. Can further irritate the skin. Also, wash in warm water. Also, make sure all soap residue is completely washed away. Pat dry to keep area clean and from unhealthy bacteria forming. Don’t worry, our parts have natural secretion that will keep it moist!

Never Use Soap And Shove Water Into Your Vagina

For your vagina, you want to avoid soap at any cost. It has natural cleanser properties; you don’t want to disrupt the PH balance. Soap can strip away the balance, making it prone for bacteria to enter in. We don’t want any yeast infections. So what is the solution? Plain water my friend. Try to keep water out. We don’t bacteria growth and infections to subside. Keep your vagina dry. Please stick to plain water. If you must, use a tiny bit of soap in a lot of water. Try not to force water in your vagina, a big no. Should be concentrating on the vulva and the labia, lips. Vagina is housed and protected by the vulva. There shouldn’t be an issue with odor at all. Our vaginas have a natural delicate scent. Plain water should do the trick.

Drink Apple Cider Vinegar To Keep Vagina Odor Away

If you want to keep on top of your vagina health, turn to internal solutions to drink! To keep your vagina odor away, take apple cider vinegar internally. Mix a spoonful into your water. Try to drink every day. Keeps your metabolism up, If you can’t stomach the taste mix cinnamon or take the capsules. I take them!

Call Your Mother

Grab one with the “mother” (nutrients) and is 100%. Braggs is a good brand, but you can get the comparable generic brand (on sale), just as good. As long as they have the “mother” and 100% you’re good. I love vinegar. I never have any problems with vagina odor. I mean ever.

Some added benefits. Apple cider vinegar is the goat. It’s great for weight loss, clearing your skin (make sure diluted) and your breath. It’s a staple you should have in your refrigerator. I will be using this stuff for the rest of my life. It’s an inexpensive miracle in the bottle. It can help your treasured areas.

Take Probiotics To Keep Vagina Odor Away

In addition, you can take probiotics. Now, enter my job history. I used to work in a natural organic whole foods market. I know about all the vitamins, organics and whole grains. Yes, the healthy stuff. I learned a lot. The stuff from nature has healed a lot of people. I heard a lot of customer stories, it works.

If you haven’t tried and have specific ailment, give them a whirl. Best medicine you can buy. Your health will thank you. Probiotics are generally fermented.

Now onto them. some include yogurt, kimchi, kombucha, pickles, tempeh, and sauerkraut. Now, I would stir away from sauerkraut as you don’t want that odor on your breath. Sneaky some of these foods in your diet will help the kitty kat.

Also, you can take probiotics as vitamins. Consult your doctor or neighborhood pharmacy.

Cranberry juice also is great. Try to get the sugar free all natural. Can even eat cranberries or juice. Here is to great vagina health.

How Not To Wash Your Vagina

Well, ask we just went over a discussion on odor. Many of us our quick to go to the good old douche to get rid of it. Let’s face it, we don’t want a smelly vagina. We will do what we have to do. I am here to tell you, please steer away. I gave you some tips that will supersede the douche. Now, you may be wondering why? Well, our vagina has a natural cleanser and contains healthy bacteria. The materials in douche will disrupt the bacteria, throwing off your PH balance. Unhealthy bacteria can introduce and can go as far into your reproduction tract. We are talking about our fallopian tubes, ovaries and uterus. We really don’t want this. Who wants a nasty yeast or other infections.

Please Don’t Douche Protect Your Vagina

I know they’re marketed to take the odor away, making you feel more confident. The downside, they will disrupt your body. This includes vinegar and water. That is why I put the disclaimer to use apple cider vinegar and water mix sparingly. Wash with plain water. It is advised to use as little soap as possible.

Advice on How To Wash Your Vagina

If you are the type that must have something besides plain water, there is hope. This is what I do. Swipe your unscented soap into your water three times (you want to use as little soap as possible.) Swirl it around in your water. Then use a clean and fresh wash cloth and wash. I don’t do this all the time, only when I feel it is needed. You will be smelling fresh and ready.

Tips On Keeping Your Self Clean When You Use The Bathroom

When we use the rest room, make sure we completely wipe ourselves from front to back. Never double wipe! Get some fresh tissue and wipe again. You don’t want bacteria (defecation waste) to enter your vagina. Also vice versa.

What I do is first, wrap the tissue in long and slightly thick ball (that will cover my backside). I slightly arch my back up and wipe from front to back. Then repeat. Then I take a fresh wad of tissue and wipe my vagina from front to back.

I try to make it a habit to wipe rather than pat. With wiping, you are taking up more substance. Also, I try to hold it for a few seconds to make sure it absorbed as much as possible. I want the vagina completely dry. Then repeat.

Then, I wash (with the solution outlined) with fresh washcloths. patting dry. I am fresh for the day!

Follow-up Your Wipe with A Wash

You can also (follow-up) wash up with mild soap (non-scented) and plain water. Then pat dry. This will keep you with good hygiene practices.

If you ever been to a high-end restaurant or hotel, you may have encountered the bidet toilet. They give you a proper washing and quite refreshing! Think of this when you are using the restroom!

Bonus Tip To Keep Your Rooms Smelling Fresh

A bonus tip: To minimize the offense to your partner, after you defecate, immediately flush. Don’t wait. Once it drops flush! I know, you want to conserve water but, you will minimize odor and bacteria spores in the air. Also, place vinegar bowls in your bathroom. They help to remove odors from your room. You can get some cuter containers from Dollar Tree. Get one with lids and hole. That way, you will prevent any accidental spills. Also, a spray bottle with water and equal parts vinegar. Grab a microfiber cloth and wipe around your toilet bowl area. This will help keep odors at bay!

I also grab my good old staple I’ve been using for over 20 years, Citra Solv. I place some in containers and my whole house smells like Citrus heaven! I never have issues with odors, even at defecation. It’s a great odor eliminator and has amazing natural properties. It’s better than sprays that mask.

I use these two cleaners basically everywhere and never have issues. Another hidden one is Fabuloso. I am off and on with this one but it’s a good alternative. This really keeps your rooms smelling amazing. Try them, your partner will love you!

Some More Tips On Bathroom Etiquette When You Wash

I have a rule in my bathroom. have different wash cloths for each main area. I have 5 main wash cloths. I have 2 for the face, 1 for my butt, 1 for the vagina and 1 for my body. The 2 I have for my face are white. Why? Our faces are delicate. I don’t want any dye intertwining with my cleaning products. Yes, they’re high-quality cloths, I just want to take precautions with my face. I want to make sure my regimen stays squeaky clean. That includes keeping my hands off my face, keeping all my cloths clean and rotated, dietary choices and minimizing stress.

The other are different colors. The different colors help to prevent mixing them up. I wash them every other day. I always change a fresh set every 2 days.

I have so many washcloths, Home Goods would be ashamed, lol. Plus 3 buff puffs and l3 long handle puffs for your back (if you have a hard time washing your back, grab one on Amazon. They are like $3.00).

I also hand wash my cloths. I first separate the white ones from the colored. For the colored ones, I use a little All mix with vinegar and a dash of baking soda. I soak them in steaming hot water (making sure they’re sanitize). Then, I thoroughly rinse (cold water) and hang to air dry. This will help to prolong my cloths. The same way I treat my undergarments, I treat my cloths. Given them that extra tender care!

For the white cloths, I soak in equal parts hydrogen peroxide, a few drops of (generic) Blue Dawn and baking soda. I saturate the cloths in that solution and let set for about 20 minutes. Then I let soak in water. Followed by thorough rinse and hanging on towel rack to air dry. They always come out so white! Better than bleach. Hope you enjoy these bonus tips. I want your hygiene game to be on point for your health and for the enjoyment of your partner.

For The Men, Follow The Same Suit As The Ladies

How Men Should Wash Their Genitals

If you’ve been perusing this article, you are knowing more about women. Just like the women, you also have guidelines which are very similar. You also should be grabbing off the shelf mild/ unscented soap.

Your genitals are sensitive and don’t want you to be experiencing irritation. Also, we don’t to mess up your natural PH balance and develop bacterial infections.

We want your golden glory to be protected. This includes washing your privates with warm water. By washing, you’re removing dirt and debris, preventing unhealthy bacteria from forming.

Oh No, Jock Itch

Thoroughly work your way down your shaft to the tip. Don’t forget your pubic area and scrotum. Be gentle and make sure all soap is removed! This can cause the good old jock itch!

If this occurs, grab some equal parts apple cider vinegar and water. Apply on cotton round or ball to the area. Leave on for about 1 minute. Pat dry. Repeat if necessary.

Mix water with a gentle unscented soap. Some good soaps is Dove. Dove has an amazing men’s line. I always notice how bare this section is in the stores. A good sign! Mix it up into a soapy lather. Thoroughly clean your area. Remove all soap residue, rinse! Make sure it’s thoroughly dry (pat dry with a clean towel).

If you’re dealing with foreskin, thoroughly clean underneath to make sure all the area is completely clean. Reach the underside of the skin and glans. Use your soapy lather and be gentle. Make sure it’s thoroughly dry.

Your undergarments should also be breathable and cotton. This will help to combat irritation.

What If I Am Experiencing Dryness Down There

Just like the women, your area also produces a natural scent and secretion, keeping it moist. If we do something to throw it off balance, then we can seek a remedy to get it back on track.

If you experience dryness or itching, then moisturizing may be beneficial. Grab a fragrance-free moisturizer. Moisturizing can reduce bacteria and combat pores and skin stress.

Keep fragrances away. Why? Can cause irritation and throw off PH balance. Also, don’t over moisturize. You don’t want too much moisture going on. Bacteria can seep in leading to infections.

Use until you notice no more discomfort or becomes moist again. Then leave alone. Let your natural secretion process breath again.

It is my mission to get you on track to good hygiene practices. I want your experiences to be healthy, happy and in comfort. The focus should be on your partner not your issues. I know these tips will lead to an amazing experience. Review as much as you can! Let’s continue shall we! So since we are talking about there, let’s talk about the genitals.

Penis/Genitals

We just went over some hygiene practice for your region. I know, I probably don’t have to tell you about it but just want to make sure we are cover. Your genitals are an important part of arousal. Smelling fresh is part of it. Let your partner observe your natural masculine scent. Let the pheromones erupt in their senses. Let’s make this an amazing experience. If it too bushy for your liking, trim. Get some good cutting shears. Grooming matters to. You don’t have to look perfect but a little touching up can do wonders.

Never Wear Tight Undergarment or Pants

Taking care of this region is important. From your undergarments from the way you sit, it plays a part in your health down there. You never want to restrict airflow to that area. If it’s too tight, go up a size. It’s made to be free flowing. You don’t experience any urinary tract infections or low sperm counts. You never want to restrict your scrotum, recipe for low sperm production.

Watch It If You Cross Your Legs

Also, watch it if you cross your legs. Don’t do it for long periods of time or excessively. With anything, try to vary your posture and positions throughout the day. Keep your blood circulating. It can cause higher temps (pain) and cause pressure on your groin area. This can also lead to lower sperm count. It can also mess up your spine, posture and alignment in muscle depth.

The standard, sit with your legs far apart. Keep feet flat on the floor. No slouching. Keep your back flat in an upright position. Keep your shoulders up and relax. Remain good posture. Now that we got some important details out the way, let’s move on to your health.

Examine Your Penis Guys

Now, I am not talking about just admiring it but truly checking it out. I am sure we are all engage in healthy sexual practices (condoms, other contraceptives). We still should be checking making sure there isn’t any pain, sores, bumps, cuts/lesions, or discolorations. We went over the urinary tract infections. This can be symptom of (cancer, STD’s or another ailments).

Please make an appointment with your doctor immediately. Don’t wait, call right away. You want to protect yourselves and your future. If starting a family is on your mind, you want don’t to have any road bumps. Let’s have a healthy and active lifestyle. You have to be smart, respect your body and love yourself. Let’s do this.

You also want to protect your partner as well. How can you have a great union when it’s sabotage. Don’t be selfish. Do unto others as you would do onto you. Don’t put anyone else in harms danger. It’s not so pretty. Be transparent if any issues arise. You are not in it for yourself. I am pretty sure they are thinking of you. Just giving you things to think about.

Now, enough preaching. Let’s get into some tips to keep you erect.

Are We Still On Penis Size

Now, I know guys, when it comes to size, it can be sensitive. I am here to break that stigma. It really doesn’t. You can’t help how you are born or what your size will be. It is all genetics. Guys, never be self-conscious or try to overcompensate (if you feel you don’t have the “idea” size).

Size Doesn’t Matter No Lie

I want to move you away from thinking about your size. Why? You will become self-conscious. Don’t label yourself. “I have a small penis or I lack.” If you have this ingrained, you will develop low self-esteem. Making it harder to want to date or find your special someone.

We Are All Sexual Beings Tap Into It

Believe it or not, the world isn’t as superficial as you think. When you find that someone and you connect (I am going to speak this into existence), the sparks will fly. No matter what, there is a bond. Your partner doesn’t see superficiality, they see you. If you move from the negativity and embrace the positivity, you will see a big difference. Every human has flaws. It’s up to us to us to fester on them. I want you to have confidence.

Never Overcompensate

I also don’t want you to overcompensate. You may engage in acts that don’t involve interaction with the penis. Perhaps you may overdo it in engaging in oral pleasure on them. You may cut down having intercourse all together. Revving up foreplay. I don’t want you to be in fear or lose your drive. Don’t. You’re undermining yourself. I am highly confident that your partner is missing out on some amazing interactions. Interactions that you didn’t know you had in you.

Size Has Nothing To Do With Performance

Your size has nothing to do with your performance. It truly doesn’t. We are looking for pleasure at the end of the day. How you get there, it doesn’t matter, as long as we are satisfied.

Increase The Positivity Into Your Mental, Increase Performance

You only have one life to live, don’t spend it miserably. Embrace what you have and enjoy. I want you to concentrate on the important matter at hands and that is your partner. I went over a number of tips already. So, I will go over it one more time, size doesn’t matter. You will reach the spots; you will hit on all cylinders. Believe me, you have it in you. I want to draw it out of you.

Positive Affirmations Work

So take a month and practice some positive self-affirmations. Write down any negative talk. For example, vow to stop saying “I have a small penis.” “I wish my penis was bigger.” “She isn’t satisfied because I am lacking.” Throw these thoughts out the window. Sign a contract that you won’t say or think these thoughts anymore. Then replace with positive thoughts. Some examples.

” I love my woman, I know will I please her in many ways.” “I am good man, lover, and friend.” “I keep getting better and better, I am proud of myself.” ” I can’t wait until I knock it out the park again, boy, is she in for a surprise.”

I want you to go in on the positive talk. You will be amaze on how this changes you psychologically. Your whole mental frame changes. If those wrong thoughts come in, chase away with humor. The key, to eliminate them completely. Your performance in the bed is highly contingent on the mental. Let’s build this up!

I work on this area all the time. It plays a part of my personality. I am always pep talking myself. I am a high achiever in academia and on the job. I especially want to be in the bedroom. It goes hand in hand. I am not cocky but confident. There is a difference. I am in for all the right reasons. I want the time exchange to worthwhile. It’s on! I am not going to hold back. I keep it positive, fun and loving. My hearts in it. I leave all the negativity out. See the difference.

Eliminate Stress and Don’t Overwork

Your health does play part in your performance. I gave some tips to increase your stamina. working o overall exercise will do so. Your improving blood circulation, oxygen to your cells, improving muscles and flexibility. All play a part in increasing stamina and staying energetic. The more you move the more motion in the ocean. It goes hand in hand. Your diet as well. The more energy and nutrients you give, the more your body will thank you.

One thing that can contribute to a lower performance is stress. You’re taxing your nerves and heart. This will lead to low production of sperm and arousal. It can also make it more painful. You may develop palpitations, headaches and other aches and pains. Who wants to have intercourse with these issues going. You won’t be at peak performance Your body doesn’t like stress. It will fight overtime.

Moral of story, monitor and eliminate stress. Protect yourself. Don’t tax yourself. Your partner will love you more. Don’t take years off your longevity.

Excessive Exercise Kills Your Arousal

Another offender, over exercising. Yes, my fellow gym flow members, you can also overdo it on the bar. Excessive exercising can lead to injuries and which worse, if it’s around your groin, pelvis or penis. Any muscle injuries around this area can restrict blood flow, causing pain and inflammation. This can also affect your testosterone and diminish your libido. Your body might stop producing hormones, further tanking your arousal.

Medical Conditions Beware

Just like the conditions before, medical conditions can also affect your bedroom performance. Diabetes, hypertension, cancer, chronic pain, MS, Hormone imbalance, and depression, We have to be careful because these conditions often involve blood vessels or nerves being impaired. This restriction reduces sensations to nerves that cause arousal and libido. Even certain medications, such as antidepressants, can reduce sexual arousal. If you have these conditions, please consult your doctor. Ask for natural remedies that will heal your body. Best of luck my friends.

Sorry to break out the medical but it does play apart in your performance. I want to make you’re healthy. Intercourse is a physical act. I never want you to get discouraged, especially if you have an ailment. It isn’t your fault. The key. is to identify any issues and address them. Sit down with your doctor and partner. Together, you will be able to overcome your issue. It’s more than intercourse here but your life. Your life is more important. Stick to your doctors appointment, et your check ups. Love yourself. Save your life.

Now, back to the art of attraction I see.

Eyes

Ebony Eyes

You ever hear Rick James belting out on Ebony Eyes. A song! Eyes are the window to your soul. They are the start of attraction. Where would you be without them. They can smile at you without you knowing it. They tell your story. Back to my set of puppy eyes, I am sucker for big eyes. Especially ones that are warm, sweet and compassionate. They just make you melt.

It’s An Eruption

Eyes on a man are a weakness for women. We have intuition, we can read a man eyes and tell who they are. Can’t fool us. Can tell if sincere, trusting, caring, fun, sad, and confused in one glimpse. They tell a lot.

You Want A Sign They’re Attracted, Look To The Eyes

We can also tell if they are attracted. You ever seen the pupils enlarge, yup, a clear sign. If they lock eyes and maintain eye contact, it’s a good sign. If you see them dilate and maintain a dreamy glaze, wow, you have them hook line and sinker. If they lower their voice, especially raspy, there trying to level of the attraction. Basically, all telltale signs they’re attracted.

If you see them examine your face, and particularly your lips, even better. They are attracted; they desire to lock with your lips. If you see them scan the rest of your body, well you know the rest. Believe it or not, psychologically, this is increasing your attraction to them. The pheromones are being exerted, the energy is there, it’s being expressed.

Men have innate chemistry to draw attraction, The dilate eyes, the smile, the raspy voice, the charm, the words, all draw you in.

Physical attraction is there. Have to pay close attention to the eyes. If they’re looking every which way but on you, then we have a problem.

Eyes Are The Path To Intimacy

The eyes are especially key in intimacy. You are communicating to your partner without opening your mouth. Bedroom eyes are here; they are popping. It’s the window to seduction. You’re essentially telling your partner that you want them, want to please them, find them sexually desirable, physically attractive, ready to satisfy all their desires, and pleasure is about to come.

Shorty So Seductive

You are saying all this through the eyes. You also use your eyes to stimulate arousal. By slightly lower them into a seductive gaze, looking lovingly at your partner, something will be springing into action. The key, scan your partner face, scan their whole body and particularly set eyes on the treasured regions. Yes, the private areas. Look at them with desire and adoration. Don’t take your eyes off your partner. They are focus; they are about be devoured. Tease them, smile devilishly with your eyes. Have them wanting you. It works.

Talk And Get A Handle

Of course, your eyes work in tandem with a little talk, hand gestures, eyebrow tease (crook one of your eyebrows into a wink) and bite of your mouth. Tilt your head, smile and do a seductive laugh. Trace your fingers down your neck to your collarbone to the top of your cleavage, your man is drawn in! You can even cross your legs, adjust your garments (adjust straps of your bra, pop your underwear strap, rub a little on your stomach/thigh). Gets your man every time.

How Many Licks?

You can even put in a little tongue action. Flick it around your mouth slowly and seductively. Blow air kisses, move your body into a seductive stance. You can even put your index finger in your mouth and slowly suck on it or lightly biting on it. While you are doing all of this, your eyes should be locked in seductively on your partner.

Use A Mirror

If you never done this before, practice. Use a full-length mirror. That way you examine your body and what works for you. I know you don’t want to look awkward. Examine all angles. See what works for your body and personality. Throw in a little humor if that works for you and your partner.

Thick Thighs Saving Lives

Now, if you’re close to your partner, burn your gaze into theirs. Examine their face, why you are doing so, your hands should be going to town. Your hands engulfing the back of their neck, slowly going down their back. Then to their shoulders, arms, and chest. Then to their thighs. Really give this area some rubbing. Especially on the man. Why? We want to prep the golden rod. We are teasing around this area; this drives a man wild. The tease before the tease. You are warming up the blood vessels, increasing stimulation. You are also saying I am physically attracted, I want to please you, I love you, and I want to be one with you.

A Grasp You Can Handle

Now, you can lightly cup and start massaging his region, all while looking seductively at him. Rub on the shaft to the head in a circular motion. Then up and down. Do it lightly, slowly and firmly. Never be aggressive. This area is super sensitive, treat it with love and adoration. Now, if you’re a little devilish, wink, wink, you can go in for hand job. Grab a little lotion or flavored lube for lubrication and smother your baby. Repeat those steps, going in all directions. lightly rub on the balls.

Rub on his thighs and then his stomach You can trace your tongue around his stomach and thighs. You can light lick his region. Be careful as it might be tempting to want to proceed to give oral. You’re not done teasing. You just want to give enough. Keep undressing with the eyes. Take your time. Never rush exploring your partner. Tease to death.

On This Episode of Dallas

The bonus, straddle him unexpectedly. Hoist yourself right on top. Arch your back and lean forward. Place your treasure box on top of his region. Swirl in a slow and circular motion. Do a few light bounces. Moan a little in his ear. Say” I love you, please have your way with me.” Tease him like no other. Get him rock hard. Leave kisses all over his face. Match your forehead to his. Look him directly in the eye. Give a little bite on side of the mouth. Let him know, “I want all of you swirling in my mouth. I want taste you so bad right now. I can’t wait until the finish.” Whisper all of this in his ear.

Then after, lick his ear seductively, with some kisses. You will then work your way down the side of his neck. Then start sucking his neck. Then you will work your way up, biting and kissing his jawline seductively. Then go in for the kill with the make out. You should be lightly moaning and exploring his body with your hands. Also talking. Tell him all what is he is in store for. The key to keeping him rock hard.

I hope you enjoyed our trip though the parts of the anatomy and the tips on each that will bring arousal. The whole goal is to improve your game. It’s a mental and emotional game. The more you understand and recognize subtle cues, the better lover you become. Yes, the art of pay attention. Knowing your partner, listening and then acting, it all works.

Foreplay

The Dress Rehearsal Before The Play

If you ever listen to R.Kelly 12 play, he goes through the many stages of foreplay. One of the masters of R&B, he knows how to sing the draws off. Yes, he is responsible for many hits including “I believe I can fly.” For us r&b aficionados, we know Kelly is the King of bedroom. I know he is probably played in the background of many of our rooms. The morale of the story is, you got rev before you go in.

Foreplay, as we call it, is imperative. It’s dress rehearsal before the act. As you notice throughout this article, I threw in a number of examples. Yoc can use them as sources of inspiration. If it isn’t your thing or never experience, I hope to turn this around. It’s the buildup to the arousal. It’s my favorite part of the whole act. It’s a time to exercise your creativity, inner self and prowess. Let’s get into some more examples shall we.

As we know, we need prep before the act. Arousal needs to happen on both ends. We need our nerves stimulated, our blood rushing, and secretion for lubrication. For the man, you need to be at full attention for the ladies, wet and wild. We need this. It an amazing place to be and the road can be fun and exciting only if you let it be. The key, be yourself and let it all out. No need to be bashful here. You’re about to be intimate with the one you love. Someone you know, trust and understand. This isn’t a stranger but your partner.

I am sorry but have to bring it up again, love has to be present. True, deep and meaningful love. Connection, chemistry and mutual understanding, all have checks next to them. So, what do we during foreplay. Well, I’ve pointed out some examples previously (they weren’t hard to spot, wink). I can supply some more.

The neck Is Prime Real Estate For Foreplay

Let’s start on the neck. Ah the neck, prime real estate for sexual arousal. It’s just made for everything. Caressing, sucking, touching, tracing, biting (love bites), nibbling and kisses. It can get you going like no other. Some ideas, start on one side and then make your way to side of jaw, face then ears. Whisper something in their ear. For instance, ” I want to feel you so deep inside of me and devour every inch of you. I want you so badly.’ ” You taste so good, I can’t wait to hop on top of you. You are going to be in for a ride”

Foreplay Examples

When you talk, talk slowly and seductively. Lower your voice a little and whisper seductively. Talk in a way that will make your parents ashamed. If you never have talk seductively before, practice. Record on your phone, play it back, analyze. See what works and what you can improve. Tip: Make sure you delete the recordings completely after.

When you are talking, there should be rubbing and body movements going on. Take the command. If you’re sitting on the side of them, press your body against them. Try to have your breast, stomach and thighs against them. This will get their senses tingling. Rub their backs and work up to back of the neck. Get to the hair, arms, shoulders. Nibble on their ears. Kiss their foreheads, cheeks, nose and then get to the mouth. Trace your tongue around it. Tease before going in for tongue action. This should lead to making out.

This should lead them to caressing your body. This includes the front and back. Have them rub their hands up under your shirt/dress. Lightly graze over your bra and bra strap. Have them pop it and slightly side it down. Then move down your stomach. Caressing every curve, over your bellybutton, your whole torso. Then caressing your private part.

Your treasure box should be on fire. I will continue to reiterate, there should be some sensual talk going on. Also, some grunting and moaning. For example, as your partner is caressing your body, you can be looking right into their eyes with a mischievous grin. ” You keep this up; we are guaranteed to end up on the floor. Are ready you baby.” “You are driving me so wild right now. I know you can feel it.”

Also, during this time, take a break and do some light sucking on the neck. Then kiss the side of the face. Then back to the lips. At this point, clothes should be opening up and flying off. Ofcourse slowly and sensually. Push your partner back a little firm and aggressively, bend over on them, cuddle with them or straddle. Just get in union with them. Then continue to caress and kiss all over. This could lead to oral sex or the act themselves. It’s up to you and your partner. The key, making sure you are both prime for the killing. Rock hard and fixated on each other.

Get On Top Of Your Partner Foreplay

If you’re straddling, do some swirls on your partner. Do it slowly and sensually. Rock back and forth, moan in their ear. Let them know how turned on you are right now. How wet you are. That you can’t take anymore. Then go to town and start kissing them to death. Rub on their back and go for the chest. Tease pulling off their garments. Let them know how good they smell or how much you love their cute smirk. Laugh in their ear. Then lightly bounce on them, all the while kissing them. Then arch into them and start slow grinding on them.

This should be stirring arousal between both of you. Do some light and firm pats on the butt (arousal heaven). Rub on the thighs. Then up and down and around their butt. Then rub up their back, neck, then back to the thighs.

Foreplay For Laying On The Side

If you are laying on the side of your partner, start off kissing back of their neck. Pull their hair to the side. Put your arms around them, pull them in closer by the waist. Then move to the hips and slowly continue to pull in. Cross your other arm over like a bear and hug. Whisper “I love you so much. Graze over their private area, lightly caress their sweet spot. Kiss the back of their neck, then the side, then their ears. Do some light nibbling on the ears.

In the meanwhile, your hands should be caressing all over the entire front of the body. Some light pats on butt, some playful squeezes on thighs and arms. Some rubbing of the hands. Rubbing and holding of the thighs. Also, there should be some heavy kissing on the shoulders, back and encourage to turn over so you can go in for kissing. What’s better is to get your partner to straddle you.

Feel the heat between the both of you. Play with their clothes. Tease taking them off. If you have a drawstring, buttons, zipper or elastic, play with them. Grunt and moan. Then move to the underside of the breast then start rubbing on the entire breast. Keep doing so until you feel the nipples become rock hard. Cup them and then you can begin to start licking and sucking on them. Then work your way up to the neck (kiss or suck), the lips and cheeks. Then work your way down to the stomach, thighs and private areas. You can lightly tease your tongue or mouth on this area. Now you have your choice. You can either perform oral or continue exploring their body, it’s up to you.

Foreplay If You’re Standing

If you’re standing across from each other, try to prop your partner up on an elevation. This is great if your partner may be shorter. A countertop will do. When you prop, make sure you grip the butt firmly and playful. Do some slow rubbing. This will stimulate your partner senses like no other. Then be a little aggressive, but not too aggressive, like a lion cub and pull your partner in close to you. Have their legs parted with you between them. Wrap your hands around their waist.

As you have been reading the other methods, you can incorporate bits and pieces into this one. The goal is to stimulate each other senses and get into the mood. Enjoy and also learn more about each other. You might be surprised by your partner. You never know if they might whip out a new technique or take you places you never been before. It’s always unexpected when foreplay is involved. It is stimulating and playful. Sometimes, you never want to end. You can also enjoy a nice orgasm during it. That is the absolute best. You don’t have to get penetrated to feel the eruption. Sometimes it’s so good, you can’t help it. When the attraction is super strong, you know. It doesn’t take much at all.

Just everything about your partner turns you on. You just absolutely love them to death. Just one simple touch and you’re gasping for air. The real test is when you think of them. There is something that just drives you wild. They are the object of your fantasy. You can’t help but smile. Just the thought and you’re aroused. That is some real power there. It’s called chemistry, perfect one at that. You can’t beat it.

Find that person. Just don’t run through people and hope to satisfy your “needs.” You can get hurt and burn. Find that one special person that will drive you wild. Your ride or die, the one you can’t wait to talk to, laugh with, eat with, share your car, and cuddle with. Yes, the one you can’t wait to grow old with. You already plan to be with in the future. One you will be driving crazy. The one you will be running around with your grandkids.

They are out there. It’s so much better with the one than just options. Live for the one, you will win!

Conclusion

Now, if you think going to end it like this, I am not. I will have a part 2 coming soon. It will go indepth on different sexual acts to light the fire with your partner. With this topic, I can literally write a book. It’s a passion and know there is so much to discuss. I don’t want to overwhelm you with so much. I will be breaking this up into a series of articles. This will help you to better digress. No matter how long you have been in the game, there is always something you can learn and improve on. Your sexual health is one.

One thing we fear is growing stagnant or losing slight interest. I’ve come to understand that this can be the case in all areas of your life. Sometimes, you may need a break. Hey, I am not saying from your partner but maybe cool it down in this area. It’s cool. You can still keep the romance hot and heavy. Foreplay, phone sex, digital sex, sensual play or just oral sex may be your thing from time to time. Whatever the case, you’re not growing bored. You may need a break or just up to trying something new. We are human. We don’t like repetition. We are always looking for things to excite us.

Come to a mutual understanding with your partner. See what is up. Do you need to change it up or cool it for a minute. As long as you’re on the same page. This is great as you both can regroup for the next time you unite. With the tips outlined, I am pretty sure it will be better than before. You will be back on the prowl and ready to devour.

For me, it’s all about changing and trying different things. Reigniting the romance being creativity. For me, I like spontaneity. I love different places and especially different rooms. I have a high imagination, and I love decor, it’s a dangerous combination, lol. It doesn’t matter the place; I want my partner. I want to love and adore him. Pleasure, you know what out of him. This is what keeps the sparks alive. Being myself and not doing too much.

Your partner knows you and putting on facade spells lack of trust. Where there is lack of trust there is separation. I keep it real. I was upfront in the beginning and back up what I say. I let them know, I am not here to perform acrobats but what I do, is me.

Yes, I am out there with my sexuality, but I am not going to put on every act just to impress. No, it’s not realistic. I don’t like any form of anal sex; it’s just not me. I am here for doggy style just nothing anal. I stand by stance. It’s a surprise but hey, just because I am very sexual, doesn’t mean I am down for everything. Also perform them all. No, Every act means something. The ones I do, I am comfortable with and enjoy. For the others, it makes me squeam and doesn’t fit my personality.

I say all of this to say be yourself. You see how open I am with my sexuality. I am not going to lie to you and say I perform all these acts when I don’t. I may have wrote this article from my personal perspective but doesn’t mean I enjoy everything. Even know everything. I know the world is vast and very open with the sexuality. There are some areas I respect and let alone. I am not a bit curious; I leave it alone. As a blogger, it is my job to report the real. I may touch upon them in the future. As far as my personal lifestyle, they won’t mesh but respect other lifestyles and choices. The great thing about life we have choices. Stick to your choice. You can be open minded but if something doesn’t click with you don’t do it.

Oral sex is popular but not everyone does it. It’s just not for them. For some, having a dick in their mouth is beyond disgusting. Even demeaning. That is cool and that is their choice. Does that make them boring. No. That makes them strong and knowing their preferences. Some may think missionary is boring and prefer cowgirl. It’s the same thing. We all have choices in life. It’s all about your chemistry with your partner. It’s about your bond and how you two feel. I love LiL Kim and know her lyrics backwards and forth. The queen of raunch, miss “shifts in my uterus.” I love her bold and brashness with her sexuality. She sure isn’t afraid to put it out there.

I am the same way, but I have my limit. She is on her own level while I am her more reserved version, lol. I save a lot of my feelings for my partner.

Yes, I gave you glimpses of my personal experiences, you learned a lot of who I am through foreplay. Even though this is the case, I am holding back a lot. I believe I should reserve between my partner and I, want to keep this a sacred bond. I am sharing parts that I know will help you. There are many areas that aren’t for me or haven’t experienced. Just keeping it real with you. I am not naive but just stick to sharing what I know what works for me.

I hope this all helps. If you read my article on dating, I was a little explicit. I hope I didn’t come across as too much for anyone. I just wanted to keep it real as we are discussing intercourse. Once again, stay tuned for the next article on positions. It’s a good one and know you will enhance your bedroom skills one day at a time!

What are your thoughts on foreplay? What gets you going in the bedroom? What is your favorite during foreplay? Sound off in the comments!