Part 2 is here. If you read the previous article, I went very in depth on the beginning stages of intercourse. Law of attraction, hygiene, and foreplay. All set the stage for the act. Let’s stop and talk about the act shall we. Let’s start with the stigma. For my hip hop fans, we have heard Missy Elliot famously belt out “I don’t want no 1-minute man.” Now, some of you guys got a little sensitive. “Yall are putting a lot of pressure on us, ease up.” ” Why are you blocking the game.” I look at from a deeper perspective.

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What I feel it’s not the duration but the effort. For both men and women, we all have motives. We all have hormones. Different personalities. With this comes different experiences. What I gather is your effort. If you have a medical condition, I completely understand. I don’t expect too much, your health comes first. For those without any issues, it’s about all three mentioned. Where is your head when you’re performing the act? Is it to satisfy your needs and you’re onto the next. Are you getting tired, can’t hold up any longer. Are you lacking in drive, simply embarrassed to tell your partner? Do you simply not care, just doing the norm? These are the questions you have to ask yourself.

Now I am not here to give advice or police your motives. That is room for a separate article. I am just bringing up points to examine so you can turn around your performance in the bedroom. There must be deep love, chemistry and mutual understanding. That is when the sparks fly. You don’t care what your partner looks like, you are ready to explore and bounce. You want to connect, unite, be with them. You can’t wait to get ahold of them and never want to leave their presence. This is what we call intimacy. You’re concentrating on your partner and they’re on you. Before I move on. Let’s get some housekeeping out the way.

Clear Mind Will Blow His/Her Mind

Yes, leave all your problems, responsibilities and negativity at the door. Clear them completely out. I am sure you don’t want your mom’s birthday or next week’s report that is due rolling on the mind. It’s a mood killer. What should you do, clear them out. Plan ahead. Get your mind set on your partner. Map out what you like to do. Even if there aren’t plans for the day, you will be set and ready for when “the mood is right.” Visualize and fantasize what you would like to do your partner. This helps improves your mood, creativity and gives you necessary stimulation.

Clear Mind Will Blow His/Her Mind

Story Time, Take The Lead In The Bedroom, I am Here

Let Your Personality Shine, Confidence Is A Must

Turning Me On

Balance In Life, You Don’t Need To Have Sex Everyday

Hollywood Set Unrealistic Standards

Offending My Favorite R&B Artists One Day At A Time

Don’t Perform Intercourse If You’re Stiff

Fantasizing Keeps The Blood Pumping

What Is The Keys To Be Good In Bed?

Communication, Talk That Talk

Get Your Body Moving In Foreplay

Being More Flexible And Endurance Matter

Exercise Is The Road To Great Sex

Benefits of Exercising

Flexibility

Becoming More Flexible Improves Your Bedroom Skills

Knowing All The Sex Positions Doesn’t Make You Good In Bed

Cowgirl Position

Exercises To Master The Cowgirl

Fall In Love With Belly Dancing

Dancing

Get In A Chair And Practice The Cowgirl

Be Committed And Love The Sexual Acts You’re Doing

Oral Sex
Hygiene, Keep It Fresh
No Teeth Involve Please When Performed
My Earlier Philosophy On Oral Sex
Listen To LL COOL J Doing It Well And Analyze
Yes, Foreplay Before We Begin
Lap Dance
storytime
My Experience With Lap Dancing
To Practice, Grab A Pillow A Human Participant Isn’t Needed
What Wear, We Got To Strip
Choose Garments That Have Things You Can Tug
Rock That Lingerie
Tease Them, You Do The Revealing
Go Along With The Beat, Reveal Slowly
Continuing Tips To Have An Amazing Lap Dance
Guide Your Partner During The Lap Dance
The Goal Of Lap Dance, To Get An Erection
To Level Up The Lap Dance
Hand Job Is A Job I Will Never Complain About
Continue To Caress And Massage The Penis Leading To Fellatio
Practice Doing A Hand Job On A Banana, Cucumber or Dildo

How To Perform Oral Sex On A Man/Fellatio
Adore The Penis Vary The Directions For Maximum Pleasure
Popsicle Analogy for Fellacio, Grab One
Observe A Popsicle And Think The Same Way About A Penis
Practice Fellatio On A Popsicle
Practice Fellatio On a Dildo
Have A Positive Mindset About A Penis
Practice Fellatio Even If You’re Seasoned
When You’re Sucking Use A Rhythm
Use Your Tongue, Hands And Mouth In Harmony On The Penis
Work Both Hands On The Penis, Increase Stimulation
Keep Your Hands Soft And Moisturized
Look Your Partner In The Eye While Sucking, Connect
Swallow or Spit, Your Choice
If You Spit, Don’t Spit In Front Of Your Partner
How About Spitting On The Penis For Lubrication?
Oral Sex on Women
I Love It When You Eat It
Good Hygiene And Grooming
You Have To Love To Perform Oral Sex
Strength And Endurance Is Key
Hitting The Spots And Knowing The Vagina
Clitoris Vs G-Spot, How About Both
Clitoris The Path To The Orgasm
How Can You Detect The Spots For Good Oral
How To Perform Oral Sex On A Woman
Sex Positions To Turn Up The Bedroom Heat
Transition Smoothly From One Position To The Next
Example Of A Transition
This Is Continuation Not A Hard Stop
Take The Lead If Your Lost At What To Do Next, It Will Come Naturally
Don’t Communicate Verbatim The Position, Exercise Some Wit
Missionary
The Psychologically Of It All
Eye Contact During Missionary, Check!
It’s A Deep Connection, Let’s Make It One
Why Psychology Matters
The Body Can’t Lie
Grandma Is Always Right
What Is It About Missionary, The Path To Great Intercourse
Arousal Is The Path To Lubrication
We All Need A Little Imagination

Vagina Needs Lubrication
Vagina Walls For The Stretch
Vagina Has A Special Texture That Drives The Penis Wild
Missionary, How We Doing It
Comfort, Bed, And Yes, Comfort Go Together With Good Sex
Missionary On The Bed, Angles Matter
Vertical Position Is The Best Position
Tips And Tricks To Guide Your Partner To The Missionary Position
Don’t Start Laying Completely Down, Prop Yourself Up For More Foreplay
There Should Be Natural Transitions, Make The Penetration Exciting
Raspy Voice For the Win
Reciprocate, Go To Town With Affection
Express Your Satisfaction With The Performance, Communicate

Don’t Be Shy In The Bedroom, Let Your Inner Sexual Prowess Out

Worried About Not Having A Sex Face, Practice
Don’t Overthink, Let Your Natural Reactions Come Out
Worried About Not Having The Sex Voice, You Guess It, Practice
Personal Reflection About The Voice
Practice, Doesn’t Mean You Are Weak
Tip For Ladies During Intimacy, Don’t Just Lay, Exercise Some Movement
Reverse Cowgirl, All The Way Back
Butterfly Position
The Pelvis Thrust Position
Disclaimer About The Names Of The Positions
PileDriver
Spoons Position
DoggyStyle
Psychology Behind Doggystyle
Doggstyle On All Four, Downward Dog Angle Is The Master
Bed Is King Of Comfort
Doggystyle Standing
Comfort On Your Feet Is Key Here
Doggystyle Sitting
Chair Is Comforting And More Ease For Penetration
Why The Chair Rules
Froggystyle
Pounding The Spot
Lotus
Rusty Bike Pump Position
What Lies Beneath Position
Shall We Lift Position
T-Square Position
Back Rest Position
Form Position
You Got Me At An Angle Position
Extra Tips For The Bedroom
If You Perform Oral, Loosen Up Your Mouth Before You Do
Some other stretches/exercises to perform
You Should Enjoy The Taste Of Your Partner
How To Practice Licking Your Partner To Satisfaction
Example of That Dirty Talk
Using The Whole Tongue Generates More Stimulation
Disclaimers
Practice Licking Using Unique Patterns, Expands Your Fellatio Game
A Bonus Tip, Let’s Raise The Standards
Blow On The Tip To Blow The Mind
Get Your Partner’s Penis On Your Breast, Enjoy The View
Height Differences
Please Use Transitions , Keep The Arousal Going
Music Can Give Some Life
Location Matters Where You Bump
Accessories To The Bedroom
Lingerie
Conclusion

So, before anything, clear everything out. Talk to yourself. Pep yourself up. Boost your confidence. Hone in on your strengths. Examine yourself and notice what you love most about yourself. If you have to stand in front of a mirror, do so. Examine yourself, what do you notice that you like best. Is it the shape of your lips, hips, muscles, hair, legs…you get the gist. What do you think will turn your partner on. How do you look, what is your “sexy” face. Are you comfortable touching yourself sensually.

If not, practice. Imagine you’re touching your partner. Take it nice and slow. You are savoring every part of them. Teasing them. The better you’re touching yourself sensually, the better you will be at touching your partner. Let it all out. I don’t care if you’re the nerdiest person ever, you have an inner sex appeal. It can be your humor, quirkiness, play it up and practice sensually. Whatever is natural and comfortable to you. Don’t ever put yourself down and not thing you have it in you. You do. If you’re human, you have the nature. It’s all about relaxing, being yourself and having fun. Don’t overthink. Practice if anything. Then when the time comes, you will be a master!

No matter what, you should think you’re beautiful or handsome. Nobody can tell you nothing. It’s not cockiness but confidence. We all strive to feel physically attractive. When we are talking about intercourse, you want that going. Reassure yourself. Know that your desirable for your spouse and they’re physically specimen to behold. Admire yourself and tell yourself you’re the baddest man/woman alive. You wouldn’t change your appearance or yourself for the world. It works. You won’t get a big head; you are just instilling confidence. Confidence is key in the bedroom! Hone it!

Let’s face it, we have our days when we wake up in the morning and want to scream. Avoid mirrors is a thing, lol. We are human, we are going to look our best all the time. Especially if we didn’t get our beauty rest or have a lot of stress going on. A little reassurance will set you back on track. You know you’re cute, it’s just a bad day. You will get through it. Just talk to yourself positively even throw in some jokes, it helps ease the tension.

I do this all the time. I notice my esteem bounce back so quickly. Most importantly, it takes my eyes on focusing on physical appearance. Life is more than it. I rather have substance. I love my sense of humor, wit, big heart, strong nature and open nature to sexuality. What can I offer to humanity and nature.

I come to realize my passion is to help people. I try to do so by being real and with an added twist of sense of humor. I try reach others through blogging and through work. I care and hope to help someone on their journey. It’s not about your looks but what you got going on in your heart. What impact am I making on a daily basis. Am I being productive, using my time wisely. This is what is important to me.

I say all this because I don’t want you to develop or have low-self-esteem. It affects your life and can affect everything you do. Especially in the bedroom. You must have confidence and be very strong.

Story Time, Take The Lead In The Bedroom, I am Here

When it comes to the bedroom, I like to do the leading. I like to take that commanding stance. I don’t know if it is my sign or just a testament of my personality. I think, even if I wasn’t a Leo, I would be leading. In everything I do, I take the leadership role. From training others on my job, to leading class projects to decisions with my family, I am always in command.

I like to be on the prowl and devour. I treasure my man, from head to toe. Not one part I am not taking in. The male physique is a blessing. The strength, endurance and sensuality. The broad shoulders, thick muscular thighs, the big strong hands, they need to be on me right now. All areas need to be stimulated. All focus is on my partner. I adore the physique, it’s all about love. I am expressing love…not lust. It’s a big difference. I take my time and observe, caress and stroke every part.

Every touch means something. I am not just doing something just to satisfy my desires; no. I am doing it to express my love for my partner. I love and adore you so much, I want to be in union with you. Let me take the lead. Let me hop on top, straddle you, have you deep inside me. Every bounce and movement represents love. Love making is amazing…it’s a union with your partner that is on a deep level. There is plenty of sensual talking, caressing, making out, and butterfly kisses all over. It’s a lasting moment that should be cherish. No one and done here.

Let Your Personality Shine, Confidence Is A Must

My personality plays apart in my confidence. I will speak up but also be gentle and compassionate. I used to be shy/quiet but broke out of that shell. It wasn’t my entire nature. Yes, I am an introvert, but I have extrovert tendencies. Especially in the bedroom. No reservedness allowed. Why? I am comfortable with my partner. I know them and love them. I am not here to waste time. I am not here to impress either. I am here because I want to be one with them.

Turning Me On

My partner turns me on (majorly), I can’t wait to explore, connect and please him. This is what I thrive on. I believe my partner deserves everything in the world. A major sweetheart, I don’t know what I would do without him. I don’t care, I want him choking those sheets (no holes though, interior decorator here, lol). Speaking incoherently, what language today sir. Gripping every part of me, laughing and talking in my ear, switching positions, you name it. This is what I love. It’s always unexpected, new and refreshing.

Balance In Life, You Don’t Need To Have Sex Everyday

It’s also balanced. Now, don’t get me wrong, intimacy is amazing. The thing, I don’t want to go overboard. I am pretty sure I am about to offend one of my favorite songs. It is safe to say probably Jodeci or R.Kelly. When you’re into r&b and hip hop, you know why. We have all night long, do it everywhere (I agree) and everyday lyrics embedded in our heads.

Hollywood Set Unrealistic Standards

Also, Hollywood is no stranger to our eyes. We know the bedroom scenes. I know my grandmother tells me the story all the time. Two actors (forgot their names) didn’t get along on the set. They had a kissing scene to perform. They both ate offensive food before the scene (I think loaded with onions). What a joy that must of have been and to the director. I am sure there are more tales, but Hollywood has the tales of romance.

Long gone are the days of smoking after sex (tobacco industry restrictions). They have been replaced with whips and chains. Today, things are more bold and exploratory. We are seeing you being flung on counters, rumbling waves in the pool, having your legs sprawled upside down, and pushing dishes everywhere.

Yes, I know the scenes are meant to entice our senses (we got after-purchases to sell, vhs, dvds and streaming). They enamor us, they set our fantasies reeling. Some are based on best-selling books and personal tales. Whatever the case, Hollywood is Hollywood. Here to entertain and sell. The motto: sex sells. It’s in movies and music. We have to remember this.

What is putting on the screen doesn’t translate to reality. I am not just talking about the intimate parts but the whole relationship. Just bring this up as a point of fun reflection. Sometimes I analyze and laugh. It’s the marketing in me. If you’re ever bored, try. It increases your brain power and creativity. Now, we will move on to music.

Offending My Favorite R&B Artists One Day At A Time

Being in marketing, I also know the music game. It’s a business, they’re here to sell a song. They are here to swoon the women, thinking they’re the best lover. This song will set the mood in the bedroom. Someone writes the song (some of the artist write their own hits) they just perform it. I know some embellishing may be going on, but its ok. They are here to sell a song at the end of the day. This isn’t the case with everyone, but I know, it’s a song. It’s not reality. Now back to my personal thoughts on the bedroom and performance.

Don’t Perform Intercourse If You’re Stiff

You have to recoup and recover. I don’t want to perform if I am stiff or not feeling it. I am not going to be my best. Just like exercising, you need your rest days. Also, you don’t want boredom coming in and it being a lustful relationship. I tend to think I have a high sex drive but don’t need to satisfy it all the time. I pretty much have our previous sessions on my mind, that is enough.

Fantasizing Keeps The Blood Pumping

Yes, I love to fantasize. It’s a great form of mental stimulation and awakens the senses. It heightens my creativity and sexual prowess. It helps me through the day. I am ok having my partner run through my mind. During the times we are apart, I run to it. It’s a way to keep them near. I imagine them touching, kissing, being a little aggressive with me.

For some reason, I love to straddle my partner and be on top (if watching tv or lying in bed). I just love being on top, it’s the thighs connection, lol. Plus rubbing on his face and pressing myself against him, it drives me wild. I don’t know, maybe I am a cowgirl.

I imagine their voice, just about everything. Especially the deepness of it. Oohlalala. There is nothing like a deep voice in combination with grunting and moaning. I am out. Combine with a little physical touching (I imagine it’s their touch), it provides for an amazing experience.

Now, I will let you in a little secret, I have experienced the big orgasm. Even without stimulating to clit. That is how connected to my partner. He drives me wild. There was one day where he absolutely turned me on the entire day. What a day that it is. It’s been recurring more.

I don’t know what is in the water but there is something extra that revs this engine up! I think it’s the heart. I just melt with every interaction.

His eyes also drive me wild. They’re so sensual and innocent at the same time, it’s dangerous. They’re also big! Nice and round heartbreakers. You can’t help but get lost. They’re the nicest eyes I have ever seen; I can’t help but stare.

He also speaks volumes through his mannerism. He is so sweet and innocent. Just know he is a genuinely good person. What a heart! You can help but take to him.

Can’t forget about the classic jawline. The quintessential man jaw with a slight boyish charm. He has amazing high cheek bones and tall, statuish figure. Greek god (lol to part of his heritage). Tall men are my flavor.

I am not vain, but I highly believe he can be a model. He has the personality, looks and figure to kill it out there. I often think H&M, Gap or Abercrombie & Fitch.

When I think of him and even look at him, nothing but butterflies. I’ve never experienced feelings like this with any other person. Just him. It’s an amazing connection and generally have on the mind most of the time.

He keeps my heart beating, that’s how deeply connected I am. I can’t see myself with anyone but him. I don’t care, no one can take his place. I am hooked and committed. Don’t know what I would do without him.

What Is The Keys To Be Good In Bed?

I go indepth so you can understand why things hit on all cylinders. I am committed to one person faithfully. As you can see, I adore to death. It’s a balanced adoration. There are sparks every time because its balanced.

We aren’t trying to impress each other, upstage or manipulate. No. We are here for each other. We love each other to death. We can’t get enough of each other. Every interaction means something. We bond sexually; the chemistry is unreal. Why? We know what each other like’s, we aim to please each other.

Plus, chemistry. Most importantly, love. In love my friends, yes, it’s real. Through the good and the bad, it’s there. Combine all of this, package it all up and plays for amazing bedroom activity. Rumble in the sheets can have you on the floor, what I adore!

Communication, Talk That Talk

Another key to a fulfilling bounce on your partner, communication. Hit with a little amor parlevue! Yes, I know how to wheel and deal with the talk. I give some examples here. If I am near your ear, it’s game on. I am not raunchy, but I do throw in some innuendos. I use a nice balance that fit my character.

This is key. I am not going to throw around any words that isn’t me. I will reiterate, don’t try to impress. You’re here to please. These words are a natural part of my character. My partner knows me. There is no pulling a fast one on him. If I am sitting there silent, he knows something definitely off. Who is this, did I piss you off, lol.

I also know what makes him clicks. I don’t need to be completely raunchy to get him to rise. He is a sweety, I am gentle on him but not too gentle, wink.

When I do become a little friskier, it’s to incorporate the element of surprise. I want him to come of his shell. I feel that he kind of holds back in some way. There is still some shyness there, just his nature. He knows how I am. I am way more open then he is, it’s me. What I adore.

Get Your Body Moving In Foreplay

The moral of the story is communication. In this article (here), I give personal testaments of foreplay. It’s littered with ideas and gives an idea on what you can say. You want to prep yourself and your partner for penetration. Lubrication and secretion are a must. The road, foreplay. Talk is very important as well as the touch. Teasing, playing around, and chemistry, should be all there. Not go in for the kill. No, that is a bore. You have the time, take it. Love your partner, should be plenty of movement. No laying silent and that’s it. No. The hands, eyes, the tongue, the mouth, the hips, knees, feet and legs should be moving. Say it again, these should all be moving during foreplay. This leads to my next point, flexibility and endurance.

Being More Flexible And Endurance Matter

Now, I am not saying you have to be flexible. Not asking you to be a gymnast or acrobat. I do encourage increasing your endurance and becoming flexible in order to perform better. Why? It is easier to move your body, and you have more energy to last longer. Now, I am not asking you to lose weight (although this would take more strain off your joints). If you want to read my personal journey and see some tips, here we go. It’s not a requirement.

Exercise Is The Road To Great Sex

If you’re engaging in a minimum of (30 minutes) exercise per day, you are increasing blood flow to your joints, muscles, cells. This provides more energy to your body. Also, lubrication to your joints, preventing injuries and inflammation. It also reduces diseases, cardiovascular issues and risk of diabetes. Your body is functioning better, your breathing becomes better, your heart is stronger. You can perform more activities. All combine, increases your endurance. Your’e also better coordinated. Although exercises and routines we have learn believe it or not, improves coordination. No matter your size, if your active, your endurance increases.

Benefits of Exercising

As you see, you’re more energized. If you haven’t recognized, intercourse is physical. It requires energy, willpower, movement, strength and breathing. We know a lot of heavy breathing will be going on. Through exercising, your body is breathing better. A plus in the bedroom. You also have stronger muscles, flexibility, coordination and stamina. I guess you know where there is going. Yes, we should be exercising. For our health ofcourse. We want to prolong our life. If you notice your out of breath or not as energetic, try exercising. It will give you the pep. Throw on some jams and go. Important, do exercises you enjoy doing, you will stick to them.

Flexibility

Becoming More Flexible Improves Your Bedroom Skills

Yes, my friends, flexibility. Have you struggled to lift your legs or bend your knees. The last time you perform a squat was in 11th grade and you vowed to never do it again. If this is you, then you may need some loosening up. Your joints may need some oiling. When your muscles warm up, your parts a loosen.

Being more flexible allows you to perform better. You’re more energetic, not stiff and can maneuver your body more fluidity. It also enhances your creativity.

Now, just want to stop and harp on something key. The connection between energy and performance. You notice, I didn’t mention the amount of sex acts you know how to perform. No. It doesn’t matter. I will go over this part in a minute. I focus on the physical aspect. How you perform matters. Energy, willpower, fluidity and capabilities have to be there. If you don’t have it, you will perform bad. A zonk.

Talk more about flexibility here.

Now an analogy. Driving a car. We may know how to drive a car, know all about the rules but does that make you a good driver. The answer, no. Even though we know all the rules, does that automatically make us a good driver. No.

Not all of us follow or let alone remember the rules. For many of us, we still can’t back in or parallel park. When we stop, we conduct a hard brake. We can’t merge into traffic. I think you get the idea.

It’s the same with performing in bed. You may know all the acts but it doesn’t make you good. The only way you can tell is through your partner. How are they responding.

Do you see a lot of harness, secretion, sweating, moaning, grasping, caressing. Do you see the sultury and dilated eyes. Do you see love in your partner. Is there a lot of smiling, smirking and teasing.

It’s all in the body language. You can’t fake it when you’re aroused. You can fake an orgasm, but you can’t fake having hard nipples. Yes, even having a boner. These things you can’t fake.

It’s all about taking your time and making every part of the act meaningful. I can’t stress this enough. Confidence and love should be presence. I mean true love and not lust. You want to adore your partner to death.

Also, have a little fun. Do a little playful tease, joke and be a little messy. We are not aiming for perfection but stimulation. When you’re relaxed, yourself (this is key) and focused on your partner, it makes for amazing session every time. Your natural inclinations of your body take over. It’s just devour and conquer time. Enjoy!

Knowing All The Sex Positions Doesn’t Make You Good In Bed

It’s the same with intercourse. We can know all the rules and all the positions in the world, does that make us good in bed. No. What if you lack energy or don’t know how to properly perform the acts? What if you don’t like the act? Something to reflect upon.

Find out what works for you. See what meshes with your personality. What connects with you and your partner. What do you both enjoy, what are your kinks. Are you both adventurous, like to go all over the world or more reserved. Find these out. Just don’t do things to be doing it, where is the enjoyment.

If you’re both down to do something new, go for it. Make sure you are both on the same page. Can’t be one sided. When you do something new, there are sure to be blunders.

Don’t be discouraged, laugh through them. That is how you learn. If you have to guide your partner, do so. You can do it subtly and sensually. It won’t break the rhythm and will only strengthen your connection.

Cowgirl Position

For example. We are doing good old cowgirl. This is your first time performing. You feel that your partner isn’t sitting properly on you. You can say, ” baby, let me move you a little closer” Then gently guide her forward so she is arched in a 45 degree angle.

Make sure her butt is pushed out. That her knees are properly positioned and cushioned on both sides. Move her to a position she feels most comfortable. Essentially, a position that is comfortable being on top of your penis. You can ask “baby, are you comfortable?”

You can have her prop her hands on the wall or on the side of the pillows for support. I recommend the pillows for comfort, especially if never performed before. If you’re not comfortable, you’re not going to perform well. This also provides support for all the rocking. Then she can begin to rock back and forth (smoothly on you). Then swirl and bounce. Move in all types of directions. Move in a rhythmic pattern. (Will have more tips below to assist). She will naturally gravitate to a rhythm.

The key is comfort. The more comfortable, the better she will perform. Make eye contact with her (should be sensual gazes going on), draw her in for a kiss. Kiss on her neck, collarbone and chest. Draw her head to rest on your shoulder for a while, then begin thrust into her in a slow and somewhat medium flow. She can wrap her arms around the back of your head, essentially an embrace. Now this is an intimacy. I love this. If you’re a cuddler, you know! The more intertwined, the better.

Place your hands on her back and rub down it. Also, the back of her neck. Hold her for support. Make their way down to her hips. Admire her, scan her body. She should be doing the same. In this position, this gives her some time to recoup from all the riding.

Take turns with the bouncing. The key, is finding your rhythm. If you never done before, it may be awkward the first time. Don’t let this stop you. You will find the rhythm. How will you learn unless you act. The key, trying to elicit stimulation. The focus is the penis. It’s the star. You want to please. You want it to feel your warmth. When you wrap around it, you are in command. You want to swirl and rock back and forth slowly and sensually. Work your thigh muscles and arch forward. It will make it easier to maneuverer around the golden rod.

Now onto some tips to prepare.

Exercises To Master The Cowgirl

I know I stress flexibility and coordination. This can help you with cowgirl. You are working your thighs, pelvis and upper body. You want to have a nice rhythm. Very reminiscent to riding a bull. We all seen the movement. If you ever seen Genuine’s Pony video, it’s a perfect example.

Living up to the name, you want to have a rock n back and forth pattern. Some exercises that can help you loosen up could be hip circles, good mornings, side bends, hoolah hoops, alternating toe touches.

Fall In Love With Belly Dancing

What can really get you going is belly dancing! You seen it in the Ten Commandments, why not try it. It gets your hips, belly and lower body going. You really loosen up and tighten up your stomach muscles. You really work up a sweat. It also brings out that inner vixen in you. I automatically think of Truth Hurts video – So Contagious. Homegirl was working and had Rahkeem out of his element, lol. Amazing song and if you haven’t heard it before look it up!

I done belly dancing and it’s one of my favorites. I am a dancer so I this is my thing. It really boosts your confidence and fun. I have become more fluid and has enhance so much of my life. There are a number of tutorials and routines on YouTube, check some out. This will help you with coordination and movement.

Dancing

If you know me, I am a music junkie. I love it. With it comes dancing. I don’t care where I am at, I am dancing. In public or at home, I am not ashamed. You can see me in the store bopping along. I know Forever 21 & H&M have me on camera as a repeat offender. I highly recommend dancing. Be it your favorite jams, dance. Losen up and move. It really helps.

For us who love dancehall, we know how it goes down. We all seen our partners with the handstands and legs up in the air. Our Caribbean friends don’t play; it’s an affair!

Dancehall music also brings out sensuality. As I’ve been entuned since a kid, I’ve come to know this. I’ve been dancing to dancehall for years and let me tell you, it’s something. It loosens you up and brings out the sensuality in you. If you haven’t experienced dancing to dancehall, give it a try.

It’s safe to say that many of the dance moves/ methods are on beat with bedroom activity. You will notice a big difference in your fluidity. The bedroom will thank you.

Get In A Chair And Practice The Cowgirl

Also, in a chair or bed, you can practice moving rocking back and forth. First move forward and lift your butt slightly then move backward. Then repeat and extend a little farther, lifting your butt up a little more, then backward. You may notice you’re mimicking a rocking horse or wave pattern. Keep doing this pattern.

Every time, try to move your body slightly in different directions. For instance, shift more to the left then the right. This provides some variation to your pattern. Do this for about 5 minutes. Then evaluate your progress. Do you notice if you’re more fluid with the movements. If not, keep practicing. The key, developing a rhythm and a pattern. What really helps, pretend you’re on your partner. Envision being on top of them. You are the right angle and grind

Be Committed And Love The Sexual Acts You’re Doing

I can’t stress enough that you have to be truly committed and love what you are doing. Never do anything to impress and especially, anything in force. Never. If your partner forces you to perform an act, leave. Immediately. No one is a dog. No one owns you. Be strong and leave. Now, didn’t want to get serious but I don’t want you to be a door mat. Ever. We will get back on track with more keys.

Let’s cross to the oral pleasures shall we.

Oral Sex

Hygiene, Keep It Fresh

Nothing can ruin the experience more than offensive odor. We are talking about our body and oral care. All though you are far away, you can still detect an odor. You don’t want to offend your partner not only here, but when you’re doing your tongue game and kissing. I provide some tips in the previous article here. Enjoy!

No Teeth Involve Please When Performed

Is it amazing how far we have come in society with oral. For a while it was taboo but now, more accepting. I haven’t been in everyone bedroom, I can only speak for myself. There was a period where I was a little mum but soon changed. It was spontaneous and just changed all of a sudden. I think it was the times with diseases always being promoted. I’ve just got completely turned off; society was losing it. Since it’s cooled, psychologically, it got my mind back on track. To embrace oral pleasure and know it isn’t just about dominance or being demeaning (which I can’t stand). It’s about enjoying your partner, giving him a proper tease before the pounce.

My Earlier Philosophy On Oral Sex

What a mindset change and glad I have. It’s open up my sexuality and to be more liberated. Also to enjoy it more. When you take all the wrong motives and nonsense away, it’s amazing. I am also extremely aroused when giving. There is something about my partner grunting, grabbing the sheets, having the eye and head roll back and burning his gaze at me that drives me wild. I love seeing my partner in pleasure. I love his ass to death.

So where do we begin, well let’s explore techniques to make him the luckiest man on earth. We will indulge in a little foreplay. There are so many ways to make a man aroused. Tickling the senses is a true joy. As previously mentioned, talk about foreplay in previous articles. If you need tips, give it a read here. Will give an example here. We can start off by my favorite straddling your partner. Plop right into his lap. Begin kissing all over his face. Hold his face with both hands and kiss him all over sensually. Go in for light pecks on the lips then let the tongue out! Start tracing his lips then light bites around the jaw. Side of the face. In the interim, you will be swirl on him, teasing his penis. Swirl, rock back and forth, light bounces, let him feel your warmth! Plus, there is plenty of sensual talk going on.

Listen To LL COOL J Doing It Well And Analyze

Let me do a friendly break here. If you’re a hip hop head, you know LL Cool J. Yes, he kills on CSI but before, he was the ladies favorite. The physique, smile, charm, I am pretty sure he was your mom’s crush. I immediately think of his hit Doing It Well. It’s a song I know backwards and forwards. I encourage you to give it a listen. It’s masterfully done. The back and forth between him and the female lead is amazing. A lyrical masterpiece, it puts the art into love making. If need a que on the art of foreplay, give this a listen, please! Now back to the tips.

Yes, Foreplay Before We Begin

Yes, sensual talk is important. Communication is imperative, especially the words you speak. It’s even better when the words match your personality and back up what you preach. I am not going to tell my partner I want to go deep and swallow him whole and don’t. This isn’t fair. Whatever comes out is what I desire to do. I want you; I want to extend all the love in the world. If you are turning me on, I am going to let you know. Let you know with a little detail. For instance, my partner is rubbing his hands all over my thighs while burning a gaze at me. I will let him know, seductively. Example. “Baby, please don’t take your hands off me. You are sending my thighs into overdrive. I am so wet right now. You are a freaking gift. Every part of you is perfectly crafted, I am ready to eat you up.”

Then work my way down to his neck, lightly licking, biting sucking followed by kisses. Then I will take his hand and begin sucking each one of his fingers one by one. Then work my way down to his chest, arms and stomach. Then to his thighs. This involves heavy caressing, licking, sucking and kisses. Then to the penis. I want it rock hard before the kill. Now let’s interrupt and get to the chair.

Lap Dance

“Ooh baby you want me; well you can get this lap dance for free. I am dirty dog.” Yes, more lyrics, lol. I can’t help it. The lap dance. It’s a staple, a beacon of confidence. It’s a tease and has been around forever. If you never have, please try. You don’t have to run out to Lowe’s to get a pole to slide down, no. Just a chair and your partner. The goal is to stimulate arousal, get the package bulging. Have his eyes on you.

Storytime

My grandmother would always tease that I would make a good stripper and a lot of money. I don’t know why but thanks grandma, lol. Maybe because she knew I like to dance and my personality. I don’t know but sometimes I would reflect on this. I want you to think the same about yourself. That you would make not only a good stripper but the best. That you know how to draw a peak performance, especially on your partner. Get that confidence and let’s get the body moving.

My Experience With Lap Dancing

So, you may ask, have you ever done a lap dance. Yes, many of times. I am not afraid of dancing; I try to know all forms. I love it. I hear a beat, I am moving. As a natural sexual person, I love this. It gets to work my body, and I get to focus on my partner. It brings out my inner lion. I feel like a whole another person and enjoy it so much. Plus, the music. It’s usually my favorite mellow jams.

Plus, it’s great fitness. It was my go to cardio whenever I felt a little bored. Throw on some jams and get to dancing. I generally dance on the censored side (for partner’s eyes only) so it’s kind of why. A little booty bounce and grinding never hurt anyone.

My goal is to maneuver down the pole, not just spin around it. I’ve have to work that pole, do all the tricks. Among the top on the bucket list. I will speak into existence and know it will come.

The thing is you don’t need a human participant to perform. Just a chair and a pillow, you want to get some sort of realism. Imagination is ideal. Pretend your partner is sitting in that chair. The pillow acts as their place. Plus, the pillow can act as support for your partner’s thighs and package. Can’t leave out comfort. So how do you perform lap dance? well….

To Practice, Grab A Pillow A Human Participant Isn’t Needed

First, have some good tunes. One that is mellow, somewhat slow and brings out sensuality. It’s hard to describe but I can provide some examples. You will notice the artist is focus on the love interest, using a somewhat raspy and sensual tone. These are the songs you can gravitate towards. Where are my Usher stans, hi! Usher hits it perfectly. I know when he made the song, he wasn’t thinking of the title matching the melody. “Seduction” by Usher is a perfect song. It oozes appeal and brings it out of you. Some others songs to give an idea. Will have a separate article with a full list of ideas.

Sade- No Ordinary Love

Sade- Bulletproof Soul

Sade- Cherish Day

Silk- Lose Control

Dru Hill- Beauty (remix version)

Shai- If I Ever Fall In Love

R. Kelly- Seems Like Your Ready

TLC- Hands Up In The Air

Mary J. Blige- All Night Long

Genuine- Tell Me Do You Wanna

Beyonce- Dance For You

Beyonce- Partition

Ashanti ft. Robin Thicke- Things You Make Me Do

What Wear, We Got To Strip

So, once you have your tunes picked out. You have to have the outfit. Pick out garments that tease the element of surprise. A bonus, picking out one of your partner shirts. Do they have a button-down shirt, grab it! You can grab your shirt, long coat or robe.

Choose Garments That Have Things You Can Tug

You want garments where you can tug on something. Whether it’s button, a drawstring or zipper. Give your partner the opportunity to touch your clothes. Have them tug on it a little then stop them. Then you pull down the rest. For example, the zipper. Have them touch it then gently push their hands away. Then gaze at them and pull it down for the reveal.

Rock That Lingerie

Then underneath, have on lingerie of your choice. You can where heels but if you never danced in heels before, some tennis shoes or socks will do. You can throw on some thigh highs to bring out the appeal. Trust me, you will look just as good.

Tease Them, You Do The Revealing

You want to tease them, while you do the revealing. This gets their motor every time. You are letting them know, I want you and what I am revealing is yours. For your eyes only. Remember, you are the one doing the work. Show them the reveal. Have them participate but not work. You want them admiring, like you’re the only person in the world. Scanning your whole body, noticing their face become more relax. Their eyes are lowering, they are smirking, they are looking at you with desire.

Go Along With The Beat, Reveal Slowly

It should be brief teases. Reveal slowly and melodically. Go along with the beat. Burn your gaze at your partner, do it seductively. Cock your head to the side (conveys innocence, appeal, playfulness and desire). Straddle and lean into your partner (elicit intimacy) have them feel on you. Grab the back of their neck and rub down their back, push your forehead against their forehead.

Continuing Tips To Have An Amazing Lap Dance

Then trace your hand around the back of their hair, neck and jaw. Bite the side of your mouth. Tease a mischievous grin. Cock your butt up in the air and move a little bit forward. Then give them a light kiss and then move upwards, guiding their head down to your cleavage. Graze your cleavage across their face. Let them know “I want you, feel me”. Then do some very slow grinding motions. Press your cleavage against them, draw their attention. Burn your gaze at their eyes. You can speed it up but just a tiny bit. Then tilt a little to the side, like your enjoying riding and nearing orgasm. Continue to do riding motion. Tip: The more you toot your butt up at the angle, the more fluid you will be. Think of crashing waves. Put in that motion, but slowly and controlled.

Guide Your Partner During The Lap Dance

Rub your hand down the side of their face, then neck then arm, then to their hand. Do all of this sensually and slowly. Observe their physique. Then grab their hand and guide it the bottom of your thigh and have them rub on it. Guide them up to your panties and rub around your stomach. Then move to the underside of your breast. Then stop. We want to give a proper tease. Then guide their hands away or you can place them on your hips. From there, you can tug on their clothes playful saying,” I can’t wait see what’s underneath.” You can also say, “I am enjoying the view, I hope you are” You can give a light peck on the mouth. Then you may want to start to tease their package.

The Goal Of Lap Dance, To Get An Erection

Run your hands smoothly up and down (slowly) their thighs in long strokes. Then a light graze across their package. Then slowly start grinding on them. Move like your are doing cowgirl and swirl. Maneuver, you should feel the nature rise. Do some light bounces, try to match the melody of the song. Then turn around and do reverse cowgirl stance. Lean into your partner. place their hand on your stomach to your thigh. Elicit a moan. Keep swirling, move your butt closer to the package and swirl it on the package. Repeat light bounces. Have your partner move their hands up your hips.

To Level Up The Lap Dance

For my flexible friends, you can put your leg on one shoulder and lean back. Then grind slowly. You can also make your way to the floor. Crawl seductively to your partner. When you reach the chair, spread your partner legs open. Rub on their thighs. Dance a little in a squat position. Focus your eyes on the package then the pat Move your head towards the package

Hand Job Is A Job I Will Never Complain About

I will start to tease this area with my hands. Some nice back and forth followed by some pats. Then a nice playful grab leading to an unzip of the zipper. This will lead into a hand job. Massaging and caressing with light circular (and up and down) firm slow strokes. Avoid your fingernails from touching (no scratches) and keep to the finger pads. Treat it like you’re in love. Watch your partners eye, burn them with desire. Give a mischievous/ smirk and grin. Don’t forget the balls. give them some love. A nice massage and gentle caress. All the while you are talking to your partner. An example of some talk can include ” I love you so much, I can’t wait to feel you inside me.” ” I’ve been waiting to taste you all day, I need your standing attention.”

Continue To Caress And Massage The Penis Leading To Fellatio

To continue to caress and massage the penis, work that shaft then maneuver around the head. Get the blood flowing. It’s all about touch. Then unexpectedly do a nice long lick up and down the shaft (maintain eye contact with your partner, seductive eyes only)! Lick around the head. Then lick around balls. Kiss all around it and blow on the head then lick. Be gentle at all times. Then when you are ready, you can go into performing oral.

Practice Doing A Hand Job On A Banana, Cucumber or Dildo

If you never done a hand job before and feel it won’t come naturally, you can practice. Grab some nutrition. A banana and cucumber closely resemble a penis. From shape, size and depth. You want to practice on something that closely resembles. You get use to the shape and depth. Also, have this in your frame of mind. A penis is very sensitive and needs to be treated with care. No aggressiveness ever. You don’t want your partner in pain. So when you are practicing, keep in mind.

Treat it with love and adoration, fall in love with it. Just think, it’s an extension of your partner. Have a positive mindset about it. Look at it with beauty, something to appreciate it. Having all this in mind, you will be able to perform. You want to pleasure your partner. Not to just get him erect. No. You want your partner to feel good, knowing he deserves it. You want him to explode, experience bliss and relax. Feel it all. It’s deep and emotional.

So with all this on the thoughts, you will perform an amazing hand job. So grab your item and observe it. Pretend it’s a penis and not the actual item. Then observe how it is feels. Get it in your mind it’s the best thing you ever touch. This is what you to think of the penis. You love the shape, size, texture, the taste, and what it does. I love everything about it.

Then slowly rub and down in smooth sensual strokes. Then rotate your hand in slow and medium size circular strokes. Then with your thumb, rub across the head in circular strokes. Then both hands go up and down in slow strokes. Then work medium size circular strokes up and down your items. Then practice pat in short light strokes.

What you are doing is stimulating and drawing closer to an erection. The penis is full of nerve endings, blood cells. They are stimulated by touch. Especially consistent touch. You are mimicking thrusting actions with going up and down/rotation. Be firm and light. Slow and sensually. You can pretend that you are looking your partner in the eyes. Gazing lovingly at them and seductively. Practice and you will be confident for the kill.

How To Perform Oral Sex On A Man/Fellatio

Take the penis and hold it (or you can use no hands). I recommend using hands, why? It gets more stimulation going, we are driven by touch. Your penis is full of blood vessels, it craves warmth and comfort, having your partners hands around it, swirling and moving up and down, the delight. Either one or both, can alternate.

Adore The Penis Vary The Directions For Maximum Pleasure

The deal is to adore the penis, give your all on the act. This is an extension of your partner. The shaft houses so much pleasure. When the blood comes a rushing, an explosion. It needs stimulation. How do you get stimulation, by touch. It elicits so much pleasure. So maneuver around it. Don’t forget the balls. Lick, swirl your tongue around, flicker it, go in different directions and then open your mouth and suck. This is where you want to run an Olympics. It’s not about moving your head around, no. You want to guide your mouth while swirling your tongue around. It’s hard to describe but can use analogy. The popsicle.

Popsicle Analogy for Fellacio, Grab One

Yes, our favorite friends. A kid ‘s best friend and the floor worst nightmare. Yes, they stain our mouth and provide relief from the summer heat. For many us, we still chug them down as adults. Sometimes, wrestling our kids. If you are looking for a little help with “going down” think of the popsicle. Make sure we grabbing our circular/oval friends over the square.

Observe A Popsicle And Think The Same Way About A Penis

Due to it’s chill nature, we gravitate to sucking on it. We dare not to bite into, teeth sensitivity overload and yikes. As we are sucking, we are observing the flavor, the sweetness, tartness, and the coldness. Nothing but yumminess in our mouths. As we are sucking, observe how we are. For some, we go up and down the popsicle. Hopefully not concentrating on one side, the other side can’t take the unevenness of weight and will drop off. So what do we do, we lick up and down on one side and down the other. So everything is equal. We scan our tongue eloquently up and down. Then we swirl our tongue around, working our way down. You get the idea.

Practice Fellatio On A Popsicle

To get a hang at it, try working a popsicle. Using the observation above, keep the same vibe. You want to think of the penis in the same light as the popsicle. You notice all the positivity, the sweetness, the flavor, etc. Do the same with the penis. It’s the extension of your partner, you love the taste, the size, the thickness, the feel, you adore it, you can’t wait to taste it. The same way you treat the popsicle, you treat the penis.

Practice Fellatio On a Dildo

You can also practice on a dildo. If these are your flavor, then go for it. I am not a fan but if they fit your style, go for it. I am not a fan of anything that isn’t human in me. It’s makes me squirm. So just an option to throw out there.

Have A Positive Mindset About A Penis

You see going in, you have a positive mindset about it. It’s your baby, you enjoy it in your mouth. It provides delight to you and your partner. It’s a union. I can’t wait to delight it. You see how filled this up with positivity. I want you to do the same. It makes a HUGE difference. So, when you begin to perform, you are the best. You are doing all the right things, hitting all the right spots. You are generating arousal.

Practice Fellatio Even If You’re Seasoned

So, practice, practice and practice. I don’t care how season you are, it doesn’t hurt to keep practicing. We can all use a refresher. Begin using the steps above. Practice sucking (without using your teeth), maneuver around to one side to the other. See how far you can go.

When You’re Sucking Use A Rhythm

When you are sucking, use a rhythm. Slow, sensual and mischievous. Up and down, in circles, diagonal, just like the cowgirl, vary it up. Use different speeds but generally keep it slow. Suck it like no other, tease the heck out of the head. Rub on it in between. Caress with your hand. Treat like a concert, the guitar, drums and piano all working together to produce the song.

Use Your Tongue, Hands And Mouth In Harmony On The Penis

Use your hands, tongue and mouth in harmony. This produces the best oral sex you ever had. Don’t forget the thighs, massage and caress your man’s thighs as well. Give a slight tug. Observe and feel his tone. Can even get to the 6-pack. Work that lower region. Continue to it’s nice and rock hard, leading to the explosion.

Work Both Hands On The Penis, Increase Stimulation

When you work your hands, do circular motions, slowly. Try to use both hands in sync. With both hands, you provide warmth, closely mirrors being inside your vagina and more stimulation. Put them both to work. Don’t forget about their balls.

Think of a screwdriver putting a screw. You want that motion going. Do both left and right and right to left patterns. Practice if one side isn’t as fluid. We are all use different sides of our hands. I am a lefty, so it’s easier to conduct the motion right to left. Go up and down in slow strokes (like you are blowing a tuba). Have one hand go in one direction and the other in the opposite. Use your thumbs to really get your partner going. Apply a little gentle pressure and use small circular/long strokes. Try to practice at an angle. It brings a sense of realism when performing fellatio.

Keep Your Hands Soft And Moisturized

Now, a great tip. Make sure we keep our hands moisturized, exfoliated and soft. Soft hands are the best at stimulation. Your treasured areas are soft and drive the penis wild. Oral is a dress rehearsal for the act. Let’s fill the golden rod with softness, comfort and love.

Look Your Partner In The Eye While Sucking, Connect

Look your partner in the eyes while you are doing it. You don’t have to do it the entire time. Eye contact elicits desire. You’re telling your partner that you want to please them. Plus, monitoring to see if they are pleased. You are looking seductively at them with desire. You are keeping the connection. You are extending love through your eyes.

You are letting them know enjoy tasting them, let me continue to drive you wild. I want to make sure you are enjoying every second. You care; you want to see them explode. Preferably in your mouth! Your partner catches on to each part and it’s driving an eruption in them. Being desired boost arousal, it’s part of nature. They can’t help but come in your mouth. The connection is that strong. Connect with the eyes, please!

Swallow or Spit, Your Choice

Your choice to swallow or spit. If you swallow, do it slowly and seductively. Let your partner observe. This keeps his motor running and baby standing. There is more intimacy to perform.

If You Spit, Don’t Spit In Front Of Your Partner

If you spit, please don’t do it in front of your partner. I think it can hurt his feelings and diminish the experience. Psychologically, he may be thinking you don’t enjoy performing fellatio. You can do it diplomatically. Excuse yourself and dispose in the bathroom. You can rinse out your mouth with mouthwash or baking soda/water. Then saunter back for the rest of your intimate activities.

How About Spitting On The Penis For Lubrication?

I try to do a U-turn on this part. It’s not something I am for. Your mouth and tongue provides enough. Plus the penis is natural lubricated and once aroused, secretion occurs. If you want lubrication, I prefer through swirling around my mouth. I despise spitting on it. In my opinion it’s such a turn off. I am not for spitting unless it’s in privacy of my bathroom (hygiene).

To me it’s saying I can’t stand you, get out my face. I know, in the other context, it can be used for lubrication, but I just don’t like the method. If that is your thing, that is fine. Nothing wrong. For me, I avoid. So, there is that.

Now that was a whirlwind. Now shall we go to the ladies side.

Oral Sex on Women

I Love It When You Eat It

My girl Rhi (short for Rhianna) knows how to cut a hit. If you spin Cockiness, you know she isn’t shy about going down. “Suck my cockiness, lick my persuasion, I love it when you eat it, chug, chug, milk.” These are some of the lyrics filling the air. Just like fellacio, this isn’t for everyone. It’s not a requirement but I think of more of a bonus. It’s an appreciation of the female genitalia and all its part. It can drive a woman wild. Especially when the hands are grasping and going up and down on the stomach, oui! Pardon my French but it comes out from time to time.

Good Hygiene And Grooming

The road starts with first good hygiene and grooming. I talked about this here. With this in check, you will be good to go. You want your treasure area look enticing. It’s a matter of preference. If you like a full bush, just make sure it’s nice, fresh and presentable. So where do we go from here, well what is the key to performing it well.

You Have To Love To Perform Oral Sex

As with fellatio, you have to love to do the act. You have the desire to please the woman. You yearn to make her shimmer in delight. Just the sight of her screaming and moaning incoherently, wooh. This is what you crave. You enjoy her region. It’s soft, delectable and sweet. As we compare it to a peach, it houses so much flavor. You worship, you understand, you crave it. All this has to be in place. As well as your mouth, hands and tongue.

There is nothing like seeing your partners head between your legs. Even better, rubbing your hands through his soft hair. Yeah, enter uncensored territory, lol. It’s the absolute best. This is my thing right there, I am already gone. Back to the tips shall we.

Rubbing their hands up and down your thighs. Perhaps folding your legs and pulling you forward by your butt. I love a man who loves to take a command! Pull me into those juicy lips and face, how can you not love it. If they are really about it, the cock of the leg followed by rubbing it down. That is what we are here for.

3 Ways To Perform Oral Sex

There are so many ways to perform. You can squat and have your partner(they are sitting up in bed) hold you up while they perform. They can stand and do it. What they will do is spin you around, so you are hanging upside down, and perform. They can kneel (while you lay in bed with leg in 90 degree angle), the common position. It is all up to you. The key, do the position you’re comfortable with.

Strength And Endurance Is Key

As you see, the first two require strength and endurance. If you are prone to get dizzy or lack this, opt for the regular way. You don’t have to do much. It’s about the performance not what type of position you can do. Are you enjoying it or is it more of a hassle. What is the goal here? Comfort over impressing. If you are up to it go for it! Nothing stopping you. Use pillows and blankets for cushion. They work. They help to relax your muscles and take pressure off.

Hitting The Spots And Knowing The Vagina

Yes, men, get to know a ladies privates. They are extremely sensitive just like yours. We have seen the scene when James Bond balls are tortured. Our privates are the path to reproduction, they house a lot of nerves, cells and blood vessels. With all this going on, we are bound to be sensitive. That is why we have secretion and pubic hair to provide protection. For intercourse, for releasing our waste and reproduction. It also helps keep bacteria, irritation and infections from occurring.

With women, our main area of sexual stimulation is the labia minor (our inner lips) the clitoris (clit for short), vagina and the G-spot (located in the inner wall of the vagina). If you know these areas, you’re golden.

Clitoris Vs G-Spot, How About Both

The clitoris is located right on top of the vulva, looks like a small pea. The G-Spot, not to be confused with clit is located on the upper part of the vagina wall. It is matter of debate of whether you have a G-Spot. How to tell. When you are aroused you may feel a bump or raised structure. This is the result of arousal causing increased blood flow, which cause swelling. You can probably located closets to belly button and 1 inch inside the vagina. Another factor, you experience extreme rush or pleasure. You often shake or tremor in excitement when stimulating. Sexual intercourse is truly a joy.

Clitoris The Path To The Orgasm

With the clitoris, you can also experience intense pleasure. With both the G-Spot and clitoris, you can experience the big O (orgasm). I know they get confused.

How Can You Detect The Spots For Good Oral

I have a G-Spot and probably why I am hypersensitive in experiencing stimulation. I never have a problem with arousal. As I previously pointed out, I like to fantasize. I know how to rev up stimulation. During sexual pleasures, I pay attention to the lady parts, noticing what areas are warming up with delight. That’s how I know what’s going on and what spots need to be hitting. Try this out for yourself. Have your partner do some exploration down there. Let them know about these 4 areas. They should know about these areas intimately. These areas need to be targeted. This is the path to great oral sex.

How To Perform Oral Sex On A Woman

Well, now that we got the main areas of stimulation out the way, it should be a piece of cake. All you need is your mouth, tongue and hands. You can use all three and get to town. Use your hands on the labia majora (outer lips, basically where the pubic hair lies) This is the outer shell of the whole vagina. This is where you can massage and caress in slow motion. Get the blood flowing. You can kiss and lick all over. This is where you generally start before going inside.

Once inside, you want to try to get to clit, sucking, licking and using your hands to stimulate. You also want to get to the G-spot as well. The inner lips, you bet. Houses sexual pleasure like no other. Caress in a circular motion, then began sucking and using tongue action.

It’s really hard to describe on paper but I hope you get the idea. It’s all about sucking, kissing, licking and using a lot of tongue action. You’re trying to stimulate arousal. It’s sort of comparable to making out.

Once you go down, it will come naturally. You first need to understand the female anatomy. I went over the big guns. Gave you some techniques and the goal. It’s to cause an arousal an eventual orgasm.

We now complete our lesson on oral sex. Now to the big guns. Switch Positions….Move position….. Let’s get into positions.

Sex Positions To Turn Up The Bedroom Heat

As we just went over oral, just want to clarify there is no order to the madness. You’re not required to do oral before your main act(s) or even oral at all. With oral, it’s used as a based to stimulate arousal and often transition to the act. We know we have to be prepped before going in. Our privates need lubrication, stimulation and for the men, the penis needs to be erect. Have you ever tried to bounce on a soft penis, yikes. Foreplay and oral generally comes before it all. Why I went indepth in it. Now, before I go further.

Transition Smoothly From One Position To The Next

A point I want to bring up is the transition. When you’re trying to go to the next position or act, sometimes it comical. Things just stop and some adjustments are made. Like a camera man yelling cut. This isn’t a film, there should be a smooth transition.

Example Of A Transition

For example, after you finish performing oral and your man has ejaculated. You either swallow or spit. You don’t automatically stop to adjust going on the bed or to another room. No. You perform the actions and then, institute some foreplay. work your tongue back up your partner. Begin sucking on his neck. Let him know you enjoy tasting him, can’t wait to do it again. You ready to ride him. Check to make sure he is rock hard. Then kiss him. Go all in, press up against. Lean him back and begin to ride him. Start slowly, swing your hair to the side. Arch forward, get in a sensual stance and go at it. You see what I did there. Institute a smooth transition. One that isn’t force.

This Is Continuation Not A Hard Stop

It irks my nerves for a hard stop and adjustments. No, things must continue on. I am still on you like white is on rice. I still want to explore every part of you. I am the leader, I know what I want to do next. It’s all innate and usually you generate to your favorite positions. We all have our favorites. It depends. Sometimes, we spring a different one, it’s all about the chemistry. I am not asking you to plan the positions out in advance. It will come naturally. Generally, you or your partner will allude or state it.

Take The Lead If Your Lost At What To Do Next, It Will Come Naturally

For example, your partner may state “ride me, I want to touch every part of you” or ” lay down baby, I want to be so deep inside of you”. This is what should be going on. Some leading and guiding that is natural. It is commanding and a turn on. How can you not oblige. You see the desire to be one with each other. Also, the positions going on. The first alluding to cowgirl and the other missionary.

Don’t Communicate Verbatim The Position, Exercise Some Wit

When you communicate, you don’t want to come out and say the positions verbatim, you want to be witty. As spelled out in the examples. You don’t want to come out and say, “can I have a blow job. ” We aren’t order anything on a menu. What you can say “I want to stare in your eyes why I fill your mouth with my warmth.” I love tasting you and having you inside my mouth, is my baby ready” you can point your eyes directly at that area or pat it. I think you caught on. This stimulates arousal because you’re communicate desire and your why. You enjoy your partner performing oral and want to experience pleasure with them. Also, your partner enjoys the act and desires to perform this on you right now. Essentially, every position is meaningful and mutual between both of you.

Let’s get into the positions. First up missionary.

Missionary

As I drew out some points in cowgirl, missionary is the ol g. It’s not a boring position at all. Yes, it’s considered the traditional position. Although this may be the case, it’s never lost it luster. It’s my favorite. There is nothing like your partner hovering over you and rubbing against you. Even better, when you pull them closer to go a little deeper plus combine with a slow and melodic motion, alright now.

The Psychologically Of It All

Traditionally, your partner is providing protection, comfort and strength. It’s a deep bond and union that never get old. When you’re looking up at your partner, observing every part of them as they’re thrusting into you, it drives your motor. Watching their broad arms hold up their structure, sometimes cuddling you (swoon) is to die for.

Eye Contact During Missionary, Check!

Also eye contact, burning you with desire, what more can you ask for. It’s even better if they scan each part of your face and smile. Watching you enjoy every bit, being inside of you, it turns them on so deeply. If they lean in for kisses and sucking on the neck, you have a winner. They enjoy you and love the heck out of you. They want to taste you; your body is their passion. Not lust but love.

It’s A Deep Connection, Let’s Make It One

They want you to feel them on every part of you, they love your whole being. If you notice your partner putting either their hands, mouth and tongue everywhere, they are connected. They are telling you this without saying it. They want to take their time being one with you. They want to explore you; they love your physicality. It’s on their mind, it’s the only being they want to touch sensually. It fulfills their senses; it gets them through the day. Flaws and all, it doesn’t matter. It’s deep and you’re in love. All the signs are there.

They enjoy the warmth, they love the sensation of hitting all your walls, every thrust means something. By embracing and being closer, they desire to be one with you. Want to further connect and what’s even better, they are slow and gentle. They don’t want to hurt you, they want you to enjoy.

Yes, my psychology courses have been paying off, lol.

Why Psychology Matters

Just a side note, as you may not know, I am a marketing professional. I study people, it’s the nature. If you read other articles, you may have notice how I analyze everything. Especially, psychological. I bring these forth because it all helps. I want you to know them as well. If you know the cues, you can act. Say for instance, you want to know if he is attracted to you.

The Body Can’t Lie

There are cues that you can’t erase on a human being, it’s innate. no matter how much you try to hide them, you can’t. The blushing, the wide smile, leaning forward, want to touch you, wanting to know everything about (their firing questions away), facing your direction, the wink, the eyebrow raises, the lowering of the voice, the dilating of the voice, and flirting. I can go on but just bring these things up so you can hip as well. They will answer a lot of questions you may have. They can also point you to the truth. The body can’t lie. If you have an angry expression or roll your eyes, you can’t tell me you are happy.

Grandma Is Always Right

My grandmother was notorious on this one. She would always tell me, you can’t pull no fast one of her. She was right. She was the wisest person and picked on everything, lol. She was right every time. Once again, pay attention to subtle cues, they tell alot. Will have a future article on the subject, it’s very interesting. We will get back on track.

What Is It About Missionary, The Path To Great Intercourse

As we just went through the psychology and personal account of the position, we will go a little deeper. For those of us who don’t know, the man is on top of the woman. The man (giver) and the woman (the receiver).

The man is position in a comfortable manner where his penis is properly positioned in the vagina walls. The woman, being prearoused, is lubricated for sexual pleasure. Where that foreplay comes in! Must come in so that everything goes smoothly for penetration. As previously pointed out, there are four main area for arousal. Clit and G-spot are the top two, especially the clitoris.

Arousal Is The Path To Lubrication

Arousal is the path to lubrication; it drives our senses to provide lubrication. Lubrication happens 30 seconds after arousal and continues after (the longer you’re aroused). Already provide tips to stimulate arousal but will go over some again. Foreplay. Either you or your partner can get the motion going. I prefer the partner; I love and crave your touch! Use your hand, mouth and tongue to stimulate. Concentrate on the clit, wall- vagina and G-spot. Use your fingers and grasp, massage around these areas in slow and firm (up and down or circular motion).

We All Need A Little Imagination

What works for me is imagination. Be sensual, imagine your partner thrusting in you, hitting all your prime areas. Put their face and body in your mind. Even though they are in front of you, imagine what is to come. What is it about them that drives you crazy. Is it their lips, eyes, muscles or meaty thighs. Is it the voice? The touch, the touch, the touch. Long and strong hands, gets you every time. Get it into your senses. It drives arousal. You can’t help but lean back and moan. You can’t wait to devour him. That is where you want to be! Just everything is hitting. Find what arouses you, concentrate and conquer!

I Am Wet

You ever notice wetness in your underwear after being aroused by your partner, that’s your body prepping. You’re telling your body you are ready for sexual activity, I need protection. Lubrication provides protection (reducing friction for all the thrusting ahead). Our vagina is sensitive; it needs gentle care.

Vagina Needs Lubrication

With thrusting coming in, it needs to prep ahead for the battle. Lubrication and arousal help. You are more relaxed and comfortable, taking the strain off the motion about to happen in this area.

Vagina Walls For The Stretch

Your vagina walls also stretch and open, to accommodate the penis being inserted. Once inserted, it contracts slightly, providing warmth to house the penis. This way, once the thrusting action is happening, the penis is stimulating all your walls (where your stimuli for arousal and sexual pleasure are located). The blood is rushing and gushing around. We are stimulated by touch; our bodies are something!

Vagina Has A Special Texture That Drives The Penis Wild

Your vagina also has a special texture to stimulate your partner (once the penis is inserted in. This texture elicits stimulation to the penis. Once rubbed up against, the fibers activate the nerves, encouraging blood rushing. Providing for intense sexual sensations. Keeping your partner aroused and erect. The vagina is something.

So, now that we had a lesson on the path to a great sexual experience, let’s head to the different ways you can perform missonary.

Missionary, How We Doing It

Once your partner walls are open and lubricated, ready for penetration, the fun begins. You are on top, they are on the bottom. So wait, what style should I begin with. Where are we at, the bed? Well…

Comfort, Bed, And Yes, Comfort Go Together With Good Sex

Let’s start with the bed. This is the staple, the goal. Why? Comfort. You want to be comfortable while performing. It makes all the difference. You don’t want to be whining in pain; it takes you away from the experience. You have your soft bed, comforter, sheets and pillows.

Lay Your Head On My Pillow

Yes, those pillows come in handy in more ways than one! Let me keep it kind of PG here. It’s not a bore at all. I don’t know about you, but I am about experiencing pleasure and intimacy with my partner. I want to be relaxed and be in comfort. I need that koolaid grin across my face, yet at the same time mischievous. I will be tired afterwards, wanting to cuddle. I need that surface to be hitting. It all a part of the experience. I love experiencing the bed rocking, it turns me on. Don’t think I am a weirdo but, it just a thing. Besides the decor aspect, it is there for your comfort, provide protection for the act. Wear it out, get those springs going, it is made for intimacy. Use it. So enough about the construction, let’s get to the action.

Missionary On The Bed, Angles Matter

Your partner on top and you’re on the bottom, check. Where you’re positioned on the bed maters. I repeat, where you are on the bed matters. We all know how we get into bed. From the side. Sometimes, when it hot and heavy, your partner may push you down, where you are laying horizontal. This is ok but depending on the height of you or your partner, you don’t want your head hanging off the side. Whatever the case, if you go at it at this angle, make sure you are comfortable. There is nothing wrong in grabbing a pillow and propping it up under your head or elbows. Having that support takes the strain away, most importantly the pain.

Vertical Position Is The Best Position

I would recommend sauntering yourself to the vertical position. Guiding your partner along the way. Have him crawl to you, enjoy the view. You can do the guiding, men love this. They love that you desire and crave them.

Tips And Tricks To Guide Your Partner To The Missionary Position

You can use your index finger (with a seductive gaze) and beckon them forward. You can rub on your thighs, crook your leg up in the air (flirty manner), sit seductively, or sit on your knees, blow some air kisses. You can rub your hands down the side of your neck to your cleavage, then breast. ” let your partner know, I can’t wait until you put your hands on me, come here” Being a little forward never hurts. You are guiding, letting them know they are in for a good time. You are letting your inner sexual prowess out. It’s time, you are one on one with your partner, let it all out.

If your man’s eye aren’t popping out, I don’t know what. You are subtly let them know to come to you and that you can’t wait to put your hands on them. Also, it draws attention to your body, getting them aroused. All these subtle gestures work!

Don’t Start Laying Completely Down, Prop Yourself Up For More Foreplay

Prop yourself so your head is on the pillows. Position pillows under your elbows. You don’t want to be laying completely faced down, it is awkward. Prop yourself up so your back is against your wall or headboard. Position a pillow against it. Guide your partner on top of you. Go in for the kiss or sucking on the neck. Get some foreplay going. Make sure you are aroused/lubricated, he is lubricated. Explore each other before the thrust.

There Should Be Natural Transitions, Make The Penetration Exciting

He will naturally enter you in, make the transition sweet. Once penetrated, make eye contact, give him the desire. This is telling him, you are in right, you are hitting the spot correctly, proceed please! Lean your head back in pleasure, give him the most sensual face you ever made. Grab the back or the back of the neck and caress. Smile seductively, rub his shoulders arms. Moan or tease him a bit. Talk! The gist, communicate in the beginning you can’t wait to be with them. For example, you can say “I can’t take this. You feel so good right now, ugh.”

Raspy Voice For the Win

Make sure your voice is a raspy fashion. You know, the sex voice. It’s an automatic thing, you talk differently. A little sensually and raspy. It gets a little lower and slower. You are turned on and you want to elicit the arousal in your partner.

Put your hands around their back and upper shoulder, caress them. Rub on the arms, caress their face, jaw, lips. You’re subtly let them know you are turned on and ready. Throw it all on me. Then the natural rhythm should begin. The thrusting action is happening, enjoy every bit.

Now, during the action, your partner may adjust you a little. He may move a little closer, trying to go deeper. He may lean in for a kiss, sucking of your neck or forehead kiss. He may prop your knees, moving you closer to him. Also, prop your leg up or both up. He may be perpendicular or come closer, providing for more intimacy. In the case, their motion and shifting.

Reciprocate, Go To Town With Affection

Through it all you have to be prepared. You can reciprocate. You can rub on his chest, arms, neck and face. The key, be sensual. Admire and adore. You are gesturing how much you are enjoying the motion and them. There is talking but probably not as much. Why? You are both enjoying the experience and more than likely moaning. Also grunting. Heavy breathing. There is probably communication with the eyes. For some, a lot of kissing actions, yes making love here!

Express Your Satisfaction With The Performance, Communicate

Through it all, we should be in pleasure. If you like it deeper, you can guide. You won’t say “can you go deeper?” instant boner killer. You can say “I want to feel you deeper inside, guide me baby.” Another” you are so good, please go deeper.” Yes, the wit. We previously went over why. The praise and guidance works everytime. Besides the facial and vocal expressions, how we say it matters as well. Be vocal about the pleasure. The key is to be honest. You don’t have to overdo it. We all know, faking the orgasm. Let your body guide you. It will come naturally.

Don’t Be Shy In The Bedroom, Let Your Inner Sexual Prowess Out

I don’t want you to be shy with your partner. This helps them stay aroused if they know you are enjoying it.

Worried About Not Having A Sex Face, Practice

If you are worried that you will make goofy faces or don’t like the sound of your moans, practice. You can do so in the mirror. You’re probably being too hard on yourself. I know we all have our insecurities. To overcome, work on them in the privacy of your homes. See what works for your face.

You know your angles, what you feel works. What you can do is position a mirror above you. Then pretend you are in the act. Observe your face, see your expressions. Are you looking a little apprehensive, angry, surprised, or bored. Do you see blah. Observe. If you notice, then we need to act. You don’t want this occurring during the encounter.

If you naturally have these types of expressions on your face, it can be a factor. People may think that you’re not personable or approachable. It isn’t your fault. With you recognizing this fact, you can make sure it doesn’t show up in the bed. You can practice in the mirror. The key, making natural expressions. You have to prep yourself, pretend you are aroused. You are with your partner. Your countenance should be changing. What is most arousing about them. Is it the muscular arms (the gym has been working), their voice, their eyes, or personality.

With this all in your mind, you can begin to fantasize. From there, pretend. I know, it may be weird but it’s not. The point is to have you comfortable. If you’re not, it’s not going to go well in the bedroom. No one has to know but YOU. You are improving an insecurity. Let’s go.

Position your mirror above or below, it doesn’t matter. Just a bonus tip, you can grab a pillow and pretend it’s your partner. Face, body and all. Look at it with admiration and observe in the mirror, do you like what you see. Try to lower your gaze, look at it with desire. It will naturally come, trust. Then rub your hand down the pillow followed by scanning it. Pretend it’s your partner’s face and body.

Then observe how you look. Is emotion and desire involved? Are your eyebrows raised in excitement, do you have a slight smirk on the mouth? Is your eye lid lowered in a seductive gaze? Do you love what you see? Is there a flirty flicker of licking your tongue?

You can do the same with practice caressing (if an issue). The key is to observe. Also, get in your mind fire, desire and admiration. You have to love your partner. Face, body and personality, all go together. It will come off in your expressions.

Sometimes when we are shy or have other things on the mind, it doesn’t get expressed. Let this go. Intercourse is about communication. It’s just you and your partner, nothing to bashful about. What happens stay between the both of you. Let is all out, you will notice a big difference. The key, express according to your natural personality.

Last, pretend you are in the act. Emotions are going high. How are you reacting. Are you just laying there with no motion. If so, we can address this.

You want to express your delight through motion. I am not asking you to perform flips but some movement. You can lightly rub (whatever body part of your choosing), throw your head back in delight, lick your lips, cock your head to side in playful tease, move your partner forward, just a few examples.

What I am alluding to is motion, expressing your delight. This enhances your partner’s arousal and expresses your personality. It can make things more fun. I am highly confident you love and adore your partner, express it.

If this an issue, practice. For example, I think it would be cool to lift my leg over my partner. Especially when he comes to hover over me. I never done this before and it’s something I would like to try. Well, now is your time to try. You have the pillow, put your leg up. Observe how you lift? Are you lifting it slowly and seductively, are you teasing grazing his shoulder, his ear.

Once again, we are driven by touch. Am I maneuvering so it drives his eye to scan it? During this time, your eyes should be gazing at him with so much desire. Every movement means something. Believe it or not, you’re showing your personality. If being flexible is an issue, here is the article again.

Also, if you don’t like your moaning face, you can work on it. I get it, we don’t want to look like a rhino during the act. Sometimes it gets so good, you don’t know what expressions will happen. As we just discuss, you have to positivity in your mind. That everything about you is fine. If this is you, grab the mirror and observe. Find out what it is. Is your face too drawn out, little to blah for your taste, too animate or too happy. I am pretty sure you want the seduction face to be included.

We have to account for all the heavy breathing going on. We can look one step away from a chucky doll or a fairy. It’s all about desire and letting it show through. When you’re aroused, your countenance naturally changes. The eyes lower, because you are more relaxed. A mischievous smile forms. A glow forms. Happiness and love is radiating. Essentially your whole face relaxes. Tap into this and let it naturally shine through. The road to seductive face is attraction.

You have to find your partner attractive; all these elements will come through. When your experiencing pleasure don’t try to put on an act, that’s make things worse. You have your natural reactions come through. Practice and observe in the mirror. If you let natural reactions through, you will be amazed at your reactions. You can’t mirror anyone else. You have your own unique face. Plus, the more you observe, the more you will get use and accept your reactions. You are more comfortable with yourself and don’t think negatvely of your reactions. if you don’t like tweak. Hope this helps.

Don’t Overthink, Let Your Natural Reactions Come Out

What could be happen is overthinking and discounting yourself. If this is an insecurity, it will show. If you feel you have a goofy smile or don’t like it, it will show. You will avoid pictures or doing. It is the same here. It will come across your expressions. You have to be happy with your face, voice and expressions. You have to let all the negativity out. Find out your angles and work them. Find out the problem areas and address. Most importantly, get in tune with the sensations, let them come naturally. Once again, let them come naturally. Guess what if you do, you will look a million times better.

I want you to go over these tips and apply. Then practice in the mirror. Yes, throw in the fantasy scenario. Envision your partner. Get them in your mind. Get the amazing sensations in your mind. Relax yourself and have nothing but positivity on the mind. Then practice, observe expressions in the mirror. You will be amaze how much better you look. Nothing long and exaggerated but natural. You will be ok!

Practice my friends and you will be much better! Best of luck.

Worried About Not Having The Sex Voice, You Guess It, Practice

Also, with your voice. A tip, get in tune with the sensation. Don’t worry about the pitch/sound, it taking away everything. Get it in your mind that you have a nice voice, don’t worry about it sounding funny. Set positively. You can’t change your voice. What you can do is embrace it. Have your mind set that you have a nice one. So when the act comes and sensation arises, the moan sounds amazing. Positivy works. Personal reflection time.

Personal Reflection About The Voice

For me, I like my voice, but I have my insecurities about it. When it comes to the moaning, it’s spot on. I am amazed. If only my voice was on par with the way I sound moaning. Perhaps it part of the tip I told you on top. I am thinking positively and so caught up in the experience. I am not thinking about my voice, I am immensely turned on right now. Whatever coming out I can’t fight. I can’t fight my body and its natural function.

Practice, Doesn’t Mean You Are Weak

I must have said the word practice a million times, but it works. No harm, no one is born knowing how to do everything. We all have to learn. For many of us, how get good at something is working on our craft. Learning, observing and seeing what we can improve.

We are not afraid to learn, it comes with life. We will never be perfect or no it all. I don’t care how seasoned you are, there is always something you can improve or don’t know. It’s a sign of being secure. Never feel afraid to reach out for help, there are resources out there. The key is to hone on your craft and have fun. Leave your insecurities at the door and explore.

Tip For Ladies During Intimacy, Don’t Just Lay, Exercise Some Movement

So before we move onto more positions, just a disclaimer for the ladies during all the positions. This is a tip for all the positions that require. Yes, you are doing your fair share on the cowgirl but want you to be as adamant in all the positions. I am not expecting you to do theatrics throughout but, put some movement in. I know, it easy to get lost in the experience where you just want to lay there. You want to enhance the pleasure for your partner and yourself, perform movement.

We know the name of the game is to stimulate and keep arousal. Get each other juices going to the point of explosion. We also want to put some flavor and personality in our performances. Not to impress but show our affection the best way we know how. When you are performing, it’s all about your partner. You want them to feel every last sensation that they can. To point they can’t take it no more. If you love them to death you it will show in your performance. You want them to feel every part of you. There should be a lot of affection going on during the performance from both parties. Lots of rubbing, kissing, sucking, touching, teasing, caressing and massaging.

On top of this we should be maneuvering our pelvis and hips in slow (circular downward motion (left to right and right to left, vary it up)) sensual movements while our partner is thrusting. Essentially grinding movements. Let him feel every orifice. You are showing them that you want them to feel extreme pleasure. If they are leaning more into you and deepen the pleasure, then I don’t know what.

Also perform light bouncing movements followed by grinding movements. Squeeze your vagina walls around the penis while thrusting is performed. Swirl sensually and slowly. You can even swirl left to right and right to left. Entice them to throw your leg on their shoulder, enhance deeper penetration. Just move. You don’t have to do it the entire time. Trust, it will come naturally.

The goal is to have a good time and show your affection to your partner. Give them all you got. You will have them begging for the next time.

The same goes for your partner penetrating from the back. You want to throw your back into it. Squeeze your vagina walls around the penis, perform swirling movements. You want to stimulate the arousal like no other. Perk your butt up or get into a downward dog angle and move your back thighs, pelvis and rear back and forth. Do in slow, long sensual movements. Tip: higher the arch, the better. It will enhance the penetration. I encourage having soft cushion pillows underneath your arms, elbows and head. This will help you to relax and to enjoy everything better! Do lots of swirls, tease it , stop for a few seconds and squeeze your vagina around it and then begin to move sensually. Do light bounces, juggle and bounce your butt. Swirl your butt slowly both circular and up and down. Tease your partner, it’s one of our prime areas of sexual arousal. Entice your partner to spank and rub (this is whar we yearn for).

So there you have it. I think you caught on. You guess it, put in some movement. This will enhance the performance like no other. You want your partner hitting every spot. Getting the coveted G-spot. It’s all about love making. Just like kissing, you are showering all of your affection. You want your partner to experience pleasure just like they want you to feel pleasure. You love each other, perform like you do. If you truly love someone, you want them to feel all of you. You want to make sure they experience the best feeling they can every time. They deserve it. You are showing how much you love them. This is a making of a good lover. You are exuberating your chemistry; it will naturally come through. You are not just showing up to prove “how good in bed you are.”, wrong! No, you are showing your affection. I love you, let me show you by throwing it down on you. It’s natural. I am just drawing these facts out.

So, now that we got this tip out the way, onto the next. Let’s give reverse cowgirl a try.

Reverse Cowgirl, All The Way Back

Yes, ladies we are back on top. The good old reverse.

Butterfly Position

Legs in the air is the mood. Yes, you are daring with this one. It off kilter from missionary. How do we perform, well… the receiver’s legs are positioned in the air. Either the giver is holding the legs, or your legs are resting on the shoulders or near their neck. They also can be standing or kneeling.

This allows the giver to have more access and for deeper penetration. Amazing leg strengthen is a factor, your muscles will be at work. It also gives your partner a chance to focus on your legs. Admire, stroke and maneuver. The giver is taking charge here. What you want to watch out for is crossing the legs at the ankles, you don’t want to cause constriction.

If you are wearing heels, this can be the go-to one. Just be careful whirling them around. What a grand time indeed!

The Pelvis Thrust Position

Disclaimer About The Names Of The Positions

Before I move forward, I will be blunt, many of these positions, I don’t know the name. I just know they exist and the actions. So bear with me for coming up with my own names. I didn’t want to describe them without a name.

With intercourse, I am generally not saying the terms. I rarely say penis, it’s usually dick or just nothing, lol. Probably last time I said penis was for a grade (human sexuality class yall). I forget I usually have slang or nickname, many which you may not understand. I presume you have caught on to two. Golden rod (the penis) and treasure box (the vagina). Back to the positions.

With this one the pelvis is the focal point. The receiving partner’s pelvis is elevated at a 45-degree angle, lying down with the back flat. Yes, my fellow math heads, think of slope. Making the vagina more prime for penetration. You can also lift your partners legs for more variation. Think of pushing a wheelbarrow.

With this one, watch the position of your head. Don’t want to have it tilting down to your chest. Face in the direction. You don’t want any sprains going on. Also, your upper shoulders and elbows, cushion these. You should have your feet falling flat on the bed, not at angle, heel pain galore.

PileDriver

A close resemblance to the previous is the pile driver. The receiver is lying on their back, hips raised high. The giver, standing, can with ease enter her vagina.

You can think hip thrust and glute bridges here. As we know with these exercises, we have to be cautious about our head positions and strains. Look forward, don’t have them tilt down. Same applied. As pointed out, cushions for your head, feet and elbows are encouraged. Take that strain off your joints and enjoy. Also, positioning a pillow underneath your hips can take off strain and increase stimulation.

Exercise all of these and you should be good. Well now.. the legs are working up a sweat. What’s next?

Spoons Position

Lounging around the side. This one is a comfortable and flirty position. You ever lounge on the bed with your butt poked in your partners direction. Yes, it’s strategic, mischievous and playful. You’re begging your partners eyes in that direction. For their hands to rub all over your lower stomach area, hips, upper thighs and butt. You beg them to pull you into them or for them to come closer. It’s even nice if you feel them getting excited (a boner). A nice hug and a kiss on the neck can cap it off. I know, a little foreplay going here. It can lead into spoons. So what is spoons?

It essentially missionary while laying on your side. I call it the lazy day quickie favorite. Both you and your partner are both lying on the side facing the same direction. Yes, hitting from behind or hitting from the back. Whatever your flavor. Your partner is penetrating your vagina behind. Your partner can wrap your arms around you in a bear hug or hold your hips. They also can cross their arms around to your chest. They will get at an angle where they can penetrate comfortably. So here to the side. On to the next.

DoggyStyle

Continuing on the hitting from the back flow, we have another popular one. You can do anal penetration, but I concentrate on the vagina. It’s when the giver penetrates the vagina from behind. It’s a variation from missionary, giving you another option.

Psychology Behind Doggystyle

What’s really going on here, the butt. Essentially, the butt is the focal point. We all know, the butt is among the top when it comes to sexual arousal. It’s round, firm and stands out. It drives the senses wild; you want to look and admire it. It screams sex all over it.

For those butt admirers, you gravitate to this position. You want to see the butt and go at it in action. It turns you on like no other. For others, it a way to explore every part of their partner sexually. Front or back, they want to hit all the orifices. Nothing wrong with variation.

Doggstyle On All Four, Downward Dog Angle Is The Master

With all of them, it is all about angles. Your partner is more than likely on an angle to get deeper penetration. Either you are on all fours, with butt and vagina region slightly raised at an angle. You can also have your arms propped down, think downward facing dog here.

Bed Is King Of Comfort

The bed is king here because you want to feel your arms on cushion. It reduces friction and tension. It helps you relax. Plus, your knees. If you have sensitive ones, you know. Having a cushion and having your arms spralled out is comforting. Plus gives you a chance to scream in those pillows (although I advocate screaming out loud, let your partner know you are satisfied. They are doing a heck of a job).

Also, propping up on your hands, it can be discomforting. You don’t want any issues with your palm. In the downward dog position, you’re alleviating your hands and making them ready for extra rubbing.

Doggystyle Standing

You can also do this position standing. The giver is standing behind the receiver. The receiver is at an angle. Either bent over, on knees or all four. For the giver, your hands should be on the parts. I am talking about hips, shoulders or around their stomach. It can also be around their arms. The morale of story, incorporate physical touch. Not only for support but to extend affection. That you enjoy being with your partner,

Comfort On Your Feet Is Key Here

Whatever the case, standing is involved. You want to be comfortable and have plenty of stamina. You may choose area with a soft/plush rug or have slippers/socks. You don’t want to be standing in shoes. For women, the same applies, if you can minimize the time in heels, do so. I pretty sure they have done their job in arousal, now let the rest of you continue.

You want to have prime performance. You want to alleviate any pressure or anything that can cause pain. Pay attention to this and will make a difference in your performance, I promise!

Doggystyle Sitting

A the classic chair, couch or armchair. Whatever the chair, make sure it’s strong, sturdy and comfortable. Also, this is somewhat reverse cowgirl in a chair, lol. Position your partner at the angle, have them toot up their butt.

Chair Is Comforting And More Ease For Penetration

With this one, you may notice more ease for penetration. You are relaxed in a chair; you don’t have to worry about any work on your legs/feet. Also, you can maneuver your partner better on your penis. They can use the chair for support or your thighs. Plus, you can be more intimate with your partner in this position. A chair is made for one, it is better with two.

Why The Chair Rules

I am partial to the chair; it is a favorite. It a chance to be with your partner. Just you and them. I am sucker and gravitate towards my partner lap. I am always wanting to sit in it. I have a face to adore and kiss all over. Plus, the strong and sturdy hands, muscular arms, and thighs to entice! It’s one of my kinks; I am glad they are made. They are great accent pieces and bring out any room. Love and embrace the chair! Can we leap on.

Froggystyle

Sex ed 101, two frogs in heat, observe the noise they make. When you observe, it’s quite comical indeed. Their style, not so much. I guess we have been observed them too much they have made their way to the bedroom. We are learning from our fellow amphibian friends.

How it works, through squatting. The giver is laying down while you are squatting over them. Basically, you are squatting and performing squats over their penis in a rhythm motions. Just think, a continuous sequence of squats. You can do it either missionary or doggy style. Lower body strength is needed here.

It’s a variation that can enhance deeper penetration. Your legs are spralled out more, opening up the doors. Plus the receiver is working as much as the giver.

If you are bold and looking to try something new, this is one to try. Well, can we continue the hunt.

Pounding The Spot

Are you enjoying this amazing and vast world we have. With this one, the act is in the name. This is a real intimate one, huggers beware. This involves the receiver sitting on top, wrapping their legs around the penetrating partner. The penetrating partner can also be on top, with legs outstretched. The receiver wrapping legs around. Think UFC and the octagon. Brock, Rousey and Punk, this is for you.

This closeness is to draw deeper penetration. Believe we are trying to achieve hitting that G-Spot I see. Let’s go to the close cousin, the lotus.

Lotus

All crossed up. This involves face to face penetration. Both partners are sitting cross legged, intertwined with each other. Both in a close embrace. Holding each other, rubbing on each other’s back. Generally, lots of rocking back and forth.

Just like pounding the spot, it is to bring your closer to intimacy. It involves a lot of stimulating touching; can’t you tell by interlocking of the legs. Also, touching of private. Sexual stimulation in vogue here. It’s exploratory, and use as a means of a deep spiritual connection. Connection is the game. I think of our naturalists.

Rusty Bike Pump Position

Bottoms up. The receiver butt is facing up, right towards the giver. They are either standing or kneeling (receiver laying down). The key, they are penetrating on a downward angle. You may think, isn’t the same as doggy. Well, close but the aim is coming more from above. The receiver is on a low angle where the giver is hovering up above. You may think of digging a shovel in the dirt for a visual.

What Lies Beneath Position

When we are in sync. This one is quite interesting and what I called all spralled out. Both partners are facing the same direction. The giver is laying with legs spread. The receiver is matching the same position but in the opposite direction. A variation of missionary without the bending.

Just think of your partner falling or laying on you, it’s amazing. You gel, you mesh, you become intimate. Here, you are mirroring each other. With this one, I am sure, positions are changed, moving more into traditional missionary. Whatever the case, appreciate them all.

Shall We Lift Position

There is something about lying on the side that is alluring. It just begs for your partner to hold you and pull you in. Plus, you can face your partner and admire. This position is all about the leg. Here, you face the receiving partner (who is lying on their side). The giver, straddle the receiver’s lower part of the leg, lifting it either to on their shoulder or even elbow. Talk about easier access.

This position, we aren’t playing around. Anytime something is in the air, it’s thrilling. There is passion, desire and sensuality going on. It also plays for more intimacy and penetration. It allows your partner to be more intertwined with you. Flexibility is key here. You can quickly get tired so make sure you get those stretches in.

T-Square Position

Under the knees. This is the name of the game here. The giver is under the receivers’ knees (which are perched up in the air and spread apart). The giver is lying perpendicular to the receiver, that 90-degree angle. The legs are arched over the giver’s back.

As you can imagine, the giver is penetrating from the side. If you don’t think of Connect 4 here, I don’t know. This is for our adventurous squad. Penetration and hitting angles is the goal. If you are looking to try something new and test your endurance, look no further.

The modified, the receiver has their pulled together, up and both perched on one side of the giver. The giver is penetrating while kneeling and legs spread apart.

Back Rest Position

The receiver lies on their back while the giver (kneeling) lifts their ankles onto their shoulders. We are talking both legs being on the shoulders. Let’s have our legs silky smooth for the stroking here.

Form Position

Put it in reverse. Yes, this one has you facing down. The receiver is facing down with knees close together. The giver is on top, with legs spread. If you love the warm and close embrace of your partner, you will gravitate to this one. Would recommend pillows for support, especially for your arms and elbows. Fold them across and above you. Get in a relax position. You are having your partner on top of you. No strain is the game.

You Got Me At An Angle Position

This one involves an armchair or couch, with the giver sitting on the bottom. The receiver sits on top of their lap, perpendicular to the giver. All done. Now onto the next.

Some more tips ahead!

Extra Tips For The Bedroom

Flexibility Can Add To The Spice

Not a requirement but do encourage. You will be working your limbs. There may be squatting, kneeling, standing, propping your body weight, body parts in the air.

If You Perform Oral, Loosen Up Your Mouth Before You Do

Yes, you may not think of it but your mouth needs loosening up as well. You will be having your partner’s penis in your mouth, doing all types of maneuvering. a little prep will ease the process. Some slow head and shoulder rolls. You can even move your head up and down (mimicking the pattern). Swirl it around. Try to do it slow. It also can warn you as well. If you feel a little dizzy, stop. Do some deep breathing exercises or drink fluids. It will prep you for the session ahead.

Some other stretches/exercises to perform

• Open and shutting your mouth (repeat).
• Open your mouth as wide as possible, hold for about 5 seconds then slowly relax (repeat).
• Jaw raises. To perform, Hold your head up high as possible to the ceiling. lower your jaw as far as possible (hold for about 5 seconds) then slowly shut (repeat).
• Jaw circles. To perform, slighlty part your mouth. rotate your bottom portion of your mouth in circular motion. (Like you are eating). Then do the top half of your mouth (repeat)
• Tongue circles. Rotate your tongue in slow circular motions. Start one set going left to right and the other right to left. Then up and down followed by diagonally. Then practice flickering. Move your tongue as fast as you can. Then slow it down. Then slow it down again. Then go as fast you can again.
• Tongue licks. Yes, we can grab a treat for this one. A popsicle (circular/oval), ice-cream bar, fruit bar, or lollipop. A cucumber and a peeled banana (get that extra potassium in) can work too. You even use your finger. An object is best than trying to do it without one. You want to be comfortable with licking. Make sure your tongue is really working your partner.

Do each of these exercises between 30-50 times. You should be good to go.

You Should Enjoy The Taste Of Your Partner

To help, build up that your partner is something you enjoy. You love the taste of your favorite foods; you should enjoy the taste of your partner. It makes a big difference, trust. Just like having the best piece of slice of pepperoni pizza in front of you, you savor the taste, you need another. You can’t wait to get your hands on it. The same way you should think of your partner. Having this built in your mind, you will perform to exeptional heights.

How To Practice Licking Your Partner To Satisfaction

Now, onto practicing on our objects. Stick your tongue out and lick. Pretend you are looking at your partner with a seductive gaze. Then stick your tongue out and begin to lick. First, work your way up. licking slowly. Once again, maintain flirty eye contact with your partner. Then, you should finish with some sound. Umm, Uhh, moaning, whatever case, use some sound. This communicates that you are satisfied. You can say words as well.

Example of That Dirty Talk

As an example, “you taste so good, I can’t wait until you’re deep inside me.” (maintain the seductive eye contact with your partner the entire time). Then you can do a little light flicker on top and slowly work your way back down.

Using The Whole Tongue Generates More Stimulation

You can stick your whole tongue out or use the tip of your tongue. My recommend, the whole tongue because it more stimulating. I want to generate that heat, really get my partner shivering. Use what comes naturally to you, but just throwing out there. I use a combination of it all but try to use as much tongue as possible.

Disclaimers

Remember, when you are using the object pretend it’s the penis. We want means to treat it like it’s one. Be gentle, never aggressive, it’s super sensitive. Also, if using a popsicle, frozen fruit bar or ice cream bar, be careful not to get freezer burn, lol. Enjoy afterwards! Now back to our lesson.

Practice Licking Using Unique Patterns, Expands Your Fellatio Game

Then practice doing unique patterns with your tongue. Use Swirls (like figure 8’s), zig zags, your creativity. This helps you to be more creative and loosen up your tongue. You won’t be tongue tied when it comes to the action. You have the coordination down and confidence to perform amazing fellatio.

A Bonus Tip, Let’s Raise The Standards

Then use your hand and move your object across the top of your mouth. Go left to right (vice versa) and up and down. Then, (slowly and lightly) rub your object across your mouth in a circular pattern. Do this about 3 times before doing a light flicker on the tip. Then move your tongue back down, then up licking. Do all the patterns.

Blow On The Tip To Blow The Mind

You can follow by lightly blowing on the tip. This helps to provide warmth, stimulation. You can kiss the tip followed by licking around it. Give it short and long licks.

I am giving you a nice trick to tease!

Get Your Partner’s Penis On Your Breast, Enjoy The View

Now if you have a frozen treat, you may want to grab something warm/circular for this one. A cucumber, a spray/ hair bottle or your finger. Whatever the case, we are moving the object down from your mouth. You don’t want it getting on your skin. We want to move the object (our pretend penis) down slowly. Going down, touching our chin, neck and to our cleavage area. Get that sucker in there. Then slightly smoosh your breast together (moving both arms together towards the side of your chest).

You can also take both hands and move up and down the shaft, rubbing in slow, seductive motion. Rub close to your breast. Move the penis (gently) around your breast. Rub the tip with your thumb (slowly). Gaze lovingly at your partner while doing it. Lick your tongue around seductively, bite the side of your mouth. Let them know, you want to devour their penis. You adore it, you want to please it to death. Give them the seductive look. Remember, if you never done before, practice in the mirror (way beforehand). It’s not awkward at all. Practice makes perfection. You don’t want to have a goofy look. Will throw off the mood.

You can rise to the top and give a seductive kiss on his neck and then lips. If this doesn’t drive him wild, I don’t know what will. It’s all about the tease. Talk a little seductively. Let him know how much you adore every inch of his body. You want him, you want to please him like you never did before. Let’s go to town, are you ready. Take a commanding stance. Rub on the back of his neck, trace your finger across his jawline, across his muscular arms, down his chest, around his thighs. Get your hands going on him. Now back to the tease around the breast.

Rubbing your partner’s penis between (and around) your breast provides warmth, comfort and delight. Moan while doing this. Move it slowly up and down. Then move it slowly across the center of your cleavage region. Let him feel your softness and bouncy pillows. You can also move your chest up and down, mimicking giving fellatio. I guarantee, he will be begging to go another round. This also gets you going like no other. Your nipples are going to thank you. It’s so arousing. If you never done before practice! I want you to be comfortable and experienced.

Practice and have fun with it. This will help you to perform some amazing tongue action.

Height Differences

Yes, height matters. We are working with angles and penetration; it plays a part. There are many tricks you can use to make the experience more enjoyable. You can use props with height. Counters, stairs, stools, dressers, sofa arms, and heels. Just be careful with these surfaces. We know they are hard. They can provide discomfort or injuries. We are talking about a lot of motion going on, things can slip, break, or not be conducive for your size.

Please Use Transitions , Keep The Arousal Going

Whatever the case, you have to be smart. Think of head. I know I talk about transitions, but I want you to be safe. You can keep the momentum going. If you need to get a pillow or comforter, you can guide your partner sensually to the other room to get it. You can keep kissing them while guiding them in that direction. You can hold their hand and talk sensually to them. You can grab your item and repeat. The key, is to keep the sensuality going, stir the arousal. Just don’t stop, cut it off and get something.

Even if you have to go to bathroom. Let’s do an example. Say for instance you are in the act, and you really have to go to the bathroom. You can whisper to your partner ” excuse me baby, I am enjoying every part of you, but I need to scurry over to the restroom.” Before you go, give them a nice kiss and a flirty wink. This will keep the juices going for you both.

Music Can Give Some Life

Sometimes, you may want some melody flowing. It’s ok. Nothing wrong with tunes going softly in the background. It relaxes and provides delight to the air. No, it isn’t an excuse to promote Sade, but I couldn’t type without doing it, lol. One of the most gifted artists on earth and the Queen of smooth, how can you not. Mary J, Jodeci, Usher and Tony Toni Tone please don’t hit me. Yall on my pinnacle.

Sade provides such a wonderful ambiance, a game changer. Whatever your flavor, go with it. As you notice, I am into r&b. Since birth, it’s been with me. There is nothing like the soul and passion that flows. There will be an article for jams so stay tuned.

Location Matters Where You Bump

For our sexual beasts, we like spontaneity. We like doing things different and new time to time. Changing it up is a matter of who we are. We like to experience things everywhere, just to see if it works. We love the thrill. It’s not about impressing, no, it’s about the experience. Change we crave.

With intercourse, I put comfort as number one priority. Without it, have to regroup. I don’t want to do anything unless it’s here. Yes, the floor, the counter, the chair, the shower, on top of the wash machine, yes, give them all to me. I also think, comfort. Is this a place where foreplay she be going down or the act. What can I do to make this comfortable. Sitting on these countertops for a long duration is not the mood, where is the bed, my pillows. I think about this all the time. I gave you examples during the transitions (for solutions). This all works.

I don’t want to end up on the floor without support. I don’t want to have my back press against a hardwood floor. Guide me to the bedroom where my soft plush rug is. This thing is my baby. Just got watch out for rug burn. That’s where pillows and comforters come into play. I am not shy. Throw that bad boy down along with the pillows, talk about comfort.

Also, the way I position myself. I have sensitive hands. I always position myself where I can lay at an angle, taking them away from propping. I make it a habit to stretch; I definitely get them before the act. If its activities before, I will sneak them. I want to make sure I am limber and fluid for all the motion. I don’t ever want to be stiff. I like my legs in the air; I like to be switching positions; I like swirling all over my partner. It’s my thing. I make it habit of prepping so that I can. What can I do to get my endurance up, be more flexible. There is always room for improvement in my eyes.

Yes, I keep to my lifting and exercises but believe I can still improve. Never slack and keep to it.

Accessories To The Bedroom

You are one on one with your partner but sometimes you may want some assistance. It’s longtime tradition, but fruit, chocolates, and bake goods can be wonderful additions. There is something about feeding your partner. We are not talking about anniversaries and special occasions, through them outside the events.

Slow and sensually is the game, as well, eating off the same dish. Share, feed them, use your fingers. Dip your finger into the whip cream and feed it to them. You can use your tongue; lick it seductively then give them a kiss. Get that cream on their mouth then lick off them. Put it on parts of your body, your neck, your collarbone, your cheek, your cleavage and lick. I know strawberries and grapes are the go to but tries some others. Peaches, pears, orange slices, apples. They can be also seductive assigns and keep your breath fresh at the same time.

For the bake goods, cupcakes. Slowly peel off the wrapper, lick the frosting seductively, bite into it then share with your partner. Kissing should be go on between the bites. Same applies for cake.

As you see it never gets old. Bring them to your bedroom from time to time. Go for food that won’t make your breath offensive. I know, bake goods have sugar in them but shouldn’t be harmful. Use your discretion and go for the favs.

We want to steer away from liquids because you don’t want any interference (having to go to the bathroom). It’s up to you but just a tip!

Lingerie

I go in depth in the previous article (here) but will bring up again. Pick pieces that go with your personality, season and what your partner will love. You want their eyes popping out, looking at you like a goddess. Easy to take off and is comfortable, not restrictive. Flatters and hugs your figure in all the right places. Brings out your strengths and hides your problem areas. Whatever you want to achieve, go for it.

For example, if you want your partner’s eyes on your breast, get pieces that enhance your cleavage. Also, lifts them and brings out your skin tone. A plunging neckline, sheer/lace or a piece where you can unbutton/zip.

A bonus. highlighter or bronzer. For my comic fans who know Adam Warlock, I don’t expect you to be completely golden like him. What you can do is dust some on to the areas you want to draw attention. Your beauty. Perhaps your cheekbones, forehead, collarbone, cleavage, stomach or thighs. A little shimmer never hurts. As you will be getting intimate and sweat may be invovlve be careful. I know you don’t want makeup all over your partner or sheets. Ben Nye or Mac Studio Fix plus are wonderful setting sprays. Still, it is makeup. Use your discretion.

You can also use a good moisturizing lotion, body butter to bring out your beauty as well. Well hydrated skin is amazing; it adds such depth and can add sensuality. Please give the previous article a read for more tips.

Conclusion

Well, I gave you a mouthful. I hope the tips presented help you in so many ways. You only have so many hours on this earth. Cherish every minute. Adore your partner and love everything about them, even the bad. Doesn’t mean you have to agree but have respect. When you’re intimate, everything is meaningful. You aren’t trying to impress your partner, so they won’t leave. This won’t work. You have to have a mutual connection, a deep chemistry.

You want to be a good lover because you’re in love with your partner. Point, blank, period. You want to give your all. You want to have mind blowing sessions every time. Why? You can’t wait to touch them, please them, hear them in your ear, cuddle after. The point, you love your partner, you’re going to express at your best. No laziness involved. The natural chemistry will explode in the bed. Your body and natural tenacity can’t wait to conquer the prowl. It’s just innate.

The key, are you being yourself. The sexual acts you choose to do mesh with your personality. The positions you choose, flow with the sessions. You love the positions; it gives both you and your partner immense pleasure. It’s fun, keeps the spark alive. They also have you performing at your best. It’s never boring and provides you the best satisfaction. You and your partner enjoy them; your bond grows deeper. You can’t wait until the next time.

Once again, never discount your natural sexual prowess. Everyone has it, it’s up to you to tap into it. Never think you’re awkward, its just a psychological thing. We all have different personalities. If you’re little reserve or stoic, it can be a little bit cumbersome. I promise you, if you utilize all the tips presented, you will see a major difference. You won’t be rigid or reserve when it comes to the act. You will see another side of you. When you’re relaxed and comfortable, that’s when you perform your best.

If you’re overthinking and not focused on having fun thrill, it will fail. Your focus has to be on your partner, what you both desire. Practice how you want to be in the bedroom. Have it in your mind that you’re the top star in the bedroom. Nothing will fail. You are to be desired; it’s time to be sensual. Intimacy is a wonderful bond. Never discount it. Practice, practice, practice. Even if you think you’re a seasoned pro, it doesn’t hurt to build up your skills.

Try another position you were scared to do. Try another time of day or location. Whether it’s a nice hotel stay on vacation, you’re both relaxed, what better time to get it on. I know nighttime is when things are commonly rocking but a good morning session is beyond thrilling. Nothing like morning wood and sheets flying in the morning. Afternoon romp on a Saturday, you bet! Those unexpected sessions are the best. Change it up from time to time. That makes intimacy even better.

I hope the tips presented open your eyes or refreshers. Knowing about the anatomy and purposes, psychological cues, understanding and knowing what your partner desires, knowing their spots and kinks, enjoying everything you do, knowing what you’re doing is meaningful and wanting to be in union with them. All of these factors must be in harmony. You want to be good in bed or lover, check these off. You don’t have to do all the positions and know it all. No. Just being the best at what you. You know how to perform the best and your partner is satisfied. Never do to much. Do your best!

Best of luck and keep knocking it out the park!

What are your thoughts about intimacy? What are some of your favorite positions? What turns you on the most? What do you think is good in bed? Let me know in the comments below?

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