We all have heard of them, strip joints. You may have heard of your uncle, brother or even dad hopping to one. They have been around since the evolution of time. Sex rules the world. Without it, we wouldn’t be here. It’s part of our anatomy. We all have the desire to perform (unless you’re asexual). Some are naturally more sexual than others. I am on that spectrum. I am a prowl and conquer my prey type. I like to be the best when it comes to this area. I like to explore as much as I can, all leading to satisfying my partner.
2026 Playlist To Perform A Striptease
Place Of Choice To Perform The Strip
It’s Not Just Reserved For The Bedroom
Crawl Before You Walk, The Floor
Turn To The Side While You Strip, Yes Please
How To Perform Strip Dancing Right
Butt, Did We Leave Something Behind
Belly Dancing Can Help You To Perfect Stripping
If You Are Weaker In Moving On One Side
What Happens After The Strip Tease
One area I believe is powerful is the tease. Anything that involves teasing and foreplay, I am down for. I believe it’s more satisfying than the act. I get highly aroused with these two areas. I am very visual and sexual; it comes with the territory. I love to take my time and perform right. As you notice, I have a series of articles revolving around sex. It’s important to know what you’re doing. We aren’t born experienced, but we can learn to become experienced. Never be afraid to improve. I don’t care if you think “you’re good in bed”, there is always room to improve. No one is perfect.
The aim of this site and article is to help you to be your very best. Draw out your natural prowess. Not change who you are but take you out of your comfort zone (where it’s comfortable). Not to be afraid to experiment and practice! I will be straight up with you; I practice all the time. I still practice. I practice in the mirror all the time. I examine how I look, how I sound. What can I change? I notice areas I can improve. Flexibility is a big one. I believe I can be a lot more flexible. It’s one thing I work on every day. I have plenty of weaknesses. One thing I do is work on them.
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I hope you feel more comfortable as I let you know, I have weaknesses. I am not perfect, but I strive for it! If you read my other articles, I’ll let you know. The key to being “good in bed” is performing at your best and enjoying it. If you don’t like performing oral, you’re not going to be good. You have to enjoy every part of your partner. It has to be built up psychologically and big time. You can’t be lowkey repulsed and perform as it’s a “duty”. No. It’s not going to work.
I wanted to give you a personal account of my experience before I dive into a topic. I present topics that I love and love performing. Strip teasing is one of them! I love this act so much. It was a major part of my weight loss. I love the whole act of being a sex goddess. Eliciting a rise in my partner. Having his eyes all on me. I love moving my body in sensual ways that draw the eye. It’s a major turn on.
My grandmother would tease, if you were a stripper, we would all be in trouble. You would command a lot of money. I guess she was referring to my physique, and I know how to dance. She also knows that I have rhythm. “My granddaughter sure can dance.”
At times, I thought I would make a good stripper. The problem is, I only want one person looking at my physique. A big set of big green puppy eyes and brown hair is all I want. I reserve everything for my partner. I want to entice him in many ways. Plus, music is involved. Music that I love! It’s the best!
The music. It gets you going. Listening to the melody, the different instruments blending together, your body naturally moves. The key, making sure it’s matching the melody.
So what enters, a playlist. Here is a list of my top favorite songs to perform the art of striptease!
Now, before I roll them off, I will give you a brief background. I have always been a big r&b/hiphop fan. House music is my number one, but these genres roll closely behind. Babymaking music is the theme in these genres. What makes these genres perfect for taking it off is the thick melodies. If you hear a r&b song with a real slowed down melody, its perfect for sensuality. The thick strings of the instruments just put you in the mood. If you listen to each of the songs listen, you will see the common theme. The melody is severely slowed down. Very smooth, strong and sensual. The bass is really strong. Which poses your body to move in slow methodical movement.
When you’re performing a strip tease, you are very methodical. Your body is the instrument. It moves to the beat. You are also doing things slow, playing to the tease. You’re not just dancing fast, no. It’s slow. So the beat has to match or you will be all over the place. Also, a slower beat lowers your Serotonin, causing relaxation. This is key. You want to be relaxed to elicit a tease. Have you ever started a sexual act and take off your shirt quickly, a mood killer. When you slowly unbutton your blouse or take off your undergarments, it raises the temperature. The longer you wait to see your ideal target, the more time you get to be stimulated. We are enlightened by our senses. Arousal is raised when curiosity is involved, its human nature. That is why you notice many songs are very slow and methodical. The bass is thick and sensual, these are the songs you want on your playlist. Very smooth songs.
Now, I love Sade to death. Epitome of sophistication and class. It doesn’t mean you can’t perform a strip tease to her music. I want to erase the negativity of stripping. This is meant for intimacy between you and your partner. To have an enjoyable lovemaking session, if that is the case. Even not, to enjoy intimacy with your partner. To have his hands and eyes yearning to undress you. Loving every part of your body. Can’t wait to take you. To elicit arousal between the two of you. You’re giving your body a workout and improving flexibility.
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Let’s get into the playlist shall we!
2026 Playlist To Perform A Striptease
Sade- No Ordinary Love
Sade-Cherish The Day
Sade-Bullet Proof Soul
LeFlex- 1 U Want
Dream-Falsetto
Usher-Seduction
Trey Songz-All We Do
Tony, Toni, Tone-Slow Wine
Rihanna- Kiss It Better
Alicia Keys ft. Maxwell- Fire We Make
Sade- Siempre Hay Esperanza
Jodeci-Feenin’
Usher- Trading Places
Tinashe ft. Travis Scott-Vulnerable
Sade- Cherrie Pie
Maxwell-Till The Cops Come Knocking
Sade-Give It Up
Le-Flex-Alone Together
Jon B featuring Tupac- Are You Still Down
Changing Faces-Stroke You Up
Teena Marie- Midnight Magnet
Trey Songz- Love Faces
Le-Flex-Lover Like No Other
Quincy Jones ft. Barry White-Secret Garden
Silk-Lose Control
Tinashe-Aquarius
Bobby Valentino-Beep, beep, beep
George Michael- Careless Whisper
Sade- Punch Drunk
Teena Marie- LoverGirl
Beyonce- Dance For You
Sade- War of The Hearts
Beyonce-Haunting
Beyonce- Partition
Day 26- So Good
Sade- Feel No Pain
Ashanti ft. Robin Thicke- Things You Make Me Do
Mary J. Blige- All Night Long
Teena Marie- Out On A Limb
Danity Kane- Right Now
Beyonce-Speechless
TLC- Red Light Special
Justin Timberlake ft. Beyonce-End of Time
Chris Brown ft. Aaliyah-Dont Think They Know
Now that we have a playlist going, we have to put together the rest of our arsenal. We have to work on our scenery. Where do we perform our strip for our partner?
The obvious choice is the bedroom. Ofcourse, this is where you want to head. If you perform in the bedroom, make sure there is a chair involved. Why? The lapdance of course. A major part of the strip process. We can’t leave the favorite part out. It’s a great time to be intimate with your partner. It will be awkward on the bed. You want them sitting up and erect. This allows you to maneuver better. All around and use the chair for support. If you have instability issues, I don’t want you falling over.
Place Of Choice To Perform The Strip
In the chair, have a nice pillow cushion. You want your chair to be very comfortable. You want them to relax. Yes the key word is, relax. You want them to focus on you. Eliminate any distractions. Your cellphone, tv shut off, radio, etc. Also, make sure your windows are shut tight and drapes pulled tightly. You want it to be a private affair for the two of you. You don’t want to be adjusting things during the performance. You want to focus on your partner and the melody of the music. The purpose is to excite and become intimate with your partner. Get that cheshire grin on his face.
Also, eliminate any loose items hanging around on the floor. Shoes, accessories, toys, ottomans or table ends (move them to the edge of the wall). You want to create a nice open space to maneuver around the room. Also, you can include some nice aromas in your atmosphere. Candles do the trick. Vanilla scents are amazing. If you have some puck lights ( I love these lights), flick them on. Use the warm setting. You don’t want to perform with bright lights or in the complete dark. No, you want a nice warm ambiance. You can set the puck lights to warm lighting (mimics candles which causes you to relax). Why does this lighting cause you to relax? It mimics the sun setting. Our body naturally reacts to this light color, thinking, it’s almost time to go to sleep. Place them strategically throughout the room. You want your partner to be able to see you and your partner.
If you don’t have a mirror (that is the position near your area where you will perform your tease) you can pick up a floor length mirror from wal-mart. They generally have them on sale. You can mount them on your wall with gorilla glue or if you don’t want to mess up your walls, you can place it securely opposite where you will strip. You can also place one behind as well. This is a bonus. Why a mirror? This gives you a chance to see yourself in action. This helps you to examine what’s going right or wrong. Helps you to perform better for the next time you perform. Just like a dance studio is lined with mirrors, this helps the dancers form better. The same applies here. Plus, you can use them as portable decor pieces all year long. It never hurts to have an extra mirror.
Yes, the bedroom is ideal but you can spice it up in other areas of your home. The kitchen is such a sweet spot. Plenty of room and chairs galore! You can prop yourself on the counter and crawl across it, what better way to light up the place. Plus, it involves warm lighting. A kitchen can be a sensual playground. You can grab food to enhance the situation. Yes, whip cream never gets old. Place whip cream on you and have your partner finger trace around it. Place a strawberry in your mouth and have your partner playfully try to bite it out your mouth. Grab some chocolate and pour it down your body. Better than a Klondike bar. So much you can do. Just pre-plan items (around the kitchen) that you can playfully include in your strip.
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It’s Not Just Reserved For The Bedroom
The kitchen is great because it’s not the norm to spice it up. You can level up your creativity. The whole purpose is to be comfortable, make it interesting and entice intimacy. You want both you and your partner to experience arousal like no other.
The living room, basement, attic, dining room or (if you have a personal office) are great areas to perform as well. The keys, make sure there is a comfortable chair involved. Also, plenty of room. Lighting (preferably warm lighting). You are comfortable.
Plan months or weeks before the strip. If you want to dress up the area, do so. You can level up the decor all around (if your abode has been previously lacking). You can include candles, plants, puck lights, throw pillows, chocolate covered strawberries or throws to enhance the sensuality of the area. Are we mimicking an actual strip joint stage area, no. We want to have an area that screams romance.
Prep Your Space Beforehand
Make it cozy and comfortable for you and your partner. Have it smelling nice, vanilla please! It’s the best food smell and just instantly brings out your inner appetite. It instantly makes you happy and just screams romance. I am partial to vanilla, it’s my favorite scent. It’s a great unisex scent that just makes the atmosphere sensual. Let’s add some whip cream, chocolate covered strawberries and chocolate syrup.
Yes, yes, and yes. We will be maneuvering our body. It is essential to make sure our body is prepared for the tease. Before you jump in (if you haven’t performed before) is to practice. Practice months beforehand. I gave you a great playlist to start. If r&b or hiphop are not your thing, you can find songs (in your genre) that are slow and have a thick bass. Also, a great guitar riff. A nice guitar humming along to some thick bass/trumpets, a recipe for a good strip song.
Flex before You Spread
Flexibility is very key here. You will be doing a lot of maneuvering with your hips and swirling. Plus a lot of lifts with your legs plus twirls. You want to prepare for the tease. If you’re stiff, you won’t perform at all. If you have sensitive knees and try to crawl, you will be in pain. You will be less effective, taking your focus off your partner.
You want to stretch and flex these areas beforehand. You want to be loose. This includes your hands, knees, legs, neck, back. You don’t want to be sensitive or have pain in any of these areas. It will show in your performance. Here is an article you can use as guidance.
You can use knee pads for support. There is nothing wrong and play into sensuality (if you dress them up right). Let them blend into your attire and don’t draw attention to them. Also, be careful if you’re wearing socks (and especially heels) and you maneuver across a slick floor. You don’t want to slip and hit your head. Try to go barefooted if possible. If you can, throw down a nice rug. You want plenty of grip and comfort.
Lotion up your hands and whole physique before performing. You want soft and subtle hands, especially if you plan on rubbing all over your partner. If you’re like me, I like all hands on deck. I can’t wait to have his hands all over the physique. With those puppy eyes, you better be pulling on something.
As we know, in strip clubs (for safety) the patrons aren’t allowed to get handsy. Don’t have this in your head. This is your intimate affair with your partner. It is more than allowed. Yes, you’re teasing. Constraining helps elevate the tease. It’s all about balance. Have an amazing build up that leads to your partner touching you. We don’t want him going ripe to the kill. The build is the key to the best arousal. It’s not staged, it’s natural. You’re showing your personality and how much you love your partner. You’re also telling your partner how much you enjoy their presence. If you’re like me, I want to be in his presence as long as I can. I love you to death, I want to have sensual fun with you. So, how can we have a balanced act?
To start, start your performance as far as possible (away from your partner). You can strut through the doorway and then stop. You can blow air kisses and then lick your tongue around your mouth (while gazing at your partner). You can start to sensually dance there or can drop to the floor and crawl to your partner. You can have a light long coat or robe on, slightly exposing what’s underneath. To up the ante, you can keep it completely closed (up until you are near your partner). Then slowly take off your garments in front of him. If you do it far away, it’s not as intimate. The whole point is to lead up to being on his lap or being right in front of him. Touching him, teasing him up close. Let him smell your natural scent, feel you. Let him know you have eyes on him. Also, when you are performing far away, there are a lot of distractions. Your partner can gaze at the decor, the candles burning, the wall, the floor. When you’re right in front of him, he has no choice but to pay attention. The purpose is to excite arousal between the both of you. If you’re like me, you can’t wait to be in his presence. Having big hands all over you, yes please! I want to feel every part of him. It’s all about intimacy. You’re not performing for a whole bunch of patrons (like a strip club), no you’re performing for one person. Don’t make it impersonal, make it intimate. Make it fun. Have a laugh. Have fun exploring each other and enjoying the music.
A big tip, don’t be quick to take off all your garments. Let these garments act as your crutch. Use them to draw your partner’s eyes to your physique.
You can slowly open it and leave it draped open. Hopefully, we have some nice lacy lingerie underneath. You can also have a onesie as well. It helps to show off your curves and minimize problem areas. The key, you want to accentuate your legs, butt and cleavage. These areas should be focal. They should be poking out. Teased to death in some capacity. Light and flowy is ideal, helping minimize sweat.
Play to your body shape and height. If you’re shorter, choose high cut garments to elongate your legs. Can also throw on heels but we are talking comfort here, try high cut. They bring out the sex appeal in your legs just as much as heels.
You can play with the tassel or belt part, twirl it around. You can rub around your boob areas and slowly draw your finger (or hands) down to your thighs. You can throw your tassel around your partner’s back (like lassoing). You can use the tassel to play with his shirt, graze his thighs, stomach and chest.
When it comes to taking off your undergarments (thigh highs, socks, or underwear) take them off slowly. Graze your fingers across them. Use your index fingers (not your whole hands) and pull them off slowly. You can use one side and then the other. Just don’t bend over and do it (like you’re going to work). Try to get in his lap or sit on the floor (good vantage point). If on the lap, arch forward (can use his hand to help) and slowly pull them off. Lift your legs (you should be burning a gaze at your partner) and pull them off. Have them hang at your foot for a second. Twirl it around on your toe then toss on the ground.
If on the floor you can either (lay on your back or sit in arch position), put your legs in the air and draw them up. Try to move your legs in a wave pattern. Have your underwear dangle at the end of your toe.
Toss them off and then crawl to your partner. Arch your butt for the lift. Remember the key parts that should be focal (butt, breast and legs).
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Addition To The Lap
I spoke about how vanilla enhances your mood for food. Add some tasty treats to the game. Grab some chocolate covered strawberries, whip cream and chocolate syrup. When you get to your partner’s lap, grab them. Have them sitting next to him. Feed them to him. Have him feed you! Place the strawberries between your cleavage, have him lick that area and eat them. Pour some syrup or whip cream (combo).
Have him do the same. Guide his hand to trace around that area. Have him place some whip or syrup on finger. Place it in his mouth or your mouth. What’s better. Both of your mouths. He can lick then you can lick off the rest seductively. When you lick, think of licking the penis (during oral). Slowly lick while gazing into his eyes. Lightly bite the tip of his finger. Then place the finger back in that area to get some more. You can guide your chest to his mouth. You can also place some on your neck, have him lick/bite. Your stomach, thighs and feet. Make it a sensual affair.
Crawl Before You Walk, The Floor
Yes ladies, we have to work the floor. Moving your performance to the floor is thrilling. You can perform so much. The goal is to show your inner lioness. You’re on the prowl. Move like the big cat. Hopefully it leads to the big thrill in the kitty kat, pow! Yes, I talked about the crawl to your partner. It’s so desirable. It’s powerful. Some may argue it is submissive but no, it’s an act of power. Just like you see a lion moving forward, you see nothing but power. It’s the same here but sensual power. You’re communicating desire and eyes on the prize. You’re conveying innocence and conquest at the same time.
Have a sensual gaze, lick your tongue in desire. Wink, arch your butt up. Keep your eyes on your target. Don’t take your eyes off as the crawl will lose its power. The purpose is to connect with your partner. Have him observe your movement. Tease, just like the big cat does. While you crawl, you can stop and slowly glide forward across the floor. Extend your arm forward. Then you can slowly roll over, rub your hair to the side and extend your legs in the air. Wiggle them slowly, then you can move one leg slowly (sensually back and forth). Then you can roll over and get into a slight booty bounce (while you are on all four). You can move to being on your knees, and seductively move your body in a figure eight. You can also move to a squat position, and perform a little dance, focusing on moving your butt sensually. Move to the side so he can see both the front and back (Not just the back).
Turn To The Side While You Strip, Yes Please
A major tip…. When you perform anything, you have to think about positioning. The side is golden because your partner can see a glimpse of both the back and front. Sometimes, it makes sense for the back or front. If you can, try the side for a majority of the tease. Especially if you want the butt to be the focal point. Visually, if he sees more of your body, it’s just a better view. He can see some of your breasts and face. You can’t leave the girls out. They should be a focal point for the majority of the tease.
Now back to some more tips. When you squat, you can move slowly up to an upward position. Swaying your hips slowly and seductively. Then you can perform whatever dance flows to you naturally. Then, you can slowly work your way back down into a crawl stance and move forward to your partner.
When you get to your partner, rub your hands up his legs to his thighs. Get in between his thighs, lightly graze his package. You can move your head forward to lightly graze his private region. You can lightly lick this area and also the side of his thighs. If you’re very sexual like me, this is your thing. Very handsy, got to touch in some capacity. You can also lightly lift the bottom of his shirt, then rub your arms up his chest. At the same time you should be rising up and slowly/seductively dancing to the music. Then wrap your arms around his neck and place yourself on his lap. Then start to grind on him, moving side to side and back and forth (like a rocking horse). Lean into him, rub your breast against him. Move up and down.
Get into a bent knee position (so he can see more of your body). Then dance very seductively. Use his neck and back for support. Lightly rub up and down the back of him. Get to his hair. Lean forward, lock eyes, lightly graze your tongue across his lips. Lightly lick the side of his face and neck. Rub against his chest. Then grab the back of his neck and give butterfly kisses. Do them slowly, one on the lip and cheek. Don’t go overboard, you want to keep it sensual and playful. We don’t want to lead into foreplay.
You can also jump off and dance around your partner. If you start dancing behind him, rub your hands down his chest. Have your chest against his back. Have your head to the side of his. Whisper something sensual in his ear. For example, “ I can’t wait to taste you, your scent is driving me wild.” “I am so moist right now, if I can feel you deep inside of me.”
How To Perform Strip Dancing Right
If you’re a visual person like me, then you’re in for a treat. When you strip, you are envisioning what you want your partner would be doing to you during foreplay. He would be rubbing your face, then trickling his hands down your neck, to your breast, arms then to your stomach. We can’t forget the thighs, a woman’s weakness! There should be a lot of gripping and rubbing while you’re sensually dancing to the music.
While you are moving methodically to the music, you should be burning a gaze at your partner. Wink, flirt, flick that tongue around, bite the side of your lip. Also whip your hair sensually, your hair is your playground. Flip it to one side sensually, it helps elongate your neck. The more skin you show, it creates an arousal powerhouse. Draw attention to your face, neck and chest area. Rub the side of your hair.
When you rub, do it slowly, twirl the ends (playfully). Run your fingers through it, flip it all through your performance. It mimics the pattern when you’re riding your partner.
Your hair is flying everywhere. It just screams sex when you flick your hair back. Try to do it throughout your strip. Bite the side of your lips, (teasing innocence). The purpose, convey your desire to your partner. You want to devour them. You’re enticing them, you are showing how much you desire them. To be intimate with them. Your body is yours to adore. Admire each inch of your physique. It’s all intimacy without getting into the intimate act, not just yet.
Your legs are the show. Whirl them around. Beckon your partner. It’s an extension of your body. They are made for posture and help you to walk, they also are made to entice. You can use your feet and slowly rub your partner’s leg and then to his region. You can graze his stomach, lightly lifting up his shirt. You should be having the most sultry gaze while doing this. Let your legs move with the rhythm. Rub them together, depicting your are turned on. If you’re flexible, you can wrap your legs around your partner’s head and slowly maneuver your body slowly. So much you can do. The key, make your legs the star of the show, you can do much with strip teasing. They point to your private regions.
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Butt, Did We Leave Something Behind
Can’t forget the butt. How can we not. It doesn’t matter the size, you can do a lot. Just have the confidence and entice your partner with it. Wiggle sensually, like you’re doing a slow hoolah hoop. Push your hips out and slowly move in a circle. Don’t just stick hips out and then stop. No. Move in unison. Practice.
Can lift one of your leg and position it on your partner’s chair. Turn to the side (so he can see your behind). Pull your partner’s arm to your hips and slowly move your behind to the beat. You can lightly rub the back of his neck and hair. You can do light booty bounces, hip swirls or slow up and down patterns with your butt ( lightly grazing him). Just remember, let it flow with the beat.
The Lap Dance
The star of the show is the lap dance. As I began, I recommended that you start furthest from your partner and work your way towards them. Work your way to dancing sensually around him and then, to his lap. You can straddle him (facing forward). If you do this method, I recommend using his neck and back for support. Mimic doing cowgirl. You can be swirling all around and doing light bounces on his lap.
You can also arch your breast (cleavage) towards his face and then slowly move up and down him. This is mimicking cowgirl big time. Have your breast (cleavage) lightly graze his face. Have his arm grace your back and sensually move in a slow methodical figure 8. Do different patterns to keep it interesting.
Guide his hands to your bra or bralette. Guide it to the back. Have him slowly unclasp it. You should be slowly grinding on him. You can place butterfly kisses all over his face while you’re doing this.
Then slowly drag your bra down and off. Don’t pull it off quickly (buzz kill). Pull it off slowly and sensually. You can lightly tease your garment in his face, letting him smell your scent.
Now, if you’re a little sensitive about your titties, you can leave your garment on. If you have a garment, try to select ones that are very revealing. One that provides a nice lift and gives your cleavage an extra boost. The whole allusion of cleavage is to tease and to allude to larger breasts.
You want to draw your partner’s eyes to this area. It is prime for arousal. The prime area of femininity and sensuality. With the right selection, you can look like a sex vixen you were meant to be. Nice and lacy is the deal. One that elevates the cleavage and that is comfortable. Also, pick pieces that go with your skin tone.
Yes, our warm tone vixens, choose tropical colors (light pinks,mauve, purple, gray, pale blue, and yellow) cool tone, blue, pink, red, greens. With both tones, white and black are great. As we know, black just screams sex. We have leather, lace and many of our lingerie pieces in this color. If you’re not picky and don’t know what to choose, pick black. You can always play it up with jewelry. If you’re warm tone, gold and cool tone, silver. You can have a nice gold necklace, bracelet, belly chain or ankle bracelet. Be careful with the earrings. Choose small earrings, please no hoops. We don’t want to be tearing your ears.
Plus, when you’re dancing, you don’t want your breast swinging everywhere. Yes, you are not dancing hard/fast but with gravity, things can start to hurt. Keep your garment on, let them hug and keep your girls lifted. Hide your problem areas so that you can focus on teasing the heck out of your partner.
If you do take your garment off, just don’t toss your garment on the ground. Tease. Tell him a job well done. Your reward is now waiting. It’s all mimicking the art of the hunt. When you involve his hands in the tease, it expresses love and intimacy. How you yearn to have his touch,it’s all for him. It conveys you want his involvement, it’s all for him! Ding, ding. It’s all for him. Everything you’re doing is for his eyes only. You want to please him. If you’re far away, or not involving his participation, it’s more impersonal.
Once your girls are standing attention, maneuver them to his face slowly. Rub them slowly across his face then down to his chest. Have his hands grasp both of them while you slow grind on him. Do I enter R.Kelly or Tony, Toni, Tone lyrics here, lol. Slow wineeeeeee…… You can also grab the back of his neck and guide his head slowly between your cleavage.
When you are maneuvering on the lap, your vagina should be grazing his penis (lightly and gently). It should be wet and suffocating his vagina. Let him feel your warmth on his region. Tease the mess out of it. Wiggle your butt gently and sway your hips from side to side. Play with the rhythm of your butt. Try all different types of movements. You can go really quick (but gently) then pause, then slowly, then up and down, then back and forth. Try to move forward and arch your butt up, give it a lift. That will make the movement more fluid. Also make your butt more perky.
If you ever done reverse cowgirl, you know arching forward is optimal for great penetration. You want to remember this. Don’t just sit in a 45 degree angle (straight up and down), no, move forward, perk up your butt, you will be able to maneuver much better. Try maneuvering in the 45 degree position, it’s a pain. With more lift, you are providing more visuals of your butt. If you sit nice and flat, it’s like a flat tire. He’s not seeing more of your butt. The whole aim is to draw his eyes to your butt and enjoy the sensation.
Psychologically, it’s like he is performing reverse cowgirl without the actual penetration. He has a chance to relax and fantasize. It also gives him ample time to get aroused. You are enjoying touching him. Nothing gets a man more aroused than finding him desirable and stimulating his private parts. Plus, getting the chance to see more of your butt. There is nothing like an arch, it shows off more of the curves of your back and hips. You’re also coming off less stiff. You want to be loose and fluid, moving with the beat. Arching also makes you more comfortable. Get into the arch and wind!
You have to remember, the tease is for a purpose. To gain a deeper intimacy with your partner. To have fun with each other, sensually. It’s all without doing the big sexual act. You don’t always have to have sex, give your vagina/penis a break. You can satisfy your sexual senses with foreplay and striptease! It’s just as thrilling. It also explores your creativity and keeps the spice in your romance. Doing the same thing all the time will have you losing your thrill.
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As humans, we get bored. If we do the same thing over and over, we get bored. When we get bored, we lose interest. This is not what we want to do. Now, I am not saying it’s boring (if you like to perform one sexual act). That’s cool. The thing is, don’t perform it in the same location, time, same garments. You get the gist. Change it up. How about scenery.
Go to a hotel (you can get some great bargains if you plan ahead). Seeing different architecture, decor and lighting can make a difference. Especially for your brain psychologically. It can make for a thrilling adventure. Plus, when you go to a hotel, you’re automatically thinking about travel/vacation/fun. Just forewarn, check ahead to make sure the accommodation you go to doesn’t have (thin walls)! You don’t want the whole floor hearing your or his name, lol. This can be a buzz kill if you have to worry about noise level.
Belly Dancing Can Help You To Perfect Stripping
If you have never done strip teasing before, you can look up some belly dancing videos. They will help you to release your inner rhythm. It’s hard to describe. You really need to see visuals and learn from there. Keep your eyes on the movements, try to mimic the patterns. Plus you will get a good belly workout. You can’t spot but you sure can strengthen your belly area. Making it more flexible to move your hips more fluidly. No tightness here.
If You Are Weaker In Moving On One Side
Practice more on that side. I am weaker in maneuvering from right to left. I am left-handed, this might be the reason. You might be weaker in maneuvering (opposite of your writing hand). I don’t know about you but I want to have proper balance. I want to do all types of movements, not being limited to a few. I want to exercise creativity. I need my weaker side to match my dominant side. So what do I do, I practice more hip swirls (moving right to left).
What Happens After The Strip Tease
You can either end with making out with your partner. Engaging in foreplay or leading to the bedroom. It’s all up to you. The key, it should end in some form of intimacy between the two of you. Not just stop the music and depart. It should lead to a natural progression of INTIMACY. Both of you should be highly aroused and drowned in pheromones. The music should’ve taken over your senses, giving you both a vibe of bliss. All options are ideal, it depends on both of your moods. It will be a natural progression. If you want to end with a quick peck and neck kiss, that is fine. Just end smoothly. End with intimacy.
Why Evaluate Your Performance
There is always room for improvement. There is something you can enhance for the next time. Also evaluate, did you enjoy the act? What about your partner? Is this for me? What can I do differently? Should I try a different type of music, room, atmosphere. What about attire? I couldn’t take the heels, how about thigh highs and socks next time?
Should I incoroparte toys/accessories next time. How about a whip/chains (should be fun to try).
If you really enjoy strip teasing and you have the room, how about saving up for a pole! We all don’t live in mansions but it doesn’t stop us for being adventurous. I love the pole. It provides stability and allows you to be adventurous. Use your body in many ways. Twirling around the pole, sliding down it, crawling up it, what a ride.
I don’t know about you, it’s glamorous. It screams prowess. It also exudes your flexibility. Using your body in multiple ways is empowering. What’s best, impressing your partner. It’s all for his eyes. It’s all about accentuating every curve, drawing his eyes to the performance. Wow, your partner. It’s all about love, expressing it in many ways. Also, you’re getting a little workout in. It also helps your bedroom skills. More flexibility and less stiffness equals better in bed. Can’t stress enough. You don’t have to be an acrobat or gymnast. The goal is to open you up and be flexible. Knock the stiffness out. When you’re less stiff and tight, you’re more comfortable. When you’re more comfortable, you’re more happy/relaxed. You’re more open to perform at your best. That’s what it is all about.
Now, if you can’t slide down the pole, that is ok. What’s key, being comfortable moving around the pole at your level. How do you feel moving around the pole? Do you think your partner will think you’re sexy? Do you feel satisfied? Do you feel powerful?
The key, how are you feeling about the whole act? Are you doing it to just impress or because you want to show your love in many ways? You have an inner sexuality that you want to exude. You love showcasing your body to your partner. You love sensual music, you love dancing. You love stripping because it makes you feel powerful. It’s fun, you love to tease your partner in sensual ways. It’s all about love. Being creative and exuding your sexuality at the same time.
I hope your answer is the second part and not to impress. Yes, it’s fun to try to combat boredom but it should be more than this. It’s about expressing your love. How much you adore your partner. How you want to be intimate in a unique way.
You don’t have to be so vulgar. We aren’t shooting porn here. You don’t have to flick your tongue every two seconds or rub your vagina a thousand times. It’s all about balance. Be subtle about things. Play into dancing more to the music, connecting your eyes to your partner and balancing your gestures. Let them mean something.
With stripping, the focus is your body. The movements and how it flows with beat. It’s all about the tease, slowly revealing the prize. How you’re playing up and highlighting each part of your body. You’re elongating your neck, you’re showcasing your legs, you’re perking your butt. Your body is moving in unison with the music in multiple ways.
Its the dance of foreplay. If you use too many gestures, it turns into straight foreplay. Dance has to be incorporated. If you focus on the gestures, you will be rigid. For instance, you focus so much on rubbing your boobs, you’re going to be very rigid? Why? You’re focusing too much on one area. Your brain is going to slow down your body movements to which you’re barely not moving. Let the rubbing come naturally.
With the right garments on, they will draw the attention to your boobs. Also your butt, thighs and neck. That way, you can focus on performing your dance movements fluidly.
Conclusion
That was a mouthful. As Valentine’s Day is coming up, I wanted to present this piece to help you spice it up. If you have never performed a strip tease before, don’t be shy about doing it. Even if you feel “I can’t dance, I am out of here” or “I am awkward, this can’t be for me.” Don’t be. If you really want to do it, try. Now, I gave advice that stated “if you feel stripping isn’t for you, don’t pressure yourself to do so.” You have to have an innate desire to want to do it. Not to just impress or because you’re forced. You will feel miserable.
If you really want to do it but feel you can’t perform, I have good news for you, you can do it! Not all of us are Usher, Justin Timberlake, Ciara or Michael Jackson on the dance floor. Guess what, they all had to practice to get to their respective levels. The same can go for you. The key is power.
Select the right music (I gave you an amazing playlist to start). Find attire you love to wear. If you like me, you love to wear sensual attire. You feel empowered and look your best. You love the way your partner looks at you when you do. Build it up in your head you can perform. You love to dance, you would love to sensually. Why not practice. Try to start months in advanced. If time is of essence, you can start weeks in advance. The thing, is to consistently practice. Practice in front of a full length mirror. Examine how you look and most importantly, how you feel. Do you feel awkward moving your hips seductively. Then stop. Build it in your head, hey, I look good in the mirror, I got this. The reason you feel awkward is because you have a negative stigma in your head. If you build up positivity, you won’t feel awkward. Now, if you feel that the movements aren’t coming off fluidly, practice more. Still, build in your head I can move more fluidly. Maybe I’m moving too fast, if I slow it down a bit, it will look better.
Practice, practice, and practice.
You have a cheerleader here. I know you can do it. When I was younger, I practiced, practiced and practiced to death (almost everyday). I examined myself in the mirror. Every word I wrote, I practiced. I know I have high sexual energy. At an early age, I knew I wanted strip tease to be part of my life. I want to be the best at it. I love the act. So what did I do, practice. Picked the right music (no boring music here).
I grew better and better each day. It was empowering. It was a form of a workout (that helped as well). I built up nothing but positivity. I want to perform it for my puppy eye partner one day. For his eyes only.
My goal is to one day get that highly coveted pole. Sliding up and down is the goal, it must be done!
I hope my little testimony helps you to be confident. I only write about my personal experiences. I won’t put something on paper if I don’t have a passion. I wouldn’t lie if you couldn’t do it. It’s up to you. You can do anything you put your mind to. If you have a passion, pursue it. You have to have a desire. It can be done.
I end by recommending, examining yourself. Finding your inner why? Do you have a lot of negativity built up, if so eliminate it. Replace with positivity. Build up positive thoughts about stripping. It isn’t a negative act at all. It’s an amazing intimate act to be cherished.
Best of luck on the pole!
Do you have any experience stripping for your partner? What songs do you love to have on your strip playlist? What do you feel about stripping? Sound off in the comments.
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