History of the Kiss

Kissing, locking lips, smooching, making out, however you like to call it. It’s here. It’s been around since we have evolved. It’s a sign of affection that means so much. It can be used as a sign of greetings. In many cultures, you are greeted with a kiss on the cheek or hand. Talk about love, try not to fall in love. It’s endearing and sign of friendliness, strength and courteousness. It can also be a signal. It can be a signal I am kind, peace and respectful.

For many families, you are taught to kiss your elders on the cheek. Show them respect. You know, the generational tradition. Yes, the previous generations. Got to go my grandmother’s stories. She loves certain movies, GodFather, when it’s on, her eyes are glued no matter what. Also, Cadillac Records. I would always here, this is so much history. She connects so deeply with this movie. As I sat and observe, I can’t believe all the previous generations went through.

There are so many golden moments in this movie. From riding around without doors, Chuck Berry, give me my bottle of gin, and howling wolf. I notice, as with many films from this generation, they were closer knit. What was considered respectful yesterday has changed. Interesting but that goes with every generation.

Not only this but, segregation, sexism, war, and lack of traditional communication. Phones, what is this? Radio and t.v. was trying to make their way to the market. Meeting in person, passing the news by word, yelling threw your cousin’s window to do your aunt’s hair, the norm. Rent parties, paddy wagons and slow dragging, get in before the streetlights. Things were stricter and community were closer.

We have move from the traditions but for many in African American communities, you know better, lol. You don’t want grandma in that butt. We know to show that respect. Especially when you got family from the south. The dialect nicknames I didn’t know I had! Let grandma show you some suga. As you can see, the kiss is a sign of respect. It transcends from the previous generation tradition of extending hospitality.

Where We Kiss

The kiss is mostly known as a sign of affection. Primarily, when romance is involved. You ever been on a date? It’s something to prepare for. A wedding? You bet! It signals solidifying your union to all those witnessing the grand affair.

What The Kiss Does

The kiss can mean so much. It stimulates our senses. It relaxes our mind, it provides stimulation to our heart and our entire body. It provides a mean of showing affection. It conveys love. It connects you with the one you love. It displays how your feeling for them. What you want them to feel and that is good.

It elicits sexual pleasure and stirs desire. From sensations in the lips and tongue, your sexual stimuli are moving in these areas. To heighten arousal, kissing is essential. You’re activating the senses, prepping for sexual activity. It gets your juices going. It can lead for those butterflies forming. Your head starts to swirl; you have a sensual mist overflowing through your mind. It’s an amazing feeling. It connects you on a deep level. You feel that person in your senses, in your soul. It can linger, placing the person in the center of your heart.

It can make your heart skip a beat. It helps to keep it beating. It’s a prime sign of affection to connect you, make you one with the person you love. It signifies your relationship, your deep love for each other. Now, there is different type of affection. Rather love. Let’s start with the first, platonic.

Platonic Love

We all have friends, family, acquaintances, and co-workers. What do we do with them. We show them respect, kindness, encouragement, trust, compassion, company, advice, and communication. We care for them but to a certain extent. It doesn’t go beyond friendship (friends), kinship (family) and professionalism (co-workers and acquaintances). We have a separate bond and relationship with each of them. There are levels to our communications. For instance, with our friends, we can ask for advice or have a shoulder to turn to with a breakup. With family, we bond over memories and what the next family event will be. With our peers, it’s about how we can work together to grow the company and how we can resolve a problem.

There is love but it’s platonic. It doesn’t go beyond this. This barrier is never crossed. Now, I don’t make this about cultures but in some, you do extend a friendly kiss to your family or friends. Italy and French, I am looking at you. If you know anyone who is Italian or French, you may have noticed this. It’s tradition and nothing goes beyond platonic. It’s ok as long as it doesn’t cross over to the next level we will get into. Only if it’s mutual. No need to worry, it generally stays platonic and say all this to point out different cultural traditions. So, what is this other level? I think we know. Romantic!

Romantic Love

As we are talking about kissing, you know the kiss goes hand in hand. Probably top of the page. We see the Valentine cards, pjs, coloring books, and candies litter with them. Pouty shape lips plastered all over, alluding to the big smooch. Outside of the holiday, they are everywhere.

Entertainment Influence On Our Influences

We see them on our magazines on the checkout lines, who is the new it couple having the big smooch? Are they back together, who is the new love? A side note, it’s amazing how the paparazzi can catch our favorite starlets on all moments, if it’s stage, that subject to a separate article, lol.

Movies Influence And Romance

Anyways, the movies. You know there will be a romantic scene with leads locking it up. An explosion and the world can be falling apart; it won’t stop our leads from getting one in.

Day Time T.V. And Reality T.V. Blues

Our favorite daytime programs have the two main embrace before commercial. Weren’t they trying to kill each other last week?

Reality t.v. has been gracing our screens since the early days of Real World (the ol g and one of all-time favorites). We see a sense of realism, getting a peek inside notable families and strangers lives. We see their relationships, their dates and problems.

Music Influence On Romance

Don’t get me started on the music. In a previous article, I talked about music and our sense of realism. Yes, offending my favorite r&b artists, lol. It’s all love, I appreciate them all. Outside of songs focused on family, work, culture or society, music is dominated by love and romance. Everyone wants to experience love, artists are hip to this. Let me pour out my heartache in a song so you can relate.

Many Music Artists Put Their Heart And Soul On Paper To Connect

For many, it’s not about sells but putting words on paper. Let others connect with them on a deep emotional level. Let me help others who may be going through heartache or love for the first time. You guys are silent heroes and applaud you. You want to connect with others out of love not money. You don’t care about the royalties and the millions in Wells Fargo. You care about your fans and humanity.

Michael Jackson, No Better Example of True Love

No better hero was Michael Jackson. Move his upbringing out the way, he truly had a heart for the people. I never seen so much compassion from a human. Besides the music and killing the pavement, Michael had the biggest heart. His legacy will continue to live on. There isn’t a week where his songs aren’t bumping through my speakers. Listen to his songs, his words are so deep. No one will ever top him, but Beyonce comes in close. Janet is on her own plane, I try not to compare. I got to preserve Pleasure Principle and the chair, goals, lol.

External Factors Part In Romance In Society

Let get back on track to the topic at hand, kissing. Just went through some points to show how external factors can play a role in our relationships. Especially romantic! We have the romantic books flying off the shelves, the movies selling out, the concerts being standing room only. It’s ingrained through these forces, you can’t escape. We see romance everywhere and primarily the kiss. You see the wind (got love the wind machine) blowing the hair, the heroine flying back while the hero kisses passionately. They embrace, wanting to never let go. It’s often after a big moment and can be the climax of the movie.

Hollywood Obsession With Hunks, For The Ladies

Wow, putting the pressures on the guys, huh. Hollywood is a business; it knows what sells. They know women are a sucker for romance. Seeing the big hunky hero kiss the heroine with love and adoration. Let me pick up Peoples, watch their interview on Oprah and visit their website. They better be People’s Sexiest Man Alive or else. Boy, have we gone through them.

These Guys Have Been Holding It Down For The Ladies

Tom Cruise (guilty), Johnny Depp, Keanu Reeves, Brad Pitt (still going strong), George Clooney, Patrick Dempsey, Chris Evans, Idris Elba, Hugh Jackman, Matt Bomer and my personal favorite (besides Chris Evans) Christian Bale. Oh Christian Bale, Batman Begins, begin scene while training, goodbye to my drawers!

Guys In The Older Era Who Drove Women Crazy

These men have driven us crazy, providing a sense of dream guy. It’s interesting when you think about it. Things will never change. Before you had James Dean (my style king), Marlon Brando, Robert Redford and Gregory Peck knocking dead in your grandma’s generation. Hollywood has built up the hunk of your dreams. One you can have in your fantasies. They have pump romance into almost everything. It rubs off psychologically.

I won’t get into sports and our dear athletic ones that are easy on the eyes, lol. Let me keep on track.

What True Romance And Love Is

Coupled with entertainment pushing the romance meter on ever year, we are also born with hormones. For most of us, we have the yearning to be with that special someone. That ride or die. One that will complete us. One we can play fight with, argue over the big game with, ask if they turned off the bathroom light. One we can playfully fuss with and then kiss and make up. The one we can confide in when our boss works every nerve. One we can cuddle up when it gets cold, run your fingers through their hair and admire.

Our partner, boyfriend, spouse, husband or for the other side, girlfriend, and wife. Whatever the relations, stages of romance are involved. To seal it, our kiss, yes, the kiss. So, what is about the kiss… well…

The Road To Kiss, It Starts With Attraction Both Emotionally And Physical

It begins with attraction. As we are talking about romantic love, we are on a deeper level where sexual attraction is involved. You’re not at the platonic but romantic level. Affection, and I mean deep affection is exchange. Physical attraction is there but it’s balanced. It’s not one sided.

Emotional Connection Rules In Love

You also have emotional connection as well. You love both the inside and outside and it’s equal. You found the one that is the perfect package. It is all depending on the person. You love their intellect, hobbies, goals, family, friends, views on society and various interests. You understand them and love it. You mesh; you love who they are. You recognize they have a big heart.

Characteristics To Look Out For To Seek Deep Emotional Connection

You may love their strong sense of humor, compassion, dorkiness, quietness, gentleness, meekness, humbleness, humanitarianism, independence, creativity and strength. They know who they are and stand by it. They also understand you. They don’t try to change you. They are willing to compromise and are interested in you, flaws and all

It just clicks, the chemistry is there and unbreakable. You can never see yourself being apart. If anything happens, you will always be friends with a soft spot in your heart. For you two, you don’t ever see any separation, you will be growing old together. You have been making plans on a deep level, may it be investments, retirement or vacations. You are in for the long haul. It’s beautiful and you will remain loyal to your bae.

Physical Attraction And It’s Part In The Road To The Kiss

Just want to talk about the physicality. We are human, we all have our taste. For some, we prefer big eyes, high cheek bones, thick eyebrows, square jaw and full lips. For others, you prefer brown eyes, full cheeks and oval face. Some like them tall others short. Some like muscles and some stockier or skinny. It’s all up to you on your preferences.

The key, physicality draws us in. We have to see the person, right. When emotions are high and chemistry is there, we sometimes want to connect. Connect a little further. What is one way, the kiss. We want to feel the other person, show our affection. We are attracted; we want to show that we are. We love what we see, you can’t help but put your hands on them. It’s in our nature. So what subtle cue do we send, our eyes to their lips. If we are drawn to something, we either look or touch.

Example of Subtle Cues That Your Partner Is Interested In Kissing You

You ever been on a date and your date looks at your hair. Notice a few whips are hovering over your right eye. He adores this, thinks this is attractive. However, he wants to see your entire face. He loves it. He doesn’t want anything hidden. It’s a subtle cue as well. He wants you to be open, be transparent. Not to leave anything hidden.

He wants to know and see all of you. He is truly interested. So, what does he do? He moves it out the way. He may he whisper, ” I want to see your beautiful eyes, I’ve been admiring them all night. It’s a shame you’ve been hiding these beauties.”

He may then move his eyes down to your lips. Giving you a playful smirk. He may look at your lips often through your time together. It’s a cue he wants to kiss you. The key, you keep look at what you want to feel and touch. You desire it hence the reason your fixation on these areas. It draws your attention, it excites you and you want to experience it. There is attraction and you want to express it. You want to display affection because you feel connected. You draw to the areas where you can connect, and your lips are prime real estate.

Another Example And Sign Your Date Wants To Kiss You

Another example. Your date starts the date sitting across from you. You notice midway he has ended up sitting next to you. You also recognize that you have really hit it off throughout the entire night, there is connection.

He has grabs your hands and starts lightly rubbing them, giving you signs of affection. His voice has lowered. He is expressing sweet nothings in your ears. “I am enjoying my time with you, you smell so good.” ” I am lucky guy to meet such a wonderful person like you. You have made my night with all the laughs.” You notice his eyes continue to be drawn to your lips.

You also catch onto him coming closer. He may stroke the side of your cheek or chin. That is also a cue he wants to kiss you. He is drawn to your lower area of your face. What does area hold, your lips. He can also give you a hint in the body language. Drawing closer to your face, leaning forward to you. He wants to connect.

The Keys Your Date Wants To Kiss

You notice the commonality here; your date is drawn to your lips. Once again, we are drawn to what we are attracted to and shows affection. We are either looking or wanting to touch. We give subtle cues. It’s not just one glance. No. We will continuously look or try to touch. We can’t help it because we are attracted to that area. We will continue to focus there. The main area of attraction is your lips. It houses our nerves that stimulate our senses for pleasure.

It’s a place to show our connection. It sticks out on our face. The fat shape and plumps our lips up. The blood vessels give them their color. Rosy pink to red, just elicits desire and love. Even the shape of lips. From the cupid’s bow, to oval, curves, all reminiscent of a heart. All these subliminal draw us to think of lips as penchants for affections. It’s ingrained in us.

Hence, the reason why we are drawn in when we are attracted. Our lips are means of expressing our affections towards another person. It can be as small as romance/passion or strong as sexual attraction. It all depends on the situation, chemistry and type of kiss.

About The Lips And Why They Need Hydration

As this post is about kissing, will draw attention to the lips. Blood rushes to them, they are full of sensations. Nerves that are connected to sexual arousal and pleasure. You would consider this erogenous. They also contain tissue and fat, that give our lips shape and plumpness. Our lips are sensitive and need care.

Combine with their thinner skin exterior (more prone to cracking) and lack natural oil production. No moisture is hitting this area, preventing them from being naturally moisturized. We have to keep them lubed.

How To Keep Your Lips Hydrated, Water

They need to stay hydrated for peek oral health. How? Good old H20. Drink 8-10 glasses will keep them nice and plush. Now the debate, what’s better distilled or spring. Spring. Spring retains the natural nutrients we need for hydration, distilled doesn’t. Grab a bottle of spring water, keep them handy. Keep them away from the sun, you don’t want your plastic hitting the sun (toxic).

Also, filling up on foods with high water content. If you can’t stomach water, you can add lemon juice, lime, and fruit flavorant (zero-sugar). Watermelon is also excellent. Cantaloupe (personal childhood favorite,lol), celery, cucumbers, strawberries, spinach and lettuce. Filling up on a nice salad gets that hydration in, plus more nutrients! Rev up the metabolism, curb the cravings and get the toxins out.

Don’t Lick Your Lips

Also, try not to lick your lips. I know, you see a steaming pan of baked macaroni n cheese, you have to withhold! We have to keep on top of our friend. The saliva breaks down the enzymes that can damage the skin. Leaving your lips dry. We would think, what the heck, isn’t this moisture. It’s nature. It’s the same with water in your hair. If your hair becomes damp, it can dry out your hair. The water is stripping the natural oils in your hair. Why you need conditioner to put the moisture back in.

Exfoliate Lips With Sugar and Honey To Keep Them Moisturized

Keeping them exfoliated, at least twice a week. Our lips are notorious for dead skin build up. It must be removed. Who wants dry chapped and cracked lips. Not a good look. You want them soft, moisturized and plump for the big kiss. A good exfoliator is sugar and organic raw honey. The honey draws moisturizing and anti-flamatory properties. The sugar gently sloughs off the dead skin cells, leaving smooth and supple lips. Also great for the face too!

You can also mix coconut oil with sugar, the smell is amazing.

Natural Remedies To Keep Your Lips Hydrated

Our natural friends are something to have handy. You can use them for so many different things (saves money). They are effective and don’t contain any additives that affect their strength. They are healers and often, speed up the results. I’ve been using them for years and will never stop. Organic, 100% and raw is what I eye.

For our lips, we can use the following (make sure we are choosing 100%, organic and raw) :

• Coconut Oil
• Castor Seed Oil
• Almond Oil
• Aloe Vera
• Cucumber Seed Oil
• Grapeseed oil
• Avocado Oil
• Rosehip Oil
• Sunflower Seed Oil
• Jojoba Oil
• Honey
• Shea Butter

Rub a moderate amount into your lips. They will provide nutrients and keep them hydrated. You can grab some small travel size containers (Dollar Tree). Get dark colored containers (protect from the sun, keeping the nutrients in). Throw them in your bag, bookbag or saddle bag. You can grab them if you feel any dryness. Try not to get the value size containers unless you plan on using a lot of the product. You have to worry about expiration. Also, store in refrigerator if required. Check the labels for guidance.

You can also make your own lip balm. Get some organic beeswax and mix some of the oils (equal parts). You can also grab some lip balm from the stores. Opt for balms that are all natural, free from synthetics. Burt’s Bees, Aquaphor and Vaseline have some great choices.

Here is to well hydrated lips and amazing kisses!

Oral Care, You Bet

If you have perused this sight, you know most of my articles go in on hygiene and primarily oral care. It’s important. We use our mouth as a means of communication. Here is one of the articles for more tips.

As we are puckering up, you want to be fresh. No offense allowed. It makes a difference. You want to enjoy the experience. We need to keep on top of our oral care. Please give the article a read!

For Some, Physical Attraction Doesn’t Matter

For some, physicality isn’t important at all. You are looking for deep connection, someone you can bond with intelligently, spiritually, and emotionally. Sometimes financially and professionally are your requirements. You hit on all cylinders; you could care less on how you look. Who they are inside is the true beauty, it overrides their exterior. It drives you to be physically attracted. Who they are inside drives you wild. It shows on their exterior. I applaud those of you who are like this. You know what you want and have found that person. You are looking for true love and it’s not one side.

Both Sides Are Correct, As Long As True Love Is In The Mix

I do applaud both sides and both aren’t wrong. You found someone who is your taste. We are all different and have our tastes. You can’t change it. Only thing I raised is you’re not being imbalanced, and it turns out to be lust. There is no love at all. You are just looking at a person with wrong motives.

You concentrate on their looks, their performance in bed, or financial stability. For a while (around the mid 2000’s) getting with someone for financial gain was promoted. Suga momma and Sugar Daddies anyone. You guys weren’t afraid to let it out all. The problem…..

You’re only focus on one area, nothing more. You need someone to live with it, split the bills or to look at it. This is all one sided. Where is the love? Is there substance in the relationship. If not, you are prone to problems and just move on to the next.

Advice For Those Who Motives Are Off Track

These things don’t last. Your partner will pick up and become distant. Fussing and fighting ensues. The breakup comes next. Is this what we are living for? Yes, we all to have survive but we shouldn’t be looking at a person as just a good lay or a check. You are smart, intelligent and gifted, you can achieve your own goals. You can maintain your own independence and contribute equally to relationship. I don’t knock anyone who has a relationship where they depend on survival. That’s your choice. I just stress love to be in the mix. If you have kids or pets, we don’t want to be negatively affected. Be upstanding role models, live for your best, live with right motives. You can always turn it around. You can fall in love with the person.

How To Turn Superficiality Around Into True Love

How? By getting to know them. Push aside superficiality and get to know your partner. Spend time with them, conversate, enjoy time with them. Do your share to contribute to the relationship. Make sure you are clicking on all cylinders. They are the center of your heart. No one can take their place. You can’t see yourself with anyone else. Nothing can break your bond. You click and you feel it deep in your heart. The butterflies swoon every time you think or connect with them. You can do it.

So enough my soap box, we can get onto more insight on kissing. Well, for some who are new at or want to step up it up a notch, we will spell out how to do it. Let’s get into the steps.

1. A Partner Who You Love

To begin, it starts with a willing participant. Your partner. spouse, ride or die, however you call them. Then we can move to the next step.

2. A mood

There has to be a mood. A purpose must be established between you both. It has to be mutual.

Perhaps a steamy or romantic conversation just occurred. The flirting between you the two of you has level up the atmosphere. Love is in the air. So is your lips waiting to crash.

Another, you’re happy they are in your presence. They just stepped through the door after a long day or trip. You haven’t seen them all day, you miss them. You can’t wait to lay one on them.

You can also be lounging with your partner, watching a game or show. You play with them, lay on their chest. They rub your shoulder, stroke your hair, giving you all signs of affection. This can stir for you two lock lips.

A stroll in the park with you two holding hands. Light conversation and enjoying each other company. You can make an abrupt break, perhaps to run to rest room or to the car. Whatever the case, you don’t want to leave without showing some affection before you do. A light peck can reassure your partner your love and to keep you on your mind.

I think you get the gist. There has to be a buildup before the climax. Just jumping in is an instant killer. It isn’t a kiss if you ask me. It has to be a natural progression. Attraction and love must be in the air. It’s a natural gravitation built on chemistry. The situation is right, and sparks happen. Nothing forced, it’s all natural. Plays for a mind-blowing kiss!

3. Continue The Buildup With Some Touching Before Planting

I am advocate for exploring and building up. If I can get my hands on my partner as much as I can, I will. I hate jumping in anywhere. There is no thought involved, it’s just dead. There must be some life before anything. Some effort, some affection, romance darn it. If I am showing affection, I want it to be the best. I love you to death, let me express it. I don’t think of you as a friend but as lover. Your face was meant to be planting on. As well as other parts of your body. Let me keep it PG.

So, what are you getting at? Touch. Don’t immediately go in for the kiss. Touch your partner in strategic areas before you do.

You can stroke their face, trace their jaws with your fingers, ruffle and run your fingers through their hair. You can trace over their ears. You can use one or two! With two, you can use your thumbs and rub their cheeks slowly, then move your way down to their jaw line and then chest.

Lightly rub your fingers across their nose and forehead. You can hold their hands, even rub them (I really love this one). Admire their fingers, lightly rub each one of them.

If you can get the back of their neck and hair, do so. You can run your hands across their chest, shoulders and neck. You can straddle their lap or sit in it.

I am trying to keep it as PG as possible. You can do a light squeeze of their thighs or even rub them. Pinch them, give them a little wiggle.

Rub on the side of their neck, play with their ear then hold their head. Pull their head in (gently) to you and stroke the side of it. Then stroke the side of their face, rub your thumb across their cheek (s). Then slowly lick your lips and begin to kiss.

Just giving you options before you go in. Bringing out your inner romance that you didn’t know you had. There are so many options. I present a few options, so you get an idea to make your kisses amazing.

An Amazing Kiss Has A Buildup and Aftermath

It’s not about locking in, it’s about the buildup and the aftermath. There is affection before and after. Not just the kiss but what happens before and after. Affection should be going on. A whole lot of touching. You have hands, eyes, and lips. They should all be working in concert. You are not going to be stiff. You will be incorporating movement, passion. You will be doing a full performance. It’s all about communicating how much you love your partner.

Love is being exchange. Express it. If you’re so in love, you best believe your partner socks should be flying off. It is soft, passionate and firm. There is such passion when your lips unite. You’re expressing all that you feel.

If Your Not Passionate or Dull About Kissing It Will Show

If you’re not passionate or mum about your partner, it will show. A little peck here and the kisses are often rush. Like a chore. Wrong. Wrong and wrong.

Example, Kissing Should Never Be A Chore or Obligation

For example, your partner is going out the door to work. You are as well. You both have your jobs, kids, after work obligations on the mind. Anything but yourself. You make kissing before you head out a chore. Why? You have a million things on your mind, you’re in a rush and it’s became a habit. How will your kisses come out, dull. Just part of the routine. No emotion, no butterflies, no heart. You never want affection to become a habit.

Kissing Is Something You Love To Do, You’re Communicating Your Affection

It’s not a chore or something your obligated to do, it’s something you LOVE to do. It’s part of you. It brings you love, joy, peace, and happiness. I am communicating my feelings from my heart. I need it, I crave it, I want to give my all. I want to connect with my partner. I want to feel their energy. I want to be one with them. Give my heart every time.

Not Going To Be Perfect Every time But It Should Never Be A Habit

Now, I am not expecting every time to be perfect, but it should never be a habit. Ever. Other things can start to be a habit and routine. When things become habitual, you start to lose feeling, energy and love for the action. This isn’t where we want to go with your partner.

Questions To Ask If Your Relationship Becomes A Habit

If this comes a point in your relationship, sit down with your partner. Have a discussion. Figure out what is going on. Has everything become a priority over your relationship? Have you both become to busy? Is their hidden secrets that should be shared? Is there some undercover issues that isn’t being addressed? Is their a slow mutual separation going on?

Go Over These Questions With Your Partner And Address

Go over these questions. Address immediately. By addressing immediately, you can combat things before they spiral out of control. Be transparent. For instance, perhaps your spouse has had a wandering eye, feeling guilty. The guilt has caused them to grow cold. The reason things have become stale. If they raise, you can come to an understanding.

Hear Your Partner Out, Try To Work It Out If Anything

Now, before you fly off the handle, hear them out. Ask them questions. Find out why? Was a momentarily slip up, temptation got the best or something else? Keep asking questions, see if you can come to a common ground. Through it all, remain calm. I know, it’s hard but you must. You don’t want to make things worse.

Yes, you are hurt and feel a lack of trust. Still, you have to remain strong. Not asking you to be a pushover. Far from no. Just hear them out. You have a right to set your power base. Let them know your stance on the situation. Just ask to discuss before any serious decisions are made. Always try to compromise. You know, follow your heart. I never will promote being a pushover, ever. If it’s on a serious level, then make that decision. You have to protect yourself and your family. You don’t want to set yourself up for further hurt and problems. Be strong and know, you will get through it. You will be stronger than ever. Just keep to your powerbase at all times.

If Your Partner Is Transparent And Honest, Good Signs

As long as your partner is transparent and honest, give them brownie points. Perhaps you can come to a common ground and work things out. Your partner feels guilt, that is a good sign. He feels guilty because he knows it will hurt you. It shows that he truly loves and cares for you. If he didn’t, he would be out the door with the next one. No, he is still there with you.

If They Feel Guilt, Good Sign They Love And Care For You

We all make mistakes, we are human. Perhaps the reason why he kept it a secret is because he was afraid of your reaction. Losing you. All good signs. If they didn’t and just aloof about things, a big red flag. The connection is gone.

You can work through this. Now, you don’t have to try and overcompensate to make sure things don’t happen again. It wasn’t on your end. No keep being yourself. What you can do is talk through it. See if your partner comes to the terms and vows, they will never do it again. A lesson learn. Well, didn’t want to get off track but bring a sense of realism.

Back to subject at hand…

Let’s get into techniques to plant the big one.

How To Kiss

Detailed Instructions And How To Do It Well Every time

The mood is set, the head is coming near. The eyes are locked. There is a momentary drift of the eyes down to the lips. The eyes start to close. The heads tilt(opposite to one another) and then boom your lips meet. Now let’s talk about the parts of your lips you will mostly be using. It will be the inner center part of your lips (closest to your teeth) not the top of your lips. This will help you perform movement and sucking action. So when you crash your lips, don’t concentrate on the top of your lips. This will be hard to cover any area on your partner’s lips. Aim towards the inner center of your mouth and you will be good.

Psychology On Why We Tilt Our Heads When We Kiss

Now before we move on, you may ask, why do your heads tilt to the sides. The answer, so your noses wont crash into each other. Now, you can go straight ahead without the tilt. Your partner or yourself may have to move a little up or down. The goal is to move any obstructions out the way. We have our noses.

The goal is to make everything comfortable, free from obstruction. It may be kind of hard to kiss your partner if they have a big spoon in their mouth. Although, you can gently guide it out, lick the back off it. Place it gently down. Then stroke their face and go in for a kiss. Just giving an analogy.

Once your lips are planted, you may press then a little softer into your partner’s lips. They may reciprocate. Then you start to move your lips in circular motions. You can do short/ slow strokes or long/slow strokes. Vary it up and do mostly long/slow. This type of pattern is more passionate, you are letting your partner know you want to devour each part of their lips not just specific parts.

How To Kiss Continued

Utilize Every Part Of The Lips, Make Use Of Pecks And Sucking

You can vary it up by going to the upper lip and bottom lip. You can do light sucking of the lips. You can move all over the lips, may light kiss on top center of the lips. You can also do a light suck followed by a light peck there as well. You can kiss the corners, the bottom part. You can lightly start sucking the bottom part of the lip. This can drive anyone crazy. You can lick across their lips followed by a nice kiss.

Switch head positions (don’t want to cause any crooks). You can do continuous pecks in the center of their mouth then go in for the kill again. The pecks should involve using the inner center part of your lips with circular motion. There should be light sucking motions.

What You Should Be Thinking Of Lips As To Help Be An Effective Kisser

We all have our favorite foods, drinks or desserts. Whatever we do, we can’t get them out our mind. We can’t wait until they are in your mind. For me a chocolate eclair, how can you not eat the whole box. The combination of flavors just drives my senses. I take my time to savor each bite. Whenever I am down, I turn to these suckers.

You want to think of your partner’s lips as delights. That you can’t wait to match your lips with their. You want to explore each part of them. Savor softness, the taste, the sensations that you feel. This is an extension of your partner. This is how I can connect. You aren’t doing to impress, you are doing it because you are attracted. Mentally and physically, you are highly attracted. You can help but want to devour those lips. I love you so much. You are like my favorite tasty treat. I want to adore and love you. Let’s embrace in passion.

How Movement Of Your Hands In Other Areas Of The Body Deepens The Kiss

If you have this in your mind, you will be good every time. You won’t fail. You have to build positivity. So when you kiss, everything will come naturally. You will naturally gravitate to placing your hand on the back of your partner’s head, rubbing the back of their hair. The base of their neck. Stimulating affection and arousal. This helps the kiss so much. You are indulging in multiple ways to drive affection.

You can hold their hands, rub on chest/back, the cheeks and the front of their neck. This can help keep you both sturdy while motion is going on. Also provide more affection, there is nothing like touch. You are communicating your love. The more touch, the more display of affection is shown. Who doesn’t love more affection. It helps deepen the kiss because more emotion is being expressed.

My personal favorite is first, a kiss is planted on the forehead, nose, chin, and cheeks. Then the corners of the mouth, multiple times. Then some quick pecks to the mouth before full on kissing begins. This is to die for. You must try please!

Tongue Kissing Will Leave You On Cloud 9

Start With A Little Personal Storytime

Now before we get into this, give you a little more story time to connect. I rarely talk about my mom, lol. We have a bond but not as much as my grandmother. If you know my mom, she isn’t talkative type. She keeps to herself and I to myself. We were never to talk about things on a close level. I don’t know any of her personal business and I would like to keep it that way.

One thing is her relationships. I am not a nosy bot, what you do with your spouse is your personal business. I respect your privacy, and I simply don’t care. When I was younger, she sprung this on me. I didn’t ask but I guess she felt guilty for not telling anything about my dad. I all I knew that he had a good personality, nice and was good in math, lol.

I would never press, that is your personal business, whatever happen between you to. I didn’t want to know. One thing she told me is that “your dad couldn’t kiss.” I just left it there, lol. My mom knows how tell a story with the best faces, lmao. Now, this post isn’t inspired by this. I just instantly thought of this.

Ease up on my man. He must of been good enough to continue on. I don’t know his side of the story; it doesn’t make him less of anything. So, the moral of the story is, never get on someone if they are lacking. You can guide them in a nice and diplomatic way. I want you to have amazing experiences.

How To Tongue Kiss, Lights Out

Now that the motion is set, you can slightly tease your tongue across your partner’s lips (vice versa). This will give them the hint to part their lips and for your tongues to merge. Now before engaging in tongue action, please, don’t do the sloppy hoppy. I am talking extending your tongue way too long. No. Your partner mouth isn’t a football field. It doesn’t need an overexaggerate extension. Just a generous amount and slowly move in slow/medium circular strokes. Like a gear going in motion. Lightly press your lips together to lightly suck your partner’s tongue. Swirl your tongue in your partner’s mouth. Lick across their lips before continuing the process. Just like kissing, you will get a natural rhythm going on. Want you start kissing, it will develop on its own. If you combine all of the steps outline, it can go into full on make out sessions. If you need to catch your breath. That is where extending affection on other parts of the body or little pecks come in. Then when you’re ready, you can continue.

As long as you try not to bite their tongue. Stick to doing love bites (little gentle bites that incite flirt). It’s all about balance.

Don’t Use Too Much Saliva

You also don’t want to use too much saliva. It’s an instant killer. Your kisses are just too sloppy and ruins the mood. Also, don’t spend too much doing tongue, it can wear out. It’s all about balance. You can take a break and extend other affection and come back. I know it’s enjoyable but let it come naturally. Everything must be balanced. Never do too much, it goes into trying to impress. No, let nature take its course. Use the other techniques outline. There so much to do with the lips. You can trace your fingers across them. Trace little hearts, I love you or your name across them.

There you have it, a lesson on how to be a great kisser. If you follow these tips, you will have your partner begging for more. They can’t wait to you hit the door. No matter what, they need those sugar dreams on them. Remember, to take your time and exercise passion. We all are born with a natural sexual prowess, let it all out. I know you will be confident everytime.

How Do I Practice Kissing

For starters, I don’t want this to be awkward. I know, you want to be best kisser for your partner. It would be safe to say, not a good choice. The goal is to be ready to kiss your partner, not practice on them. If you are not up to practicing with them, you have option. These options aren’t embarrassing. No one will know, just yourself. We all have to start somewhere. No one came out the womb knowing how to kiss. You had to start somewhere. If it’s first kiss or not, you started. What happens, you learn as life goes on. I want you to get the stigma out the way that practicing isn’t cool. It is cool. It’s private, your personal business and at the end, you will be a good kisser. No one has to know the journey.

Peach Or Back Of The Hand

So on to the aids. You can use a peach (make sure ripe/soft) or the back of your hand. You will probably have to use both or just your hand. It will be hard to try to do any tongue kissing action on the peach. It will be easier on the hand. Repeat the steps outlined. Practice until you master the techniques.

If you’re a visual learner, you can look at YouTube tutorials. Observe the techniques. This can help you as well.

So this completes this lesson on kissing. I know things will be different and for the best. Kissing is amazing, you can’t get enough of it. I want you to be bold, confident and have fun everytime. Leave your partner in amazement, begging for the next one. That is when you know you are good. It’s not just being good, but you are truly connected to your partner. There is no better feeling. Besides the swooning butterflies all around, there is just a change in ambiense. Things change, the temperature rises and the love deepens. With every kiss, things get better. It’s an amazing feeling, that is why I want you to the very best. Experience love in action. Kiss away! Now onto another kissable area, the neck.

Don’t Forget The Neck Needs Love Too

Then you have your partner’s neck. Another area that is prime for the kill. Just like the lips, the neck is full of nerves and stimuli, set for sexual arousal. Plus the blood vessels. The neck also connects your face and chest. On a woman, this really is something. You have your neck, collarbone, cleavage and breast. The neck is a tease to lead down to either your face or the cleavage. It’s a draw. Also, on a man. It draws to your broad shoulders and your pecs. Then upwards, to your square jaw and face. It’s the connector just oozing sexual arousal. Why? It is closely connected to top areas of sexual arousal.

In tandem to these reasons, it’s a way to bring more excitement to your intimacy. We don’t concentrate on just one area. No. We want to do a full explatory of our partner. There is so much to do, I want you all. I love every part of you, let me show you.

How To Kiss And Suck Passionately On The Neck

Now onto the neck. Just like the lips, you can set the plan in motion. You can do stroking of the neck, trace with your finger. You can lick all over, followed by kisses. Then you can do passion kisses all over. Start lightly sucking on the neck. Use your tongue in a flirty manner and suck passionately. Just like you’re passionately kissing, you perform on the neck.

Work all areas of the neck. Work the base and don’t forget underneath the chin area. Kiss this area passionately. Work your way up to their ear. Whisper seductively in it. Let them know how much you love them. Tease their nickname, whatever. There should be talking if you’re near the ear. It’s smooth, slow and sensually. Stroke the back of the neck and hair.

You can end with moving your way back up and some more kissing. My personal recommendation. You just don’t want to stop, transition. Move onto somewhere else, continue the passion. No stopping and going.

How To Cover Those Pesky Marks On The Neck

Now, as we know, some marks may arise. It’s the blood vessels rushing into one place. If you don’t want to draw attention, you can wear clothing to cover it up. Turtleneck and if not cold weather season, there is high neck options to have in your closet.

Also, you can foundation or makeup for cover up. Dust on some translucent setting powder and setting spray on top (so it won’t transfer on your clothes or body). Use Ben Nye or Mac Studio Fix Plus Spray. You can wear tops that won’t go close to the makeup. You should be set.

You can also wear your hair down and strategically. Perhaps a side ponytail to hide the side it’s on. You can intergrate extensions into your hair.

No one will ever know, wink.

Extra Tips I Should Know

Work Your Mouth Muscles

It’s not a requirement but an option. It’s cool to keep your mouth muscles going with stretches and exercise. It helps to shape your jawline and cheekbones. It also loosen your muscles. Keeping them agile for the big smooch. You don’t have to do this everyday. 2-4 times a week is enough. Once again, optional.

You can rotate your mouth in slow circles. Try to do it in reverse. This can help you be more creative when you kiss. It’s improving your coordination and motor skills.

Open and shut your mouth. To perform, slowly open your mouth (count to 5) hold for 3 seconds and slowly shut (count to 5). Try to hold your neck up while doing this. Will help with a double chin.

Move your tongue left to right then right to left. Then move your tongue in circles.

Conduct puckers. To conduct, push out your lips into puckers (like a blowfish).

Happy stretching!

If You Wear Lipstick or Gloss

You see the Maybelline commercials. Your lipstick won’t wipe off on clothes or on the glass. If life is only so simple. We wear gloss and lipstick to enhance our lips, provide style and draw attention to our lips. To enhance the beauty and allure. To draw in for the kiss.

If you are a makeup geek, you know it can run you a pretty penny. For my Sephora, Macy’s and Ulta counter enthusiasts we know not to mess with our tables. Tables filled with Mac, Estee Lauder, Urban Decay, Fenty Beauty and Elf. We have kazillion brushes, powders and lippies. We need one when we want to look rebellious, sophisticated, or bold. We always have our go to one, always running near the rim. Depotting season.

Our lippie game continues to evolve. We have gotten smart. When you have a $30 Mac lipstick, you want to stretch the bad boy. So, how do we look good without our product ending all over our partner? Well, prep.

1. Before you start, exfoliate your lips. Make sure they are hydrated. Use coconut oil and sugar scrub. Can also do a honey and sugar scrub. Don’t over exfoliate. 1-2 times a week is enough. Do for 30-1 minute. Use in circular motion and rinse in luke warm water.
2. You want to follow up with moisturizing your lips. Use an all-natural lip balm. Coconut Oil, Shea Butter, Cocoa Nut Oil, Honey and Beeswax. These staples keep your lips hydrated. They also help provide even coverage and minimize creases and lines. Also prolongs the use of your lipstick.
3. Use a good lip primer. This also helps to create a smooth pallet for your lipstick.
4. Apply your lipstick in thin layers. No thick layers, allowed. This allows the lipstick to set in, eliminating excess coming off. What you do is put on very thin layer. Then blot with a piece of napkin to remove any excess. You can use a soft brush or napkin. Then repeat the cycle with another light layer. Repeating the same steps. If you need a third layer, repeat. Then top with light dusting of translucent powder and setting spray. Then let set for a 30 seconds-2 minutes. Can test by blotting against piece of paper towel. This should help.
5. What you choose matters. We have options. There are some products we should be looking at for certain circumstances. When you are thinking about not transferring, you have to turn to the big guns. This includes lip mask, lip stains, and long wear formulas. They have special ingredients that prevent any transfering without drying out your lips. If you don’t have any, check out your neighborhood counter for a sample. Try it on and see how it works. With makeup, always ask for samples or for consultation, it can help you so much. Save on your pennies.

Conclusion

If you are the hunt or have your special someone, cherish it. It’s amazing to experience a deep connection with someone. One of the paths is kissing. I want you to be confident when it comes to the pucker. It’s something to relish in and enjoy. It’s not a habit or something that should meaningless. Absolutely not. You only have so much time on this earth, don’t waste it. With every kiss, things should get deeper. It should be something you look forward to. It lingers, it makes your heartbeat, it makes you feel special.

There is nothing experiencing butterflies the entire day after an amazing kiss. No one can tell you nothing. Nothing can ruin your day. You feel like the most amazing person ever. What did I do to deserve this. It all comes to mental and passion. You have to enjoy what you are doing. You have to truly love the person. Everything goes out the window, I just want to connect with you. Feel you next to me. Love every bit of you. Talk, touch and adore you. This is what it’s all about.

Hope the tips presented help you in all areas of your life. You are on the path to an amazing love life. It all begins with you. I am drawing out things you never knew you had. Enjoy the experience while you are here on this earth. Pucker up and knock em dead!

How do you feel about kissing? Have any good or bad kissing experiences? Any kissing tips you would like to share with me? Feel free to leave your comments below.