We live in a world where we are more interconnected. Yes, we have the Internet, connecting us with people from all over the world. I know, you must have heard this statement a kazillion times. I raise it because it’s something to think about. If you are social, you’re probably connected with strangers who have become your “friends.” If it wasn’t for the good old Internet, would you have bonded, no. You are thankful. It broadens your horizon to have an outlet where you can expand your mind. Open up to different cultures and perspectives. Learn things you didn’t know you would.  You have someone you can joke with, vent, discuss your favorite sports, and current events. Through it all, we are interacting with more people more than ever. You are one click away from your next connection without having a high bill. It’s kind of cool. 

We also can connect with someone romantically without a moment’s notice. You never know if the love bug can hit through this interaction. It can happen suddenly. You may start off as a simple engagement through social media then all of sudden boom, you notice something is in the air. Where is this coming from? A weekly mutual connection all of sudden turns around into something more. You come to learn their commonalities, their vibe, personality, likes, dislikes, and their viewpoints on the world. You realize this person has something going on that I like. Even though I wasn’t looking, I realized they fit my ideal type. My ideal type a little bit too perfectly. Yes, you may live across the country but that doesn’t stop anything, there is a connection. 

A connection that should be explored and hope is mutual. You know deep down this is the one, eventhough you truly don’t know them on a deep level. It doesn’t matter, this is why we have  dating. There is attraction and something you hope to explore.  To see if there is a mutual deep connection. You feel if everything aligns, you two will be perfect for each other. Through all the conversations and exchanges, you know in your heart you can hit it off on a romantic level. You feel it. It’s a feeling that can’t escape. You have a soft spot, you can’t let this one get away. How can we explore this? What should I do? How do I know if there is attraction? All good questions. 

Well.. it can get kind of complicated why? Fear. We fear the unknown. We also fear rejection. Especially if it is someone we really adore. Let’s bring forth an example. Let’s go to my celebrity list. Ahhh… my list is interesting. Chris Evans vs Justin Timberlake, let’s go with Justin for this one, lol. Yes, I was a Nsync head. Justin with the curls, sass and the dance moves, how can you not. You can’t take me away from a Nsync video, they must be #1 on TRL or else. Homework moved to the side once I heard “ain’t no lie, bye, bye, bye.” I can imagine how devastated I would be if Justin rejected me. Hide the windows, curtains, doors and walls from my footprints. It would take awhile but I would still bump the songs. 

Bring all of this up to say, it can be hard when you develop true feelings for someone. It’s one sided. You have no clue about the other person’s perspective. They probably don’t know that they have a secret admirer. When you have vested feelings, you don’t want to be hurt. You want to see if there is something more with this person or want to be with this person. There is an attraction. They meet your checklist. However, you develop is a matter of your personality. Let’s delve on how you may develop your criteria for attraction. 

Experiences That Form Your Perspectives On Who You May Be Attracted To 

Have you ever questioned how you developed your taste? Why you are attracted to certain people and not others? It can be a number of environmental cues. Some are subtle and some not so. Let’s get into some of them. 

Culture

Culture Influences On Your Attraction

Culture can play a huge factor in who you are attracted to. For some, it is custom to stay within your own culture. Also, you may just naturally prefer staying in your own culture. It’s safer. It may be harder to try and pursue someone out of your culture. Why? They may be thinking the same thing. Perhaps they aren’t open to dating someone from my culture. I don’t want to be rejected. I may not be able to understand your cultures, traditions, vibe, I am a little intimidated. It is just easier to stick to my own culture.

Interracial Dating Is Here To Stay

 We have come a long way and interracial dating has never been more popular. These barriers have been lifted. We are more open and more free. It’s liberating that our generation isn’t looking at color. A factor. More people of color have become educated and have moved up the corporate ladder. They have become more successful. This has opened their horizons to the dating world. This success has become an attractive quality to other races. There is a mutual exchange of qualities that is worth exploring, let us broaden our horizons. 

No longer are you the shy “white man” afraid to approach the intimidating “black woman.” You appreciate her sass, strong nature, sense of humor and curious to see what this “head rag” is in person. 

Reasons Why You Prefer Your Own Culture

You just might have an outright attraction to your own culture. It’s your preference. It could be the skin color, features, cultural traditions, or hair. It’s just your preference. It might be subject of influence from your upbringing. It can be either family or your neighborhood. This was all you see, what you are accustomed to. You may want someone who is reminiscent of your dad. 

Now, I am not saying you find your dad “physically attractive.” Not at all. Just, that you may have a strong bond with your dad. You want someone just like him. This can influence who you are attracted to.

This can affect your choice of wanting to stick to someone in your culture. You just notice your culture tickles your senses. You just can’t see yourself with someone outside your culture. It can be subject of what you are taught.

Your Family Upbringing Can Influence

If your family tells you to grow and marry a strong “insert your culture.”, that can influence you. There is nothing like “insert your culture.”, they understand us.” ” They will know how to do your child’s hair.” “Others can’t understand us like our own.” If you hear this constantly, this can shape your taste. Also, your family choices for partners in their relationships.  Any taboos or stereotypes about them can leave a bad taste in your mouth. This can leave you wanting to choose someone in your race. 

Entertainment Can Influence Your Taste

What you watch on t.v. can influence as well. Seeing countless relationships where you notice they are staying in their culture. Here and there, you will see interracial relationships, but the majority are of the same cultures. We have expanded and you’re now seeing more movies, commercials and shows featuring interracial romances.

If You Want To See A Perfect Example of Interracial Romance Done Right, Scandal

Is this an excuse to get into one of my favorite shows, Scandal. You bet. Yes, I talked about Scandal in a previous article. It’s an addicted show and must say, the cast, what did we do to deserve you. I don’t condone cheating, but this is t.v., not reality. President Fitz and Olivia, a pairing. You can’t deny there is some extreme chemistry between the two. From there interactions to the way they look at each other, there was so much chemistry. They brought cool to interracial romance. It was natural and brought a sense of life to t.v. We aren’t limiting ourselves to the dating pool, we are human first, what is color. I love it is liberating! 

A Little On My Personal Preference 

For me, I have always been open to all colors. I don’t see color at all. I’ve formed my own opinion. My family, upbringing and the entertainment world has zero influence on my taste. Absolutely zero. I have a strong stance to form my opinion, not to go along with the crowd. I don’t care what others may think, I have to live for myself. I have to pay my bills, go to my employment, keep the refrigerator full, not someone else.

It’s whatever tickles my senses. I see beauty in all cultures, but I do have my preference. I am not limited but have my eye set on one person. I don’t see zero color at all. I love the vibe, the dorkiness, intelligence, dimples, smile, sense of humor, humbleness, the meek demeanor and drumroll…the big heart! No bigger sweetheart I tell you.

Now, before I met this big dork, I had sort of a different criteria. I like a guy with a little edge, bad boy to the heart. Brown hair, big puppy eyes and square jaw, my ultimate weakness. Yes, I love for you to be nice but have a little edge. Not afraid to be tough, strong and a little rugged around the edges. Who I have my eyes on is far from one but there is a little edge that I adore. I don’t miss anything and it’s such a plus. First and foremost, I ask you to be you. Never someone else. You put it out there you aren’t the one for confrontation. I respect that. I don’t expect you to tumbling out the saloon every night. I love that you are strong and stand by your values.

That pushes you to the top. You have flavor, your hip to the culture. I value honesty and transparency over everything. We have so much in common, from our likes to some of our upbringing, to our fitness background, we just click. Plus the love of food! If you know me I can polish a whole pizza without a hitch. I can’t compete with his appetite, champ at competitive eating. Even though I have lost a lot of weight and don’t want to put it back on, I still have that big appetite that will put a whole football squad to shame.

I don’t know what it is particularly about him, but I just light up every time I see him. I lose focus on everything. I can’t help but smile. I love everything about him. He fits my physical type but more importantly, my emotional type. A big heart, very mild manner, independent, innocent, strong, intelligent, compassionate, athletic, keeps to himself and has mind of his own. He is unique and just checks marks on all areas of my signs of attraction and more. No one will surpass him and hope to one day, walk down the aisle with him. He just doesn’t know it yet but it’s the goal. He is the prime reason why I breathe. Now before I go on, I am very self-sufficient and independent. I am not the type to depend on a spouse. With him, its different. It’s a deeper connection I can’t explain. He is husband, best friend, coach and teacher all wrap into one.

Yes I am leo but regardless, I am a loyal chic. I believe in loyalty. Once I set my eyes on you, you will be in my heart. It will take a lot to sever ties. Through it all, I know I found the one. Its crazy how it happened but I am glad it happen. No one will surpass him at all and believe it can be reciprocal. With all our exchanges, its amazing chemistry. Time will only tell if things can go the right direction. I believe heavily that we should be together period. We just mesh. The chemistry is crazy and genuine.

I say all to say, trust your heart and not your head. Don’t rely just on the exterior because that can get you in trouble. Get to know the person. See if they match your criteria. Someone you can see yourself with for the long run. As humans, we are made to socialize. We all have needs. It is up to you discover your needs and find a partner who will fit your criteria. They don’t have to fit all your criteria but mesh with your lifestyle. We have one life to live. Don’t be shy about what you want. You don’t want that special person to get away. Have fun in life and go after what you love. Follow your heart and most importantly, be careful! We have all types of people in the world. You have to due your homework as well. If you see red flags, don’t let them slide. No one is that special. You have to protect yourself and your family. Be smart, especially in the dating world.

Hobbies, Interests, And Personality Draw You In

Yes, having a mutual interests can draw you into a person. You can have a buddy to challenge, have fun with or learn from. Perhaps art or cooking is a huge passion of yours. You sure would love to have someone with the same passion. You can have amazing discussions, cook/do art together, learn new techniques, go to certain events.

These hobbies aren’t something that is a passion but come with more meaning. Perhaps it’s therapeutic or helps with your brain functioning. Prevents boredom, gets you excited about life. Looking forward to baking your favorite pie or checking out a new Cornish hen recipe excites you like no other. You also have a buddy to interact with, make the time go by more smoothly. It can be your time to express affection, heightening the passion. Perhaps these activities are your trade.

All the people you are surrounded with are in this trade. You will naturally gravitate to someone because of constantly being in that community. It may be mutual for the other person as well. I would love to be with someone in my community. It makes it easier for both of you because, this is your niche.

There personality may be a winner for you. For some, you don’t care what your partner looks like, they must have a personality. Yes, this was thrown around for a while on talk shows as advice. You shouldn’t care what a person looks like, it is how they treat you. Do they have a personality. If they do, they will be more caring, fun and exciting. Beauty is only skin deep, what is going on the inside.

So, if you weren’t aware before, I hope this an eye-opening experience for you. The purpose is to draw out all the subtle factors that determine your taste. Evaluate yourself and what type of person you are looking for. What are their traits, habits, lifestyle, economic status, educational history, family values, physical traits, and spirituality. Hopefully this opens up the door for you to find someone you can share a mutual bond. Perhaps you love tennis or football. Having someone who also shares this passion by your side, sign me up. Attending the courts or a game might be an effective strategy. Hopping on social media or forums could be another. Whereever your interest gravitates to, seek those avenues. You are bound to find someone who will strike your attention. Good luck.

Now that we have gone over external factors that may shape your taste, you may be inquisitive on the signs of attraction. How can I tell if someone is attracted to me? Is this flirting or just platonic. Speaking of platonic, as we previously mentioned, there is no sign of romantic or sexual attraction. It’s just purely diplomatic. What I will be referring is romantic. You are interested with a person on a deeper level of love that involves intimacy. Primarily sexual attraction. So where do we begin… how about the physicality.

How Do You Know If Someone Is Attracted

Yes, the physicality. We have eyes and what do we do with them, we look, watch and observe. You may not realize it but you are picking up many subtle cues into your brain. Keeping your brain and senses working. Sometimes, an alert goes off. Your senses go completely bonkers. You don’t know what is going on. Temperature rises, a smile forms across your face, your voice lowers, gets softer, your eyebrows raise, your eyes lower into a gaze. You start to fix your hair, get shy and listen to every word that is said. You get fixate on your target. All of a sudden, you are scanning their entire physique, observing everything. It’s just natural. You like what you see. Yes, I am explaining the signs of attraction. Also, signs to recognize if someone is attracted.

Let’s take this piece by piece shall we.

As we previously discussed, our environmental factors often shape our taste. We all have a list of requirements and if someone matches perfectly, they are prime target on your attraction meter. It can be their physique, eye color, smile, height, personality, nose, or hair. Whatever your flavor, savor it! So, once you check your marks, go for it.

So now that we know what factors shapes our taste, we can determine what cues we can spot if someone is attracted to you. You ever heard the term the “body don’t lie” it’s true. No matter what you do, you can’t hide the truth if you are attracted. The radar goes off, things suddenly change. You get perplexed, fascinated and intrigued. It’s part of our nature. Part of our survival. We were made to mate, be with someone. We all have hormones. It’s life. So it all begins with signs. Let’s get into the first one. Body Language.

Body Language

Mirror, mirror who is the fairest one of them all. A classic childhood line. We pattern after what we like. The same is true for attraction. If you notice, you shift your body position in the same direction of the person. If the person is sitting on the left, you shift your body to the left. If they are sitting in the center and you are sitting in the right, you will move towards the center.

Now, for our Legend of Zelda Oscarina of Time geeks, you know there is a cut scene where Link has to face a doppelganger of himself. As you notice, every move Link does, his doppelgänger mirrors perfectly. It’s amazing but frustrating at the same time, why? You have to defeat him. With him anticipating and blocking your every move, how can you bring this foe down. It’s all about strategy and I often think of this scene in the game. Spider Man also has this same problem in the comics.

Although these two examples are antagonist, you want to watch out for this same vibe. Primarily, when you want to detect if a person is attracted to you. They love your vibe and everything about you. They start to mimic you. They are admiring you and subtly want to draw closer to you. How do we do it, through body language. We draw to what we like. We will face it, admire it. We want to be in union with it. Your senses and pheromones are colliding. Your chemistry is sinking with that person. You want to know that person intimately and how do you achieve this? By positioning yourself in their direction. You wouldn’t sit opposite of that person or face their back. The communication would be quite awkward, lol. It’s a sign of no interest and disconnect. No, you will face towards them. It’s all about the same direction. The chemistry is strong; you want to know and observe everything about that person. It’s a union, a bond.

There is no better sign than body language. It comes subtly without you knowing it. If you want to know if someone is interested in you, they will face you. They will want to touch you, lean or move towards you, face you, ask questions to learn more about you, and want to be near you.

Let’s get more in-depth on some of the kings of body language. Let’s start with the king of the mountain, eye contact.

Eye Contact, The eyes don’t lie

The eyes, they are the window of our souls. If you are into sales/marketing (like myself), you know eye contact is crucial in your career. It is a sign of trust and can make or break a sale.

As a top sales professional, you know communication is key. Not only knowing your product (inside and out) but eye contact. Eye contact is pinnacle with your prospects. Having a good sense of humor, care and knack to engage in conversation (get to know your prospect and pain points) will all have you winning sales. As I help prospects every week with problems with their home and gutters, I know this is all the right formula to win them over. As the prospects I run into aren’t having their parts of their home on their mind, my job is draw it right out of them. All the while, having fun with them. Getting to know them, their problems and engaging in eye contact. Relating to them as a homeowner.

I know eye contact is the win, because the prospects are signing up for our top of the line services. I am earning their trust, you know your stuff about the home. Going a little further in providing advice on saving on home insurance, will preparation, painting, interior decorating, lawn and other home advice. A walking HGTV. I tell them my background. Since a kid, I have had a passion for the home, primarily interior design. I have studied the nuances of homes, from the design to the workings of it. It’s a strong passion.

I love the thought of sprucing up the house with a white throw or updating the windows if I hear a littling creaking/breeze. When I am educating customers on the importance of having clean and right aligned gutters (got keep your homes safe and dry), I am engaging in direct eye contact. I don’t want anyone to shell out 10,000 of dollars from having to pump out water due to basement flooding.

Also, to our elderly friends, I want to keep you off the ladder. I know you are self-sufficient, but you are more susceptible to injuries (due to frail bones because of aging). 1 out 4 elderly die due to accidents related to being on a ladder. I don’t want any prospect to encounter a fall. Keeping eye contact is crucial. I want to earn your trust. I am not looking at them as a sale but protecting their health and safety.

As I went through this little lesson on eye contact, I just want to show you how eye contact is important in your professional life. It is also the same in attraction. You want to earn the trust of the person you are attracted to. You also want to communicate your interest, desire and yes, there is chemistry. Hey, I am interested in you. I desire to look at you, you fit my criteria for attraction. The difference between platonic eye contact (as I went through with my example as a sales/marketing professional) is the dilation of the eyes.

Eyes Linger A Little Bit Too Long, A Winning Sign

When you’re interested in a person romantically, your eyes will linger a little bit longer. Your eye lids lower a little in a seductive gaze. You would consider it flirty/you are in love gaze. Your pupils dilate (center of your eyes enlarge). Your stimuli are stimulated which produces the enlargement of your eyes. Yes, you are excited. You also start to observe and gaze over their eyes.

Scan The Face

Then you work to entire face. This is key if you notice a person observing your entire face, particularly your eyes and lips. Your eyes connect you to the next person. Your lips also communicate your desire, your love for that person and You are observing every part because you are attracted. It’s a natural reaction part of human nature to observe what we are attracted to. If you notice this with a person, it’s a sign.

If you notice a person scan your entire face and linger a little long at looking at your lips, it’s another sign. They desire to kiss you. They find your face very pleasing to their eye. You match their physical description. For example, for us ladies, we see a man with the classic “Superman” square jaw (respect to Christopher Reeves….don’t kill me Henry Cavill…wink)! It represents masculinity, strength, endurance. You just want to trace your fingers around it.

Rugged Appeal

It just makes a man rugged, strong and appealing. Also, some of us love a bit of facial hair. A well-groomed beard or five o clock shadow, beware! For some of us, a little unkempt is a sign of attraction. It can be the hair, eyebrows or facial hair. You can’t help but have your eyes linger. How it shapes the man face, brings out a masculine appeal.

The Fairest Of Them All

For men, you observe a woman’s eye, the flair of her hair and the plumpness of her cheeks and lips. You also go a little further to observing her shapes. You observe her curves in many ways.

Eyebrows Are A Hidden Gem

Speaking of shaping a face, let’s start with a top tier player, the eyebrows. Not only are they your protective gate from weather elements but shape your face. For some of us women, we love a man with thick eyebrows. I call them werewolf eyebrows. It just screams masculinity. It also helps frame the eyes better, just my personal observation.

Eyebrows Lead to Forehead, Sign Of Beauty

For men, women having arched and well groomed eyebrows are the cats meow. It helps shape the eye and draw attention to the forehead, a sign of beauty. Yes the forehead. For some ladies, if you have a big one, it can be a little intimidating. It doesn’t mean receding hairline. In some cultures, its a sign of beauty. Embrace your beauty and shape your eyebrows to draw attention to your eyes.

Tip To Thick Eyebrows

Also, thick eyebrows on a female is a sign of femineity and is highly coveted. I will put in a personal tip to thicken your eyebrows naturally. Massage. Try a little Jamaican black castor oil or extra virgin oil of your choice. Massage 5-10 minutes (slow circular motion) each day. You will have think eyebrows in no time. You can also do the same to achieve longer eyelashes. Put a little oil on your eyelash base (be careful not to get in your eye). Massage base of your lid for 5-10 minutes per day. You will have thicker and longer eye lashes. Say goodbye to the false lashes. You can’t help but want to run your fingers over them.

Wiggle Of Eyebrows, Hello Attraction

If you see the infamous wiggle (up and down) of the eyebrows, it’s another subtle cue. We have natural emotions and when we see something pleasing to our eyes, our face reacts. Your eyebrows does all types of twists and motions because you are aroused. It’s a natural reaction. Your eyebrows raise when you see something pleasing on the eyes. It’s a natural flirty reaction. It conveys I am attracted to you. Pay attention to the brows if you want to know if someone is attracted.

Just want to forewarn that raise eyebrows can also sign frustration, alarmed, anger or surprise. It’s all about context. So, how can you tell the difference, its all about the situation. Also, pay attention to more than one sign, not just one. There usually more than one sign going on. It can be light touch, lower voice, a flirty smile, a glance up and down or eyebrow raise. Look for the combo punch for a confirmation.

Nosy Around

The nose also can be a tell tell sign as well. If you see a little flare, there is attraction. It’s an unsung hero and not as popular as the other signs. If you like to have a little fun observing body language, check out the nose. Now onto the biggie, the lips.

Let’s Talk About The Lips

The lips are something to behold. Just like your other body parts, you have a kazillion nerves rushing to them. Causing them to make all types of expressions when you’re attracted. One of the biggest is the classic smirk. It can be awkward when you feel your mouth form this subtle sign. It’s something that comes on and you just can’t explain why it’s all of sudden forming across your face. No matter what, you try to wipe it off, but you can’t. It’s natural and forms when you’re attracted.

Smile On Me

Also, a big wide smile. Say cheese. It also forms when you are happy to see something. You can’t help but smile at a pleasant sight. The key it’s a big and often a prolong smile. Sometimes you lick your lips as a sign that something pleasant in sight. The same way you salivate at your favorite dish it’s the same when you’re attracted to someone. You can also bite your lip (either in center or corner). It’s a natural sign of desire. Pay attention to the lips and also the tongue. If you see the tongue coming out more than naturally, it’s a huge sign of desire being there.

We can’t help but be in union with someone we are attracted to. If you notice someone looking at your lips persistently, it a very good sign. It’s a subtle cue they are attracted and want to eventually go into the kill and kiss. They want to explore what you have to offer. The eyes are the window to your soul.

Head Tilt

Not only it’s a sign of relaxation but shows you have interest. When you’re aroused, you’re naturally going to become relaxed. It’s hard to explain but it’s a reason why you’re head naturally tilts. Often, your hand accompanies. It’s not telling you’re bored but interested. If you see a subtle gaze accompanying, watch out.

In My Neck Of The Woods

Also, elongating your neck also shows subtle sign of attraction. Neck is a natural sign of attraction; you are going to want to show more of it. You’re not going to be slumped over or hunched, no, you are going to stretch and have your head up high. You’re going to show attention. You can also put your hand under your chin, showing inquisitive and interest. You may also lightly rub your neck with your fingers. It communicates desire and to the person your interested in, that you would love for their hands to be on this region.

All In The hands

After the eyes, there is no better communication vehicle than the hands. They tell everything. They give subtle signals without you knowing it. Now off topic, we all know about the middle finger. This is one signal that can start war. Your hands can also be the start of a beautiful relationship.

Observe a person hands while they are communicating with you. Are they rubbing their face a lot. Are they communicating flirty gestures. For instance, lightly rubbing their fingers across their lips. Slowly going up and down the side of their ear down their neck. Tracing their collarbone. Grazing their chin. Are they stroking their arms or hands. Rubbing their upper thighs. They are subtly communicating that it’s something they desire you to eventual explore. It’s a natural cue. When you are attracted to someone you want them to be affectionate to you.

Do you see the hands coming in contacting with you. Do you see the palms lightly patting your arm or hands. Do you feel a light pat around the back. Do you feel hands lightly graze your hair. Do you see the person observe your face admiringly. Do you feel playful punches or pinches. Light grazes across the back of your hand. If you are a little forward like me, a playful hand grab or grab on the upper thigh is a winning sign. If things are really sparking, the whole arm around the waist or back is classic. It’s not overwhelming or abrasive communication sign. It usually comes naturally.

We can’t forget about the feet. Footsies may be an old school method but still thrives. It communicates attraction. Just to rehash, if you’re sitting in the same direction of your partner, there is chemistry.

Computer Love

The power of communication and the keyboard/pad. It’s are main communication vehicle as we are drawn to social. It’s a vehicle to communicate attraction. We have the classic emojis. The blushing emoji, heart, cheesing, kissing. They are all tell tales signs. I know in this day in age, you can’t take out of context. We often use these emojis in many different ways and often, all out of context. For instance, I heart this shirt. Doesn’t mean you’re attracted to that shirt. It’s all about context.

If you notice the person you are communicating with is using these emojis consistently with you, it’s a sign. In conjunction to asking you a bunch of questions about you, it’s a powerful sign there is interest. Are they asking how is your day going? How do you feel? What are your plans for the weekend? What is your favorite restaurant or what do you like to eat? Do you want to hang out sometimes? What’s even better, they complement you. “You look beautiful in that dress” or “you have such a winning smile.” They are always sending positivity your way. Uplifting messages. They notice everything about you and want to learn more. The question is a big sign. If you notice a lot of questions about yourself, then there is big interest. Look out for questions, wanting to be in your presence, compliments and affectionate emojis. You have interest going on.

Conclusion

Let’s face it, we are human. We have needs and interest. One of them is to be in relationship. We all want to know what it takes to find the one. How can we tell without being shot down. No one likes this feeling. What’s best, the person you are interested in has a mutual vibe. Talk about sparks. We often think, if I can win on physicality, I am stepping in right direction. Trip to hair salon, H&M, Sephora, I got to look dress to the 9’s. Wrong. It’s not about physicality but about who you are. What do you have to offer internally to someone else. Remember, they will wake up next to you, not looking at your best. You’re not going pop up looking like a runway model. It’s all about substance. Check on what’s going with you internally. How is your personality. What type of personality meshes with yours. Your interest, hobbies, social status and career. What are your family goals. Do you want to eventually have a large family in suburbs or small in the city? You need to assess the type of partner you can vibe with. Someone who you can challenge during Sunday game or relax with Michael Buble in the back.

It’s interesting how attraction works. One thing that doesn’t lie is our subtle body language cues we can’t control. As previously mentioned, the smile that instantly forms, the eyes that dilate, the goofy persona that comes across. You can’t help it. You’re happy because you are in the presence of someone you’re attracted to. You ever seen a guy so handsome with a winning personality to match, how can you not stop gushing. You may automatically think, he’s probably arrogant. What’s best, when you can tell looks don’t matter. Just a winning, sweet, humble, goofy, innocent and great personality. It’s not about physicality but if the person happens to come with it, it’s ok to admire. Just as long as its balance. I am not here to police just give advice.

Take a look at this article where I go a little in-depth about the dangers of just focusing on just physicality. It’s just a piece of the puzzle.

I hope this article helps those who are just starting their relationship journey. It’s fun to observe. I hope you find that special someone, just be careful and stick to your senses.

What are some signs of attraction that you go to? Have you experience any of these signs of attraction cues? What are your favorite signs of attraction? Sound off in the comments.