The big heart day is coming up! Yes, a time to cherish with your loved one. You know, go out to eat, dance and get the springs bouncing afterwards. As we have been more socially connected, we have seen glimpse of all types of creativity on the social. We see videos of couples, sharing glimpse of how they are doing Valentine’s differently. How the proposal is coming off a little more creatively, how the places to eat are more diverse. First kiss while skydiving, who would have knew. Candlelight on top of the hotel, can we kiss the sky. Yes, since social, we have been doing things differently.
The concern, sometimes we are more concerned with views than the actual acts. How can I get more likes, views and followers? There is more to life than this. Yes, I believe in creativity but there has to be love involved. Everything you do should have a meaning. It should bear meaning between you and your partner. What do you two enjoy? How can I woo you without breaking the budget (yes we all have bills/responsibilities). What can I do a little differently that will make this Valentine’s day better than the last.
Yes, it doesn’t take as much as you think. You can try a new cuisine, location, recreational activity or sexual position. Basically, all establishments will be open on this day. Before you do anything, plan and research. Set some time aside, about 3 months ahead of time. You know, if you’re on the east coast, February is cold. Plan ahead if winter will be rearing its head. Should have a stay in place plan if snowy conditions prevent you from heading out doors. My motto, always have at least two alternative plans. That way, if you select one, you can save one for the following year. So, how do we plan?
First, we open up our notebook, Word doc, Google doc or notepad. Label it and put a date on it. At the end, sign it (like a binding contract). Why sign it? Psychologically, you will be more motivated to stick to the plan. It holds you accountable. Also, not to get lazy and not to do anything.
Non Scented Soap For Private Regions To Prevent Odor
The Kitchen Counter, Whip Appeal
Engage In Physical Stimulation In Multiple Ways At The Same Time
Draw The Bath Water With A Touch Of Sensuality
Projector Can Amp Up Your Bathtime
Majority Of Time Your Hands Should Be On Your Partner
If You’re Staying At A Camp Lodge or Resort
It Goes Down On The Open Waters
Things To Pack Before You Hit The Car
To Up The Intimacy, Eat Off One Plate or Platter
Sex On The Beach, Not The Drink
Jacuzzi Are They Thing Of The Past
Why You Should End The Day In Lingerie
Yes, commercially, the holidays are meant for you to spend money. As a marketer, I know the game. I was taught this in school. It’s all about bringing in extra revenue. Now, this isn’t a negative at all. If we don’t generate money, we don’t have money to pay employees. Also, to hire more employees who can generate more products/services.
You have the time off to spend with your family, friends and acquaintances. Why not use it? Don’t use it to sleep, no! Use it to explore life. Try something different. I tell you, you will feel so much better about life. For instance, if you never tried lazer tag, you will thank me after. It’s one of the best strategy games you can play. You can stay and play forever. You’re so rejuvenated afterwards. Also, going to the movies! Nothing beats the feeling of seeing a mind blowing movie. You can’t wait to discuss, either personally or socially.
As we are a few weeks from Valentine’s Day, I want you to have an amazing day. I gave my spill on not wasting time off. Making it an amazing adventure. Have one life to live. You don’t have to spend a lot or travel far.
So what can we do to spice up the day? Well, look no further. Let’s explore some creative ideas that bring you out of your comfort zone.
First, let’s start with a plan.
The Plan For Valentine’s Day
The Blueprint
If you’re a fan of Jay-Z, you know his blueprint album. You know, he and other rappers love the Italian mafia culture. It’s laced throughout the music. Especially the videos. They’re usually a don, heading a clever coy to avoid the feds. Jay-Z is a lyrical master. His album is masterfully tied to an actual blueprint. Look up this amazing album! I want you to create the same thing. The blueprint or plan.
To start, jot down what both you and your partner enjoy.
- Sports
- Dancing
- Music
- Walk in the parks
- Recreational activities
- Foods
- Sexual positions
- Intimate acts (kissing, holding hands, hugging)
- Different places or locations
Jot down something new you think you and your partner would enjoy.
- Rock climbing
- New restaurant
- Getaway cruise
- Hotel excursion
- Visit to a museum
- New movie
- Trip to amusement park
What type of theme would you like to create?
- Is it a flirty/fun getaway
- Cozy snuggle at home
- Subtle romantic
- Sporty and intimate affair
- Reserved and classic
- Surprised and spontaneous
- Ultra creative and daring
What type of attire should you plan for?
- Formal
- Casual
- Thick layers/cold
- Thin layers/warm
- Accessories
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Yes, this is a biggie. You’re not going to want to wear heels if you’re planning on going bowling/dancing afterwards. Your feet are going to be killing you. It’s winter, so, should I plan for a nice coat? Not only the season but your outfit for the occasion. You’re going to want to shine and look your best. I am highly confident you will be taking pics for Instagram. You will be picking out your best. Make sure you’re comfortable. You don’t want to be tight. Also, practice good sexual grooming. I am pretty sure intimacy will be at play on that day or the following. You can check out my article here for advice.
Non Scented Soap For Private Regions To Prevent Odor
Use non scented soaps for your private regions. This prevents odors. Also, deodorant or baking soda that goes with your body chemistry. Don’t overdo it on the perfume. A nice light scented lotion should do. Let your partner enjoy your natural scent. This helps build sexual chemistry like no other. Let your pheromones shine. You want to prep your partner really hard.
Cant Leave Out Lingerie
Can’t leave out the star of the show, lingerie. Yes, ladies, we want to have this on deck. When the clothes come off, let’s end hanging on a string. You know your body shape and type, pick garments that suit your curves. Minimize the problem areas and accentuate your best features. If you have big breasts, you are going to want to pick out bras that will show them off. Strings and lace are your friends. They dress up your cleavage perfectly. A little padding gives your girls great support (takes strain off your back) and lift.
You want to draw your partner to the cleavage. Let the garments fill you out. Have them draw your partner closer and begin to undress. This helps with foreplay. Don’t just throw on any bra, no, get your lingerie pieces out. You want your partner to hand you. Lingerie helps to accentuate the tease. Preps your partner to get hard. They help you to bring out your inner sex kitten. I don’t want your partner just lifting your clothes off and going for the kill, no. Let them slowly and methodically take off layers. Like peeling a banana.
Also, please leave the granny pannies in the drawer. If you don’t have any lingerie undergarments, you can throw on thong, g-string or high cut underwear. I am not a big fan of thongs. I understand they protect the vagina but I love garments with a little more fabric. Yes, I love to tease but not too much. It depends. Yes, I have a few but they aren’t my first choice.
I love high cut underwear because they accentuate your butt better. They show off your curves, point to your vagina and elongate your legs. My butt still needs a little work. I feel I don’t have a perfect butt. Yes, I have shape but it’s not at the perfection I want. Perhaps I would feel better about thongs but still, it’s not my personality. It’s a little too much bearing to my taste. No matter what, I like some fabric. I like style. If I am spending money, I don’t want it to go to waste. I am paying money for fabric, I want it to accentuate my strengths. What we want in lingerie.
If you have thigh highs, throw them on. I am a big fan of them. They also scream “sex appeal” on your legs. They tease your thighs and draw your partner to take them off. Also, heels work as well. Yes, they elongate your legs. You can playful tease them in the air, beckoning your partner to you. Be careful. Make sure they are off before getting into the act. No sharp objects allowed! Socks can also work. If you have a sporty and laid back personality, you can wear them. Just make sure they match your outfit.
Men, what you wear underneath matters as well. Can throw on some nice boxers or my favorite, briefs. Briefs help to show off your form and package, more than the boxers. This is such a turn on. Plus they help elongate your thighs.
To help, plan your outfit weeks in advance. Try them on and observe in the mirror. Don’t just look in the mirror then take off. No. Walk around in them for about 20 minutes. Observe how you feel. Do you feel sexy? Do you feel confident, beautiful? Do you think your partner will be knocked off their feet? Then you know it’s a go. Have an alternative outfit.
Check out this article that will go more in depth on lingerie for Valentine’s Day.
Locations To Spice It Up
As you notice the title, it’s about spicing up. There is nothing thrilling about another location. There is nothing wrong with the bedroom, it’s meant for sleep, relaxation and sexual intimacy. It features your comfortable bed, comforters, blankets, sheets and pillows! Yes, the pillows are amazing during sex! I highly recommend having them everywhere.
As a home decor addict, I have a kazillion pillows. I sleep with 10 long pillows. All super comfy. I just picked up a few more when Wal-Mart had their Black Friday sale. I can never have enough. I have so many stashed in my backroom. Pillows are my thing. They help me to relax and fall asleep. They also aid in sexual activities.
If cowgirl is going on, they are good props for our hands/wrist ladies! Also, the knees! Got to protect them. If you haven’t stretched all day or a little tight, these are amazing. Also, it helps protect your partner’s head. You want him to feel relaxed and aroused. Plus when it gets so good (nearing orgasm time), you need something to grip. What’s perfect, the pillows.
It’s an amazing sensation. Having your hands grip the pillows helps to enhance the sensation, why? You’re not straining your hand but providing comfort. Psychologically, your mind will be at ease and focus on the amazing sensation your partner is providing, the orgasm. As I state all the time, you want your mind clear. Focus on the pheromones and the motion going on. Hitting the g-spot and labia in all the right ways, this is what we should be focused on.
Get immersed in the sensation, focus on your partner. It’s love being exchanged in an intimate way. You are one with your partner, relish this moment. Nothing should be on the mind but them. Leave all your issues for later, focus on the moment. Great sex is therapeutic. You feel like a new person and you’re not as tense. Live your life happily.
Don’t get into the movement of being a grump, no. You’re taking years off your life. Don’t focus on how many problems you have, it’s life. The key, know you will overcome them. Make it a challenge to overcome. You will be stronger and more resilient in the end. What’s important is for me to whip you in shape to have great intimacy in the bedroom. Not only the bedroom but other places as well. Let’s get into other places shall we…
We put away the dishes and shut the microwave, the wave for the day. Not so fast! We can also begin and end it with plenty of crashing and bumping. The kitchen is an amazing haven for intimacy. You more than likely have warm lighting, check! Counter to prop yourself up to be level with your partner, another check! The chair to go at it cowgirl style! Plus, fast access to many of our favorite ingredients to pour and stuff our partner with, sign me up!
The Kitchen Counter, Whip Appeal
Now, before I proceed, caution with the lighting. You don’t want it too bright. It’s just a mood killer. Just illuminating enough to see your partner. If you have moonlight shining through your kitchen window, take advantage. There is nothing like moonlight taking over the area. It’s very romantic. Ofcourse, you don’t want to pull back the kitchen curtains (no peep show).
To create the moonlight effect, you can turn your multicolored lights to the cool setting. Lay them sporadically around the kitchen (not too many). It will give a natural shine.
The name of the game is to eliminate boredom and create spontaneity. You can always start off with a nice strip dance or foreplay action. You can whip out the strawberries, cream, chocolate syrup, grapes, chocolates and cupcakes! Yes cupcakes! It’s Valentine’s Day, I am sure you’re going to have sugary treats on hand. You can feed them to your partner but don’t just use your hands. This is a spice up article, how we can do things a little differently.
A disclaimer before I proceed with advice. Bring pillows to the area of choice prior to action.
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Bring your comfy non-slip pillows to the kitchen. You can place them at your discretion. You can transition to placing them on your chair or counter. While engaging in intimacy with your partner, you can have them close their eyes (gives time to place them on area of intimacy). You can also guide your partner to the area where the pillows are placed. Gently and slowly pick them up, don’t rush. Then place them seductively in the places where action is going to take place.
Place it in your mouth and have your partner go at it! Can end up with a nice makeout session! Ladies, place chocolates, cream or strawberries between your cleavage. Guide your partner’s head to that area. Have them lick between to get the treasure! Once they start gobbling, place some more going up your chest to your neck. This allows them to lick upwards then, gobbling on your neck! If your chair isn’t flying backwards.
Place some cream on your partner’s mouth, then lick seductively around the lips. Go in for a nice kiss. Rub strawberry or chocolates around their lips, place it on their tongue. While they are eating or swallowing, trace your finger around their jawline. Give a kiss on their cheeks. Then go in for the kill on the lips.
If you’re sitting on the counter and this is happening, it’s even better. Guide your partner by gently, rubbing the back of his neck (pleasure area). Rub through the back of his hair. Moan in retaliation to the pleasure. Talk nothings in his ear. Get to kissing on his face and then his neck! Then his mouth. Wrap your legs around his body.
Nibble on the bottom, lick across, tease then proceed to engage in a deep passion kiss. Swirl some syrup and cream around. You can also prop yourself backwards on the counter, slowly and sensually pour some syrup/cream on your stomach, legs and especially the upper thighs! Where you place matters! Place some around your belly button area, sensation zone!
Also, on your upper thighs, closer to your genitial area! You can then turn around (on the counter) and get on all fours or arch on your knees. Poke your butt out, tease some syrup in your mouth. Have him rub up your butt, going up your back! Have him spank you, lick and kiss all around your behind.
You can also place condiments on top of his shoulders! There is nothing wrong with rubbing up and down on muscular arms. We have to get in those love bites on top of the shoulders. This should lead you to licking across his shoulder and collar bone to his neck. Grab the opposite side gently and lick up and down the other. Get to his ear. Kiss and lick all around. Talk in that ear ladies, please! Kiss the side of his face, go for the lips. You can then straddle him (being in front) and start sensually rubbing his arms. Then guide his arms around your waist. You can go for sucking and kissing on his neck, then licking on his jaw, then to the lips!
You can then gently guide your partner to another area. Immediately, don’t think about the bedroom. How about our dear bathroom. Say “baby, I think you will look better dripping wet, let’s go.” Talk sensually and soothing. The choice is yours here. You can opt for the shower or the bath. If you do the shower, make sure you make use of the bar. We don’t want you slipping (if you prop your partner up). If you start making out, make sure it’s out of the water vantage point. You don’t want to be gasping for air, a killer.
A tip, use your hands (keep the buff puff/washcloth at bay). Use your hands to distribute soap. This is intimacy we are talking about here. The cloth just breaks that barrier. You can’t grasp and be as sensual with these items. You can grasp the breast fully, massaging them. Can you do that with a cloth, no.
Rub your partner’s body up and down sensually with your hands. You can place kisses all over their body. Please work the neck and go down. Get at the belly button and stomach. Rub between the thighs. Fellas, use hand action. Get between your woman’s legs and at the same time, passionately kiss on her neck. Gently place her against the shower wall for support. Arch up her leg a bit so you can rub (gently the labia and clitoris). Press your genitial area against her, keep teasing her with it. The goal here is to increase body to body stimulation. Use your hands as much as possible, this increases pleasure.
When you use tools, psychologically, you’re telling your partner, I need assistance. They may think, why aren’t you touching me, is there something wrong with me. Are you physically attracted or going with the flow? Now, I am not knocking cloths or sex toys. They have their use.
Believe it or not, I am not a fan of sex toys. I believe they take away the joy of intimacy. Just my opinion. I am sorry, I have to use my hands, feet, lips, mouth and tongue on my partner. I have a natural progression to know how to work the physique with all of the parts. I get the best stimulation by touching, why? Because I really love my partner to death. I can’t wait to get my hands on him. I am so attracted to him, he just drives my senses wild. He doesn’t even have to say a word, I am turned on.
In another article, I talked about how I was turned on by him the entire day. No one can surpass the level of attraction I have for him. He is the perfect person for me. There is no one on this earth I would ever be attracted to, just him. This will never change.
There is my tale on why I highly recommend using your body parts and not tools. Before you use your body parts, make sure they are in good condition. Warm them up. Stretch and make sure we are exercising daily. Also, massage and get into good practices of keeping them soft. Not only for hygiene but for pleasure. Soft and subtle for us ladies. For the guys, it goes for you also. Yes, we love nice, strong, rough big hands rotating on our bodies. We also don’t want them chaffing or feeling too rough. Please use a good moisturizer. Helps to keep them healthy, vibrant and youthful. Our bodies need hydration, especially our skin!
Now, back to the bathroom. We can’t leave out a good massage to the hair. Grab some shampoo/conditioner mix (prevent dryness) and start massaging into your partner’s hair. Now, we don’t want to massage too hard (prevent tangles), use long smooth strokes down the hair. Admire their hair while you are doing it. Stand in front while you’re doing it, then turn your partner around to rinse. Use your hands and guide the water down their hair. Make sure you slowly guide the water, run through the hair. Don’t massage (we don’t want tangles). Then kiss the side of their face. Get to the neck and back of the neck. Massage down the back. Get them in an embrace and kiss them from behind. Nothing beats this in the shower!
Then afterwards, gently dry your partner’s hair. Use long strokes and pat the hair down in downward motion. Do this gently. Admire your partner to death. Have the love face on. Then take the towel and wrap around your partner, pull them close to you. Dry them, use slow and methodical patterns. Observe every curve of their physique. You can be kissing and sucking on their neck while this is going on.
Engage In Physical Stimulation In Multiple Ways At The Same Time
I think you caught on to my continuous recommendation. Engaging in some form of physical stimulation in multiple ways (at the same time). Just don’t start kissing and that is it. No, you should be massaging shoulders, arms, backs of necks. Pressing gently against your partner, propping them up, rubbing on legs, stomachs.
You have hands, arms, legs, tongues, and mouths. You should be using them at the same time. The goal is to enhance the sensation. This should be a natural progression. The sexual chemistry should be strong, things will be rubbing and grasping everywhere. When you’re in love, it’s natural. You are driven by touch; it’s your way to be one with your partner.
This is the path to being a good lover. Being the best in bed. You yearn to please your partner because you love them so much. You want to express how much you love them. They deserve to be pleased to death. You will pull out all the stops to please them. There is nothing that will stop you.
This is where your head should be. It’s not about being good in bed but expressing your love to your partner. You are with them for a reason. Not for emotional support, friendship, and companionship only. They get you, they complete you. They are part of the reason why you live. Intimacy is your way of expressing your deep love for them. It will show up when you’re intimate. You have to know your why when you’re with a person. Make sure it’s all for the right reasons!
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Draw The Bath Water With A Touch Of Sensuality
Let’s get back to the bathroom shall we. I can’t leave out the bath. Drawing the bath water, yes, yes, and yes! What better way to form intimacy. Having some rose petals in the water is cool. If you want to spice it up, try bath bombs including your favorite fragrance. Some of them change the color of the water. A nice sea green and blue, how sensual!
Puck Lights For Amazing Lighting
Candles, (warm lighting). Change it up, you can have some nice puck lights placed around. If you
like change of colors, get rotating ones. Many of them automatically come this way. I recommend using the warm or (orange/yellow color) battery-operated. It’s safer than candles.
Turn the cool setting on to mimic moonlight. Don’t use too many, you don’t want it too bright.
You can also program them to turn off and use them in multiple areas. Have some light music going. Sade, no other recommendation, lol!
Is Moonlight The Best
Can moonlight be the best lighting for intimacy? It’s sure up there. It’s very romantic. When we are getting it on, the majority of time it’s at night. Why? We work during the day, therefore what time is left, the night! A time we are with our partner predominately. It goes with the flow. Psychologically, it has played in our senses.
Having the natural moonlight show through is very sensual. It helps break the stark darkness which is what we want. We don’t want to be intimate in the plain dark. The road to great intimacy is the eyes. You want to engage in eye contact with your partner, you want to admire every part of them.
It gives the perfect lighting where you can see your partner. Not too bright, which is the best. You want to tease, which enhances the sensuality. It also relaxes you and makes you feel at ease.
Projector Can Amp Up Your Bathtime
Grab a projector. Now, I am not sending you back to Chemistry class in high school. As this is about leveling up the game, giving you the option to up the romance. A projector is the wave. You don’t have to break the bank like you think. They have many affordable options, under $50. Having a nice ambience of nature or a tropical getaway in the background, get into it. You can have swiss alps, camping, Paris, you name it. Psychologically, it makes both you and your partner feel they have escaped to another destination. It gets your senses going. It helps to relax you while lounging together in the bath. It can stimulate a conversation. Get your body moving together. You can project on the ceiling or in front of you. The choice is yours.
Can’t leave out the food. Bring some of your favorite fruit, creams and chocolates and feed each other.
Bathtime, Can I Get A Rub
If you don’t have a projector, you use your laptop or tablet. Throw on a Youtube video (nature or tropical sounds). The ambience will change. For an added bonus, hook up your portable speakers for an amazing surround sound experience.
Yes, you’re soaking with your partner. There should be a lot of rubbing going on. The back, the neck, the thighs, feet, arms, just everywhere. Even if you never massaged before, it will be natural. You have your hands and great smelling soap! Use it together. Treat your partner’s body like a canvas. Long, smooth sensual strokes. Use your fingers to trace. Be fascinated with their skin. Compliment their physique. Can be the smoothness, tone, color, whatever comes naturally. Intimacy is all about coming together as one. How we bond, through touch. If you never touch or communicate, where is the love?
A hand job is great here! Trying to perform oral, not a good move. Unless your partner props up on the edge of the tub. Still, we want comfort during your performance. Having your knees rub against a hard tub floor, not the wave. Plus, your partner sitting on the edge of the tub, that can be damaging against his butt.
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But the hand will do the trick. Water, bubbles, heat and your hand are magic together. I repeat, all are magic. Use your hand smoothly and conduct long slow strokes, up and down the shaft. Rub the base of the tip with your thumb. Use corkscrew motion. Look your partner in the eyes, go in for the kiss. You know the drill, do multiple things at once. Rub their thighs and stomach area, then up to the pecs. Rub the neck then face, place your fingers in your partner’s mouth then back down to the genitial area.
Continue to grasp and let nature take away.
For the men, it’s the same thing. Rub between your partner’s thighs, then clitoris and labia. Rub gently and slowly. Never be aggressive, you’re telling your partner, I am just trying to rush the orgasm and be done. We aren’t shooting porn here. This is the art of seduction and foreplay.
Let’s do this right. I never stress fast because it’s aloof and vulgar. It also communicates insecurity. Your genitial is sensitive, it doesn’t need to be scrubbed to death. We aren’t in a rush. Is there an important game or document you need to send? If this is on your mind, you might as well stayed in front of the screen. What’s more important. It should be your partner. You want to be in their presence as long as possible.
Majority Of Time Your Hands Should Be On Your Partner
Also fellas, massage your women’s breast slowly, get the nipple. Grasp your full hands and go slowly up and down and around. Don’t flop them up and down, no. It’s a big no. Slide them down and around. It should be done with no flopping. Hold your arm around them while you’re lounging. Massage around them. Rub around the chest, collarbone. Go down to the hips and stomach. Trace around the stomach, down to the thighs. You should be kissing around her neck, ears and side of face. Hold her hand, rub her hands up and down both her arms. Embrace your partner in the tub, don’t just have your hands to the sides. Hello to intimacy. Yes, you can take a break but the majority of the time, your hands should be on your partner.
Prop your knees up (if you’re tall). It also gets your partner to get their hands on them. We want to stimulate those thighs ladies. If you get a boner, let your partner know. Guide her (gently) to it. Tease her with it. Let her know, yes, you’re fully responsible.
Ladies, please conduct this position in the bath, you will thank me later. Turn (facing your partner). Prop yourself on your knees. You can prop your hands against the wall, and lean forward. Have your partner (with your hands) rub soap or bath water all over you. You can guide his hand but let him roam your physique. Throw your head back (to elongate your neck) have his hands run over your neck and face. Once his hands come around your mouth, gently envelop his thumb in your mouth. Can lick it, lightly suck on them or kiss them. Then take each of his fingers and lightly suck on them. Look him in the eye while doing it.
Combining them all is best! Then rub his hands and guide to your neck and your breast. Have him massage them and then move to your hips. Have him move you forward and guide your breast to your mouth. He should be sucking the heck out of him. Play with his hair, kiss the top of his head, move your hands to top of his shoulders to grasp. Rub your vagina across his package slowly and gently. Mimic the cowgirl. Can do light bounces and sensual swirls. Moan in his ear. Talk in his ear, let him know how much you enjoy this.
Have him trickle more bath water down your body. Get his hands to caress your back. Kiss, makeout, get to his neck! Foreplay should be enduring big time.
Now, you can get into cowgirl or reverse cowgirl. This is spicing up. Nothing like a bath time thrill. The motion of the water provides an amazing sensation. It’s like sex on the beach without being there. Just feeling and hearing the water crashing is stimulating. The extra motion and sound does something to your psych. Plus the steam of the bath water and feeling so soothing. It can help alleviate a lot of pressure. Plus the amazing smells going on.
I hope you have the warm lighting going. It’s so romantic and alluring. You don’t want bright lighting or the room to be dark. You want to see your partner, and all of their facial expressions. Look into their eyes. Eyes are the window to seduction. So are the lips. The connection you feel during intimacy is amazing with the right lighting. A pack of puck lights can run you $7.00 on clearance. You can run to Dollar Tree and pick up some amazing candles, vanilla please! Yankee Candle, Wal-Mart (usually have amazing clearances), Target, Bath & Beyond and Victoria Secret, check out please for candles.
When you depart from the bath, take your time getting out. Just don’t jump up and get out. Guide your partner out. Hands should be holding and remaining until you get to your next destination of choice. You can hug, caress, or do something. Keep the intimacy going. When your partner stands up to get out, rub your hands up their legs and back. Observe the physique. Towel dry each other off, observe each part as you pass over sensually. Don’t just dry off fast like you’re on the way to work. Take your time and treat the body like art, taking time to go over each fine detail.
You can lotion up their body and hand them something unexpected. May it be a flower/rose, box of favorite candy/fruit snacks, cupcake, a small wrapped gift (favorite perfume/lotion) or can pick up lingerie and start to dress them. Ladies, you can do the same for the men, pick up the undergarments of choice. Then transition slowly and gently to the next destination.
It’s up to you to engage in sexual activity or not. It’s up to you. Perhaps you may want to settle on a romantic movie, listen to music or observe the night sky. It’s all up to you. If you do settle for sexual activity, please engage in foreplay before diving into the act. Rev the stimulation up again, you can never get enough. I have plenty of articles to help guide the process. The key is to transition smoothly and naturally. Let your creativity kick in, make it a love story not a sex fest.
Valentine’s Day is all about excitement and romance.
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Invest In Bath Pillows
If you have a back wall against your bath, bring some pillows. Place them against the wall. Don’t worry about ruining them, you can throw in the washer and dryer afterwards (we don’t want any mildew to start). You can always get some specialty pillows for the bath. Macy’s and your favorite department stores always have great sales and clearance! Shop and stock now, you won’t regret!
You don’t want to be laying against a flat wall, that’s a recipe for sores galore. Also, you can place it in the tub to alleviate your butt. This is great if you’re planning on lounging in the tub for a long time. Invest in some great props, you can use them for decor when not in use! Silk is the best. White is chic and classic. Goes with everything. Also, don’t have to worry about dye seeping in the water.
Mountain Out Of Molehill
We all seek a thrill, how can we, by exploring other places. There is nothing like exploring the great outdoors. Even if you’re not the type, there has to be a little curiosity. Yes, we think of bears, wolves and coyotes lurking. If we eliminate these fears, we will be good. Being one with nature is amazing. You feel so refresh, breathing crisp air and observe nature. It gets to your psych.
Being one with your partner in nature is even better. You are secluded and have nothing but room for intimacy. You will have a nice tent going and campfire. Nothing is more romantic than seeing fire in action. The smell of burning wood is so sensual. You are cozying up with your partner in a blanket. Sharing camp fire food, get the smores going. I am not talking hot dogs and beans, no. You can bring a nice assortment of your choice. Sharp cheese, crackers, tabolui, feta cheese, rolled grape stuffed leaves, pepperoni, oh my! Can make a nice chef salad, Greek or ranch to the game. You can roast a nice steak and bake potato, sour cream, chives, bacon bits and recaito on top! Yum. There is so much and it will be thrilling.
The seclusion and crisp air is what makes everything work. The warmth of the fire is also thrilling. You can bring a portable heater and a PowerStation (which I highly recommend everyone have stashed regardless) if you have tent game on lock. Now, before engaging in the tent, make sure you put the fire out completely. Turn on your portable heater, have that baby nice and warm. So when you enter, it’s ready!
As you know, I am big on decor. I am not asking you to bring the whole Home Goods with you to the mountains but, bring some items to make it scream romance. Tarp, padded rolled bed, silk sheets, a nice throw, plenty of soft bed pillows, comforter, puck lights/strip lights, light jacket/coat, portable director’s chair, portable speakers, pre-downloaded playlist of slow jams, high-volt-PowerStation, toiletries, lingerie/men undergarments, and some chocolates/strawberries.
If you are crazy like me, bring battery operated fairy lights or string lights. They are amazing. You can pick up some plastic clear long vases or bottles from Dollar Tree. Throw the fairy lights in them or wrap them around the vases. They create such an ambience. I wouldn’t bring glass (don’t want to worry about unstable ground). Can throw rocks you find around the camp ground to keep them stable. You can also bring your own rock salt. Can also place berry stems and pampas leaves, they are so romantic. I recommend the long stem in white, blue or purple. I have a ton of berry stems (thanks to Michaels 79 cents sale).
Now that you have an idea on what to bring for decor, decorate! Decorate beforehand. Have everything decorated so you can transition naturally into the tent. Don’t wait until the last minute to decorate. You can and if you do, make it sensual teamwork. For instance, throw on some light romantic music (portable speakers). If you start to decorate the vases, have your partner wrap his arms around you while you do. Do it together. There should be plenty of neck kisses. Roll out the bed together, put the sheets on. Strategically place chocolates/strawberries all over the bedding or pillows!
Then you can proceed with a nice romantic evening. You can consult the shower and bathroom sections for ideas to spice it up. You can also read the comparable articles for ideas on foreplay and sex positions. Enjoy the moonlight!
Comparable Articles
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If You’re Staying At A Camp Lodge or Resort
If you’re staying in our wood friendly hotels, you can also play it up. If you’re in seclusion, you can take a dare and have the blinds/shades open. If you feel so closed in, you feel sheltered and distant. You want to feel free, one with nature. Let some of the natural light or moonlight shine through. It can help level up the romance. Making love in the moonlight, can we not!
As recommended in the campfire, bring some delicates chocolates, strawberries, whip cream, fruit and chocolate syrup. Decorate the sheets. You can spell your partner’s name or make a shape of a heart with their first initial. Can place rose petals (preferably fake, they work just as well. can be reused for the future). Can draw bathwater and line it with bath bombs.
Can use the living room as a place to throw down. Put down a comfortable throw or you can take the comforter/pillows off the bed. Put down 2 or three comforters (to mimic a bed).Place it near the fireplace. The twitch of the fire and smell can drive your senses wild. It’s nothing but romance. Can place a chair nearby (for lapdance or oral). Bonappetit!
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It Goes Down On The Open Waters
Some of us are afraid of water, some embrace it. If you love to hit the seas, make the most of it. Rather it being a cruise, yacht or boat, you can make it thrilling. Bring all of the items I outlined in the campfire. If you’re up to it, (you can either rent or hire someone) to etch a display in the sky. It can be a heart with both you and your partner’s name. You can even have fireworks go off. Also, you can set your favorite tunes sizzling throughout the atmosphere. Hearing George Michael or Sade belt out, can the drawers slide off fast enough.
Can We Go The Extra Mile
You’re taking the big flight on Valentine’s Day, could it be Paris. Lucky! If you’re making your way to an amazing destination, make it fun on the flight. Yes, you’re surrounded by people. Still, you can play into intimacy on the lowkey. You can hold your partner’s hand and place your head on their shoulder. Lightly rub around their fingers, massage them sensually. Can lightly trace your name into their arms. You can place light kisses on their neck, cheek and then mouth. You can give them a nice massage! Don’t go for the shoulders, I prefer this act in a more open space. Try to go for the thighs. Rub gently and lightly. Pat and squeeze their thighs. Massage their hands. Whisper in their ear. Place kisses on their cheek.
Play your favorite games together. There is nothing more fun than bonding over strategy. Bring a puzzle book or wordsearch. Challenge each other, with the reward a nice big kiss at the end or the winner chooses the restaurant.
Can also tease all that you will do to your partner later on. I call it cybersex on a plane. I would whisper in their ear, you don’t want the whole plane hearing your business. You don’t want to go into great details, just light tease. Let’s get into a scenario.
You are sitting next to your partner on the plane. You’re laying their head on their shoulder. Lightly rise up to their ear (unexpectedly) and tell them how comfortable you feel. Example.
“Baby, I am cloud nine, you know my head was made for your shoulders.”
“I agree. What’s even better, your lips. They were crafted to crash on mine.”
“You’re right about that. But before we meet, how about we head to your neck first.”
“If you come in my neck of the woods, you will be screaming out for help. Wait to later.”
“ A welcoming surprise, things are bound to pop out.”
As you see, this is a clever teaseful exchange between you and your boo. It teases the arousal and leaves both you and your partner feeling relaxed. The key, things have to come out naturally. I gave you an example to exercise your creative juices. It doesn’t have to be perfect but natural. You know your partner better than anything. You know what you love about them. Is it their laugh, their smell, hair, their dorkiness. Play into it.
As you see in the example, I love the power of the kiss. I play into the tease. I also tease what I like to do before the kiss, another area. I love to express intimacy somewhere else before the kiss on the lips. I am very affectionate, I love to explore other areas. Rather the cheek, forehead, neck, hand, jaw, or bottom of nose. It’s my thing.
Do the same thing. Tease in clever word play. It isn’t corny at all. It gets both of you too chuckle and be aroused at the same time. Talk seductively or playfully. This is what it’s all about. Expressing your love to each other. It’s about the two of you, engaging in a day of love. All eyes on your partner, wink!
Backseat Of My Jeep
The car, your precious go to when you need to make an errand. Some may think, how can we make it intimate in the car. Just like the plane and other transportation, we have to worry about privacy. That is very true. Privacy is a big factor and space. However, it doesn’t mean we can be clever.
When it’s the two of you instead of 300 people, it makes a big difference. No one can tell anything with the right tools involved. Throw in a blanket or jacket in your car. Place it over your partner’s lap. You can engage in a nice hand job or genital rub. You can place sensual kisses on the neck when you stop. Try not to engage when driving (we don’t want any accidents). Hold hands and lightly rub your partner’s thigh. Although you have your seatbelt on, you can turn to your partner’s side and lightly trace your finger around their jaw, shoulders, arms and sides. Grasp their thighs and lightly rub. You can engage in passionately kissing the neck (only when you’re parked). Now I know what you’re thinking, where can I park with privacy!
It depends on your location but you can try a park. Many are secluded after hours. Scout months in advance. Parking where you can see the waves crashing and seeing open scenery is beautiful. It’s better with the moonlight. I recommend talking sensually with your partner. Then engage in light foreplay. Play with their hair while they talk. Observe their lips, eyes, jaw, nose, everything. Compliment them, let them know how sexy they’re. How lucky you’re to be with the greatest man alive. What you can’t wait to do to them when you get home (or destination of choice). Can engage in light massage that will lead down to tracing your hand down their pecs, stomach and then to the penis. Massage the thighs first, then conduct a hand job. Once hard and ready, you can go for oral sex.
If things get hot and ready, engage in sexual acts in the backseat. More space and don’t have to worry about maneuvering with your control board in the front seat. It’s painful.
The key, make sure you’re in a secluded area. You can throw some window shields, towels or curtains up for privacy. Some cars come with curtains attached.
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If you’re clever (like me), get a light blanket or oversize towel. Place part of it 2 inches over the side of the window. Then roll it up (to secure the towel in the car). Do this on the other windows. Can duct tape a big towel in front and back. You can also get a window shield (protect from sun). You now have optimal privacy.
Things To Pack Before You Hit The Car
Things to bring before you hit the car. Long soft bed pillows, blanket/comforter/sheet and toiletries.
A tip: Always pack toiletries when you are out and about (incase you need to freshen up). Throw in some non-scented soap, 3 buff puffs/wash cloths,a bottle of spring water, floss, deodorant, (pads for ladies), razors, toothpaste, brush/comb, travel mirror, toothbrush and lotion. Yes, we have Wal-Mart, Target, CVS, Dollar Tree and Walgreens. If you want to save some money, pack in a travel bag. You can also get a storage container from Target (a nice size runs about $1.19) Store in your trunk. Live smart, thank later.
Have A Home Gym, Why Not
Our beloved home gyms. For us lucky ones, we can just saunter in our gym without hitting the gas. It’s a room that you have turned into your personal physical sanctuary. You can also make it a romantic place for a day. I know, the bench and yoga mat is the last place you want to be fixating on. It’s not the obstacle but the experience. The purpose is to knock boredom out. Change of scenery is wonderful. Try something new, a new location is just that. The key, let it be natural.
If you and your partner love to workout, make it place where you can really be one! Nothing beats a Valentine’s workout together! It can be a great foreplay prelude for the day events ahead!
When you’re nearing workout, you can begin to become as one. For example, if you partner is doing a bench press, straddle them while they are doing it. When they are done, they should rise to give you a big kiss. Good luck charm. When they are stretching, wrap your arms around them, give a kiss on side of head/neck. Tell them a job well done, enjoyed the workout. Pat on the butt.
After a nice long workout, I am sure your pheromones are on high. Seeing your partner dripping in sweat, what else can you say. If you are not turned on. Seeing sweat on the collarbone, muscles, thighs and jaw, I am gone. You can’t help but trace your finger or place a towel to dry him off. This is a perfect sagway into foreplay.
You can guide him to the bench and dry him off. Starting from his head and working your way down. When you get to his thighs, drop the towel. Straddle him and begin to work your hands up and down his muscles and down the pecs. Then to the stomach. Lean in and give him a kiss. Kiss the side of his face, then conduct love bites around the jaw.
This should entice him to grab your hips and guide around your body. It should lead to him caressing your behind. You can let him know how much you enjoy working out with him. That you hope he has enough steam for later on. Touch and tease. Enjoy a nice passionate kiss on each other’s necks and collarbones. A steamy makeout is optimal. Just let nature take its course.
Just like the car, the gym can help spice up the relationship. A change of scenery (especially a scenery you both enjoy) just works. You both can be together doing something you love. The chemistry will be buzzing, nature will take its course. The course for you both to start enjoying exploring each other intimately.
Change of scenery is rebellious. It peaks your curiosity. Curiosity is thrilling and arousing.
Beach House
The waves crashing, the smell of salt and sand in the air, the bikini or one piece do we dare. It’s all here. Nothing more relaxing and screams vacation. Day off it maybe. If you live in warmer climates in February you might give this a whirl. If you don’t, take a trip. It can be refreshing.
What To Eat During The Beach
Fire up the BBQ food (just as romantic). Roasted hot dogs,ribs, BBQ chicken, hamburgers, potato chips, potato salad, chef salad, fruit platter, cheese and crackers, diet soda, juice, water, cupcakes and ice cream. Just some items of choice. There is nothing like grilled food, it brings out the flavor in your food. Most resorts have grills on deck. Also in the kitchen.
You can bring the grill to the beach house if you don’t. Just remember, you are not feeding around 30 people. Just two. Can bring our portable George Foreman or comparable grill. Also our charcoal, fluid and long stem matches. We all have them stashed.
Yes, you can make it more formal (if you want the reserve theme). The steak and potato, lasagna, baked fish and rice, ribs and mash potato. I prefer the more laid back nature to play into vacation time. It’s just you and your boo enjoying the finest foods. We all love during bbq season.
You can put them on heavy duty chinet plates. Place some parsley on top (parsley helps your breath). You can also place a cherry, sliced tomatoes, or mint leaves on top. (place a toothpick to hold them down, get the multicolored ones (red/pink/blue)). You can bring your own plates from home but do we want to think about wrapping plates to protect? No.
The chinet plates (inexpensive at Wal-Mart or neighborhood supermarkets). They work just as good. Don’t have the cheapness stigma. No. Many chinet plates come in a variety of patterns. I love the diamond shaped ones. They stand out and scream chicness. You can also pick up some plastic ones from Dollar Tree. Throw them in the bag. Place some fairy lights in a plastic vase on table. You have romance.
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To Up The Intimacy, Eat Off One Plate or Platter
Yes, I love this. Can you cut some calories, yes. This isn’t the only benefit. It’s more intimate. You can’t help but feed your partner and share the same food. I would recommend getting a long heavy duty platter. Why heavy duty? You don’t want juices seeping through your plates. We don’t want our hard earned money ending on the floor. Heavy Duty protects your food. If you use paper plates, place light (non moisture items on them). They’re not meant for heavy foods. If you do use them, have trays.
You can get some nice serving trays to help protect your food and decor of course! They are chic and just screams romance. They help keep your hands sturdy (handles) when you’re transporting your food. Plus, you have room to keep your glass, napkins and utensils.
Once again, I don’t want you to think of this as coming off as cheap. The whole idea is to spice up your romance and the day. It’s all about being creative. You don’t have to fly to the Eiffel Tower to have a good time. No. It’s about enjoying quality time with the one you love. That includes the food, drink, entertainment and intimacy you enjoy. Being creative over expense. That’s the theme. Placing decor on your everyday foods, creative. Cooking together, which I highly recommend in this case, creative. Now how is this creative?
Usually on Valentine’s Day, we are all shopping around a few weeks ago, trying to surprise our loved ones. Basically, we are hiding everything. Including what to eat. We tell our spouse, keep your eyes closed. Open, a surprise plate is in front of you. At the restaurant, you place the order. Not knowing beforehand what’s going to be the delicacy. Yes, this is all good. It’s romantic but common.
I like doing things together with my partner. Why? I get to talk and be intimate with them. I get to tease them why we prepare the food. “I can’t wait until you burn the burgers.” “ Let me turn on the stove, I don’t want the whole resort to blow up.” Playful teasing and jokes. That revs up the arousal. You get to feed your partner while you’re preparing.
You get them to wrap your arms around you while you’re pressing the burgers on the grill. Watching the food cook together. They get to examine you and watch all your little nuances they love. How you maneuver the utensils and how careful you’re with the food. Your fingers, your arms and your face. They get to conduct love bites and kisses all over the side of your face. Pat their butt. Rub their back and cuddle. You get to talk to each other all while, smelling the amazing food. Who doesn’t like a great burger!
Then you get to slide open the double doors and eat together on the porch. What is more romantic than seeing the waves crashing and the sunsetting? It’s therapeutic. You can put on some light music in the background and get to munching. I recommend sitting (in cuddle form) with your partner while you eat. If you have a porch couch, that’s even better. You can feed each other and enjoy the view. You don’t have to talk sensually but can towards the end! Talk about things you enjoy, joke and laugh together. It will come naturally. If you don’t know how to start a conversation, check out the article here. Bring your fairy string lights or puck lights (warm lighting). It enhances the mood. How? The warm (orange/yellow mixture) mimics the sunsetting.
If you have beach chairs and a table, try to sit next to each other. You can even sit in your partner’s lap. This is Valentine’s Day, it’s time to be as intimate as possible. Share the same chair if you can. You can wrap your arm around them and cuddle. Of course sitting up. Feed each other and try to eat off the same plate. It’s about being one.
Psychologically, we know this action represents relaxation and romance. Most intimacy happens after these hours because we are working and active during the day. The time we are most frequently at home with our partner is after the sun sets. Of course, a great time for intimacy. If you combine all these factors, it’s an action punch for warm lighting to represent relaxation. Bright white light represents alertness and revs up your serotonin. Relaxation leads to the best intimacy. Your serotonin is calm, and at a level to induce a lot of touching sensually. If you’re amped, you’re all over the place. You’re more rigid.
As you know, I love to present science behind everything, why? If you know why, you’re less prone to make mistakes. Also, you will do things the right way. We are born with inherited traits. Essentially, everything in nature is connected. If you know the reason behind it, you will better understand how things work. That is why I presented the colors and warm lighting. How it represents the sun setting. It’s a yellow/orange combination. It’s on the darker spectrum of the yellows. Darker spectrum means calm, relaxation. Your senses aren’t driven to work in overload to protect your eyes (brighter lighter). It’s less calm, therefore, you become less calm. Your eyes relax and drop in a haze. It’s part of nature. That’s why we sleep in the dark, no light to keep us alert.
For some, we sleep with a night light. This is often in our friendly warm lighting. Essentially, all night lights have a warm setting in a number of colors. The choice is yours but the traditional yellow/orange warm lights are the best. They provide the correct combo of lighting so you can see (if you need to go to the restroom) and relax/ fall asleep.
Let’s get into another example. The color blue. Blue represents calmness and serenity. It’s a classic color. Probably the most common color behind red, white, and black. As we look out in the sea, we see blue. As we know, it’s a reflection of the blue sky. The light absorbs the light from the sky. When it turns green, the chlorophyll is dominant in the water. The clear water reflects the domination turning it green. When you move to your favorite islands, you will know why. Observing the colors is soothing. If it’s cloudy, the colors might be gray. Which is ok. If you have your nice warm lighting burning, it’s amazing. Observe the waves and calmness of the sea. Pairing with the beach sand, it’s relaxing and romantic.
Can take a nice dip in the sea with your partner. Observe the water hitting your feet and body. Plenty of time to play together in the water. If you can, bring a jet ski or rent! A nice time riding together will be amazing. It’s an adventure rolling around in them. Also, a nice boat ride. Now if you’re place of stay doesn’t have one, look for one nearby! Bring a few snacks/water with you. Nothing like romance on a boat ride. They are so fun! You get to observe nature and the surrounding scenes. It really does feel like a real life adventure.
Afterwards, you can grab an ice cream or some fruit (if watching your waist). Walk around and talk with your partner.
This gives you plenty of time to ramp up action for intimacy later. Hold hands and cuddle while you walk. I love both. Just don’t walk side by side or in front/ back of each other.
Sex On The Beach, Not The Drink
We all heard of goers being caught in the act on the beach. It’s not the case of being barely clothed, no. The beach is a great place for couples. Who wouldn’t want to be nestled with their partner in the waves. It’s a great date place. It’s on top of the list, maybe in the top 5 places. Action would probably take place there. Either in the car, house or sand. Now, I know what you’re thinking. Privacy. Yes, we don’t want anyone knowing our business. I only condone this if you’re in a secluded area. Some resorts, you can rent out and have to yourself. That is fine. If you act for a sand romp, make sure it’s comfy.
No, the beach towel won’t do. You have to have comfort. A beach chair, yes, but make sure a cushion is laid down. You can place some beach towels down, then place the chair on top of the towels. In case you fall off, you don’t want to land in the sand.
You can lay puck lights around the area for an amazing ambience. Seeing your partner in the warm light while making love is amazing. The light will illuminate each curve and delicacy on their body. Also, help their skin to glisten. Now, we know a major part of intimacy is sweat. It’s part of the motion in the ocean. Seeing that glisten under the light, is just arousing. You get to see your partner in sensual embers. It’s alluring and just sensual. Would you like to make it in the plain dark. No.
What’s fun in that. Are we making love to the sheets or our partner. The whole part is to connect with your partner. In the dark, it’s just impersonal. We are visual, we are stimulated by visuals. Does your partner have a big set of unique puppy green eyes that drive you wild. How about thick bushy eyebrows, yes, yes, yes. How about pouty lips and square jawline that draws you to touch! How about chest hair and nice muscular arms. How about thick muscular power thighs? All of this drives you wild. What good is it if you’re not observing this while in the act. We want to be the best in bed.
After you’re done in the act, cuddle with your partner! Please observe the waves. Listen to the sounds, enjoy the air. Fall asleep together on the beach. There is nothing more sensual than this. Etch your names in the sand. Play around in the sand with your feet.
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Hotel, Motel, Holiday INN
A room at the inn, a hot in the cot, the hotel. Our beloved palace for shelter. When we travel, we all have to remember to book in advance. Make sure we have all our belongings and checkout in time. They are an amazing option for Valentine’s Day.
Now, there are thousands of accommodations. I recommend picking one that offers the full monty. You don’t have to pick suites. Many hotels have regular rooms that offer amazing ambience. I am talking about rooms that offer a stove,full length mirror next to the bed, refrigerator, microwave, counter, full bed, lounging couch, table, walk in closet, dresser and more. Extended stay offers this kind of ambience.
Also a full bathroom. A walk in shower (separate from the bath), sink, and a smart tv in the bathroom. This is amazing because you get to play tunes while enjoying a steamy session. Wynn in Las Vegas is absolutely one of my favorite hotel stays ever. I didn’t want to leave that hotel. It’s amazing and that smart tv was bumping Justin Timberlake in the bathroom. They have the best hotel rooms and services. You would think Mariah Carey’s house condensed in a hotel room.
Now, before I move on, we have to make this an amazing situation. Pick a hotel that offers the full gambit. I am talking about eateries, shopping, nightclubs, amusement/theme parks, recreational activities, swimming pool, bowling, and theatre. If they offer you free tickets (included in paying for the events, sign up. You can get all the action before you hit your room for the sheets.
Know the line up, see if your favorite artist is playing at the venue. If you live on the upper east coast, Mohegan Sun is perfect. You don’t have to gambler, they offer a number of entertainment options and more. They have a lot of events, especially sports. Easy to get around and have a line of hotels at the complex. So you don’t have to walk far for entertainment. Plus free parking.
I often go to Mohegan Sun (in my line of work) so, I am speaking from experience. I notice a lot of tourists, which is a good thing. You want to stay somewhere that attracts others. You know it has a good reputation. I see nothing but a lot of travelers rolling their suitcases through the hotel. I am talking about a sea of people. The decor is amazing, it really is an amazing experience. Many of the restaurants offer amazing surround sounds and music. Michael Jordan’s restaurant is there. It’s just an amazing spot to spend Valentine’s Day. You can do so much.
I will have an article of top hotels you should be eyeing. I love hotels. I guess the tons of papers when I was obtaining my marketing degree. I got to study everything about them. Plus, I love decor. I usually stick to places that scream decor. Hotels are on top of my list. They have to attract travelers. Decor is where they start.
If you have the extra coins and love jazz music, you can have a musician play light jazz at your table. If you want to wow your partner, this can be it. Can also hire a soloist to sing at top of their lungs. It’s intimate, between the two of you. It also shows the element of surprise and love. You brought an intimate element for your spouse, if that doesn’t scream intimacy. The drawers are sure to come off.
You don’t have to go all out but if you want to change things up, why not! You have one life to live. The key, make sure it is intimate, something meaningful between the two of you.
When you get back to the hotel room (prep this surprise beforehand), to give a serene experience to the room, get a smoke machine, bubble machine or projector (illuminating hearts, flowers, chocolates, all things Valentine’s). This is using your creative juices. Put on some light music and have your favorite chocolates, fruits and snacks spread on the bed. Instead of classic heart, spell the first initial. Spell love u, a smiling face. It gives creative juice.
Now, if you know me, I love my mukbangs. Particularly Magic Mikey Eats!, wink. My favorite Youtuber has a number of ideas when it comes to the eats. One that caught my eye was his video on Aurora bakery. Why? They got life size edible desserts. A giant peach (shaped like a peach) filled with amazing flavors. If you love video games, just think of our favorite fruits mutuated to unseen large levels. These would work perfect for the bedroom on Valentine’s Day. Put these bad boys on serving trays, your partner will love you forevermore.
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Jacuzzi Are They Thing Of The Past
When you think of them, you think of a mob boss with a cigar hanging out. A gold necklace hanging on talking about the next hit. Well, to let you know they are not out of style. I would recommend swimming pools but we are talking about privacy. The next thing is a bathtub or jacuzzi. Places where you can have privacy.
Before you dip in, prep yourself. Ladies, have your hair tied up or slicked back. Make it a slow build to the area. Have both you and your partner start the bath. Let the water fill. Now, just don’t stand there and watch it fill. No. There should be a lot of foreplay going on. Know where your lingerie will be after you finish in the bath. Have some fruit, chocolates or water in fancy glasses in a stand nearby. So you can feed each other and drink together. Light music of course.
Slowly undress your partner. Admire each curve. Touch their face (gently) run down their jawline. Run across their lips. When you remove clothes, use your palms. If you remove your man’s shirt, use the whole palm of your hands and move up his stomach and up over his head. Then unbuckle his belt (slowly), pull his zipper down. Slowly move his pants down. Talk a little sensually to him.
Then move his hands to undress you. Start from the top to the bottom. Touch his arm, neck and chest sensually. Admire his face and physique. Then guide your partner by the hand into the jacuzzi. Keep the touch and connection going. Subtly, this also communicates care to your partner. You care about their safety. Submerge under the water and continue to explore each other body. Admire and explore the sensation of the heat. Let it relax and stimulate you. Play with each other, run your hands across their body with the water. Trickle it down their body. Exercise natural foreplay.
The key, just don’t hop in the jacuzzi then sit and talk. You got to exercise intimacy. Build up intimacy. This is your time alone. Your hands should be all over your partner. Why? You love them of course. If you love them, you will show. How. By touching them. You want to feel them, be one with them. You love every bit about them. We survive by touch.
You know about the mother’s touch. If she didn’t hug or caress her child, it would show indifference to her child. We are built to survive by love. Touch is a crucial communication vehicle. If the mother didn’t exercise this, how do you think this will affect the child’s survival. It may take years off and leave with a broken heart.
Give your partner the good old massage. Have them lean into your back. Use long smooth strokes. Whisper in their ear. Enjoy exploring each other. Can end with a hand job and fellas, a nice massage to your partner’s labia lips/clitoris. Rub between the thighs and around. It stilmulates things to come.
If you decide (has to come naturally), engage in sexual intercourse! Nothing like making love in the water. Get in a comfortable position. Grab some specialty bath pillows to rest your back. When you’re caressing your partner, make sure you engage the water. Grab some of it and rub down your partner. Once again, the combination of water and heat is a great stimulate. Keep a grasp of your partner, you don’t want to accidentally slip. Be it the back of neck, shoulders, waist and thighs. Sturdiness is the name of the game. If you’re uncomfortable, you won’t perform at your best. This also gives you a chance to caress your partner and be closer to them.
Once again, we are making love not just engaging in sex and that is it. You don’t want to be impersonal. Touch, caress get as close as possible to your partner. Just don’t lay erect and pump, no. Rub up and down your partner’s torso, neck, face, thighs. Hold their hands, play with their fingers. Get them in a hugging embrace, run your hands down their backs, necks. Play with hair. Play with the hair in the back of their necks. It also shows you are enjoying the sensation of being together as one.
When you’re done. Relax a bit in the jacuzzi. End with a nice hugging embrace and makeout session. Kisses all over the face. The neck, the ears and shoulders. Run your hands all over their body. Talk to each other. Continue to engage in intimacy. Then guide your partner out of the bath. Towel each other off. Then put on your undergarments. Yes, the undergarments.
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Why You Should End The Day In Lingerie
This is Valentine’s Day, a day to shine. Once you’re done for the day and ready to sleep, it’s easy to get into tradition. Throw on the wife beater or favorite pjs. Not so fast. End it on a right note. We have to continue the theme. Put on lingerie and not your granny nightwear. We want to enhance the moment. It’s a night of love and intimacy. Let your partner continue to admire your beauty. Show off your skin and sensuality.
It’s the same for the fellas. Put on sensual undergarments. No wife beaters or t-shirts, end shirtless! Let your partner admire your strong chest and muscles! I know for me, muscular arms, nothing beats them. They represent strength and endurance. Being able to lift and protect, sign me up. End the night in them.
End in lingerie is key, especially if you plan on engaging in intercourse following any activity. Naturally transition to the garments. Have your partner close their eyes while you change into them. Walk sensually and have them open their eyes. These garments are constructed for a reason. To help entice the rise. They show off your curves and definition. They enhance your body, making your sensuality stand out.
Conclusion
For some of us, we see Valentine’s Day as a day to eat out and dance. It can be more if you put your mind into it. Put a little creativity in every time. I am not asking you to go out all or break the bank. Can change up the way things go. Can do an all day affair. Can start with breakfast in bed then an all day out doing what you love. Maybe a sporting event, bowling, dancing, visit to a museum, or splurge on a new movie. Then afterwards, end with a nice dinner or quick snack. You can share your favorite McD’s fries and milkshake. Can go to a throwback (50’s) restaurant for old school appeal. Can go for a nice walk and end up sharing ice cream together. It’s all up to you.
Once again, it has to be something you and your partner enjoy. If you both don’t like baseball, then going to a baseball game wouldn’t be key. You would be bored as there is no vested interest. Now if you both hardcores, it can be a thrilling experience seeing your favorites in action. Nothing like seeing your team in person with other fans. The energy and excitement. Plus you’re sharing the excitement with your partner. Side by side. Plenty of time to exchange intimacy and mutual love.
It’s good to get out and about and see life. Its revs our senses. It can also plays into romance that is to come once you get home or to the hotel.
Valentine’s Day is more than a holiday. It’s a time to rejuvenate and celebrate with the one you love. Even if you have to work during this time, you can always plan for the future. You can send flirty text messages or deliveries to your partner. Love can still be exchange.
If you don’t celebrate Valentine’s Day, that is ok. You can still take advantage of the sales and spend the day lowkey. You don’t have to splurge. You can get down on some heart shape cupcakes or pancakes. Who doesn’t love chocolates? It doesn’t mean you’re single, but if you’re, don’t be a grump on the day. Someone is out there for you. Spend the day loving yourself. You can also turn it around and go on a fun date. You can spend a platonic day with your friends, sharing your juicy stories. Friendship is also on the horizon. You can talk about what you guys look for in a spouse. Share tips or maybe go out on a social outing. Go out dancing, you never know if you will run into a future partner. You don’t have to spend the day alone.
You can also spend it with your family. Maybe take your grandma out to her favorite spot. Take your cousins or nieces/nephews out to a good spot. Dave or Busters yall! It’s all up to you.
I want you to enjoy life without hassles. We get so caught up with our daily problems we forget to enjoy life. One thing you can do is enjoy time with your partner. You love them to death, why not show it the best way you know how!
What are your favorite Valentine’s Day traditions? How do you feel about Valentine’s Day? Any Valentine’s Day stories you would like to share? Let me know in the comments below!
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