Let’s face it, no matter your age, you know how to text. We are all getting texts from our grandma’s, bosses or favorite spots. We are inundated with the ping and vibrate. Yes, our phones have been our beacon. We went through Covid and had no choice but to use them. Since then, the world has changed. If you go to any place, we still have curbside pickup. We have become more integrated with social. Some have gone away. Many have stormed their way back in. 

One thing that hasn’t stopped is our hormones. Even before COVID, we have opened up our options to computer love. We have seen a slew of online dating sites. Okcupid, eharmony, plenty of fish and our infamous swipe left. Can’t leave out our traditional sites…. Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram…all have become a hidden source for a mate. Let’s face it, we are all looking good on social media. It’s the thing to do. Impressing your friends, family and acquaintances is the game. Get likes and comments about your beauty or hip outfit.  Social has also opened up a pool of dating options. Through social media, we can connect with anyone in the world. Even as simple as a dm. 

Through it all, many of us still love the traditional means of dating. Yes, the power of in person dating/relationships. You want to touch and be in the presence of the person you are after. For others, we have found someone who has captured our eyes. Only one problem. Distance. Good old distance. We can’t help where we are born or live. It’s life. It doesn’t stop us from finding someone, even across the country. Yes, it sucks but it shouldn’t stop you. We are thankful for technology and especially the Internet. We can shack up with the one we love via the web. 

Yes, it doesn’t beat in person love but it can most certainly match. There are so many creative things to make online romance work. To make it work, there has to be true love. If you truly love someone, you will make it work. You know they are the perfect person for you, there is no one else you want to be with. You are willing to make it work. If this is you, then please read further. 

If you read my other articles, I say the same thing over and over again. It’s all for a reason, it works. I speak from experience. I haven’t met my future boyfriend/husband in person yet. Still, he gives me so many butterflies every time I see him. No one has captured my heart more than him. I love him to death and know deep down in my heart, he is perfect. We mesh on all cylinders. It’s crazy the amount of chemistry. He’s on my mind all the time. Across the country doesn’t stop nothing. I go to bat for him. I don’t care about distance, I know what my heart feels. The one period! 

I say all this to say, you can have an amazing cyber relationship. It’s all about how your heart feels. It’s not all about physicality, it’s more than this. You want to establish an intimate connection with the one you love. You love hearing their voice, their thoughts, how their day went, their laugh, seeing their demeanor. You love everything about them. You can capture it all over the screen. 

Yes, yes, yes, you can experience amazing sexual experiences over the screen. It can also be over the phone as well. We all know how to talk in our partner’s ear and tease, correct. We can push it up a kazillion levels through communication. We all have desires that have to be met. I don’t want you jumping to any person for a thrill. We have to protect ourselves. Like my grandmother used to tell me “don’t use your body like a garbage can.” We can be creative like no other. It works just as good. 

Background On My Love History 

The Birth Of Computer Love 

Business World/ Media Knows Our Needs 

Why Computer Love/Relationships Rock 

Your Computer Choice Matters, Don’t Choose Just Anyone 

Why More Memory Will Enhance The Video Chat

Test Your Camera Quality, Make Sure Your Lighting Is Superb“

Practice To See How You Look Before You Chat 

Let Your Interest Witness Your True Personality

More Camera Tips………………

Photo Editors To The Rescue 

Have Your Laptop, Computer Or Phone Stationed For Comfort 

Back To Lighting, It’s Crucial 

Use Your Creativity To Communicate

Scenarios To The Rescue

The scenario: A Video Chat On A Nice Saturday Afternoon 

End of Sample Saturday Chat, Takeaways To Learn From 

Verbal Is Major, Up The Anty 

More Takeaways To Learn From The Sample Chat

Advice To Start And Drive The Video Chat 

We Don’t Always Have To Chat, Things To Do On A Video Chat

7 Fun Ideas To Do During Video Chat

1. Online Games
2. Play Some Music In Background And Discuss 
3. Watch Movies Together
4. Bring Personal Memorabilia And Discuss
5. Food…It’s Time To Grub
6. Take A Virtual Walk Together 
7. Can We Get Naughty

Conclusion

I guess you figured by the title and flow of the article, tips are sure to follow. Yes. Cyber relationships or cyber sex has been around for awhile. Many give it a thumbs down while others don’t mind. If you have never engaged and don’t know where to start, you are in the right place. There is nothing wrong, as long as you’re not using the person maliciously. We all have our biases, don’t let it stop you from finding the right person. 

Background On My Love History 

For some of us, we ended up with someone local, from school (elementary-highschool). You knew them, how they acted and ended up falling in love. It’s safe. Then there are those who went off to college and found the love of their life. You found someone on the same career path and trajectory, what better pick. This was the case with my mom. She didn’t fall in love but she did come home pregnant from college (with me). Things happen when you’re in social settings. You might find chemistry with someone unexpectedly. 

There are a lot of us who haven’t experienced this. I am that person. I couldn’t wait to get out of school. College was ok but at some point, I couldn’t wait to fly the coup there. I focused on my studies. My dream was to find a young man from NY. Fall in love and live in the city. Well, that didn’t happen. The total opposite did. Someone I am eyeing in good old Los Angeles with a heart of gold. Across the country. This is ok. Yes, the distance sucks but he is worth it. We click on all types of cylinders. I just know deep down he is for me, there is no question. We are going on what, 8 years of feeling this. This is a long time. It’s not going to stop. 

What stops the union, life situations. My career for one, I am always traveling for work non stop. Second, not being open to him about the “romantic feelings.” I feel I am not established for a relationship right now. Hopefully, something opens up and changes. I feel, things will turn for the best. Until then, I just keep the feelings going in my heart. I am faithful and loyal, the heart grows fonder each day. Yes, there are many days where I just can’t take it. I will do anything to be side by side with him. But reality sets in. I have to take care of home first then figure it out when things settle. 

Now that I got my backstory out the way, you can get a grasp of why I wrote this article. We will now get into the meat of things, the tips. Tips on having amazing time with someone over the computer/phone. Now, it doesn’t have to be distance. You can also play it up (even if you are with someone physically). Sometimes, our partner travels a lot (for work or leisure). Also, works overtime a lot. It feels like a long distance relationship, barely seeing each other. You can keep the fire burning electronically. We don’t want both of your eyes wandering elsewhere. We all have different circumstances and bills, don’t let it stop the fire from burning hard. 

I will definitely have a future article that goes in depth on my wild love life. Full of bumps and tales, you sure in for a good ride. So where do we start? Let’s start with some history so you can a gist of the birth of computer love. 

The Birth Of Computer Love 

If you’re an r&b junkie, you know the song computer love. The beat is amazing and Tupac even famously samples it in Temptations (one of my favorite songs). Did computer love start during the 80s, possibly. That’s when Steve Jobs and Bill Gates was whipping up mainstream computers for the home. We did have means through the t.v. and phone. We saw the ads, call this number for a date and sex. This infamous phone sex ads. Also in the phone book. We also had the call girls and brothels, lowkey but became mainstream through shows. People were spilling the beans, especially when celebrities were involved. Yes, many had high sex drives.

 It doesn’t matter their income level or looks, they had hidden vices that needed to be satisfied. When paparazzi raised the price for many of these call agents to spill the beans, they did. Exposing the industry. It became a concern and laws became enacted. No longer can you strut the streets for sex in exchange for money. Prison time or fines beware. Mayors started cleaning up the streets. Many adult establishments also got shut down. Pop a quarter in for a quick peep show. 

If you have seen LL Cool J’s famous “Doing it well” video, you will see this in action. You see LL sitting down in a suit enjoying the sites of women doing strip teases for him. After a minute or 2, the curtain closes. He pops in more money to view more. This was a testament of wealthy Wall Street brokers and bankers. They work long hours (either single or married). They were missing a major area being satisfied, sex. The temptation was everywhere. Peep shows, strip joints, adult stores, nude magazines, call girls, brothels and phone sex was everywhere. Getting a quick thrill before hitting the train to their wife, beware. What you couldn’t hide was disease. 

We now shift to the computer. Yes, many of these establishments have shut down but we have an abundance of sites that act in their capacity. The key, you can get paid without it being unlawful. Backpage is one site where you can get paid in exchange for sexual favors. It can be reserved (a light strip tease or talk) or outright raunchy (the full sexual experience, baring it all). If money becomes tight, many people can turn to this. 

For others, we have softcore sites dedicated for your pleasures. Some of our social media sites have been giving this a whirl. The first one that comes to mind is Instagram. The power of a DM is something. There are many who have started relationships through DM. Even Twitter and Facebook. Some have came on these sites in hopes of finding someone or just to flirt. We are human, we have needs. We are now interconnected and not limited. The pool selection is wide and can meet anyone from around the world. 

Business World/ Media Knows Our Needs 

How quickly we have shifted from phone chat to the computer. We have so many options now to make things work. I went over a quick history so you can appreciate the new wave. One thing the business world knows is our needs. Satisfying our needs is how they make money. Love, sex and relationships is one that is primal. We all run into temptations and love to satisfy our desires. What better way to capitalize.

 If we can get people in relationships then we can sell the lingerie, sex toys, Valentines Day cards, the engagement/wedding rings, wedding venues, the houses, cars, and joint bank accounts. Two people joining together is better. Why? Multiple streams of income. 

What also comes next is kids! Yes, good old kids. Another market we can capitalize on. The cereals, trips to Disney, karate classes, notebooks/crayons, baby strollers, and toys. It’s a benefit to pump love into our brains. Yes, we all have those desires inside but society pushes them to act. 

I talked about this in another article. Our magazines and shows are inundated with celebrity relationships. Who is Chris Evans dating now, grrrr, lol. Who is the latest celebrity hookup/breakup. Who is Hollywood’s latest “IT” couple. 

We remember the 2000’s. Who was dominating everywhere. Brad and Angelina Jolie. These two were everywhere. The standard of handsomeness and beauty. Barbie and Ken. These two were regarded for their looks. The best looking man and woman forming a relationship. For them to hook up, Hollywood’s dream come true. 

Papparazzi stuck on them like glue. It was a major obsession. Following Ben and J-Lo and Kardashians. The era of the family. A sad family tragedy and sex tape spurred a dynasty. Younger generations became glued to them. The business aspect and close knit family ties had America hooked. 

I say all of this to say, the media has a subtle influence on us. It has played into our psych. We have started to look better because of celebrity influence. Before, we saw a few hints of fashion. All of sudden, we were flooded with magazines and shows dedicated to their fashions. It started hitting the stores.

Pamela Anderson dominated the 90’s with the bust. Women started showing plunging cleavage and going under knife for boob jobs. The boobs were the new new. Then JLO followed by Kim Kardashian ushered in the era of the butt. Women stormed the gyms, getting their glute game on. 

 As time has gone by, we have become more obsessed with looking good. Primarily, as we have become more connected to celebrities than before. Before social media, we were lucky if we ran into one. Now through social media, we can connect with them. You ever get a dm or a reply on Twitter, probably set you ablazed. I was lucky to have rapper Eve follow me on Twitter. I couldn’t believe it. Why me? It didn’t matter, I let it go as nothing. 

Celebrities are asking our suggestions and for some, love interacting with their fans. They are also pushing more of their looks, fashion and beauty on us. It has all played into why we have become more obsessed with looking good. Unfortunately, some have taken this to the extreme, going great lengths to look like someone else. Spending money (they don’t have) on plastic surgery or bbl’s (fat transfers). Big butt and boobs please. It’s easy suck fat out of the stomach and inject in butt and boobs. We are now the classic standard of desire. 

This was a lot of information. Is it relevant. Yes. I wanted to give you a history lesson so you understand why things have shifted more on the computer. Before Covid, we were glued to our phones. Social media became addicting. We didn’t have to leave our house to burn up gas. We can have fun over the Internet. Many sites were popping up and we were tackling them. 

Why Computer Love/Relationships Rock 

As an introvert, this is up my alley. It also opened up my horizons for finding love over the Internet. I thought, if I can do this in person, what’s stopping me. Our computers and phones have cameras. Good quality. There are many free programs we can use. We have online streaming sites. What might be a hindrance is wifi. Well, we are in luck as basically everyone offers free wifi. Unless your car isn’t equipped or you don’t have mobile service built in, then you might find a hindrance. Still, we can make a way. 

The power of record. We can always record our sessions and send them later in the privacy of our own home. We have Google Meet, live stream, Microsoft Teams/chat, Zoom, Dropbox,Youtube, Venmo, and Apple airdrop. You have livestream sites. We have access to everything. 

Your Computer Choice Matters, Don’t Choose Just Anyone 

So how can we up the romance online through the computer, well… First, a good computer with plenty of space on it. 

When I am out and about, I often visit the computer sections to see if any are on sale. I often look at the sales section and wonder, will I strike a good deal. Often, it’s good old marketing. Computers with low ram. There is nothing wrong but I like to get my money’s worth! If I see a 16 GB computer $449 vs a 8GB computer for the same price, I am scooping the 16GB. 

For some of our less tech savvy friends, price may be a factor. You often scoop the lowest price one but you’re leaving money on the table. As mentioned, the stores know we love sales. They will put our lower ram friends on sale. Less memory, less material, lower price. They know the general public often may not recognize the differences in processors. Grabbing whatever is on sale, not knowing if they search thoroughly, they can get a higher ram computer for the same price. 

I don’t care if you don’t use the computer as much, still opt for a higher ram (you can get a great RAM computer (16GB) at the same price). Why pay attention to RAM, primarily higher than 16 GB? You have a faster processor, more memory/storage and can load more programs. Get your full money’s worth. I will go in depth in a future article. 

As I work on a lot of graphics and use Adobe, I have to have plenty of memory and space. You can’t operate on a lower gig computer. The recommendation is a minimum of 16GB for general usage. If you use premiere or video, 32 GB. I have 16GB and I use Premiere with no problem. I don’t have access to AI but that is ok. To check memory settings, go to Control Panel>System. There you will see your system settings. Click About then look at Installed RAM. You will see a fancy number next to GB, that is the amount of RAM you have installed. If you see a 4, you have 4GB (for light use). If you see 16 GB ( you have more storage capabilities than 4 GB, meaning you can use more programs. Often, programs that require a lot more juice to run, like Adobe Suite). 

Why More Memory Will Enhance The Video Chat

Memory is important because you want a fast processor. You don’t want anything running slow on screen. It hinders productivity. You ever view your loved one and the computer keeps freezing/crashes. It takes your head out of the game,making you frustrated. We don’t want to pass on that frustration to your partner. You will get frustrated and end the video connection. This can cause a strain. 

You want to make sure you have a computer/phone that has no issues, fast processing and can equip the programs to use to communicate. Be familiar with them beforehand. We don’t want to be fumbling around to find things. How do I access the camera, emojis or keyboard. How to make sure it’s private. Is the connection strong? You want to make sure everything goes smoothly. 

Also, fall in love with a few sites, not all. Why? We don’t have time to learn them all. Master a few, that’s key. Make sure the sites you choose are free and reliable. Have one as a backup in case your primary one doesn’t work. Have pre-existing accounts already established. Test them out. 

Test Your Camera Quality, Make Sure Your Lighting Is Superb

Test your camera quality. If you’re on a laptop, make sure you know where your shutter is. You can go to the control panel> system>settings> bluetooth & devices. Select camera. Check settings. Make sure you know how to turn the camera to face you. Lighting and quality suits your best. Test in different parts of your home or where you will film. 

 Lighting does matter with your appearance. Natural lighting helps. Know your best angles. Practice smiling and talking on camera. This will put you at ease when you’re talking to your partner. You don’t want them shutting off the screen. I doubt that would happen but everyone is different. You look different from your pictures. The average person doesn’t know that we are working with dimensions and perceptions. What you capture on camera/ video is different from reality. 

We don’t want to be hiding in the dark. You can have a nice ambience of warm lighting. It will enhance your skin tone and give you a glistening glow. Also, it will relax the atmosphere. Yes, it goes against what I preach about making sure you’re seen clearly. No need to worry here as long as your date can see you. As long as it’s the right balance and not too stark. We don’t want to be hidden in the dark. You want your date to observe your eyes (where the connection is to be made). Observing  body language is very important? Why? The body never lies. 

I recommend observing your date. Are they leaning forward, are their pupils dilated? Are they observing you or paying attention to the game on tv. A bad sign. If they are paying attention to something other than you, it shows disinterest. It’s ok to periodically check in on what’s going on, but to be perpetually glued to the screen, might as well be doing something else. They aren’t interested. 

If you want to be a body language expert, check out my post on this important subject https://musings-of-life.com/2025/11/04/signs-of-attraction/

There is no way I am going to be watching tv or become distracted with big green puppy eyes on my screen. The purpose of flipping on the power switch is to make a connection with the one I am interested in. I want to know how their day was, what’s bothering them, did their team win yesterday? I want to observe everything about them. I want to spend time with the man I love, not something else. I want to see his eyes, his beautiful smile, his laugh, his big hands, and his broad shoulders.

A warm ambiance spells ROMANCE! I love it, it’s just so relaxing. I just want to hug the screen when his beautiful face appears.  What a sight! 

I highly recommend having adequate lighting, not too bright and not to dull, just right. Warm lighting is first on my list followed by natural light. This helps to keep you alert but at the same time, relaxed. It also helps to make you look your best on camera. Camera quality is affected by light. If you have dull and stark lighting, you will look grainy and incoherent. The better the lighting, the better you will look. 

We all know models have to play with angles and lighting. The stage is set with lights in various positions, all with the goal in capturing the best look. The same goes for us. We also want the best lighting to look our best. It also shows more of our accuracy. So when your love interest meets you in person, there are no discrepancies. Sure, you will probably look better in person (the camera doesn’t represent our true beauty). At least it won’t be a far contrast! Let’s all look our part. It shows we care about our partner. 

Practice To See How You Look Before You Chat 

To help you out, practice with a relative or a friend. Ask their opinion. How do you look? Do you frown a lot, look bored? How does your personality come off? Is it warm and inviting? We don’t want standoffish and boring… kills the mood! Are you comfortable? How is your posture and body language? Do you command an appeal or hit the road? 

The goal, no hunch shoulders and tightness. Loose and inviting is the key. Remember, we want to make a connection. 

If you want your privacy, you can record a session. You can turn on screen recording and tape your practice session. Evaluate everything. Are your eyes shifting everywhere or commanding attention? You want them to command attention, why? The purpose is to show interest in your subject. Now, you don’t have to stare but make eye contact. Just like you’re in an interview, you want to show you have great communication skills. Here, romance is involved. You want to make a genuine connection. 

We aren’t here to waste time. If you’re about to do a video chat with someone, it’s evident they have struck your interest. We want to make a strong connection. Not only impressing but just showing who you really are.  If things go further, your true colors will show. If you feel you’re a little reserved, let your video date know. You can be detailed. 

Let Your Interest Witness Your True Personality 

For instance, say you’re reserved but not in all situations. You can say… I am reserved but it’s generally in a professional setting, aka my job, lol.  Just not too reserved, I do cut jokes and show personality, just professionally. I am the complete opposite around friends and family, time to get loose now. Can’t leave out the bedroom, this is a place where all types of animals come out. 

Honesty is better than anything. We all aren’t perfect. If you have a defining characteristic about you that you feel may lose your date, play around it. For instance, you know you have a big attitude, you can’t hide that for so long. You don’t have to come out and say it, but don’t allude you’re a sweet angel all the time. Just don’t mention it at all. 

Only you can judge the situation. Me, I would be honest. I would let them know the details so they’re caught off guard. I don’t want them to get in a trick bag. If you don’t like attitudinal girls, then I am not for you. Being upfront can prepare your date. At least they can make a decision. We all have flaws. Perhaps with your date, this is a flaw they can deal with. They love everything else and appreciate your honesty. What you can do is provide details. 

 For instance, say you’re a little harsh around the edges. This is what you can say.  I am a little harsh, it’s just my nature. I am always trying to change but my upbringing was kind of hard. It rubbed off on my personality. Even though I come off a little brash at times I do have the biggest heart deep down inside. I am not like this all the time, just some times I can get into my mood. 

Even though I get moody, I can be the sweetest person at the same time. I am loyal to death and can depend on me in any situation. Plus, I have a crazy sense of humor just brewing just for you. I know you can change that all around. Your big puppy eyes and sweet soul is the right change for me. 

What I did is spin negatives into positives. I would recommend doing the same. You can offset your negatives with your positives. The goal, more positives than negatives. Offset your negatives with a positive. Just like you’re asked on the job interview about your negatives, you spin it around to your positives. You can say you’re working on them, it’s something you struggle with, hopefully you can help me overcome.

 I would recommend including your date in helping you overcome it. Include them when I barely know them?  Yes, I know. You barely know them but if you feel a connection, include them. It shows you’re connecting with them. Something about them makes you feel that they will be the right partner to help you overcome. If it’s your personality, companionship or advice, you place value in working together with them. Talk about connecting! The goal is to create sparks. The goal is also to come off naturally as well. Only you can judge the conversation. Just being honest! 

More Camera Tips………………

For the longest time, I couldn’t find the shutter button. I had a remote interview and panicked! Luckily, I found the little black switch above the camera. I slid it to the right and the camera worked. Just a forewarning, know everything about your laptop/desktop. Take the time so you don’t run into any issues. It’s better to take the time than waste time later, trying to find a solution. Your brain will thank you later. 

One thing I believe everyone should know is the computer. It’s our life. You don’t have to be a programmer but get to know the basics. Know why things work. If your computer freezes or doesn’t turn on, how can you troubleshoot without taking it for repair. Do you know about backup? Make it process faster. Ensure you have any malware or viruses. Shortcuts, please get to know. It can save you so much time! 

Photo Editors To The Rescue 

Now about our beloved computer/phone camera’s. Accuracy! Now for many of us, we are disappointed when we take them. Thankfully, we have a gazillion photo editors who are at our rescue. 

When you take a picture or video, your face is exaggerated a bit. Your nose or features may appear a little bit bigger. I forgot the analogy behind it but I know it stretches your features. Especially if you take a picture closer to the camera, the wider things become. You don’t want things to stretch beyond capacity. Homey the clown view, no way. Keep this in mind. 

Yes, we have our trusty filters but just realize, you have natural beauty. Don’t let the camera play tricks on you. Don’t get discouraged for not wanting to get on camera with the one you love. You look a kazillion times better in person. Some people are photogenic. Don’t be discouraged if you aren’t.

 If you click with someone, they’re not going to be caught up with your looks. It can be a test of their heart. Are they there just for looks or everything? Yes, we can be attracted but it’s more than the looks. What’s going on in their head and heart. What do we share that is mutual? Why do I want to be with you? Why do I want to spend my time with you? Can I be doing something else? We only have so much time, spend it wisely. 

Once you examine yourself and motives, things should be a breeze. Only you know your desires. Everyone is different. I am not here to police, just provide guidance. Looks can only go so far. Things can change. What’s on the surface is only skin deep. It doesn’t last unless you have a genuine connection. No matter what your partner looks like, you’re attracted. 

What’s good is a relationship if you’re just caught up with bad motives. 

Now, let’s get to the good stuff. How can we level up romance on the computer. Well, we started with the programs/equipment. Now, it’s about being creative with the one you love. 

Have Your Laptop, Computer Or Phone Stationed For Comfort 

Have your equipment stationed so you’re not holding it. Who wants to be causing strain on our hands and laps. Make sure the camera is showing your full view, not the top half of your head. Full vantage point. The key to good communication is the full monty. It establishes trust and shows your partner your facial expressions. Let them see the full view to connect. We are here to establish a connection. If you were connecting in person, they wouldn’t be seeing the back of your head. 

For safety, make sure you station it properly so it doesn’t crash on the floor. If you have a hardwood floor, this is a no. We don’t want any cracked screens. That is my worst nightmare. I can’t stand a cracked screen. We all know how much replacement is, might as well get a new device. Also, you can damage your device. We don’t want to be shelling out more money than we have to. Make sure wires are organized. You can get some handy velcro strips from Walmart. 

If you have chargers and electrical cords all over the place, things can get connected. We all have our modem wires to work with. We want to make sure they are organized and wrapped in safe manner. I have a gazillion velcro strips. I am a master organizer and I hate jumble wires. They only cost around $4.00 a pop. I always get them on sale at WalMart. 

Here are these bad boys VELCRO Brand ONE-WRAP Ties 8in x 1/2in Ties Gray & Black 50 Ct – Walmart.com 

You can use these cords for anything, your extension cords, pencils, pens, christmas lights and usb wires. 

Back To Lighting, It’s Crucial 

Then, determine your lighting. You don’t want it to be fully bright, clash with the camera. Warm lighting sets an ambience. Just enough where your partner can see you. We don’t want to turn on the camera and look like you’re going rogue/undercover. Not the CIA. We aren’t hiding but showing ourselves to our partner.

 Let them see your laugh, your smile, your smirk, wink and inquisitive face. The goal is to make the interaction as realistic as possible. As if they are in the same room. They are, just not physically. Treat the computer as your partner. You can stroke their face on camera, blow air kisses, and rub their hand/ arm on screen. Don’t worry, it’s not weird. You’re just communicating your love to them.

Use Your Creativity To Communicate

I know it’s hard, especially when you have a genuine connection. You yearn to hug, hold and touch them everywhere. It’s part of our human nature. Show your affection on screen. Not only verbally but written. You can write I love you so much on a piece of paper, and hold it up. Say, I love you a 1000% not 100. There isn’t enough space on this paper to convey how much I love you.  It shows your genuine love for the person. It breaks up the monotony. I am not asking you to waste paper but its a cute touch. Can also put it on your phone or tablet.

 Can write it in the chat. Instead of saying it, can convey it through emojis! A nice addition to the communication. Just like a love letter, write your sentiments. They can have a hard copy of your words when you depart. Text is even better. That way when they’re feeling sentimental (and missing you), they can go to the text. Review what you wrote. There is nothing like a hard copy. To give you ideas, let’s get into a scenario. You know, I love scenarios. This is how you grow and improve. 

Scenarios To The Rescue

I will use myself as an example. Just to recap, I have my eyes on a set of puppy eyes in Los Angeles. He has captured my heart so badly. I have so much sentiment built up, it’s crazy. Some of things I would tell him during and after a video conference. 

The scenario: A Video Chat On A Nice Saturday Afternoon 

Me: What a nice site to see, big puppy eyes for the win. 

Him: You know how to keep a man laughing.

Me: You keep my heart beating, I have to return the favor.

Him: How about I go the extra mile and say, you captured my heart.

Me: How about I capture your appetite, let me set up a grubhub order on me. 

Him: Hey, that’s my job. Pizza on me. 

While you both wait for your respective pizza orders. 

Me: How has your day been going big boy. 

Him: Sad because you’re not in my arms. I miss seeing you so much. 

Me: Well, you just put a lot of pressure on a girl. You don’t know how much I run my fingers through your soft brown curls. 

Him: “chuckling” You always go for my hair. I have a feeling I will be bald by the end of the year. 

Me: This definitely can’t happen. Your hair is my kryptonite, I can’t help but run my hands through it. 

Him: Wait until I get ahold of your crowning glory but first, those full lips that are meant on mine. 

Me: “blowing air kisses” My hands are definitely meeting your sharp jaw, high cheekbones and muscular arms. Up and down and round and round. 

Him: Tongue and cheek is the game. I can’t wait to get a hold of you. The goal is to have you in my arms all day. 

Me: My goal is to never leave them. 

Him: What are we drinking with our food. 

Me: Diet soda on the rocks, bae.

Him: Did I tell you how beautiful you look, you’re glowing. I am a lucky guy. 

Me: I don’t have to go there with you. I have to beat those women off you in LA. 

Him: When I finally get your nice behind on the plane out here, you will see it’s no competition. 

Me: We will get to that point. I will get my hands on your cheeks. 

Him: Touche. Hopefully it’s both sets of cheeks, wink. I can’t wait to run my finger across your delicate jaw, nape of your neck and your infamous chest. 

Me: They are made for your hands and head. I can’t wait to have you crashing on top of me. 

Him: Plenty of kisses all over your kissable face.

Me: What would I do without you. We need to plan a vacation together. Where are we heading?

Him: You’re always talking about Vegas and the hotels, how about we stroll around together.

Me: Sounds like a plan. We are going to have so much fun. I can’t wait!

Him: What type of fun are we talking about? Wholesome or naughty? A man can handle so much of you. 

Me: Wholesome until I land on your green eyes, then it’s naughty onsite.

Him: Rocking time in Vegas, can Elvis handle all the hits we’re bringing.

Me: I think he can, it will begin and end with a bang. 

Him: Guess what, I am doing all the planning. It will be fun researching, I got to pick out a special places as a surprise. All you have to do is sit on the plane being pretty. 

Me: Whatever you pick, I know it will be special. Just you by my side is enough. I am on cloud 9. 

Him:  These green eyes will be getting you in so much trouble. Now, what are our big beautiful brown eyes going to watch while we eat?

Me: Home Alone, there is nothing that warms my heart than watching you laugh. 

Him: What’s even better, once Kevin gets to the hotel. You’re a total mess, lol. 

Me: I am already a total mess, you’re such an adorable heartbreaker.

Him: Well, heartbreaker meeting heart melter. You melt me in so many ways.

Me: Trying to get us in the mood for chocolate, I am down.

Him: I am out of chocolate but I do have some whip cream. I can’t wait until we are together, it’s going all over you. 

Me: Guess your fingers will be meeting lips, one by one. A taste I have been waiting for. 

Him: I wonder what else you would be tasting, I hope it’s everything. Have your way with me please. 

Me: This is the best invitation I ever received, it’s duly accepted. You’re in for a treat. 

End of Sample Saturday Chat, Takeaways To Learn From 

As you see from the scenario, it’s a lot of playful flirting and love sentiments being exchanged. When you’re talking to your partner on camera, verbal communication is key.  You’re missing the physical element. What can take its place is the verbal. 

As you see, I incorporated a lot of specific things I love about my partner. One of my weaknesses, his big green eyes. They are big, unique and just breaktakingly beautiful. They evoke happiness, sweetness, playfulness, innocence and sensuality all in one. I can’t stop staring at them. They are just big and just to die for. They tell so much, you can’t help but show love.  I also communicate my love sentiments to them. How they melt my heart, how I love staring into them. How they make me feel. It’s playful and loving. Your partner can’t help but blush. 

The whole gist is to make your partner feel loved. You notice specifics about them and they are meaningful to you. It’s a subtle love letter that makes them feel loved. Also, boosts their self esteem. This helps with the lack of physical presence. It’s just not the same when you’re not physically in front of a person.  You can’t play with their hair or hands to supplement the intimacy. All you can rely on is verbal communication. 

Verbal Is Major, Up The Anty 

Yes, you can communicate gestures but verbal is the major player. Adding a little playful flirting can send shivers down their spine. Expressing your love sentiments can leave the heart bumping faster.  Use your natural wit and the rest will follow. As I always say, practice makes perfect. Practice conversations, what you would say. Not saying you’re preparing for a movie scene, practicing a script. 

As you notice, I adore my partner’s physical appearance. If you seen this man, you can’t help but scream handsome. Just an absolutely beautifully crafted specimen. The quintessential square jaw, soft brown curls, big puppy eyes and high cheek bones. The classic boyish charm. He’s the star quarterback with the best chill personality. He’s Justin Timberlake with brown hair to die for. The sporty college guy with a strong nerdy flair. A girl’s ultimate weakness.

More Takeaways To Learn From The Sample Chat

His physical appearance is just a plus. What brings out his physical appearance is his amazing personality. He is so sweet, funny and innocent. Nothing but charm. Once he opens his mouth, you can’t help but melt. His natural demeanor, you can’t hide how naturally sweet of a person he is.

He is a true gift to this earth! I told him this (once before) but I think he needs to be told this everyday. That is how deep the feelings are for him. He knows how to capture your heart. For 8 years, he has captured my attention. He hasn’t changed. From his interaction with family, friends and strangers, he is amazing. He is so calming and I can’t help but take in everything about him. He drives me crazy everyday. 

I have all these sentiments built up in my head about him. As you can see, I love to express my sentiments in many creative ways. I recommend you do the same.

Advice To Start And Drive The Video Chat 

 Think of all the things you adore about your partner. Think about what you would like to say. List out some points/questions to drive the conversation. Compliment, tease and ask your partner questions. Get to know them.  Now for the good part….

If you would like some amazing tips to start a conversation, https://musings-of-life.com/2025/05/25/best-dating-advice-how-to-start-a-conversation-on-a-date/

We Don’t Always Have To Chat, Things To Do On A Video Chat

When you’re chatting with your partner, it doesn’t have to be a straight on conversation. You can incorporate fun elements. What fun elements? 

7 Fun Ideas To Do During Video Chat

1. Online Games

 You can play online games with each other while you chat. Tic Tac Toe, Family Feud, or whip out the Playstation (if you both have one) and put on Resident Evil (I owe you guys a Resident Evil article, lol)! Don’t worry, it doesn’t distract you. Just think of an actual physical date. 

Say for instance, bowling. You’re participating in a game while you’re chatting. It also takes the bore out of the chat. It can boost your brain power and connection. Challenging each other (playfully) is to die for. It gets the conversation going no matter what. 

 It’s the same online. It doesn’t distract, it actually can enhance things. You can learn more about your partner’s habits without them verbally telling you. You can see how playful, competitive, strategic, creative and smart they are.  

2. Play Some Music In Background And Discuss 

You can also play some music in the background. This can help both of you feel relaxed. If you have a common artist you love play it. Usher would be perfect as we both can chat about all his amazing hits, wink! It can also lead to story time. We all have stories connected to music. 

 If I can sneak in Sade, I sure will. She is the queen of romance and chill. Nothing is more relaxing than Sade. She sets the mood period. No one can top Sade in smooth and relaxation. She is perfect for any date chat. Please set her as your playlist, not a bad song in her catalog. Maxwell, Teena Marie, Tony, Toni, Tone, Alicia Keys, Mary J. Blige and George Michael. 

If you’re a house music head like myself, then Black Coffee, LeFlex, Atjazz and Julian Gomes are on the dash. No one is topping African House Music in the house world. When I eventually get to it, I will provide a list of amazing songs to add to your arsenal. 

Music can help set the tone, eliminate any dead spots. It also can get you moving and to show a little of your personality. Dance a little, sing along to some of the songs. It’s even better when you both know the lyrics and love the song! You can strengthen your bond. Like you’re at a concert. You can vibe together. Music brings out happiness and can with the both of you. 

3. Watch Movies Together 

Movies or TV shows! Yes, you can watch a movie together. I would recommend bringing some snacks to your bedroom and getting cuddly in bed. Prop your laptop, phone or camera so you don’t have to worry about holding it the entire time. Pretend you’re at the movies together. Laugh, comment, make jokes, react to scenes. Yes, you can engage in light chat during the movie. Just like a regular movie date. Let’s get into a scenario.

Movie Night Scenario

For instance, we are watching Dark Knight for the gazillion time.

You: Are you ready for me to recite each line?

Beginning of Chat Sample 

Him: Are we going to play coy and forget I have to fight over your eyes being glued to Christian Bale the entire time. What kind of trap is this, lol.

You: He’s a site to see but I am going to let you in on a bigger secret, you are the better site for the eyes.  I have to fight everytime to take my eyes off of you, wink. 

Him: Me against Bruce Wayne and I won, this might be the best defeat ever. What would be even better, jumping right next to you in that comfy bed. My lips belong on that neck. 

You: Between you and Christian, it’s going to be one heck of a night. If only you were here….my hands would be all in your beautiful head of soft brown curls and all over your strong back.  

Him: As I rise to your cheeks and forehead, I hope to then crash on your nice full lips, never departing. 

You:  Anything to mess with those curls, what will we do when Heath Ledger makes his debut, lol. 

Him: You know how to kill the situation, let’s not blow this out of proportion, lol. Being with a comic nerd has it’s perks, wink.

You: You went from a casual watcher to knowing every line, my power. Now, I have to figure out how I can power over you once it’s over, wink. 

Him: I know you can’t come through the screen but,  I can sure make it feel like you were right here on this lap. Right where you belong. 

You: My lips also belong all over your cheeks and Man of Steel jaw. You are so undeniably handsome; I am the luckiest girl on the planet. 

Him: Luckiest girl meets the luckiest guy on the planet, let’s me make a mad dash to the daily planet. Tomorrow’s headline can’t wait! 

You:  This headline has a nice ring! Hopefully, one day, we can secure one of these words in this sentence, wink. 

Him: Hmmm…. A word in this sentence?I can’t put my finger on it…..but when it comes to me, I hope to make it official. 

End of Chat Sample 

Take Aways From The Movie Night Scenario Chat

As you can see, this was a simple chat over a nice online date movie night! Included was a lot of flirting, commonalities and love sentiments between the parties. From the chat, you know that both parties have seen this movie before.

I used a real life scenario with myself. I am a comic head and Dark Knight is one of my absolute favorites (in the top 3 movies of all time). My partner (not a comic buff) knows how much I love and have the hugest crush on Christian Bale. How I swoon every time he comes across the screen. Through the chat, he playfully toys around with sentiment. Knowing Christian is his biggest competition. He also knows how much I love Heath Ledger’s portrayal. 

I often reflect on how  much my partner resembles Christian. He’s a younger version. Wide puppy eyes, brown hair and sharp cheek bones. 

Drawing attention to what your partner loves is a great way to bond. It shows that you truly love them. You pay attention to what they say and know how to playfully tease is a great way to connect. It stimulates the senses and your mind. It shows you know how to conversate and also flirt! 

As you notice, I turn the conversation to heavy flirting. I love my partner and in their presence, want my hands all over him. I am sorry, I am just not sitting coy next to you while watching a movie. No. I am either in your lap, laying my head on your shoulder or cuddling with you.

I am handsy and also very flirty! I love to tease. I love to play with words. I am not a poet but what I am is very affectionate. I love to show and express my sentiments. I am more show than talk but love a combo of both. When watching a movie, you have to be more show. It’s all about balance. 

Towards the end of the chat, I hint at seriousness..…that is marriage. It’s all playful but somewhat serious at the same time. I am expressing to my partner how I see them, as my future husband. There is no if’s, ands, or butt’s, you are the only partner for me! I play into it, seeing where his head is at. It’s a playful hint and his response seems to be on the same level. 

Now, I am not saying you have to stress the same. It’s all about what level your relationship is with your partner. If this is a first date, then it will be much different. If you are at that (I can’t wait to see you in a tux stage), then play into it. You’re not giving it away or ruining the surprise moment (of engagement). You’re also not pressuring or trying to set up a trap. Only you and your partner know the stage of your relationship. Also, your personalities. 

As conveyed, me and my previous partner were on the more on the serious side of things. Even though it was online, it was at the serious stage of a relationship. We have been through thick and thin with each other, no one else! I have nothing but butterflies and my spidey senses have let me know, this is the one I want to be with forever. No one can take him from me. 

4. Bring Personal Memorabilia And Discuss

Nothing establishes more of a connection than your life. Yes, your life. I would think you would want the person you want to be with to know about your life. You want to share a life with them, of course they would love to know about what makes you. 

You can bring personal stuff on camera to create a more intimate connection. Nothing is more sentimental. It’s all about sharing yourself. Maybe some baby/family pictures. Nothing is more heartwarming than seeing baby pics or you riding your first tricycle. 

 Do you play an instrument that you strum up for recreation, surprise your partner. You can be creative and start playing a melody without notice! Have some memorabilia, show it off.  Do you create art, showcase picasso off, no need to hide. Have a hidden talent, let’s get our showcase on. 

Were you the high school valedictorian or captain of team, let them know. Is there a funny scene or favorite movie scene your partner hasn’t seen, show it. 

Let Your Personal Life Naturally Flow 

The key, let it flow into the conversation. Just don’t pull something out without thought. Let it flow in. For instance, you can be chatting with your partner about childhood. Something pops in your mind about it. 

Maybe that one time your parents got you your first bike. You remember how your dad fell trying to put it in the garage. A lot of pressure on a dad. A funny moment you will always cherish. Pull out the family album or photo gallery, show it to your partner. 

 Seeing the visuals enhances the story. That may lead to showing other pictures, sharing more of your life. This is how you build a connection with your partner. It gives a glimpse of your upbringing and personality. You can’t help but bond. 

Personal Story Time To Lead The Charge 

Now, I have some family pictures that will leave you in stitches. My family is full of sense of humor and when I reflect on some of the pics, they are something to behold. My grandmother’s pictures are the best. She probably has the top sense of humor of all time. 

 There is one of her with a fake Eddie Murphy standee. When she was acting supervisor as a registered nurse, she would travel around the country, going to different nurses conventions. One time she stopped in Vegas and landed on the strip. She visited the different hotels and entertainment venues but one shop caught her eye. A shop that had the Eddie Murphy standee in it! She saw it and was instantly drawn in. She couldn’t pass up meeting Eddie, lol! 

 When people see it, they think it really is her and the real Eddie, until they look closer. Sitting among the gazillion family pictures, the Eddie picture always stands out. Him, standing in the infamous red leather jacket he made famous in the 80’s. Michael Jackson beat it jacket but also, the Eddie Murphy jacket. 

My grandmother knew she could fool people with this picture. She would always pull jokes. She was always great at telling a fun story behind every picture. She is the epitome of a great conversationalist. No one is topping her. 

Show Out To Your Partner, Tell The History

If you’re in this lane, show out to your partner. Tell the history behind the pictures. It can be great conversational pieces. It also tells your story and shows your personality. Your partner wants to know you. I am pretty sure they would be interested in your life. How you grew up, your interests and goals in life. 

How To Tell A Story? Answer the 5 (w’s) how, when, where, what, who, and why? What’s the purpose of telling this story. Is it to show off my personality? Is it something I would love for my partner to know to open conversation. Does this story have a deeper sentiment that is really sentimental to you? Do you believe this story would be entertaining to your partner? 

The art of a great conversationalist is to answer the five w’s and to ask questions. For instance, if I told my partner this story, they may ask questions. What else did your grandmother do in Vegas? Has she always been a jokester? What other cool places did she stop while traveling as a nurse? 

This shows your partner cares about you and your family. He is clearly interested because he knows your family is important to you and your life. If it’s important to you, he wants to know about it. Perhaps he can find something to relate. It can open him to talk about his family and their professions. It can open him up to talk about traveling or meeting celebrities?

By sharing and asking questions, it’s art to conversations. Sharing details is a great conversationalist’s best asset. Painting a picture probes you to think and strikes interest. 

Hope this helps your conversations! 

5. Food…It’s Time To Grub

What do we all love and thrive on, food! We all enjoy it, why not bring it to the conversation. Before you start your video chat, text your partner about it the day beforehand. Say bae, I can’t wait for our chat. Let’s eat together. Set up the time (no cold food). You can let your partner know what you’re eating or keep it a surprise. Bring your favorite so your partner knows your taste. If you end up being physically together, they will know what to get you as a surprise. No wasting money.  

What would be cute is setting up a plate for them. Set it aside.  It’s not wasting food but subtly, letting your partner know how much you want to be with them.  Let them know, I wish you were sitting with me. This plate is you, sitting with me in spirit. It also lets them know what they would be eating if they were with you. It shows love and a sense of humor. You can also set aside dessert or a cup of liquid. Putting an extra cupcake on the table will warm your partner’s heart. Make a joke.  “Put this one out for you, can’t save you a few calories.” “ I have a few sweeties in front of me. “ “ Now it’s time to jump through the screen, I hope it’s to me, wink.” 

Observe, Comment, It Gets The Conversation Going 

Once you’re on camera with your food, conversate. Comment on what your partner is eating. You don’t have to do it all the time but try to be jokeful. Keep it playful. It eases the tension and the distance between you two. For example, they bring out a plate of spaghetti and meatballs. You can say……

– think you forgot my plate 

 -I don’t know what looks better, the plate or the person holding it, wink

-I can’t wait to smother that plate with parmesan cheese  

-I can smell the love and observe the good taste

-the sauce sir, what are we working with. It’s a deal breaker.

– we are in for a ball of a time 

All of this can ease the tension and also tells your partner how observant you’re, showing you care. You love everything about them, you find it interesting. You will comment. It’s not about just eating together. You can comment on how you love how they prepare the food. Even if any gaffes happened. Make a joke. “Keeping the fire department happy, one day at a time, lol!”

 You can also let your partner know if you can cook or can’t. Don’t be hesitant, tell the truth. You can’t hide it if you were physically together. You can make a joke. For example, you can’t cook. “ I can’t lift a long handle spoon but what I can lift is my phone for Uber Eats!” 

Honesty is important in a relationship. Perhaps your partner can cook and can teach you. What is more romantic than this? Cooking together! I know, the distance is a factor. It doesn’t stop you from watching them cook. Can take notes, observe their techniques. Compliment them to death. “ Baby, I couldn’t bake lasagna before but now, I can whip it up with ease. You’re a life saver that is easy on the eyes.” 

If you both can’t cook, you can try to cook something for the first time. Look up some YouTube or online tutorials (FoodNetwork). Make it a challenge for both of you. 

6. Take A Virtual Walk Together 

I love walking in 60’s weather with a light breeze. It just screams Spring and happiness. It also gives an air of romance. Why not explore your neighborhood with your partner. Let him see your surroundings and you get to see his. 

You have enough arsenal to get a conversation going while walking, let’s get our stroll on. Hop on facetime and strap on tennis shoes, it’s time to get outside! If you have a dog, you can have them tag along. 

Walk to an ice cream shop or pizza shop, grab a slice. Believe it or not, it may feel like an impromptu date. Go to the cool spot in town, you know where we see all the ducks crossing. If you can head to the park, do so! Head to the bench and talk to your bae! Let them know how you wish he was sitting next to them. How you would be running your hands through their hair. Let alone, a nice kiss under the Maple tree. 

This is what we call living. If you don’t want to be cramped up the whole time during your chat, why not take it outside. You can always head back home to continue the chat. 

Breathing in fresh air can release a lot of tension and birth forth creativity. Air helps your brain juices, happiness and serotonin (relaxation city)! Give it a try! In comes a personal story….

Personal Story Of The Walking Video Chat

I done this very thing and it was one of the best things I ever done. It felt like my partner was with me, holding my hand the whole time. 

Once I sat on the park bench and felt the nice air, I just released. It was an air of romance and chatted with my partner for almost 2 ½ hours straight! Yes, that long. It was amazing and romantic. I blew kisses, flirted like crazy and felt so sentimental over that phone. 

Afterwards, I ended up getting a cup of ice cream, sitting in the ice cream shop to continue the conversation. I had my partner pick out everything and he felt like such a boss! Talk about heart eyes. What’s even better, he surprisingly paid for it, what a heartbreaker. 

We ended up doing it again the following week. It’s now our thing! 

I always provide advice on my personal experiences, I would never jot anything on this blog that I haven’t done. Give it a try! 

7. Can We Get Naughty

I have a ton of articles that get on the sexual side. I believe it’s an area that people are clamoring for advice. The most read article on this site is about the sex positions, lol. This article blows the other articles out the water.  

Sex is amazing, especially when love is involved. It depends on your stage and your vibe but how about a strip tease! If you read my other articles, you know I love strip teasing. It’s one of my favorite things on earth. I love to dance and love to entice my partner, it’s natural. 

I love all eyes on me and pleasing my partner. Why not whirl that leg in the air over the video chat! Once again, it depends upon you and where you are at in the relationship. I think your partner would love to see your curves on the screen. 

I give plenty of advice here on the subject, https://musings-of-life.com/2026/02/09/why-strip-dancing-at-home-is-the-best-valentines-day-gift-playlist-inside/

This one is a fun one to have on the video chat. Yes, you’re not in your partner’s physical presence but it can be just as thrilling. My advice, talk and tease your partner to death while you tease. Some things to say….Are you being turned on? I wish I was on your lap, I need to feel you. I wish I was on the side of your neck, biting that classic jaw. Your hands belong on me right now. I am seeing a rise to the north, I approve. You want me to continue baby…… How are you feeling… I love you so much… your eyes are driving me crazy… I am beyond wet, why are your hands in the west… 

Just a few sentiments to get you started. The key, let them come naturally to you.. You will have an amazing video tease. Please read the other corresponding articles if you never done a tease before. Either online or in person. 

Personal Story Time On The Tease

Yes, another story. Once again, I am an open book to help you. I will be honest, I kind of snubbed doing a tease over video but changed my mind. Why? I love physical presence. It’s nothing like it. I thought, how can I do a lap dance (my favorite), will I be limited. 

Then, my inner Amba came out. There is nothing that stops you from being sexual, you’re creative, figure it out. What I did is practice a scenario. I  thought, how can I pull this off just as good as I am in person.

What I did is position my comfiest (personal favorite) chair in the house right in front of the screen. I imagine my partner on that chair the whole time. I rocked that chair like no other. I thought, when I get my partner on screen, I will let them know, his ass is sitting in that chair. 

When it came to the act, it came naturally. The conversation heated up and things came naturally. How did this situation occur? In comes story time…

Personal Story Time Continued….The Lap Dance Scenario

My partner and I were having an amazing conversation. Naturally, I like to wear something casual but seductive at the same time. It shows off my personality. I noticed my partner was eyeing me seductively a lot. The compliments helped as well. I could tell he was turned on by the whole conversation.

I caught on and played along… when he said you look so good for the millionth time, I am a lucky son of a gun, I played into this. I said well…. I will show you how lucky you are. I told him to lay back and spread your legs a bit. He complied.. I immediately said, “I wish my hands were in contact with your power thighs, thoroughbred indeed” he laughed a bit.. Then I continued to tongue whip him. “After I meet your thighs I am swirling to your stomach, then to your chest, working my way all up around your classic neck.” “Can’t forget your jaw, my teeth will be clenching all over.” “ You are beyond tasty, I want to gobble you up so bad.” “Let alone getting at your ears and all up on your neck, my tongue has a meeting at 10!” 

He then responds, “you know how to work a man. “ “ Can my hands meet your behind, a few pats for approval, you deserve.” I instantly replied… your hands can meet anytime, I have been rearing to hear this!” “Let me show you how much I want to be on your thighs” I moved my favorite chair to the camera and began to slowly seduce, then working to lapdance. I told my partner “ you are in this chair right now, it’s time to rise to the occasion” then work my way to the lapdance. 

This is just an example, it’s all up to you. It has to flow naturally. I have this nifty article for you to examine https://musings-of-life.com/2026/02/09/why-strip-dancing-at-home-is-the-best-valentines-day-gift-playlist-inside/

Enjoy the dance with your partner!

Conclusion

I gave you a wealth of ideas to kick off your cyber relationship! You don’t have to be pigeoned in this day of tech. We can find love anywhere. Once again, I was on the fence about the whole cyber relationship. That is until I met a pair of big green eyes, I did a 360. This man is beyond perfect, we click on so many cylinders. He is the exact prototype I was seeking. Sporty, tall, brown hair, boyish square jaw, athletic, great personality, huge heart and loves my sense of humor. I think his mild demeanor balances my zany self. 

Yes, I am an introvert, can be quiet at times but can let loose if I am comfortable around you. I am more of a listener than a talker but know how to conversate. I also know how to entertain without the gift of gab. Yes.. if you read the other articles on this site… it isn’t just on the sexual side. I know how to show affection and communicate non-verbally. I know how to be creative and find activities to prevent boredom. If it’s cuddling or playing a game, you know you’re in for a fun time. I am a huge music buff… it’s going to be part of the game somehow. 

The mission, find what makes you and show it to your partner. You have to be yourself. I know, we all have fear of not connecting with our partner or being bored. You have to examine yourself and find out what my mission is in having a relationship. 

What do I want to get out of these video chats? Is it companionship (to prevent loneliness/satisfy hormones)? Is it to connect with someone because you love to talk about your interests (how about the Knicks winning the big one, my beloved puppies I adore)?  Is it because you’re at the stage of seeking someone seriously ( looking for someone to help share responsibilities, want to start a family)? 

We all have goals. It is up to us to write them down. Examine them.. Then write down objectives to achieve these goals. Have fun with these video chats!

Have you ever met someone online? How do you feel about video chatting for romance? Are you looking for a relationship? Sound off in the comments!